Zviri nyore sei kuzvibvumira kugumburwa: kuvhara, kufunganya uye kutarisa chinyararire kune uyo anokuvadza ... Funga nezvazvo, iwe hausiwanzo kushandisa zvigumbuso sechimbo chekuzadzisa zvinangwa here? Nyanzvi yezvepfungwa ichakubatsira iwe kuti unzwisise zvakashata, sei zvichibuda uye kuti ungagadzirisa sei.
Kati yangu, achiri achiri muduku zvikuru uye asingaiti nemaune, paakagumburwa nechimwe chinhu, akaudza vemhuri yake ruzivo urwu, kunyora muzvishongo zveomutadzi. Saka isu takanyatsozviisa mhosva.
Ipapo pfungwa dzakatanga: chii chaini iyo waini? Kuongorora kwekuita kwekati kunogona kutora kwenguva yakareba, nokuti haagoni kutitaurira nezve zvikonzero zvekusagutsikana zvakananga.
Nenzira yakawanda, kana guesswork yakava yakarurama, zvese zvehomwe dzaigona kuponeswa, uye kana zvisingaiti, saka ... Asi iyi nhau inosuruvarisa.
Dzimwe nguva zvinoratidzika kwandiri kuti vanhu vakawanda vanoita zvakafanana nekugumburwa makate. Uye avo vavanoshushikana navo vakafanana zvikuru neavo, vanorasikirwa nekutaura uye vachikanda zvidimbu zvinonaka zvekati mune tariro yekudzima mhosva yavo isinganzwisisiki.
Sei vanhu vachigumburwa zvachose? Nemhaka yei vakadzi vakawanda vanogona kutarisana nemhinduro dzakadaro, uye izvi zvinotungamirirei?
Ngatitarise zvimwe zvezvikonzero zvekuitika kwezvakaipa uye kuziva kuti zvinobudirira sei izvi.
Chikonzero # 1: kushungurudzika kutarisira
Apo waive uchiverenga pane chimwe chinhu, asi nokuda kwechimwe chikonzero haana kuzviwana, inguva yekugumburwa.
Zvichida mutadzi haatombozivi kuti urikukumbira chimwe chinhu, asi hazvina basa, nokuti uyo akagumburwa kutanga ndiye akarurama.
Somuenzaniso, iwe uri kugara muresitorendi, uye muvengi wacho ari kunyatsofungisisa mharidzo, kana, yakaipisisa, nemunhu anofarira kutaura.
Iwe unotanga kuramba wakanyarara uye kuita chiso chinogumbura. Zvichida, mushure mechinguva mutadzi achatanga kubvunza:
- Uye chii ichi newe? Chimwe chinhu chakaitika?
"Kwete, zvakanaka," iwe uchapindura, uchitendeuka kubva kwaari.
"Asi ndinoona chimwe chinhu chakaitika!"
- Uye iwe iwe, iwe haufungi?
"Ndakakugumbura here?"
Hurray! Iyo pfungwa yakamirira kwenguva refu yakagamuchirwa, unogona kutanga kujekesa ukama!
Saka, vakadzi vanofarira kugumburwa, nokuti kushorwa kunosanganisira kunzwa kwekutendeuka uye mhosva kune uyo akatadza. Uye kugadzirisa mhosva iyi, iye, maererano nemamiriro ezvinhu, anofanira kuita chimwe chinhu chakanaka.
Mubvunzo unomuka - sei usingangobvunzi pamusoro pezvaunoda? Zviri nyore kutaura!
Ndeupi mukadzi mukati mavo nepfungwa dzakanaka achakumbira murume kumuda zvakare, kumuchengetedza zvakare, shure kwezvose, kumuteerera, nokuti anonzwa achishuva paanotaura pafoni?
Somuenzaniso, Larissa nguva dzose aigumburwa nemukomana wake ane imwe periodicity.
Kana ukama hukazova hukama uye hukama, Lara akazadzwa nekutambudzika uye nekutya kwake-uye akangoerekana amira kuda?
Aida kugara achitonga ukama, uye mumamiriro ezvinhu apo kutonga kwakarasika, Larissa akatanga kuita.
Apo mumwe munhu asina chokwadi akaudza Larisa kuti aisagona kupedza manheru pamwe naye nekuda kwebasa racho, akakurumidza kugumburwa naye.
