Mumwe nomumwe wedu, achienda kunzvimbo yekuchera mimhanzi kana firimu, kamwechete akawana ruzivo rwezvinhu zvinonyadzisira. Izvi hazvishamisi, nokuti indasitiri yezvinonyadzisira inounza mari yakawanda. Kuzivikanwa kwakadaro kwemasayenzi ekuona zvinonyadzisira kwakavimbiswa kwete chete nekutengeserana kwakanyanya kunopa zvipo zvayo, asiwo kufarira kwevanhu mune zvenyama iyi. Sezvavanotaura, kana pane chido, ipapo pachava nechipo. Sei nzira iyi yekufungidzira ichifadza kune vakawanda?
Statistical data
Maererano nevanotsvakurudza, 30% yemashoko akaiswa paIndaneti inonyadzisira. Inenge 40% yevashandisi vemusangano vanoshanyira nzvimbo dzakadaro uye vanogara imomo kwemaminitsi gumi nemashanu kwenguva yakareba kupfuura pane zvinyorwa. Saka, pane yechipiri inonyanya kuzivikanwa yepaiti yepaisiti zuva rega rega mapeji emamiriyoni zana anotariswa.Sezvo data idzi dzakabatanidzwa muna 2005, munhu anogona kungofungidzira kuti kakawanda sei maverengi akawedzera pamusoro pemakore manomwe apfuura. Hazvigoneki kuti ani zvake achakwanisa kuderedza kana kutowedzera kusimbiswa kwemhizha yepabonde. Masangano makuru ari kushanda pairi anenge madhora mabhiriyoni gumi nemaviri pagore.
Zvinofadza kuti chokwadi kuti mushanyi wechitatu wezvivara zvepabonde mukadzi. Chidzidzo chacho chakaratidza kuti muUnited States uye nyika dzakawanda dzeEurope, 96% vevadzidzi vanoongorora dzimwe nguva vanoshanyira nzvimbo dzepisiti. 67% vanoshanya navo kamwechete pamwedzi.
Nyaya ino ichakurukura zvikonzero nei vanhu vachiona zvinonyadzisira. Kuongororwa kwehafu yakanaka yevanhu kwakaita kuti zvive nyore kuona zvikonzero zvinonyanya kushandura kutsanangura kufarira kwevakadzikadzi mune zvinonyadzisira.
Chido chokugutsa chido chekurara pasina varume
Sezvaunoziva, kusagutsikana kwepabonde kune mamiriro akaipa pamamiriro ezvinhu emukadzi. Inotungamirira kune zvirwere, neuroses, kuora kwemafungiro. Dzimwe nguva vakadzi vari mumamiriro ezvinhu akadaro vanova zvishoma kudarika hurumende. Chii chatingaita kuti tidzivise izvi?
Vatsigiri veFrud vanoti vanodzokorora simba ravo mukugadzirwa kwezvinhu kana mamwe mabasa. Asi havasi vose vanogona kukwevera, kuvekesa, nezvimwewo. uye ini handidi kuita zvose. Izvi ndezvechokwadi kunyanya kune vanhu vasina hanya. Nokudaro, vachitarisa mumavhidhiyo aya, vanopa ruzivo rwemasimba ehutano husingaperi uye vanogara vadzikama.
Isa pamberi pechiitiko chinokosha
Kuti vaite chimwe chinhu chinokosha, vamwe vasikana vanoonawo zvinonyadzisira. Pasinei nezuva, kudya kwemanheru nemurume wake kana kuenda kuchikwata chine chinangwa chairo, vhidhiyo yakadaro inovabatsira kubvisa dambudziko pamberi pe "chiitiko" chiri kuuya.
Mukana wekudzidza zvitsva
Vamwe vanoshandisa zvinonyadzisira sevatungamiri, semurairo wekudzidzisa zvepabonde. Zvinhu zvakanyorwa zvinogona kushandiswa mumapoka ehutano hwepabonde.
Haana ruzivo munharaunda iyi vanhu vanogona kudzidza zvakawanda zvemashoko matsva uye kutanga kutaurirana nazvo zvishoma nezvinyorwa. Gare gare, mumamiriro ezvinhu chaiwo, musikana wacho anonzwa asinganzwisisiki uye kudzivisa kufamba kusina kufanira.
