Ndeipi kuroorana kwehurumende kumurume: Kuyeverwa, kune ngozi kune vasikana!

Kubatana kwevagari vehurumende, pakunzwisisa kweMedia, inobatanidzwa nevanochata uye yakanyoreswa mumasimba emasimba enyika, uye munharaunda (kutaura) kune dzimwe nzira, ukama husina kubhadhara hunonzi hutano hwevanhu. Kubvisa vanhu mumvura yakachena, isu tichataura pamusoro pekuroorana kwevanhu sevasiri vega, "kwete kutemerwa" hukama.

Chii chinonzi kuroorana kwehurumende kumurume?

Mumamiriro ezvinhu emafungiro edu, mumatambudziko mazhinji, kuroorana kwevanhu vanobva kune dzimwe nyika kunowanzoonekwa kune vakadzi vane kuzvidzora uye varume vasingatambudzi nemabasa makuru. Sei izvi zvichiitika mumagariro epfungwa? Mukadzi anogamuchira mamiriro ekuroorana kwevanhu, a priori anobvuma kugutsikana nediki. Uye kana asingabvumi, anofanira kusimbisa kana, kana kuti, kutaura kudai. Murume wacho anonzwisisa kuti ichi ndicho chiratidzo chake chemhuri, uye iye anoremekedza nzvimbo yevanodanana uye vanoroora, kana kuputsa hukama. Kana mukadzi achishivirira achitsungirira uye achimirira, apo murume anozvidza kumukoka kumu korona, zvino, achitya kupererwa uye asina kugadzirira kuramba. Kune varume vanosarudza kurarama zvakanaka, asi vasina kusungirwa, ichi chiratidzo chokuti munhu haagoni kuoma, uye saizvozvo zvichaenda kana mukadzi achizvibvumira kuzviitira iye oga.

Murume akadaro anofananidza zvose. Sei achifanira kuzvidzora nemukati wedenga uyu uye kukurukura nemaoko ake netsoka kana:

1. Mukadzi anobvumirana naye kuti ararame maererano nemashoko ake.
2. Ruzhinji rwakaderedza mitemo yehutsika uye yakavimbika kumhuri isingabhadharwi.
3. Kuita zvepabonde, zvokudya, nguo dzakachena uye imba inofadza inofambidzana nemabhonasi akanaka nguva dzose.
4. Kushayikwa kwezvisungo zvehurumende uye rusununguko zvinoramba zviri pamutemo, kana chimwe chinhu chisingafadzi kana kuti chinosuruvara.

Ichi ndicho chirevo chevarume vasina kukurumidzira kushandura ukama hwekuroorana muhutano hwepamutemo. Uye mune izvi hapana chinhu chinotyisa, kana chikwata chehurumende chisina basa kune urongwa hunokodzera mativi ose maviri.

Varume vanofunga sei vane ruzivo rwekuroorana kwevanhu vomunharaunda?

Eugene, 21, mudzidzi, chikwata chemuchato chakaitika makore 4.

"Ndiine musikana wangu wekare, takatanga kugara pamwe chete patakanga tine makore 17. Vaiva vadzidzi, vaigara muimba yangu, vakaisa hupenyu uye vakazviti ivo mhuri. Zvose zvakanga zvitsva, ndaifarira zvikuru, shamwari dzangu dzakanditsamwira. Uye nokuda kwavo, vezera redu, zvaivewo zvitsva. Asi zvino vakomana kubva kwatiri, kushandura vasikana vanenge vhiki imwe neimwe, vakatanga kubvunza kana ndakanga ndava kushungurudzika zvakafanana? Iwe hausi iwe uchida kufamba uye kurara rusununguko rwepabonde here? Ini, zvakare, ndakashamisika nemubvunzo uyu, uye ikozvino ini ndakatanga kushuva kuzvimiririra kweshamwari dzangu. Pakati pese, hukama, iyo ini ndakatenda nemhuri nemoyo wose, ndakakurumidza kupera. "

Pfungwa yepfungwa: Kune jaya, zvakasikwa kuwana ruzivo uye kudzidza nezvako uri muukama, dzidza kugovera nzvimbo nekuremekedza zvido zveumwe. Iyi miitiro yehupenyu hwemhuri inokosha, asi huzhinji hwevechidiki "mhuri" dzehurumende dzinoti chiitiko chinorwadza.

Pavel, wemakore makumi maviri nemashanu, mupurogiramu, chiitiko chekuroorwa kwevanhu mumakore mashanu.