Nguva imwe neimwe nyaya imwechete yakadzokororwa - iye aisada kutaura naye, akadzima foni, uye kana iyo yakaipa ichikwanisa kumuwana, iye akati akange akabatikana uye akamira kutaura.
Murume uyu akanyatsokwanisa kunzwisisa zvaiitika. Akatanga kunzwa ane mhosva uye akatumira maruva aLarissa sechiratidzo chekuyananisa.
Ave agamuchira maruva, chipo nekunyadziswa kweavo muchitini, musikana akadzikama uye akanganwira "scoundrel".
Pane imwe nguva, pane imwe mheremhere, jaya racho rakaita zvisingaiti. Haana kudana uye haana kutarisa misangano. Larissa ainetseka.
Musikana wacho akatambura, asi pfungwa yekudana munhu uyu, yakaita seinovhundutsa kwaari: "Kana ndikamushevedza, achafunga kuti ndinomuda zvechokwadi."
Ndinoshamisika, asi nei tichiungana nomunhu asingadi? Uye kana iye, zvakare, asingadi kuratidza kuti anomuda? Haisi ukama, inongova chikwata chepampopi!
Nenzira yakawanda, Larissa akanga asingadi kuzvibvunza mibvunzo iyi inobatsira, asi akaramba achigumburwa. Somugumisiro, murume uyu akazonyangarika zvachose kubva pakatarisana naye, achimira kunotsigira uye kudya Larina rutsitsi.
Zvikonzero zvekutukwa kwakadaro hazvirevi chete mukuchiva kwekugamuchira maitiro kana kuti kubhadhara zvinhu.
Kutaura zvazviri, Larissa anozvifunga zvekuti chero kushungurudzika kubva kumunhu wake kwave kuchionekwa sechinonyombwa .
Ichokwadi hazviitike kwaari kuti afunge nezvechinhu chipi zvacho. Vanhu havagoni kuva nezvinetso uye kunetseka, kunze kwemunhu wake!
Ndinofanira kutaura kuti vamwe vakadzi vanogadzirisa kuchengetedza murume pachikwereti kwenguva yakareba achishandisa nzira iyi yekugadzirisa.
Nenzira, varume vane pfungwa yehutano hwemabasa uye mhosva vanouya kune hokore. Kazhinji chimwe chinhu chakafanana chakagara nhaka kubva kune amai vanoita nenzira yakafanana.
Bedolages havanganzwisisi kuti kune humwe hukama hunogona kuvapo. Zivai izvi "Amai" zviri nyore: kana achida chimwe chinhu kubva kumwanakomana wake, uye ari kubatikana nezvinhu zvake pachake, anobva atanga kurwara nemwoyo kana kuparara kwekutya.
Kana ari panguva, achadana mwanakomana wake kazhinji paawa kuti aone kuti ari kuitei, uye anonyunyuta nezvehutano hwakaipa, asingakanganwi kuwedzera kuipa kwake ari oga.
Chimbofunga nhamba 2: kusakwanisa kuratidza manzwiro
Rudzi urwu rwehasha runowanzoitika. Funga: kana tikakumbira munhu zvakananga pane chimwe chinhu, tinovaka, uye kana tikaedza kumanikidzira chero munhu asingatauri kuita chimwe chinhu (uye kazhinji asingatauri zvido zvedu zvechokwadi), zvino tinoshandisa kugadzirisa .
Uye tinoita izvi nokuti hatisi kuvimba matiri uye tinotya kuratidza manzwiro edu echokwadi.
... Zoe yakanga yakaoma zvikuru kuwana mutauro wakafanana neshamwari dzomukomana wake. Akange asingakwanisi kubatana chero kukurukurirana, nokuti haana kugovana zvavanoda zvachose.
Kazhinji aida kuva iye oga wekucherechedza kwake, nokuti ndiyo nzira yaakararama nayo nyore. Unofunga kuti akambomuudza zvakananga pamusoro peizvi? Kwete! Sei iwe uchizvidya mwoyo zvakadaro!
Pane kudaro, akawana zviratidzo zvokutanga izvo Michael - uyo anonzi iye jaya rake - akabatwa muhurukuro yacho nomufaro, akatanga kumhanya uye kumubvunza pamusoro pechinhu. Somuenzaniso, mutenge kwaari ice cream.
