Ndiani anodzidza nezvepfungwa?
Apo pavanotaura "psychologist", chaizvoizvo, kazhinji anoreva "chiremba wepfungwa". "Chokwadi ndechekuti mupfungwa wepfungwa haaporese, asi anongobatsira kunzwisisa chinhu chaicho. Ane kodzero yekutora misangano inopfuura mitanhatu kana mitanhatu. Mushure mekupedzisira, nzira dzakaoma dzepfungwa dzinouya. Izvi zvinoda nyanzvi humwe unyanzvi hwepamusoro uye unyanzvi. Muongorori wepfungwa anodzidza zvakadzama zvinetso. Kuwirirana naye kunogona kuramba kwenguva refu: mwedzi mishomanana kana kunyange makore.
Iwe uchaitei?
Kugamuchirwa kwechiremba wemazuva ano hakuna kufanana nechiitiko chiri pamubhedha unozivikanwa mafirimu eHollywood. Rakanganwa nezvekanyanya psychoanalytics uye yakareba monologues, izvi hazvirevi izvo zvinokonzera basa rinobudirira iwe pachako. Chaizvoizvo, ivo vanongoratidzira kune rimwe chete mazano - classical psychoanalysis.
Taura uye teerera
Mashoko, kana "kutaura kwemashoko" (sezvinofungwa nemapfungwa yako), inokosha muGestalt, existential therapy, Jungian analytical psychology, mutengesi yekuongorora uye classical psychoanalysis. Newe nyanzvi munharaunda idzi, unoda kusangana kamwe kana kaviri pavhiki kuzokurukura mibvunzo inokosha kwauri. Kukurukurirana kwako kuchave sekukurukurirana kwenguva refu pamusoro pekunorwadza: rudo rusina mufaro, kutya kukwegura, hukama hwakaoma naamai vako, kurota kwakaipa kana kunyange utano hwehupenyu hwako. Iwe unogona kukurukura zvakachengeteka nemumwe nyanzvi zvose izvo zvino zvaita kuti iwe unetseke. Asi kana iwe uchienda kune classic psychoanalyst, gadzirira kuti iyo nyaya yako ichanzwa nechiso chechiso. Munyaya iyi inofungidzirwa kusungirwa kuchengetedza kure pakati pechiremba uye muteresi, kuitira kuti tisadzivirire pakupedzisira kuisa pfungwa mukati memafungiro emukati zvakanyanya. Zvakare zvakakodzera kufungisisa mupfungwa: classical psychoanalysis inoda basa rakapfurikidza (mumakwikwi haanyengeri: a psychoanalyst anogona kufamba kwemakore gumi).
Dhiroka, tamba
Mune unyanzvi hwokurapa uye nzira yomuviri, inofunga pamusoro payo inokonzerwa nekubatana nenyika yepanyama. Kuenda kuburikidza nehutano hwehutano, iwe uchatanga kuvhara kubva ku plasticine, kutamba uye kunyange, pamwe, tinker mubhokisi rejecha. Muchiitiko ichi, mushonga haangotarisi zvaunoedza kubva kunze, asiwo unobatanidzwa mukushingaira mune basa rehutano. Mapiydramatisti achabata zviitiko kubva muupenyu hwako, uye basa rekukosha mumutambo wega (yekare aive mudiwa kana kuti mbuyakuru) inogona kutambidzwa nechigaro (mutambo unonzi "chigaro chinopisa"). Asi, pasinei nekokorodzano iyi, tsanangudzo dzichava dutu. Ne nzira inotungamirirwa nemuviri, mushonga haatsvaki kuchengetedza kurema, naizvozvo gadzirirai kuti panguva yemusangano unogona kubata maoko, svinudza meso ako uye ugare wakanyarara, uchitaridzire mukati mekunzwa. Kazhinji, ivo vachave vachibatana nevanotanga kuonana naamai vako.
