Nyanzvi dzepfungwa dzakasvika pakugumisa: kusaruramisira hakuna. Zvakanaka, kunyanya muhukama. Kukurudzira, kupa kwechikafu nemwoyo ndiko kugadziriswa kwevamwe kune zvinoenderana nemafambiro edu. Uye kana kuzvidzora kwedu kuchienderana nekuongororwa kwevamwe, matambudziko mazhinji akadziviswa. Simain Wazer, mutungamiri weB laboratory for Personality uye Self-Knowledge yeYunivhesiti yeWashington, akati: "Vanhu vanotenda kuti vanozviziva ivo zvakakwana, nokuti vanonyatsoziva nhoroondo yehupenyu hwavo kupfuura vamwe. Zvisinei, munhu wacho haana chokuita nezvakaitika kare. Icho chiripo muchokwadi chemazuva ano. " Hatitombofungi kuti tinoona sei kubva kunze: somuenzaniso, kuti tine tsika dzinonyangadza kuti tidzike uye tisinganzwisisi interlocutor. Kunyange zvazvo kutaridzika kwedu pachedu, kuchenjera, kufambidzana, nguva yekubata, isu hatina maturo. Zvawakagadzira mhinduro nevamwe, unogona kunzwisisa zviri nani. Mushure mezvose, maererano nevepfungwa dzepfungwa, hatigoni kutarisa zvimwe zveunhu hwedu hunhu pasina rubatsiro rwekunze. Kuti uchinzwisise mazano ehutano hwehupenyu hwako, Wazir anoronga kuunza denderedzwa rakakamurwa kuva makamu mana.
Zviri pachena kune munhu wose
Mushure mokutaura nemwi kwemaminitsi mashomanana, munogona kuona kana iwe uri munhu anochengetedza kana kuti ane rusununguko, nyanzvi yezvinhu zvekunyama kana kuti anonyatsoziva. Zvidzidzo zvakaratidzawo kuti hukama hwakadaro sekushamwaridzana kunoongororwa zvakaenzana nemunhu nemamiriro ake ezvinhu. Chii chisingazikamwi kwauri kana kune vamwe. Kazhinji zvinangwa zvisina chikonzero zvekuita kwako zvinopinda mazviri. Semuenzaniso, vavariro dzakashata dzinogona kunge dziripo nekuda kwechido chokuratidza kuvabereki kuti ivo vakakutadzisai muhuduku.
Zvido uye manzwiro
Ivo vanonyatsoziva isu, asi havaoneki kune vamwe. Iwe unotya paunenge uine nzvimbo yakabatikana. Asi vamwe vanogona kufunga: iwe unonyarara pamutambo, nokuti iwe unofunga-hakuna vanhu vakakodzera kutarisirwa.
Iyo inofadza zvikuru kwatiri
Uyu ndiwo rutivi rwehupenyu hwedu hunozivikanwa kune vamwe chete. Izvi zvinosanganisira ruzivo pamusoro pekuchenjera, kukwezva, ushamwari, kukudzwa, nguva. Mukuongorora maitiro aya, isu tinowanzokanganisa.
Intelligence
Vabereki vedu vanoongorora mazano edu pakutanga. Mutsara unoti "iwe wakangwara" wakanyatsogadzika mupfungwa uye unoita pfungwa yehuchenjeri hwako pachako. Apo inokura, inowedzera nemafungiro evadzidzisi, vadzidzisi, shamwari. "Kurumbidzwa uye kurumbidzwa kwatinonyatsochengetedza mumabhandi ezvisinganzwisisiki, uye hatitori mhinduro dzisina kunaka," anotsanangura mupfungwa wepfungwa uye mubhizinesi webhizimisi Irina Baranova. "Pashure pezvose, kusava nehanya kunoda kushanda pachedu, uye isu takanyatsogutsikana isu pachedu." Somugumisiro, tinoshevedza pfungwa dzedu pachedu. Mune pfungwa dzevanhu kune hondo yakasimba pakati pe "I": "Ini ndakakwana" uye "Ndiri munhu chaiye". Dambudziko redu kubva paucheche rinosungwa nekuda kwehupenyu munharaunda mumamiriro ezvinhu emakwikwi makuru. Kuziva kuti iwe uri benzi zvishoma kune vamwe zvakafanana nokugamuchira kukundwa. Ndokusaka "ndiri munhu" mupfungwa dzedu nguva dzose inotsiviwa ne "Ini ndakakwana". Uyu ndiwo rudzi rwekudzivirira. " Iyo pfungwa inotsigirwa nemugumisiro wekuedza kuYunivhesiti yeWashington. Vadzidzi vanoverengeka vakapiwa basa rekuziva zvakakwana kukosha kweIQ yavo, uye vozopedza muedzo. Iko kuongorora kwakaratidzwa nevatori vechikamu kwaive kwakakwirira kudarika zviyero chaiye. Uye apo masayendisiti akakumbira shamwari kufungidzira IQ yezvidzidzo zvidzidzo, mhinduro dzakabatana nemigumisiro yekuedza.