Akanga asingadi kutsauswa uye kupiwa kuitenga gare gare kana kutenga ice cream pachayo - kunyanya sezvo tende iri nhanho mbiri. Zoya, hongu, akakurumidza kugumburwa nekunyengera kwakadaro.
Mushure mezvo, Mikhail akarega kukurukurirana nevamwe neshamwari uye akaisa pfungwa dzake pakujekesa ukama naZoya.
Panzvimbo pekutaura zvakananga kuti anonzwa asinganzwisisiki nekambani yehama dzaMisha nekumukumbira kuti abatsire kutora chikamu muhurukuro, Zoya akasarudza kumukwezva nekutsamwa.
Zviri nyore kwazvo kutaura kuti "Iwe haundidi" uye unogumburwa pane kutsanangura izvo zvisiri kuda mufambiro wemunhu waunoda, chii chaicho kuratidza rudo iwe unotarisira kubva kwaari.
Chikonzero # 3: kuzvidzora
Kakawanda kugadzirisa matambudziko nenzira yekunyomba kunogona kuratidzira kusazviremekedza.
Munhu - panzvimbo yekukumbira nezvechinhu-anotanga kufunga uye anokoshesa kutukwa kazhinji kubva pakutanga.
Semuenzaniso, Asya ndiye musikana akaremara, kare kare akafunga kuti varume vakaita sevanhu vakapfa.
Nokudaro, apo jaya rake Sasha rinotarisa kune umwe munhu akapfuura nepakati, anobva atanga kugumburwa.
Zvose zvakavimbiswa naSasha zve rudo husingaperi hazviiti paAyaya zvachose. "Haudi kundigumbura, saka uri kureva nhema!" Anopindura.
Kana iwe uine kuzvikudza kwakaderera, iwe nechinangwa chekunyengedzera kuchava mune chero mamiriro ezvinhu kutarisa zvikonzero zvekusimbisa kwayo uye, maererano naizvozvo, nokuda kwezvitsva zvitsva.
Zvakaoma chaizvo kutaura nevanhu vakadaro, nokuti hauzivi kuti vangatsamwiswa nenguva inotevera . Kunyange rumbidzo inogona kukonzera kutsamwa kukuru mukati mavo.
Kurangarira nhamba 4: Kutya kuva "gwai rakasviba"
Kutya kukakavadzana, kutya kwekusanzwisiswa, uye kunokonzera vanhu kuti vawane mhinduro yekusarudzira nyaya dzinonakidza.
Kugumburwa kwakanyanya nyore: nokuda kweizvi, kutsunga uye kukura mupfungwa hazvidiwi zvachose.
Inonyomba vanhu vakadaro vanotakura mukati mavo uye vanowedzera kwemakore . Uye kana mamiriro akakodzera achibuda, "fuma" iyi yose inoputika kunze kwechimiro chechokwadi chaiyo.
Ndinofanira kushandisa kushatirwa se "nhumbi" here?
Zvinosuruvarisa, sezvo akambowana kugutsikana kwekutsamwa kwake, munhu anotanga kuishandisa sechimbo chake chenguva dzose, uye hukama hunoshanduka kuva kunyatsogadzirisa.
Zvechokwadi, zvakanaka chaizvo kugamuchira zvaidiwa (somuenzaniso, kutarisa, kusimbiswa kwerudo, shangu itsva yehuto kana kuti ringete), asi hazvisi zvose zvinonakidza apo kuvimbika uye kuvimba kunosiya ukama. Kakawanda kushungurudzika kunopupura kukakundikana kukurukura nemumwe wako.
Kana kukanganisa kunoshanduka kuva maitiro akafanana emuviri wako, saka vanhu vanotanga kureva nhema kwauri kazhinji kana kuramba wakanyarara.
Vanoita izvi nokuti vanotya kukugumbura. Nokudaro, kusavimba kunowedzera pakati pevanhu. Uye rudo mumamiriro ezvinhu akadaro anofa.
Saka, usati watsamwa, edza kumira kune mumwe munhu uye uone zvikonzero zvekuita kwake.
Ita zvakananga - dzidza kutsanangurira kune wawakaroorana izvo zvinokugumbura iwe mukuzvibata kwake - nokuti nenzira iyi iwe unomupa mukana wekuchinja zvinhu zvose.