Neuro-linguistic programming kana NLP inoshingaira kusimba sangano rekushandiswa kwepfungwa rinopa maitiro akajeka uye anogamuchirwa ekutungamira nzira dzisinganzwisisiki. NLP inoshandiswa zvakajeka munharaunda yorudo uye hukama. NLP mazano anobatsira kuwana rudo, kuvaka ukama hukama kana kuti kumutsidzira fading manzwiro. Rudo mutambo, uye mimwe mitambo ine mitemo yayo pachayo. Iwe unovaziva - iwe iwe unokunda, kwete - kugadzirira kurasikirwa uye nemigumisiro yese inotevera. Kuva wakasuruvara murudo kunorwadza zvikuru, saka zviri nani kuti udzidze pakarepo mitemo mikuru uye udzidze nzira dzakanaka dzinobatsira kudzivisa zvikanganiso zvisingaregereki uye kufara murudo.
Ita kugadzirisa. Chinhu chokunzwira tsitsi pakati pevanhu chikafanana. Inofanira kuwanika kusimbisa nzvimbo ye interlocutor panguva yekukurukurirana. Iwe unofanirwa kuva girazi, kuratidzira mufambiro wemudiwa wako, kusvika kumitambo yekufema. Zviratidzo zvako, maitiro, chiso chekutaura, kutaura tempo kunofanira kuva pedyo nekukwanisika. Mamiriro makuru ekuona mirroring ndeyekunyanya kukanganisa, zvisinei kuti munhu achafunga kuti uri kupfeka.
Iva mutungamiri mukukurukurirana. Iwe unofanirwa kuzvirongedza mumanzwiro, zvishoma nezvishoma kutungamirira mutauriri kune manzwiro uye manzwiro ayo achaita kuti ave nemafungiro akanaka. Kana mudiwa wacho akavharidzirwa uye akavharwa mupfungwa, kunyemwerera, taura nounyoro uye usina kusamanikidzwa. Nokukurumidza kana kuti gare gare iye anoda kukuvhenekera iwe uye kuwedzera mafungiro aunokumbira. Izvo zvisingashandiswi "kuchinja" kwehutsika. Kana iwe uchida munhu, saka kazhinji, pamwe nekutenda kwaunoita iwe wakafanana. Kuratidze. Iva shamwari yakanaka. MuNLP, "anchoring" ndeimwe yenzira dzakanakisisa dzokuti musunge munhu pachako. Chinokosha chaicho ndechokuwana kana kubata nguva yekufara kwomunhu uye kumubatanidza iye oga. Mimhanzi, zvinonaka, zvinonhuwira, zvinobata izvo shamwari yako inonzwa pamwe chete newe, inofanira kukonzera mafungiro akanaka mairi. Mune ramangwana, iye achabatanidza manzwiro aya newe uye edza kuvadzidzisa.
Kurudzira. Nyanzvi dzeNLP dzinonzi imwe yenzira dzakakosha dzekuumba maitiro anodiwa anonzi "rakanaka kusimbisa". Ichi chiratidzo kumunhu kuti anoita zvakanaka uye mufambiro wake unofadza uye unosangana nezvinodiwa. Sekukurudzira, unogona kushandisa kunyemwerera, kutsvoda, kukurudzira, kutarisa, kukanganisa, nekudaro. Nokukurudzira mumwe wako nekusimbiswa kwakanaka, unogadzira kushanda uye unyanzvi hwaunoda. Shandisa nzira yekutsvaga. Icho chipo chinoshamisa chekuyeuka kwevanhu. Iine mitsara yezviyeuchidzo zvevanhu vakatitungamira uye vakasiya mitsva pavari ivo pachavo. Kuona kwevanhu vatsva kunopesana nezviyeuchidzo izvi. Semuenzaniso, zita remunhu akanaka uye ane chinangwa kwatiri richakurumidza kuve neunhu hwakanaka hwevamwe vanhu vose munzira yedu nezita rimwe chete. Shandisa chiitiko chekutsvaga uye kutsamwisa mumwe wako kune izvo zvakanaka zvaanoyeuka zvaasingazivi kuti achakutumira kwauri.
