Mafirosofi, mafirologist uye ma-psychotherapist nguva dzose vanoshamisika kuti sei nhema yehukama pakati pevarume nevadzimai mazano achiri nharo, panzvimbo yezvinoitika. Dzimwe nguva isu hatinzwisisi kuti chii chatinoda kuona shamwari yemukadzi kana murume ari pedyo nesu. Zvadaro tinomubata pabhenji uye tinomuti shamwari yakanakisisa, uye patinenge tichida zvakasimba tinoronga usiku husingakanganwiki hworudo, izvo, zvisingaiti, hazvimudzivisi kuti adzokere kumashure.
Mukuwedzera - ushamwari uye mukuguma kwepabonde kune mitsipa yakawanda. Dambudziko nderokuti isu pachedu hatikwanise kuongorora zvakajeka zvido zvedu nemafungiro edu. Zvatinowanzoita sehukama zvinogona kuva chido chepfungwa chifukidziro chekukwezva kutarisana nevakomana. Saka hazvisi nyore kutora mutsara pakati pehukama hwechokwadi, kukwezva zvepabonde nekudanana. Kunyangwe iwe iwe pachako uine chokwadi chokuti kune ushamwari pakati pemurume nemudzimai, saka haugone kuve nechokwadi nguva iyo "shamwari" yevasikana vakasiyana inofunga. Saka, "shamwari" iyo ingozi huru "kuvepa" ushamwari hwako huripo.
Kana iwe wakaroorana kana uri kuenda kunyoresa ukama hwako munguva yemberi, kuvapo kweshamwari kana musikana kunosanganisira, zvakanakisisa, kusanzwisisa, uye kunogona kukonzera godo pane chikamu chako chepamutemo kana remangwana. Nokudaro, kana ukasarudza kuzvisiyira shamwari kana musikana iwe muwanano yako, tapota ona kuti hazvirevi zvakare kubhadhara kune shamwari yako kana musikana kudarika shamwari yako yakakodzera.
Zvidzivirire kubva pachokwadi chokuti ushamwari hauna kukura muhukama hwepedyo, hwakanyanya kuoma, uye kune vakawanda hahuna musoro zvachose. Uye kana iwe kana shamwari yako uchinzwa kuti ushamwari hwasvika muhukama hwepabonde, uye hapana mukana wekuva murume nemudzimai, iwe iwe kana shamwari yako unozvirova iwe pachako kune zvakasimba zvakasangana mupfungwa. Nokudaro, unofunga kufunga zvakanyanya usati waita shamwari dzevasikana. Kwete, izvi hazvirevi kuti hazvikwanisi kutangwa, kungogadzirisa nyaya iyi zvakakosha kutora chikamu chekunyengera.
Nokudaro, ushamwari pakati pemurume nemudzimai pamwe uhu huri hwomunhu husina kusiri hune humwe hunogona kuvapo chero bedzi vanhu vanodanana, vanoda mumwe nomumwe kana kuti vanoda kubatsirana. Asi kana mamiriro acho akareba kana mamiriro ezvinhu achikura nenzira yakadai kuti hapana mubvunzo wekuita rudo kana kudanana kune mumwe wavo. Mune ramangwana, sekutonga, zvinoitika kuti mumwe akanga asina rudo uye asingagamuchiri kuramba kubvumidzwa kune basa re "shamwari."
Asi usatya ushamwari. Muhupenyu zvinhu zvose zvinoitika: uye kune mumwe nomumwe mapeji ekupedzisira ndeye uye haazokwanisi kudzokororwa. Zvakakosha kukoshesa ushamwari hwako, chero ipi zvayo inoratidzika. Usatya zvepabonde, sechikamu chokupedzisira chehukama hwehukama, zvichida ichi ndicho kutanga kweukama hutsva - kuroorana. Yeuka kuti tiri kuvaka yedu yeramangwana nemafungiro edu nezviito zvedu. Saka regai tidzidze kugadzira ramangwana rako, uye kwete kuriparadza.