Iwe ungaita sei kana iwe ukaona kuti vashandi vako vakaparadzira makuhwa asina kufadza pamusoro pako kubasa? Iwe unoda here kuisa mutambudziri panzvimbo iyi? Ucharega here? "Usatora matanho anorwadza," vanoongorora nezvepfungwa vanoti, "uye gara wakadzikama." Kutanga iwe unoda kunzwisisa zvaunotarisira kubva kune makuhwa - zvakanaka (usashamiswa, makuhwa dzimwe nguva anobatsira pakuwedzera kwebasa) kana kukuvadza. Uye ramba uchibva pane chiito.
KUSHANDISWA KWAMAZUVA
Maererano nemapurisa, 79% yevanhu vanoona makuhwa sechinhu chinonyanya kuipa chevanhu. Iti, vanochera vamwe dzimwe nguva vanouya nechimwe chinhu chinoparadza simba rega rega uye kwenguva yakareba. Zvisinei, makuhwa anogona dzimwe nguva kuita iwe basa rakanaka. Kazhinji kacho chikonzero chekunyomba kwose kune marudzi akasiyana-siyana evakakurumbira: vateereri, vaimbi, vezvematongerwe enyika nevamwe vanhu vevanhu. Vakawanda vavo vanoreva makuhwa uye makuhwa akanyarara, vachiziva kuti makuhwa anonyanya kuzivisa anobatsira kufarira kufarira unhu hwake. Nokudaro, kazhinji vamiririri vebhizinesi rekuratidza "pangozi" misoro inotaura nezvekuuya kwewanano, kurambana, pamuviri, kutenga imba, nezvimwewo. Kana kunyanya kuuya ne "nhoroondo", achivataurira mumasvikiro. Izvozvo zvine musoro: vanhu vachakurukura nezvehupenyu hwemunhu wemuimbi kana mutambi, uye ipapo vachaenda ndokutenga matikiti emakambani ake (kutamba) kuti vaone pachavo nyaya dzehurukuro dzavo. Saka zvinowanzoitika kuti kufarirwa kunonyanya kukonzerwa nenhema, makuhwa anobatsira kuwedzera simba.
Zvisinei, makuhwa haasi kungobatsira chete kune nyeredzi. Zvidzidzo zvinoratidza kuti 65% yevanhu havatambi uye vanokonzera kuparadzira makuhwa pamusoro pavo kubasa kusvika pamwero. Sei vachiita izvi?
- Somugumisiro wezviongorori zvakaitwa nevanodzidza nezvepfungwa, zvaive zvichigoneka kuisa pachena kuti munhu iyeye pamusoro pehuwandu hwemhepfenyuro "anotenderera" inokurumidza mukuona kwevane simba kune iye akanyarara-vashandi uyo asina waanoshandira naye kunyange anoyeuka. Uye pano zvinhu zvose zvinoenderana ne "kunyombwa". Kana iye achizviratidza pachake kune rumwe rutivi, mubairo kana kunyange kukwidziridzwa kunovimbiswa kwaari.
- Imwe nzira yekusimudza nhare kuburikidza nekunyomba ndeyekunyengera zvishoma, "kuirega" muhurukuro yega yega neaunoshanda naye anotambura kubva kune incontinence (uye zviri nani kana munhu uyu panguva imwe chete ari pedyo nomubati), kuti zita rako riri mumakwikwi anokwikwidzana uye anopa mubhadharo wakakwirira.
- Zvisinei, kungwarira hakukuvadzi: hupenzi hwakadaro harusi nguva dzose hunoita - unofanirwa kuva nechokwadi chose kuti ruzivo runosvika kumakurukota uye kuti haadi kukusiya iwe kunyange "vashori" vasati vakukoka kuti ushande.
- Ive makuhwa kazhinji inobatsira vatangisi kuti vashandise boka. Nhaurirano inogara ichitaura nezvezvinetso zvemukati panguva ye "utsi hwekuputa," vanofara kuita "kuvhenekera" mutsva. Zvisinei, mumamiriro ezvinhu aya muchengeti anofanira kunge akangwarira zvikuru. Hungu, kana iwe uchitaurirwa ruzivo,, muchirevo, haufaniri kuziviswa, iwe unopiwa kutenda. Asi kuvimba uku kunofanira kubhadhara chii? Zvichida imwe ye "masangano" aripo muboka inokurudzira kuti ushandise zvinangwa zvako? Zvimwe iwe "chengetedza tsvina": unokwevera kune makuhwa kana iwe unokwanisa kusimudza here? Nyanzvi dzepfungwa dzinokurudzira kuratidza kuzvidzora: teerera pane zvavanotaura kwauri, asi shure kweizvozvo edza kushandura hurukuro mune imwe musoro.
- Chero makuhwa ndeye ruzivo rwekufungisisa. Uye chero ruzivo ruzivo rwakakosha. Kubva kune makuhwa ehurumende iwe unogona kuziva kuti mitemo isingatauri yemutambo iri muboka, chii chavanotarisira kubva kwauri, uye unhu hupi hwakarambidzwa, unofarira hurumende, uye ndiani ari kunze, nezvimwewo.
ZVAIYE PANE
Zvisinei, kazhinji makuhwa haasi akanaka, asi zvinokuvadza, zvakare, zvikuru. Dzimwe nguva zvakaoma zvikuru kuti zviwanike kuwedzera kwekutendeseka kubasa mushure mekunyomba. Kune zviitiko zvizhinji apo makuhwa akaparadza mukurumbira wemunhu kwenguva refu uye zvakakomba. Saka, kana iwe uchinzwisisa kuti unhu hwako pabasa hunokonzera makuhwa anonyanyisa, usazorora, uchiyeuka mupfungwa, kana uine "chirongwa-kupindira" mumusoro wako.