"Ukama hwedu hunokonzera kutsungirira kwangu. Ndakarova musikana wangu kubva kune mumwe mukomana. Akamukunda nemabasa erudo, akamuchengeta zvakanaka uye nekusingaperi. Vabereki vangu vakatipa imba yavo, asi havana kuziva musikana sehosi yavo uye havana kumubvumira kugadzirisa nyaya huru dzemhuri. Nokufamba kwenguva, vakakwanisa kugadzirisa kusava nechokwadi mukati mangu, kunyange zvazvo mudzimai wehurumende akanga atoedza kuedza zita rangu. Ndakatanga kutya kuti aizova nepamuviri uye ini ndaifanira kuroorwa. Ndakanga ndiriwo wekutanga wekuparadzanisa. Akatambura, uye ini "ndakasununguka." Gore rakatevera ndakaroora mumwe musikana. Ndiina handaida rusununguko. "

Pfungwa yepfungwa: Rusununguko chinhu chinokosha kupfuura zvose munhu ane. Asi kana achinyatsoda mukadzi, anotya kurasikirwa uye anonzwisisa kuti paanenge achiedza, mumwe munhu anonyadzisa amuwana uye otora, saka kwete, kunyange iye ane simba rekutonga kubva kunze, haakwanisi kumudzivisa.

Sergei, 40, nemagetsi emotokari, akaroorwa.

"Musikana wangu neni takaroorana mushure mokuberekwa kwemwanakomana wedu, uye kwete nokuti mwana anofanira kukura muukama hwepamutemo, asi nokuti chifukidzo mupasipoti chakamubvumira kupinda muchirongwa cheimba" Young Family ". Pakanga pasina chimwe chidimbu chemaitiro ehurumende mukati mangu kana mumudzimai wangu. Ichokwadi chokuti ini ndinoda kumuchengeta iye nevana vedu, ndakanzwisisa kubvira pazuva rokutanga. Uye kana munhu asingadi kuva nemhosva yemhuri uye kutora mitoro, ipapo hapana kubhadhara kwacho kuchaita izvozvo. "

Pfungwa yezvepfungwa: Zvechokwadi, matanho ari pasi pepasipoti haapi chero hupi hupi hunovimbisa tsika, asi huri nyore nyore dzimwe nyaya dzepamutemo. Uye zvakadaro, sezvinoratidzira kuratidza, kunyange varume vane hanya zvikuru nehukama hwepanguva refu vanorasikirwa nehanya kune mhuri isina kurongeka kana kubhadhara kwewanano hakuitike mukati memakore 2-3.

Mhedziso

Zvose zvikonzero zvinozivikanwa zvinonzi zvinonzwisisa kuroorana kwevanhu vanogona kupikiswa:

• Zvakakosha kutarisa kuenderana (mune zvepabonde, hupenyu, kutendeseka). Kunyange vanhu vanobatana muzvinhu zvose vane kukakavara. Pasina ivo, hazvigoneki kuvaka imba yakasimba.
• Tinofanira kutanga "simuka", zvino taroorana. Nhamba dzinoratidza kuti hukama hwemhuri hunopa nheyo yakasimba (kutsigirwa, kubatanidzwa, kubatsira, kukurudzira) kuti kubudirire, kupfuura kutamira kune imwe chete.
• Tampamende mupasipoti igungano. Zvichida, asi zvinopfuura ukama hwakasununguka, inoranga uye inodzidzisa basa. Uye kune vasikana vakawanda, tampamende ichiri nzira chete inogamuchirwa yekuumba mhuri.
• Hama dzisingabvumi nechisarudzo. Maonero ehama nguva dzose anokosha, asi kana munhu asingakwanisi kudzivirira rudo rwake, zvino zvingaitarisirwa here kuti achakwanisa kudzivirira mhuri yake pamberi peimwe dambudziko?
• Imba yakapambwa inoda. Vamwe varume vanofunga kuti pakarepo mushure mechato, mutambo wacho achashandurwa kuva "frog", nokuti chinangwa chiripo, iye anonyorerwa uye anofadzwa iye zvino haafaniri kudiwa. Zvisinei, kana Tsarevich isiri Fool, ipapo pedo naye mutongi achada kuva queen.

Izvi nezvimwe zvikonzero zvizhinji zvinowanikwa apo murume asina chokwadi chekusarudza kwake. Kana iye achida chaizvo, saka haana chikonzero chekudzivisa hurumende. Kuva murume akakodzera kunoremekedzwa! Chinhu chikuru ndechokuti uwane uyo waunoda kupfeka chikwata chinozvikudza.