Nzira yekuziva kuti ndiani waunoda
Kana iwe uchitaura zviri nani pane kutora, izvi hazvirevi kuti unoda kusarudza matauriro. Zvichida, pane zvinopesana, zvakakosha kukudziridza unyanzvi huripo. Uyezve, zvidzidzo zvakaratidza: zvose zvinotangira nzira dzepfungwa dzepfungwa dzinopa mhinduro yakafanana. Hongu, uye vanachiremba pachavo vanoshandisa nzira dzakasiyana mubasa ravo, nokuti vanoda kukubatsira, uye kwete kungounganidza zvinyorwa zvezvesayenzi nyaya. Semuenzaniso, muongorori wekutengeserana angashandisa zvakanaka psychodrama uye anokurudzira kutamba chiitiko chinokosha kubva muupenyu hwako ne "chigaro chinopisa". Uye chero nyanzvi-inobvunza mubvunzo uyu: "Unonzwa sei ikozvino, uri kunzwa kupi mumuviri?" Zvakanyanya kukosha kusarudza kwete mutungamiri, asi uyo ane ruzivo uye anovimbika. "Izvi zvinogadziriswa sei? Hazvigoneki kuti nyanzvi yakanaka pakarepo purogiramu yekutanga inotanga kushanda nesimba rakasimba. Chete mushure mokunge chivimbo chacho chabuda, shanda nekutambudzika zvinogoneka ". Tinosarudza mushonga anobva pakunzwira tsitsi: "Panofanira kuva nechido, chido. Murapi akanaka ane utano, akafuma uye anofara. Apo chiremba asina kunyatsogutsikana nechimwe chinhu muhupenyu, angazogumburwa pamusoro penharo imwechete yekwereti, kana kuedza kugadzirisa matambudziko ake kwaari.
Iwe unonzwa sei?
Iwe uchasunungura manzwiro mazhinji akasiyana, akanaka uye kwete zvikuru. Manzwiro aya anogona kunge achinyadzisa kana kusuruvara. Asi, kana mushure mekutanga kwekutanga iwe unosangana nemanzwiro akaipa, zvakakosha kuti uve wakangwarira. Kushanyira kokutanga kumurapi: uri kuchema. Izvi zvinowanzova chiratidzo chebasa rakaoma. Zvichida mushonga haatombogadzirisa dambudziko racho, kana kuita zvinorwadza. Asi, kune rumwe rutivi, kana mushure memisangano mitanhatu kana minomwe kune manzwiro ekuti hapana chiri kuitika, zvinoita kuti mushandi ave zvakare akasarudzwa zvisina kururama. Icho chiri pamusangano wechishanu kana wechitanhatu kuti iwe unotanga kunzwa zvakadzika uye kwete nguva dzose unofadza kumutungamiriri. Izvi zvinonzi "kutora". Manzwiro uye manzwiro aimbova akanzwa amai, baba kana vamwe vanhu vashoma, zvino iwe unotumira kune chiremba. Uye inova rudzi rwekuona iyo firimu inoratidzwa pamusoro pako.
Zvinorehwa nevechiremba
Iye, zvakare, angave akavhiringidza manzwiro - "countertransference." Zvichida iwe uchayeuchidza nezveumwe munhu wepedyo naye. Asi iye, kusiyana newe, anofanira kunyatsoziva zvakasangana zvakaitika. Dambudziko nderokuti nyanzvi inoda kugara kune imwe nzvimbo kure newe uye usavhara pfungwa dzake. Muchikamu chepfungwa, chinhu chinonyanya kukosha ndechekusika kwekuchengeteka uye panguva imwechete upenyu hwakazara hwepakati. Tevedzera mitemo iyi yakaoma yemushonga anobatsira nevatariri vanoona nezvekuongorora (avo vane majoka epfungwa dzakawanda) vane maitiro akaoma kubva kumabasa ari kushandiswa. Mukuwedzera, anogona kugara achiverenga zvakare "Ethial Code of the Therapist" (Hippocratic oath ye psychotherapists), uko kune, somuenzaniso, kurambidzwa kwe "mafungiro maviri", ndiko kuti, rudo kana ushamwari kunze kwekambani.
Mitemo Yokufambisa
Usatya kubvunza mibvunzo. Mushure mezvose, hauna hanya kana chiremba wacho ane chirwere uye achidzivisa zvigadzirwa. Uye tarirai isu hatisi kutaura pamusoro pekuwedzera, asi pamusoro pemusoro, iyo yausingagoni kubvisa kana zvichiitika. Hezvino zvinhu zvishomanana zvaunofanira kuziva pamusoro pemushandi wako.
