"Zvekuita zvepabonde" - inonzwika uye inofadza. Gore roga rega varume nevakadzi vakawanda vanopedza zororo ravo, kuva norusununguko rwe rudo nevasingazivi kana kutenga mabhii ezvepabonde pane imwe nzvimbo. Kune mimwe miganhu kune vanotenderwa kutengesa vatengi munyika uye kune nzira yekufambisa inotungamirira kupi? Nezve nyika dziri kure, makungwa ebhuruu, maziso akanaka - zvose zvinonakidza uye zvikwereti zvekutenderera zvepabonde kutaura nhasi.
Mukomana wemakore makumi mashanu nemasere anonzi Charlotte Rampling akafanoziva kuti akanga achikuvadza apo Ellen aifamba mufirimu "Ku South", yakabudiswa muna 2006. Mumakore makumi manomwe ekupedzisira mudzidzisi wekuChirungu aive pakati-kati akaenda kuHaiti achitsvaga zvekuita zvepabonde. Ellen anosangana nenzvimbo yakasununguka nemukomana wemunharaunda uye anomupa zvepabonde. Cinema inotyisa yakaputsa mazamu akawanda panguva imwechete uye yakaratidza kuti rutivi rwehupenyu, pamusoro peiyo inharaunda inowanzosarudza kuramba yakanyarara. Akakwira mune imwe yevvunzurudzo akati akasarudza kutsvaga mufirimu ino inotyisa "kunze kwehukama nenyika inoshayiwa yeHaiti uye pasina tsitsi kune vakadzi vanofanira kuenda kumagumo ekupedzisira enyika kuti vanzwe vadiwa."
Nzira dzinotyisa
Gore negore munaFebruary-March, zviuru zvevakadzi vechiCanada, veAmerica neWesternes vanovhura nguva inopisa muCaribbean zvitsuwa zveJamica neBarbados. Dzimwe nzira dzepabonde dzinofarira dziri kumaodzanyemba kweEurope (kunyanya Girisi, Italy, nyika yekare yaimbova Yugoslavia, Turkey neSpain) uye kusvika kuThailand neAfrica - Kenya neGambia.
Maererano nekufungidzira kwomutsvakurudzi weAmerica Jeanette Bellevo, uyo akabudisa muna 2006 bhuku rine chokuita nekushanyirwa kwevakadzi zvepabonde "Rudo kubva kumba", mumakore 25 adarika, vakadzi vanenge 600 000 vanobva kunyika dzakabudirira vakawana zororo iri.
Vane makumi matatu-, makumi mana nemakumi mashanu emakore, vanozvimirira voga, vanobudisa zvinyorwa nevaya vechidiki uye vanoyevedza, vanocheka, vatengesi vanoyeuka, vasingashandi "vakomana vegungwa". Shandisa nguva pamwe chete pamubhedha, pamahombekombe uye pamapatiko ezororo, uye mushure mezororo vanorayira zvipo zvinodhura (mazita, zvipfeko, maziso, nezvimwewo) vakashanda pamwe chete, uye-kazhinji-nemari. MuEurope yeEurope, vanodii vachiperekedza havadi kuti vatsigire zvezororo rekubatana.
Kusiyana nevakadzi vechikadzi zvekurwisana kunoshamwaridzana zvikuru neupfambi. MuThailand, nekuda kwekubhadharwa zvekuita zvepabonde, vanenge vanenge hafu yemamiriyoni vatorwa vanobva gore roga rega, vazhinji vavo vari varume vane makore makumi matatu kusvika mashanu kusvika mashanu, pakati peboka. Vanoziva Russian kwete nekutinhira kune nyika dziri kure. Maererano naRosstat, pamusoro pemwedzi 9 yekutanga yegore rapera, Thailand yakashanirwa nevasingasviki 84 veRussia zviuru. Iyi nhamba inowanikwa ka2,5 pane imwe nguva muna 2005. Maererano nenyanzvi dzemakambani ekufambisa, vazhinji vanoenda kungobhadhara zvekuita zvepabonde.