Nhatu Nyore NLP Techniques for Rudo
Munyori wepakutanga NLP maitiro Victoria Isaeva (Eva Berger) mubhuku rake "NLP nokuda kwerudo runofadza: maitiro 11 achabatsira kugumburana murudo, kunyengedza, kuroora ani zvake" anopa mikana yakawanda inobudirira iyo inobatsira kutanga hukama hutsva kana kuvandudza avo vakatotanga kuumbwa .
Technique "The perfect first date"
Pamberi pemusangano wekutanga unofadza, edza kudzokerazve sevanyori vevheti, mutevedzeri uye mutambi wefirimu yako inonzi "My Ideal Date." Iwe uchange uine rwendo rwekuenda kumusangano weramangwana, munyori wauri iwe. Sezvaunosarudza, ichapfuura. Kuti uite izvi, yeuka zuva rako rakabudirira zvikuru kana mamiriro ezvinhu mawakanga uchifara. Iva nemafungiro aya zvakare, kubvisa inzwi, kunhuwira, mifananidzo uye kunzwa mupfungwa yako. Ita kuti vanyatsojeka sezvinobvira, edza kunzwa zvose zvese mumuviri. Unganidza manzwiro aya uye mupfungwa uende navo kune zuva rinouya. Fungidzira kuti kunzwa kwomufaro uye mufaro kunowedzera sei paunosangana nemumwe wako, kumuona, kunzwa uye kunzwa kunzwa kwake kwechokwadi. Ratidza zvakadzama nzvimbo yemusangano, sei uye iwe unogara kupi, chii chinonzwika iwe unonzwa kumashure, kunhuwa, ona nzvimbo dzakapoteredza uye mukati. Uri kutaura nezvei? Unodya kana kunwa chii? Kuvandudza mamiriro ezvinhu, ivai mumuviri wemafaro. Rega mufaro uende nepakati nemhepo inotonhora, mweya unoimba, uye mudumbu ma butterflies flutter. Tora "ivo", uye chivimbo uende pazuva rako raifara.
Unyanzvi "Idzidziso yevatatu YES"
Munyori weyo nzira anonzi Socrates. Iyo inoshandiswa zvinobudirira pakugadzirisa kwepfungwa nechinangwa chokuwana mvumo yemunhu. Nheyo yekombiyuta inobva pakutsvaga mhinduro dzekusimbisa kumibvunzo mitatu pamusoro pezvinhu zvakajeka (somuenzaniso: denga riri bhuruu, uswa huri bhuru, mvura inonaya). Nehupamhi hwepamusoro hwekuti munhu angati "hongu" kune wechina, asi atova nyaya yenyaya (semuenzaniso: unondida here?). Victoria Isaeva anopa kushandisa shanduro iyi yekare uye inobudirira kuitira kuti munhu abvumirwe munhau dzine chokuita nekuvandudzwa kwehukama: kufambidzana, kubatana, kuroorana, kufamba, kutengesa, nezvimwe. Mubvunzo waunoda kunzwa ndewe "hongu" haafaniri kubvunzwa, vangani vangataurira nekutaura kwakadzikama uye nezwi rakavimba.
Unyanzvi "Kusvibisa"
Kuzvidzivirira chinhu chiito chekugadzirira kana mazwi ayo iwe nokuchenjera unochera nzira yekudzoka (kusakwanisa, kusarudzwa kwechikwata). MuNLP-rudo, nzira iyi inogona kubatsira, somuenzaniso, kudzivisa kukakavara kana kunyange kuparadzana. Kana mumwe wako akaneta nekutsungirira manzwiro ako, iwe une mhosva zvikuru uye unopfidza nemwoyo wose, asi unonzwa kuti uri kugadzirira kutaura kushatirwa kana mazwi ekufuratira, uchiti: "Ndinoziva kuti simba rangu rakasimba sei. Hapana kukanganwira kwandiri, uye zvakaoma kusabvumirana neizvi. Ndinonzwisisa kana iwe ukatsamwira ini (kuvenga, kutura), asi rega ndigadzirise zvikanganiso zvangu uye ndiratidze kuti ndiri nani pane zvandinenge ndaita! "Chiito chekufungidzira" mutongo "kuparara uye kazhinji kacho kunopa mukana wekugamuchira kugutsikana.