Maererano nehutano hwekubudirira kubudirira, kuitira kuti uwane chimwe chinhu, unoda zvakadzama fungidzira kuti watove wakazadzisa chimiro chako chemukadzi - murume wezviroto.
Saka, chii iye, chimiro chechikadzi - murume wezviroto? Slender, mutambo, chimiro ...
Kubva kune rumwe rutivi rwemucherechedzo
Tinotaura kuti chimiro chechikadzi - murume weroto rakanaka, kana tikanzwisisa kubva kwaari mukati kubva mukati uye tinonzwa kunzwa kunonakidza asi izvi zvinokurudzira chido chokuva pedo uye kumira mumasikati ehu hunako, kuti ufare. Nokudaro, runako hunogutsa chimwe chidikanwi chevanhu, chinozadza zana, chinogutsa zvimwe zvepfungwa dzake mupfungwa. Munhu mumwe nomumwe ane ukama hwake hwakakomba nepfungwa ye "runako". Zvaanoisa muzvirevo izvi - iye pachake haana kunyatsoziva.
Kubva kune rumwe rutivi
Apo patinenge tichifunga kuti chimiro chevakadzi - murume weroto uye runako kubva kune uyo anotarisa. Uye kana iwe uchiona kubva kune uyo anoita kuti unzwe? Zvinotarisa kuti munhu mumwechete anogona kunzwa akanaka uye akaipa, zvichienderana nekunzwa mupfungwa, zvipfeko, mafungiro evanhu vanokosha kwaari, nezvimwewo. Murume akanaka, sekutonga, munhu anogutsikana, anogutsikana naye. Kutarisa kwaari kunoda kuva akafanana, anoda kuve nehutachiwana nemamiriro ake ezvinhu, anoda kuchengetedza pedyo nechekudaro tsime remafungiro akanaka pamusoro pake. Mushure mezvose, kana ndine runako uye uhwu uhwu pamwe neni, ipapo ndinobatanidzwa muhupfumi uhwu - kunaka, pamwe kuve chikamu chazvo.
Saka ndaidya!
Pakati pese, pfungwa yekubatana neicho chinokwezva, ndeyechokwadi kune zvepabonde. Pane maonero evanhu avo vanoda kukwereta chimwe chinhu, chinoda kufanana (chinoda se "kudya chiropa chevavengi kuti uve nesimba rayo") zvinokonzera manzwiro epabonde. Kubva pakuona kwepfungwa yepfungwa, maitiro ekuita zvepabonde nekudya / kutora zvinokonzerwa nepfungwa dzepfungwa.
Ndeipi bhodhi rangu?
Aiwa, dai tainge takarongeka kuti tafura yakaisvonaka yaizoita kuti tive nenzara, uye mubhedha - zvido! Unhu hwakanaka hahugoni kuwana munhu anochiva nokuda kwechikonzero chakanaka-havadi ivo! Kana murume ari akanaka kunze, asi asinganzwi mafungiro emudzimai wake, asinganzwisisi naye, haanetseki naye, haanzwisisi zvaanoda, haateereri nyaya pamusoro pehupenyu hwake, anofunga basa rake sechinhu chisina basa uye haaoni mukadzi mukati maro, hakuzovi nemukadzi anowanzoita zvepabonde kukwezva kumunhu akadaro! Kana iye asiri muonochist.
Vakawanda vanoona kuponeswa mumagadzirirwo ekurasikirwa kwemasimba. Mufaro wemuviri unobva pakutsvaga mutsva, asi mushure mekunge uchinge uchinge uchinge uchinge unofadza uye unofara, unhu husingafadzi hunogona kuramba huripo, nokuti munhu chinhu chakakomba uye ari kuedza kubata. Kana pasina chiitiko chakangofanana chekuda nekunyorova, ruzivo rwakakisisa rwepabonde ruchava chiitiko. "Kunakidza" kunokwanisika chete kana zvikumbiro zvose zvagutswa: mumuviri, mupfungwa uye-hongu-hongu! - kukosha / tsika.
Zvepabonde = kunaka?
Kuita zvepabonde kune chinhu chakanyanya kuoma uye chakanaka zvokuti hazvibviri kukwanisika kutaura pamusoro pemitemo ipi zvayo. Vakadzi vazhinji, somuenzaniso, vanofara kana mumwe wavo akafanana nababa vavo, kwete hukuru hunobva pachivharo chemagazini. Vazhinji vakadzi havazofari munhu akakwana, asi mumwe munhu anonzwa muhupenyu hwake uye haashamisi nerunako rwemuviri wake, asi kubva kwaari sehupenyu husina kukodzera, hwaakasarudza. Kana kubatana kwevanhu kuchichengetedzwa "mukukomba", saka kwakanyanya kuoma: vakaroorana vanorasikirwa nekusingaperi nokusingaperi pamusoro pekuti vanogona "kurambwa", vakatsiviwa nekanaka.