Kuziva mafungiro
Vasikana vasati vamboona zvimwe zvekuda kwavo zvepabonde nekuda kweinyara, kana kusava nemukana panguva ino, vanoda kusarudza kuona kuti vamwe vanozviita sei.
Kuwedzera kuwedzera kune hukama
Vamwe vakaroorana vave vachitsvaga kutarisa mavhidhiyo evepafoni kuti vawane mutsva. Mune hukama hurefu, hupenyu hwepabonde hunogona kusvibiswa, uye kana uchitarisa mavhidhiyo akadaro, vaviri vacho vanowana mukana mutsva wekufadzwa, unoita kuti zvimwe zvakasiyana muupenyu hwavo hwepabonde.
Kuratidzira kukanganisa kwavo zvepabonde kana kubhadhara kusagutsikana kwavo
Vamwe vanhu vanotambura nekusvibiswa kwepabonde kwemarudzi akasiyana-siyana. Semuenzaniso, pane kukanganisa, zvakadai sechido chekutarisa pane zvepabonde zveumwe munhu kana kubata nhengo dzakaoma dzepabonde pasi pezvokupfeka. Sezvo hurumende isingarangariri kuratidzwa kwekukanganisa kwakadaro, vacharamba vachiripo. Kana munhu ane upombwe hwepabonde achiri kuchata, anogona kuva nematambudziko makuru muhukama. Kuti urege kudzivisa migumisiro yakaipa yekusagadzikana kwepabonde, vanhu vakadaro vanoona mavhidhiyo ezvinonyadzisira uye vanotaurira simba ravo repabonde.
Mukuwedzera, mumwe nomumwe ane imwe chikamu chekutsauka. Mumwe munhu ane zvakawanda, mumwe munhu ane zvishoma.
Wana kufara musati waroorana
Mamwe mapaviri asina dambudziko repabonde, tarisa mavhidhiyo pamwe chete nehuponi kusvika kune hunodiwa, kureva, kufara. Vanoshandisawo semuenzaniso wepabonde, iyo kwenguva yakareba inochengetedza mamiriro okunakidza.
Ita maitiro anofadza
Kungofanana nevarume, vasikana vanogona kutarisa mavhidhiyo ehupombwe nekuda kwekuti zvakanaka kwavari. Mamwe mavhidhiyo ezvepabonde ane fungiro rakanyatsofungisisa script uye anodururwa zvakakwana qualitatively achienzaniswa nevamwe vashoma vasina zvakasiyana-siyana vanoiswa mumutambo.
Nyanzvi dzakawanda dzaishamiswa nekuti vamwe vakadzi vanoona zvinonyadzisira nokuda kwezvavanoda. Unyanzvi hwekudzidzisa zvepabonde, Ph.D., Logan Levkof, pane zvinopesana, zvinoreva kusanzwisisika kwepfungwa yokuti zvinonyadzisira zvinongowanikwa nevarume nevakadzi, izvi hazvigoni kufananidzwa. Maererano naye, vakadzi vazhinji vanofarira chaizvo izvi uye vari kukurukurirana nezvekuda kwavo zvepabonde kune umwe neumwe.
Zvikonzero zvinoita kuti vasikana nevarume vashanyire nzvimbo dzezvinonyadzisira zvingave zvakasiyana. Vose pachavo. Vanhu vanofarira kushamwaridzana kwakadai hazvirevi kupotsa kwakanyanyisa, sekunge vanyengeri vanopikisa zvinonyadzisira. Vanhu vakadaro havagamuchirwi nevakawanda uye vanoonekwa seine ngozi kuvanhu. Asi zvakanyanya kuipisa kufungidzira munhu ane spodavlennymi zvepabonde zvepabonde.
Kana iwe uri mumwe wevaya vanoenda kune zviitiko zvakafanana, iwe unofanirwa kunamatira kune yegoridhe kureva. Usakurumidza kuwedzeresa. Usambofananidza mumwe wako nemuitevedzeri kubva muvhidhiyo yepabonde. Izvi zvinogona kukanganisa kuzvikudza kwake uye kukonzera kukakavara. Uyezve, hazvifananidzi kutora nzvimbo yavo nehupenyu hwepabonde.
Ichi chinyorwa hachikuiti kuti uone zvinonyadzisira, asi hazviregi. Iwe unongopiwa chete ruzivo runogona kukubatsira kuwana mhinduro dzemibvunzo yakawanda inokubvunza iwe. Zvichida iwe zviri nani kunzwisisa chido chako chepabonde.