- Ngatiti iwe wakadzidza kuti mumwe wevamwe vako vari kuparadzira ruzivo rwakashata pamusoro pako (zvichida kunyange nhema). Funga: hukuru hupi hukuru hwehwahwa? Iye oga ari kukurwisa here kana kuti anobatana? Ndezvipi ngozi dzekuparadzira makuhwa? Zvinokwanisika kuti munhu uyu haana hanya newe uye kuti iwe wakaerekana wawira pasi pe "moto". Muchiitiko ichi, edza kuramba uchingwarira kune vose vanozvinyengera uye "shamwari dzepedyo."
- Uchinzwa kuti mumwe wemitezo yevanhu vose "anokukupai zino" (asi iwe unonzwisisa kuti izvi hazvisi kufarira iwe, uye chete), iwe unogona uye usanatsananguri ukama naye iye tet-a-tet, kana iwe usingadi kuitika. Zvakakwana kuti uwedzere kunyatsoteerera mabasa ako, kushanda kuitira kuti urege kuva nemhosva. Zvichida iwe wakasununguka zvishomanana, asi makuhwa anongoda kushandisa mamiriro acho ezvinhu kuti uwane zvakanaka? Saka usamupa chero mukana!
- Munguva pfupi yapfuura, munyika yedu kakawanda tinofanira kutarisana nechiitiko chinowanzoitika muWest - kuburikidza nehurombo (kuchengetedza kwekuziva kubva kune umwe wevashandi). Uye chimbo chikuru mukumanikidzwa kwevose zvinopesana nemumwe ndeye makuhwa. Sezvo uchiziva kuti iwe wakabatwa mumoto wakawanda wenhengo dzakawanda dzeboka, fungisisa zvakanyatso: iwe wakagadzirira kurwisana here kana zviri nani kutsvaka rimwe basa? Kana ukasarudza kurwira nzvimbo yako kusvikira pakuguma, edza kuongorora uyo ari kutarisira "mauto ehondo". Nechirwere che "kushungurudzika" kwepfungwa dzepfungwa vanokurudzirwa kutaura zvakananga, kuziva kuti haadi. Kana kukanganisa kwemwoyo-ku-mwoyo kusina kubatsira, zvinobvumirwa kubvunzurudza kumubatsiri, zvave zvamboita urongwa hwe "kuparadza" pamusoro pako. Usanetseka, izvi hazvirevi uye hazvisi utsinye nzira yekurwisana nenhema, asi yakakwana zvakakwana. Mune rimwe remaguta eColombia, somuenzaniso, nokuda kwekupararira kwevhangeri iwe unogona kutinha mujeri kwenguva yakareba semakore mana! Meya weguta akafunga kuti ichi chirango chakanaka kune avo vanoziva kuderedza kukudzwa nekuremekedzwa kwevagari veColombia.
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Ndezvipi zvaungareva pamusoro pevaya vasina kuve vanyengeri, uye anogara achizviumba? Zvichida, anogutsikana nechigaro chake, nokuti kune vazhinji vanobatana "runyaradzi" ane mukurumbira wemutungamiri akajeka kana asingazivi. Inogona kuwedzera nyore kutendeseka kweumwe wevashandi, uyewo kuideredza. Tare rekubvisa ruzivo rwakakosha runofanirwa nevakawanda. Munhu anoziva nguva dzose anoziva kana mubayiro uchabhadharwa nenguva, kana kune kuderedzwa kwevashandi munguva yemberi iri pedyo, kana basa ari kuronga "kusarudzwa" pamusangano wemangwana ... Vanhu vanoramba vachimukumbira mazano kana kumubvunza kuti "ajekese" vanhu vakasiyana-siyana, uye iye flatters Uye vashandi, sekutonga, tarisa "makuhwa makuru" akanaka, nokuti anozivisa kuti mumwe wevashandi anoda kusiya kana kuenda kuchipatara, nokudaro kudzivisa mabasa mazhinji uye mamiriro ezvinhu epanguva yakaoma. Asi, kazhinji, "kubvisa" ruzivo rwemhesi harukurudzirwi nechido chakanaka, asi nematambudziko akakura epfungwa. Saka, maererano nemuprofesa weAmerica wepfungwa R. R. Rosneau, vanhu vasina kuvimba mukati mavo, avo vanoda nguva dzose kusimbiswa kwezvakakosha, kururamisa kwezviito zvavanoita, kazhinji kazhinji vanouya nenhema. Dzimwe nguva vanozviti ivo pachavo nekudhura kwevamwe, kuderedza zvido zvevamwe uye kuwedzeredza ivo pachavo. Saka vanogona kuvandudza kuvimbika kwavo pakushanda kuburikidza nenhema. Nokuda kweizvi, makuhwa, sezvamunonzwisisa, ndiyo yakakosha chigadzirwa. Makuhwa anonyanya kuipa "anowanika", maererano nevatsvakurudzi, pakati pechiremba, vadzidzisi, vanofunga nezvepfungwa, vezvemagariro evanhu, vanyori vekutsvaga uye vatapi venhau. Zvisinei, kuguma kwevachengeti havazogodhi: pasinei nokuti ivo nguva dzose vanopoteredzwa nevanhu, havawanzofariri rudo rwavo rwechokwadi uye ruremekedzo. Havana shamwari uye munguva yakaoma iyo havana nzvimbo yekumirira rubatsiro.