Mubereki mumwe nomumwe anoda kuzvidada nemwana wavo. Munhu wose anoita seanofunga kuti vana vose vana, uye yake-yakasarudzwa, yakasiyana, uye inonakidza matarenda. Zvichida, hapana vabereki vari mumhuri dzakanaka dzinenge dzisingadi kuti mwana wavo afare, haana kurota kuti akawana zvakanyanya kupfuura ivo pachavo.
Saka nei vabereki vasinganzwisisi vana vavo? Mushure mezvose, zvinhu zvose zviri kuve nechokwadi chokuti vabereki nevana vanoita zvakakwanikana kune umwe neumwe? Kana kunzwisisa, kunyatsoteerera kuvana vabereki - zvisizvo?
Ichi chirevo chinotyisa - "kubatana"
"Itai" muchikamu chimwe chete, zvichida kufungidzira mazwi nemabasa emumwe nomumwe, kwete vabereki chete nevana. Iyi ndiyo nzira iyo vakaroorana, hama dzepedyo, uye avo vanogara pasi pedenga rimwechete "vanokura pamwechete". Izvi zvinopa mupiro wakakwana kune nei vabereki vasinganzwisisi vana vavo.
Kuchengetedza hupenyu uye hutano hwemucheche, chido chekumubatsira, kudzidza kufamba munzira ino kune hukama hwepedyo nepfungwa yepfungwa "yekubatana".
Kubatana inzira yehukama kana pasina mhirizhonga inokosha mukati mavo vaviri, uye pane nzvimbo yekufungidzirwa pakati pevanhu vaviri - "iye akaita saizvozvo, uye akafanana naizvozvo."
Mimwe mienzaniso yekutendeseka: rudo, kuyemura mune zvakakwirira, sectarianism.
Saka, watoona kuti nei vabereki vasinganzwisisi vana vavo - nokuti havazivi sevanhu. Kuita shanduro yekufunga mwana kubvira pazera remakore, baba vake namai vakagadzirira "kufunga" pamusoro pake, zvaanoda uye kuti vana vachave nani sei.
Dzimwe nguva zvinotora mafungiro asina kukwana - nenzira yekunyatsosarudzwa kwemuwani kana mwenga pasi pekutyisidzirwa kwekudzingwa kubva kumhuri, kana kuiswa kwe "basa" rakanaka.
Kuteerera - hakurevi "kunzwa"
Isu tinoteerera mwana wedu, teerera kumabhabheri ake - uye nguva yokutanga kufungidzira zvaanoreva. Asi kana iwe ukanyatsoteerera, ipapo masasa acho acharamba asina kuzadzika.
Kudya kwemhuri, rwendo rwekutakura vanhu, kuenda kunechitoro, kushanyira chiremba, kushanyira masangano ehurumende nemarudzi ose emamiriro ezvinhu - mamiriro mangani apo iwe unoda kusangana pamwe nekugadzirisa mubvunzo wakakomba! Ndeapi nzvimbo iyo amai vanoonekwa nevana!
Saka, munzvimbo idzi dzose ivo vanomanikidzwa kupatsanangurira kwavo: chikamu kumucheche, chikamu kumushandi kana chiremba, chikamu kwaari. Kesari chaiyo, anokwanisa kuita zvinhu gumi panguva imwechete - ndivo ndivo vanaamai ava vaduku.
Nyika haisi yakakwana, uye hatigoni kupa nguva yedu yose kumwana paanenge ari muduku uye anoda kuti tifunge. Asi panguva imwecheteyo, tsika yekuteerera mwana wako muhafu, haina kutarisira, kuttentive. " Mwana akachenjera angati chii? "- vabereki vanofunga, vachiputira mwana.
Vana vedu vanotaura nezvei?
Muzvokwadi, vana, pasinei nepamakore ekutanga, asi kunzwisisa vabereki. Vanokwanisa kubata chinhu chikuru, kwete kunyanya kuenda mune tsanangudzo uye kufunga kukuru. Uye zvakadaro, vanhu vakuru kazhinji havana nguva yekutsanangura pfungwa, mamiriro mumashoko ari nyore.
Kunyange kukura uye kunzwisisa zvakawanda, vana havagoni kuenzana kubva kuvabereki vavo. Ndicho chikonzero vabereki vasinganzwisisi vana vavo. Uye kunyange zvakadaro vana havagoni kuenzana nevabereki vavo - chikamu ichi chinokonzerwa nepfungwa.
Mwana anotitaurira nezvido zvake, asi vabereki vane utsinye uye havasi kugadzirira kupindirana ne "vasingazivi" (zvisinei kuti vakura sei, maviri kana makumi maviri). Ndokusaka vabereki vasinganzwisisi vana vavo kazhinji. Nokudaro matambudziko ose - "haana kuenda kwataimuudza" uye, kune rumwe rutivi, "havanzwisisi ini, havateereri."
Kwete zvinhu zvose zvinotyisa
Zvinotarisa kuti zvisikwa zvakarongwa kuti vabereki vekutanga vasarudze zvinhu zvose nokuda kwevana vavo, uye zvino vana, pavanokura, vanotsigira kodzero dzavo dzekutonga. Mushure mezvose, chii, kana kwete izvi, kubata kwavo kuongororwa?
Muzvisikwa, zvinhu zvose zvakagadzirwa mukuenderana. Uye nguva iyo vana vanogona kuzvitarisira ivo - izvi panguva imwe chete apo vabereki vanoisa "tsvimbo mugiro." Izvi zvakafanana nemafananidzwa emusango, chizvarwa chekare chinodhonza mapiko acho kubva mudendere , kuitira kuti vadzidze kubhururuka. Uye kunze kwe "kurira", kurwadziwa kwekusanzwisisa kubva kune nyika chete uye kunodhura-vabereki - kunokosha.
Kunzwisisa - chirevo chekuenzana
Avo chete vanozvimirira vanogona kunzwisisana. Nzira yakasiyana yehupenyu, nzira yekuwana uye inowanzo - kwete "yakaunzwa mumuromo wemakumbo uye yakapa", asi munhu wose akazviwana iye oga. Ndizvo chete pakati pe "vanhu" vakadai, vanhu muzvinhu zvose vanogona kunge vanonzwisisa nekuremekedzana. Uye pamwe nevabereki, inogona kubuda, uye kusvikira pakuguma kwezuva pachava neukama "yakapa honye mumuromo uye yakapa mirayiridzo yekurarama."
Kushamwaridzana nehukama nevanhu vekurota ndorota zvinongowanzoitika. Ropa kinship harina kureva kuswedera mumweya. Saka, usatsamwiswa kana vanhu vakaberekerwa - vabereki - vasinganzwisisi vana. Vane mararamiro akasiyana-siyana, mamwe maitiro. Iwe unotofanira kuva iwe pachako uye ugoonga. Vabereki - vana, pamikana inoshandisa. Uye vana - vabereki, nokuda kwechokwadi chaiwo chekuonekwa munyika ino.