Rudo, zvirokwazvo, manzwiro akanaka. Asi, sezvakaratidzwa zvinoratidza, chimiro (kuroora kana kuti kwete) pakupedzisira chinoratidza kuti chakakosha kudarika zviri mukati. Ichi ndicho chimwe chemashoko madzimai evakadzi, chatinokurukura nechisimba neshamwari dzangu uye vanaamai vanozvidya mwoyo nezvekuguma kwevanasikana vavo vanodiwa. Yenguva yekuona kana zvakakosha uye njodzi dzekuroorana kwevanhu kune dzimwe nyika zvakanyanyisa. Ngatishandirei kune avo vanoongorora mazano epfungwa kuti vawane mazano.
Kuroorana chinhu chakanaka
Kutanga ngatitsanangurire izwi. Izwi rokuti "kuroorana", rinopesana nemajokes akafanana pamusoro penyaya iyi, rinobva pashoko rokuti "kutora". Zvechokwadi, zvisungo zvinoreva. Mu "zvapupu" Mwari anonzi (muchechi), hurumende (muhofisi yekunyora) uye vanhu vanokosha muhupenyu hwevakaroorana - hama, shamwari, vashandi pamwe navo. "Izvo" nzira yekugamuchirwa inobva kumusoro "inoita basa rinokosha revanhu, semhando ipi neipi - kana iri kunyora mumapiyona kana kupa chidimbu. Kubvira pazera remakore matatu munhu anoziva kuti akavakirwa mune ukama hwakanaka nenyika yekunze. Kuzviremekedza kwedu zvakare chiratidzo chezvinhu zvinokurudzirwa munharaunda uye zvisingaiti. Ndicho chikonzero kune tsika yekupemberera yemuchato pamwe chete sezvinobvira, zvinoreva, kune rumwe rutivi, kugamuchirwa kwevanhu, uye kune imwe - kusarudzwa kwevanhu. Iyo yakakwirira yehupenyu hwemunhu, kunyanya "chikonzero" anofanira kunge ari mumuchato. Ndokusaka pasina vakaroora kana vakaroorana vakaroorana. Uye munhu wese anonzwisisa nei. Asi vazhinji vedu tiri vanhuwo zvavo, uye nyaya yekunyora ukama inokonzera kupesana mukati.
Saka chii chatinofunga nezvechato? Apo murume nemukadzi vanogara pamwe chete, vanogovana pamwe chete uye ... vanodanana. Asi zvinoitika kuti mushure mechinguva, apo zvishuvo zvose zvidzimwa, tinoerekana tacherechedza kuti wawakaroorana naye akafupika kuti awane Sutu yakanaka uye hazvibviri kumira nekukanganisa kwakaratidzwa! Nenzira iyi, kuroorana kwevanhu vomunharaunda inzira yakanaka. Unogona kutarisa kuti wakasununguka sei kune mumwe nemumwe mupfungwa, muupenyu hwezuva nezuva, zvepabonde, nezvimwewo. Uye pasina purogiramu yakaoma pepeti tsvuku kuti ipararire kuti iwane mufaro wavo wechokwadi. Uye kana zvose zvakagadzikana, zvino chinhu chikuru ndechokunzwa, mararamiro chaiwo - ndicho chegumi! Chirongwa chakanaka uye chechokwadi, handizvo here? Asi nyanzvi dzinocherechedza kuti, nezvose zviri nyore zvehukama hwakadaro, "vagari vehurumende" vari kunyanya kunetseka kupfuura "zvakakodzera". Izwi remakore mana rinoonekwa sechinonyanya kukwidza imba. Chikonzero chacho? Tichaedza kufunga nezvematambudziko akafanana (asi hatibvumi kuti kuroorana kwevanhu vanogona kuva chikonzero chemufaro wemhuri).