Izvi zvinorevei?
Ndinoda kuva nemumwe munhu anofara neni, kupisa zvinonakidza kubva kwandiri, kunditambudza nemanzwiro aya. Mukadzi akakodzera - murume wezviroto - narcissistic narcissus, "kupenga pamusoro pako," hausi kunyatsogutsikana zvakanyanya sekugutsikana kwakadai sekunyora nhoroondo.
Kusagadzikana - murume iye pachake anotarisa kudarika.
Zvakakosha kuti murume wangu anonzwisiswa nehupenyu hwangu, zvekuti haana kunyanya kundipa nekunaka kwake, vangani veavo vanoongorora maitiro angu anoenderana.
Mukadzi anogona kuona kamwechete kuti iye uye iye haasi akafanana, uye kuti kubudirira kwake hakuna kufanana nekubudirira kwake.
Kudzorera munhu nokuda kwe "muenzaniso wekunakisa", iwe unogona kutyisa kuparadza ukama: ngaaite kuti anzwe kuti haamudi iye uye iwe, kuongorora kwevamwe kunokosha zvikuru. Nyanzvi dzepfungwa dzinoidza vakadzi ava narcissistic: mweya hahushandi, maitiro - kunze uye kuongororwa kwevamwe, hukama hwehukama, rudo - hupfigwa.
Ndinoda murume ari kuita zvekurovedza muviri, ane chimiro chakanaka uye vhudzi, mhembera dzakaputika, anotarisira mbatya, anogara achifunga nezvekuonekwa kwake.
Murume akaomesera zvakanyanya kune iye pachake, anozviisa pachake kune zvido zvinokanganisa uye kunetseka kuti haaiti kuzadzikisa izvi zvinoda, saka haazogutsikana zvakanyanya sekutsamwa.
Kusabatanidzwa maererano nekuratidzika kwaro uye zviito zvakashata maererano nekusimudzira humo hwemukati-zvichida unoda rubatsiro rwechiremba wepfungwa kuitira kuti murume wako awane chivimbo maari pachake uye anzwe kuti anokosha uye anoziva kuti chii.
Murume wangu anotenda kuti iye ndiye zvaari, uye kuti anofanirwa kudiwa nekuda kwemweya nepfungwa, asi kunze kwacho hakuna basa.
Murume anoita kuti mukadzi ave chiremera che "hukama hwake hwakaipa" pamwe nehupenyu hwehupenyu, haadi mutumbi wake, haadi kumutarisira, anozvidza kukwezva kwekunze - kureva kuti, ane zvinetso zvepfungwa zvakajeka. Kunetseka uye kusagadzikana kunyanzvi, zvakare, kungada, asi vakadzi vane zvimwe zvinetso zvepfungwa.
Kusagadzikana - munhu haazombozvichengeteri chero chinhu-ichi ndicho chinzvimbo chake, anotungamirira mupfungwa "hondo nechokuita" (semutemo, munhu akadaro ariwo mupemhi).
Mudiwa wangu ane kamu kaduku, anokwanisa kutenga jacket zvishoma. Kamwe kamwe pavhiki anoenda kumitambo yekurovedza, anotarisa mbatya dzake. Zvinhu izvi zvinokosha kwaari, asi haasi machechi. Anofara nechitarisiko chake, asi anoziva kuti mumakore ake iye anotofanira kutarisa iye pachake.
Uyu murume akakwana , anoteerera maonero emukadzi wake, asi haasi kuenda pamusoro pake. Ngwarira kana iwe uchida kuchinja chimwe chinhu mairi. Kana ukama hwako huri hune hutano uye hwakanaka, iwe uchazununguswa zvishoma kubva kumashoko okuti "shandura chimwe chinhu mairi." Kana iyi mutsara isina kukukuvadza iwe, zvichida uri kutarisira kutungamirira murume wako uye kuveza chimwe chinhu kubva kwaari iwe pachako. Tsika yakadaro muhukama hwakanaka hahuunounesi: kana ukazadzisa chinangwa chako, uchawana "mwana" kana "muranda", kwete munhu.