"Rudzi urwu rwekushanyirwa runonyanyozivikanwa pakati pevarume vechidiki vanobva kune makore 25 kusvika ku38," anodaro Natalia Kovaleva, mutungamiriri wesangano rekufamba kweMoscow rinonzi Laurel, pakati pevamwe vanopa mafirimu kuThailand. - Vanoenda voga, neshamwari kana kunyange vakaroorana, nemusikana. Mukutaura, kurwisana kwepabonde kwete nemutengo, kana nehurongwa kubva pane zvisiri izvo hazvisiyana. Zviri nyore, mutungamiri wedu wepano anobatsira kutungamira, anopa mazano pamubvunzo wokuti "Kuenda kupi?" Kumatare ezvivaraidzo zvekugara. Kunyange zvakadaro, zvinofanira kuonekwa, vatashanyi vedu "vakakurumbira" mune izvi, ivo pachavo vanonyatsoziva zvose. Vanosarudza Pattaya, zvimwe zviwi muThailand, mushure mezvose, nokuda kwezororo rinozorodza. "
Izvo zvakagamuchirwa vatashanyi patinodzoka vari kugoverana muzvikwata zvakawanda zvevashanyi. Chikonzero chikuru chekufamba kwakadaro mukana wekubatanidza kushandiswa uye kushandiswa kwepamhando dzepabonde nehurongwa hunofadza hwevatariri.
"Sei ndakashandura" taek uye asian? - imwe yevashanyi kuIndaneti inobvunza, " Basa rakandiwana. Kubva pane zvepabonde nevanokurudzirana havawani kugutsikana kwakadaro. Aa uye kwete chaizvo Ndiri Brad Pitt. Upenyu hwemhuri? Sezvo shamwari yangu yakati, "kwemakore gumi isu tose tava, mumashoko akadai emuunyori Victoria Tokareva," zvigaro. " Imwe "stool" inounza mari, kungoziva kuti kana iwe uchidzoka kubva kubasa, uchaona ndiro ye borsch uye yechipiri "stool" mune jasi rakapfeka kana shati yakabvaruka ... Mushure memaawa makumi matatu kutamba mitambo kunotonhora. Flirt-maruva-zvipo-restaurant-nhamba ... Hapana chinhu chitsva mune izvi. Mukuwedzera, hukama hwepfungwa dzine tsika yekubatwa nekukuvadzwa nenguva yekuputsika. Nzira yakajeka uye inobudirira ndeyekuti "Ndichakupa mari, iwe unoda ini - zvigaro," sezvo pakupedzisira murume ndiye chaizvoizvo zvinodiwa ... Uye kana pane mukana wekuwana zvakafanana, hungu, pamwe chete nemari yakafanana, pamwe chete nekufamba, ona rugare, saka "nei uchibhadhara zvimwe?"
Bhedha pasina kusungirwa
Vanhu veRussia makore mashomanana akapfuura vakabatana nehuwandu hwehutachiona hwevatambi vezvepabonde, panguva imwechete kuwedzera nzvimbo yayo. Vanonyatsokwanisa kushandisa nzvimbo yekuenda-zvekuita zvepabonde kune nzvimbo kunenge pose pose. Muchifambi chekuita zvepabonde, kuda kunonyanya kunakidzwa neTurkey, Egypt neCrimean coast. Nekunge pane zvakanyorwa ndiSpain, Greece, Croatia, chiwi cheIndia cheGoa neThai Thailand.
Panguva imwecheteyo, kusiyana nevashanyi vekuMadokero, mazororo okurudo anowanzobhadhara vanhu vokuRussia pasina. Muzviitiko zvakawanda, inovaka classic spa romance. Kukurukurirana kwenguva pfupi kwevanhu vakuru vaviri panguva yose. Pasina kubvumirana uye "pasina." Asi vavariro dzakangofanana, pasi rose - kusurukirwa, chido chekucherechedza uye kushamwaridzana, zvisinei.