Kukwezva
Nzira iyo yatinotonga pamusoro pechimiro chedu pachedu, kune avo vanonyangadza vanofarira. "Muhuduku, tinoverenga nhau dzemadzimambo madzimambo ane mavara akanaka uye meso mavara ezvo denga. Uye isu takarota kuti tive zvakafanana. Gare gare pfungwa dzedu dzekunaka dzakanga dzakakonzerwa nechisimba chinokuvadza chezvinobudisa nhau. Iye zvino tinotenda zvechokwadi (kunyange kana isu tisingazvibvumi isu) kuti miromo, vhudzi nemaziso zvinofanira kunge zvakaita Angelina Jolie, Penelope Cruz na Uma Thurman. Mumwe nemumwe wedu ane mamiriro ekuenzanisira ekukwezva, uye isu tinogona kungozvifungidzira isu, zvichibva pazviri, "anodaro mupfungwa yepfungwa Karina Basharova. Patiri kutonga chitarisiko chedu pane kuratidzwa kwechando mugirazi uye mafirimu asina kubudirira, vanhu vakavapoteredza vanowira pasi peshoko remasimba edu, maziso echiso, zviratidzo. Alena aigara achifunga nezvekubwinya kwebvudzi dema (iro rairamba rakarongedzwa ne ironing zuva rega rega) iyo inobatsira zvikuru pakuonekwa kwake. Kusvikira bato racho risina kuzvinzwa nekukurukurirana kwevamwe shamwari, avo vanoyemura machechi ayo ekutamba uye vakazvidemba kuti Alena akanga achiisa vhudzi rake zvakanyatsonaka.
Kururama
Tinoda kuita chimiro chakanaka, kutaura, tinonyatsosarudza mazwi. Asi mushure mezvose, mitauro imwechete inogona kuonekwa nenzira dzakasiyana-siyana nekuda kweshoko, kudengenyeka kwezwi, kufamba kwemisungo. Izvozvi zvinyorwa zvinopfuura zvatinotarisa, asi zvinonyatsooneka kune interlocutor. Mukuwedzera, kutendeseka ishoko remagariro evanhu, rinonyanya kuvimba nemamiriro ezvinhu uye tsika. Uine munhu mumwe chete, iwe unogona kuti, "Hupenyu huripi?", Uye achaita izvi zvakakodzera, uye mumwe wacho anofanira kutaura nenzwi riri pasi uye kwauri.
Nguva
Vanhu vasina kukwana zvachose yekufamba mune nguva vashoma kwazvo. Asi sei, saka tanonoka? Irina Baranova anonyatsogutsikana: kukwana kwekubata nguva panguva yese yekutaurirana tinogadzira mumwe nomumwe. Somuenzaniso, unogona kushanyira musikana kweawa imwe chete, asi nokuda kwekubvunzurudzwa kwebasa idzva, iwe unofanirwa kuonekwa hafu yenguva yapfuura. Tinoparadzanisa vanhu maererano nekukosha kwavo, uye zvino tinovaisa mberi kwepamusoro pezinga risingazivikanwi: tinokurumidza musi, tichigogodza munhu wose munzira yavo, kana kuti tisingatyi kupinda mu cafe iri pedyo, tichikanganwa zvachose kuti vakavimbisa kuvapo hafu yenguva yapfuura. Christina akagadza shamwari yunivhesiti yevanomwe. Mushure mokunge tanonoka kweawa neine zvishoma, musikana wacho akaputika mukati mokudyira uye atotanga kuteterera asinganzwisisi kukumbira ruregerero, asi shamwari yake ikambovhiringidza: "Usanetseka, ndaiziva kuti iwe uchanonoka. Saka ndakauya pane masere. "
Kufunganya
Kazhinji munhu anotya anozvifunga saizvozvo. Iwe unogona kurara nechiedza, uchidedera kubva kumarudzi ose-uye iva nechokwadi: hapana chakavanzika pamusoro peizvi. Asi avo vakamupoteredza vakanyatsoona kutya: vanopa kudengenyeka kwezwi ravo, kukanganisa kwekutaura kune zviratidzo. Kufunganya inzira yekudzivirira. Munhu wacho anozvibata asinganzwisisiki munyaya yacho kana pane dambudziko rokuputsa nzvimbo inonyaradza. Imwe nyaya ndeyokuti kutyisidzira kunogona kufungidzira. Kwemazuva mazhinji Lika aisagona kurara muimba isina chinhu. Apo pakange paine kugogodza pamusuo, musikana, akabata bhoti yebhobho muruoko rwake, akazarura nejerk. Ndinofanira kutaura pamusoro pekuita kweshamwari yakasarudza kuita kushanya kusingatarisirwi here? Sezvo isu tichiwanzokanganisa pachedu pachedu, zvakakosha kunzwisisa kuti chii shamwari, vanhu vashoma uye vasina kudzidza vanotiona. Basa, kukurukurirana, ushamwari uye rudo zvinovimba neizvi. Iwe usati wavenga nyika yose, tarisa iwe pachako: iwe nguva dzose unonyatsotsanangura pfungwa dzako, manzwiro uye zvishuvo. Uye usatya kutendera zvikanganiso.