Muenzaniso wega wehukama hwemhuri hunobatanidzwa uye hutsika, saka hazvikwanisi kutaurwa kuti rimwe muenzaniso rinonyatsonaka, uye rimwe rinenge risina kunaka. Munhu mumwe nomumwe anofanira kusarudza hukama hwemhuri hunogamuchirwa uye hwakanaka kwaari, uye izvi zvinoenderana nemamiriro ezvinhu uye mutsa, uye mukurerwa kwevanhu.
Zvinonyanya kukosha kuti munhu azive: ndeupi muenzaniso wehukama hwakakagamuchirwa kwaari, uye izvo zvaanenge asingagamuchiri. Mushure mezvose, maererano nehuwandu hwemagariro epfungwa, mufaro wevanhu muhupenyu huri pamwe hunoenderana nehuwandu hwemaonero avo pamusoro pekuti ivo vakaroorana vanofanira kuzvibata sei muupenyu hwemhuri. Pashure pezvose, kana munhu achitenda kuti chinhu chikuru mumhuri chinofanira kuva iye, uye mukadzi ane chivimbo chokuti shoko rekupedzisira mukugadzirisa matambudziko emhuri rinofanira kugara riri shure kwake, saka vaviri vakadaro vangangodaro vachatongerwa kujekeswa kwehukama uye kukurumidza kuparara, kunyange pasinei nekudanana pamwe nekuda kwechokwadi kuva panzvimbo.
Haisi iyo nzira yakanakisisa yezvinhu zvichaitika kune vakaroorana, kana murume akashandiswa kufunga kuti mudzimai anofanira kugadzirisa zvinetso zvemhuri uye oita zvisarudzo zvekupedzisira pane chero nyaya, uye mukadzi, panguva ino, anotarisira kubva kune munhu wokutsunga uye kutanga uye anotenda kuti kana ari murume , zvinoreva kuti anofanira kugadzirisa matambudziko ake uye ake. Saka, vanodzidza nezvemagariro emhuri vanotenda zvakananga, vachikakavadzana kuti hapana varume vakaipa uye vakanaka varume nemadzimai, asi kune vanhu vanoenderana uye vasingawirirani.
Izvo zvakakosha zvinyorwa zvehukama zvakatatu:
1. Muenzaniso wemhuri. Munyaya iyi yehukama, basa rinokosha mumhuri rinopiwa kune wawakaroorana naye asingatyi kutora mutoro wemhuri yose uye iye pachake, kazhinji asingabvunzi mudzimai wake, anoita zvisarudzo zvinokosha pamusoro pemhuri yose. Mudzimai, mumhuri yakadaro, kazhinji anotora basa remukadzi weimba uye muchengeti wemukati kana musikana asina kugadziriswa ane zvishuvo zvinokurumidza kuzadzikiswa nababa vane rudo uye vane hanya.
Kubatsira kwoukama hwakadaro ndechokuti mukadzi anozviona semurusvingo rwematombo shure kwemurume wake uye haana rusununguko rwekuzvidzivirira nematambudziko akasiyana-siyana enyika. Murume, nemuenzaniso uyu wehukama, kazhinji haasi chete ane simba uye akazvimiririra, asi anowanawo zvakanaka. Kukanganisa kukuru kwehukama hwemhuri pakati pevakaroorana ndeyekudzikama kwakakwana kwemudzimai kumurume wake, uyo dzimwe nguva anotora maitiro akaipisisa uye anotyisidzira mukadzi ane kurasikirwa zvachose semunhu. Uyezve, kana munhu achingoerekana asarudza kurambana, mukadzi uyo, mushure memakore mazhinji ewanano, asati atoziva kurwisana kwehupenyu, anganzwa asina kufara uye asingagoni kubatsira uye asingakwanisi kurarama zvakanaka muupenyu, kunyanya kana vana vachigara naye, uye waimbogara naye achaderedza zvinhu kubatsira kubasa.
2. Muenzaniso wematriarchal. Mumhuri yakadaro, basa remukuru wemhuri rinoitwa nemudzimai, uyo asingatori chete bhajeti uye anotora chete zvisarudzo zvakakosha kumhuri, asiwo kazhinji anoedza kuita zvinodiwa nemitambo yemumwe wake. Ukama hwakadaro hunowanzoumbwa mumhuri umo mukadzi, pakutanga, anowana zvakanyanya kudarika murume, uye wechipiri, ane unhu hwakasimba uye haatyi kutora pamhuri yese uye kushanda nenzira yepamutemo yevarume mabasa. Murume anogonawo kufara neukama hwakadaro, kana asingatsvaki hutungamiri, uye kunyanya kana achiri muhucheche iye aive pamberi peziso rake muenzaniso wakafanana wevabereki. Kuvhiringidzika kweukama hwakadaro kungave kuvepo kwekudzivirirwa kwemukadzi nemukadzi akasimba, achienzanisa iyo iyo inogara ichizviisa pasi uye yakanyarara nemudzimai inogona kuita seinovhiringidza uye isingafadzi kwaari. Kunyange zvazvo mukadzi akasimba uye anokurudzira haafaniri kugara pamwe chete nerunyararo nemurume ane simba uye ane simba, saka, kazhinji kakawanda kupfuura, vakadzi vakadaro, kunyange kana vachivaka ukama kune rumwe rutivi, kazhinji havanonoke kuve varume vakanaka uye vakanaka.
3. Muenzaniso wemudzimai. Nemuenzaniso wehukama, vakaroorana vanowanzoenzana mune kodzero uye vanogovera kodzero dzose uye mabasa. Zvakanaka, ivo vane zvose zvinodiwa, uye vanoonekwa sevakasiyana nedzivo, zvido zvemudiwa. Mumhuri yakadaro, vakaroorana vanowanzova nemamiriro ezvinhu akafanana uye mari, iyo haipei mukana kune mumwe wevakaroorana kuti azvifungidzire mune chimwe chinhu chiri nani uye kubudirira kupfuura iyeye. Zvisarudzo zvinokosha zvemuchato zvinotorwa chete kuburikidza nekukurukurirana kune umwe neumwe uye mabasa ehupfumi emhuri anoparadzirwa zvakaenzana. Kubudirira kwehukama hwakadaro ndiko kukwanisa komumwe nomumwe kuroorana kuti aratidze mumuchato pachake semunhu uye munhu mumwe oga. Uye iyo inogona kunge ine pfungwa yekukakavadzana iyo yakasangana pakati pevakaroorana uye chido chokuwana mudiwa nenzira imwe, iyo inogona kutungamirira kupedzisira kupora pakati pevakaroorana nekuparadzaniswa. Kuti zvidzivirire izvi kuti zvirege kuitika, hapanofanira kungova neruchiva uye kunzwirana tsitsi pakati pevakaroorana, asiwo kuremekedzana.