"Murume wangu ane makore gumi kupfuura ini, ukama hwepedyo nesu hunopedzisira husisina maturo, " Irina, 39 , anoti. - Pamba nguva dzose ndinonzwa "pasi pekumanikidzwa": Handizvibati nenzira iyi, ndinotarisa zvakaipa nezvakadaro. Rimwe kamwe pagore, munaSeptember, ndinokanda zvinhu zvose ndoenda neshamwari yangu muSharm El Sheikh. Tiri kurarama muhotera yechina-nyeredzi, panguva yatinosvikirwa nezuva uye kushambira, usiku tinozorodza. IvaIjipita vechidiki vanongopenga nemafungiro avo, vachiyemura maziso, vanyevera zvose zvamunoda. Panguva yezororo, ndinogutsikana zvachose nehukama hwakadaro uye ndinomutsazve - Ndinonzwa sekunaka uye mambokadzi. Nezvimwe zvipo kana kutaura kwemari hakusi. Chinhu chakanyanya kuoma ndechokuenda kumusha: mavhiki mashoma okutanga kuora mwoyo kuri kuwedzera. "
Chimwe chinangwa chekuita zvekuita zvepabonde kwevakadzi kune nyota yekusununguka kwepabonde. Kubva kure nemusha, unogona kukanganwa kwekanguva pamusoro pe "tsika dzepamusoro" uye zvinotyisa pasina kutya kuti iwe uchanzi usiri uye wakapomerwa.
Olesya, musvondo wemakumi maviri nemana, uyo akashanyira Ibiza muzhizha rapera, anotaura kuti nzvimbo chaiyo yechitsuwa ichi inoita kuti vanhu vasunungurwe rudo: "Ibiza inogara yakadaro ine gay chivande chitsuwa uko pasina munhu anofunga nezvezvinetso. Tose takangonakidzwa nemimhanzi, gungwa uye mumwe nomumwe. Vatashanyi vazhinji, hongu, vechidiki - veAmerica, veAustralia, veEurope (kazhinji kaPoles neBulgaria). Vakawanda vapfumi. Gomba risina chigadziko chevakomana "bhuruu". Zvimwe zvinonakidza ndezvikwereti uye makirabhu. Kufanana nepamhenderekedzo dzezvikepe, zvinodhaka zvinowirwa pedo nevanopinda mairabhu - pane nguva dzose pandemonium. Zviri nyore kuti iwe urasike musoro wako - hovha inopfuurira uye rudo. "
Muchimiro che "kudya kwekutsanya"
Chii chichaita kuti rudo rwezororo muhupenyu hwako huvepo, runotarisa iwe pachako, mafirologists vane chokwadi. Zvichida, hukama hupfupi uye kwenguva pfupi huchabatsira kubvuma uyezve kutenda mukunaka kwavo uye kuchiva, kuporeswa kwekutambudzika kwepfungwa kunokonzerwa nerudo munguva yakapfuura, uye kupa simba rekuenderera mberi. Zvichida, ivo vachawedzera rudo rwako uye vachakusunungura kubva kumakomba, zvichabatsira kuona zvimwe zvepfungwa dzakawanda dzepabonde dzepabonde. Chinhu chikuru ndechokuchengetedza pfungwa yezvakanaka uye kwete "kugara pasi" pamitambo yezororo, semhando yezvinonyadzisa. Kana zvisina kudaro, iwe unogona kuisa pangozi kuti uite zvepabonde uye zvepabonde zvisingafadzi.