Women's Logic
Pamusoro pehutano hwepamweya uye hwepfungwa, mukadzi wacho akagadzirirwa kupa murume. Uye iye anoda kuti ave nechokwadi chokuti haatengesi chete. Zuva remangwana rinofanira kunge rakanyorwa. Mukuroorana kwehurumende, yekupedzisira yakazaruka, sezvakaita Eugene Onegin. Rusununguko muhukama hunoparidzirwa. Rusununguko senhovo kubva "bytovuhi." Asi mushure mezvose, chokwadi, vaviri vacho vachiri kuronga kuronga hupenyu humwe chete, sezvinoitwa muwanano wakanyorwa, vanosarudza kuti ndiani achageza ndiro, kubvisa marara ... Somugumisiro, kune chinhu chimwe chinonakidza: avo vanobatana havafaniri kuisa mari muupenyu hwavo uye kunyaradza. Mubvunzo ndewokuti kutenga chitsva chitsva, kwete kutaura nezvekushandisa kukuru - motokari, imba - inosungirirwa mumhepo. Kubva pamutemo wepamutemo, zvakare, hapana chivimbo chokuti kodzero dzako dzepfuma hadzidzivirirwa neMhuri Code. Uye kwemakore vaviri vacho vanogona kurarama sevadzidzi, vachiedza kusafunga nezvemangwana. Chechipiri chakaoma rusununguko semukana usina kuziva kuti pamwe chete "kuravira" vamwe vashandi. Mushure mezvose, pfungwa yacho haisati yagadziriswa, munhu "iyeye" angangoerekana aonekwa here? (Mumhuri yakanyorwa yakanyoreswa yakakwanirawo, asi pane zvepabonde kune rumwe rutivi inogona kuonekwa se "chikwata" pane kutsvaga hafu yepiri). Sezvo mutemo, mumhirizhonga yehurumende, mumwe wevamwe vanofunga kuti "akasununguka", uye mumwe wacho anotya kunzwa chinyadzo: "Iwe unomanikidza zvakanyanya kwandiri!" Pamusoro pezvikonzero zvinorondedzerwa pamusoro apa, kushamwaridzana kwakashata kunowanzova musikana.
Menic Logic
Saka nei varume vasingakurumidzi kusvika korona? Hazvigoneki kuti uwandu hwevana vechidiki mazuva ano - bachelor yekare haisi yakawanda. Uye varume vakasarudza kuroorana kwevanhu vekune imwe nyika semamwe mararamiro ehurumende, vanoramba vachiroorana (asi kwete nguva dzose mu "vagari" vavo). Hungu, anogutsikana ne "zvinhu zvose sezvazviri". Uye iye, pachena, haafariri kuchinja chero chinhu. Asi ane kutya kwakanyanya kuti kune musikana wake anodiwa mushure mechato "zvose zvichachinja." Pamberi pemuchato, vasikana vacho vanopinza - masisitendi, makenduru, kubva kune hukama hwehutano nehutsva, zvisinei nekusava nechokwadi. (Zvinonzwisisika kuti vakadzi vakaroora vanozvitarisira vashoma kudarika zvavanoita vasati varoorana, uye havasi kufunganya nezve "rudo"). Munyika yedu, mutsara unenge uchizadza: mukadzi-mudzimai mudzimai akafanana nemamai-mukadzi (nokuda kwechikonzero chakanaka, tinowanzoidza varume "vana" mukukurukurirana neshamwari dzangu nevanamai). Amai-mudzimai, saamai vake, vacharamba vachimudzidzisa, vachiita kuti aone kuti ane mhosva. Chinetso chechipiri ndechechiitiko chinotyisa chechichato, apo mudikanwi naamai vake vanoda kutamba "muwani-uye-mwenga-tiri-tiri-tiri-davi". Mubvunzo unomuka: "Anodei chaizvo - kuratidzira munhu wose kuti pakupedzisira akaroorwa, kana ndichiri ini?"
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1. Kusina kusimba. Hazvirevi kungofanana nezvinoitika nguva dzose mumhuri, asiwo nezvevabereki, kwete mukurwisana, vanogara vari voga, vakatsauka kubva kune mumwe uye hupenyu hwomwana. Muzviitiko zvose izvi, mukomana angava nekusava nechokwadi kuti anonyatsoda mumwe munhu uye anokwanisa kukunda rudo rukuru. Kubva kune munhu akadaro iwe unogona kazhinji kunzwa: "Enda kuna amai!" Zviri nyore kuti afanotaura kuparara kwehukama pane kuzvidya mwoyo kuti rimwe zuva musikana "achaona zvandiri chaizvo."
2. Hyperopeka. Vanaamai vazhinji vanewo hutongi, vanoziva kuti mwanakomana haafaniri kungozvitonga chete, asiwo kuti aite zvakawanda kwaari, achiedza kuwana pfungwa dzake nemanzwiro ake. Ari munhu mukuru, anotya kuti rudo uye kutarisirwa-kunyange musikana akanaka kwazvo pasi pano - anogona kumumedza, achimurambidza kuzvimiririra kwaakagara kwenguva refu.
3. Kutya. Zvinowanzoitika kuti vanaamai havatsvaki nguva yakawanda kumwana wavo, havasi nguva dzose pamba, uye mbuya vanounza mukomana. Amai vari kutonhora uye vanoda. Sezvo asina mukana wekukurukurirana pamwe chete naamai vake, anogona kuparadzanisa mufananidzo wemudzimai wake anodikanwa, uyo asina musikana chaiye anogona kufanana. Ndicho chikonzero nei iye achange ari mukutsvaga kwekusingaperi kwemambo wake.