Dzidzo:
Mumwe wepfungwa anofanirwa kuti ave nemadzidzisi maviri. Chimwe chinhu chinonyanya kukosha (psychiatry kana psychology muzviitiko, zvemagariro evanhu uye zvekugadziriswa zvinotenderwa kune dzimwe nzvimbo), yechipiri inokosha, mukati megadziriro yeimwe yenzira dze psychotherapy. Iyo yekupedzisira haifaniri kusanganisira kwete chete dzidziso, asiwo maawa ekuita.
Chibvumirano cherapa
Pakutanga kubvunzurudza mutapi anofanirwa kutsanangurira kuti zvinodhura zvakadini, nzira dzipi dzinoshandisa, kuti nguva yekugadzirisa iri ndeipi uye kuti chirwere chichagara kwenguva yakareba sei. Uyewo anofanirwa kukurukura nemwi matambudziko ekuuya kwekupedzisira uye kubviswa kwemisangano. Mutemo unowanzoitwa: kurayira pamusoro pavo kwete mushure mezuva. Mukupindura kumubvunzo pamusoro pemari yekubvunzurudzwa hakungavi nemashoko akadai seokuti: "Uye iwe unoda zvakadini? Tichabvumirana! ยป. Kuwirirana nehutano hwehutano. Kuti unzwisise kana mushandi wacho asiri kuyambuka miganhu yako, zvibvunze mibvunzo inotevera. Ari kunonoka kugamuchira, anotsungirira here panguva yekupedzisira? Haunzwisisi here kuti chiremba anotaura zvakawanda pamusoro pevamwe varwere? Ari kuedza kupinda kune humwe ukama newe nevamwe vashandi kunze kwebhiniti here?
Kururamisa
Iwe haufaniri kuva nekunzwa kuti uri kuenda nekukurumidza. Kune vanoda kurapa kwakagadzirisa, asi hazvina zvazvinokosha: haufaniri kutsungirira. Saka, kana mushandi anoita mazwi asina kunaka, zvikurukuru kana achiongorora mamiriro ezvinhu akaoma kwauri, chimwe chinhu chakadai: "Uri kudanidzira chii? Iwe unofanirwa kubvuma mutoro: iwe hauna kurohwa, iwe unozvirova iwe, "zviri nani kuti usatarisana nemunhu akadaro.
Professional Experience
Zviri nani kudarika makore maviri kana matatu. Kana munhu akakuudza nekuzvikudza kuti ane "makore maviri" chiitiko, zvakakosha kufunga nezvekukwanisa kwake. Iwe unogona kubvunza mibvunzo yakawedzera pamusoro pekuti wakatove akashanda nematambudziko akadai seako.
Kuvapo kwemutariri uye nharaunda yehutano hwepanyama
Kumbira chiremba kana ari kushanyira mutariri. Bvunza kana akazvitora chirwere. Zvakakosha kufunga pamusoro pekuda kuramba uchikurukurirana, kana achipa mukupindura mubvunzo wako chimwe chinhu se "kurapwa kunopesana nekuperera kwebasa." Kune dzimwe nzvimbo, dzakadai sepfungwaanalysis, imwe nguva yamaawa epfungwa yepfungwa inomanikidzwa.
A psychoanalyst chaiyo
Inogona kutumidzwa saizvozvi chete mushure memaawa makumi matatu ekurapwa kwemunhu. KuJungians, bhari iri pasi pemaawa -5050, kubva kuGestalistes chete 240 inodiwa.
Iva nemanzwiro
Edza kutendeseka kupindura mibvunzo mishoma. Ungada here kutaurirana nemunhu uyu kana iwe ukangosangana naye mune kambani yakawanda? Angazoita akachenjera here? Hazvisi mumeso ake maziso, zviratidzo, nzira yekupfeka. Asi haukwanisi kuenda kune murume akakurumidza kukurwisa. Kana misangano mitanhatu kana mitanhatu yapfuura, uye iwe hauna kugadzikana zvachose, zvinogona kunge pasina kuonana. Asi yeuka, kana iwe ukasarudza kugovana nemuongorori uyu, iwe unofanirwa kubata purogiramu-yega, pane yaunofungidzira zvigumisiro zvekushandira pamwe - uye mushandi anonyatsokurudzira mumwe waunoshanda naye kwauri.