"Kuita zvepabonde kuvanhu vakadaro hakusi kugadzirisa rudo uye hukama, asi maminitsi anofadza (anogue of massage)," anonyevera Yevhen Kulgavchuk, anodzidzira zvepabonde, mupfungwa, mupurezidhendi weRussian Association of Sexologists. - Nokufamba kwenguva, hutano hwepabonde hunotanga kuumbwa. Zvechokwadi anowana izvi, muukama husingagumi, zvepabonde zvinenge zvisingafadzi. Vanhu havazivi kuti vanoda. Inobatsira kana, zvakare, "kutaridzika" iyi kunokuvadza utano hwepabonde, hazvibviri kutaura zvisina kufanira. Zvirwere zvepabonde zvinokonzerwa nepabonde (kondomu haina kupa 100-percent chivimbiso). Zviratidzo - nzira yekukurudzira kuzvidzora kwepabonde, kuwana kuwedzera kwemanzwiro, kunzwa simba rekuita zvepabonde. "
Pakupedzisira, chii chatinofanira kutarisa pamucheto wakareba wenyika - chisingazivikanwi, asi rudo rwechokwadi kana zvepabonde mu "kudya kwekutsanya" maitiro, munhu wese anozvisarudzira.
Bhaibheri rekuita zvepabonde
Kuzivikanwa kwehutano hwekurara kunosimudzirwa nemabhuku uye mafirimu panyaya iyi.
✓ Mubhuku rake rakatengesa zvikuru "How Stella akatanga kunyemwerera zvakare" muna 1998, Terry McMillan akaudza nyaya yehupenyu hwake: mumwe musikana webhizimisi anoenda kuJamaica uye anowana kufara kwevakadzi mumakumbo evechidiki. Muhupenyu chaihwo, Macmillan akaroora mufananidzo wegamba rake. Vakarambana apo murume akareurura pachena kuti aive gayari.
✓ Mutambo weChirungu Willie Russell "Vadiwa Shirley" pamusoro pezvokuda zvekuda muGrisi zvemukadzi wemhuri yakwegura Shirley akafarikana zvakadai kuti zita rezita raShirley valentine rakagadzirirwa kune vanoita zvepabonde kubva kuBritain.
✓ Basa rinonyadzisa zvikuru pamusoro pezvekuita zvepabonde ndiro "Platform" yemunyori wechiFrench Michel Huelbek. Kune zvinhu zvose: nyika dziri kure, makungwa ebhuruu, maziso akanaka ... Kune mukuru wepakati uye mukuru, hurumende yekushanyira inova pfungwa yekugadzirisa: anorota kufara nekubatsira kwake vanhu vose.
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Vanhu venguva yedu yehumwe munhu, kana psychology yemunhu wacho, mhumhi-murume, uyo anobatsirwa nehutano hwakanaka, anotonga, ari kuwedzera kuparadzana kubva kune mumwe uye panguva imwe chete achida zvikuru ukama hwepedyo. Tinowanzojaira kutarisana kubva kune rumwe rutivi, kwete kusvika. Munhu wose nokuda kwake. Zvakaoma kuvimba, kuva shamwari, kuda uye kuva nemhuri dzakasimba. Panguva imwe chete, kudiwa kwe
mune hukama hwakanaka, hunovimba. Somugumisiro, kushaya kukuru kwekukurukurirana, kusanganisira pamamiriro ekunyama. Mushure mezvose, hukama hwemumuviri - hunoita, hugunzvana - nokuti munhu kubva paudiki anokosha zvikuru. Kana pasina, izvi zvinorwadza. Uye kutenderera zvepabonde mune imwe nyaya ndeimwe yenzira dzakapfuura dzokugadzirisa.
Kana hukama hwacho huchienda kune imwe nguva kana kuti hakuna imwe panguva ino, rudo rwezororo runogona kuva imwe nzira yekuwana ruzivo kubva kune vakomana vakasiyana, kubhabhatidzwa mumamiriro ekuratidza, kumutsidzira manzwiro ako pachako. Ukama hwakadaro hahurevi kutarisirwa, semhuri. Uye panguva imwechete inobatsira kunzwa kuti inofanirwa, inokwezva, kumedza rudo, iyo inoshaikwa muupenyu hwezuva nezuva.