Munguva iyo iyo nzvimbo yebasa inounza mari yakawanda yakawanda pane kugadzirwa, tinopiwa zvose izvi uye izvi. Seminari uye kudzidzisa kwe "kukura kwevanhu", mamwe mapoka ekutsigira (nokuda kwechimwe chikonzero ivo vanokonzera kushamwaridzana kusingaperi nemapoka evanhu vasingazivikanwi doro). Uye apo, nokuda kwezvikonzero zvavo, vasikana kana madzimai vanosarudza "kubata" nhoroondo inovhiringidzika nemunhu asina kukodzera, kutsvaga munhu asingateereri chete, asiwo anopa rubatsiro rwechokwadi, zvinoitika kuti pane, kazhinji, akawanda. Uye panzvimbo yekugadzirisa zvinokonzerwa nemanzwiro avo vanoedza kunzwisisa, mupfungwa wepfungwa uye mupfungwa wepfungwa zvakafanana kana kwete?
Nyanzvi dzepfungwa, masayendisiti, uye NLP masters vakagadzirira kutarisira hutano hwedu hwepfungwa nekunyaradza kwepfungwa, pamwe chete nevaya vanopa mishonga yakasiyana-siyana - kubva pamitambo inotungamirirwa nehutano-tale, kubva ku yoga kuenda holotropic kufema ... iyi gungwa rebasa? Chokutanga, ngatiedze kutora mazano maviri-psychology uye psychotherapy - uye funga nezvazvo.
Nzvimbo huru dzinoshanda ne "mweya" (psyche - kubva muchiGiriki "mweya"), zvechokwadi, zvishoma. Uye ivo vose vanopinda mumigwagwa miviri mikuru. Asi vazhinji havanzwisisi, nyanzvi yepfungwa uye chiremba wepfungwa ndeyechete, kana kuti ivo vakasiyana zvachose nyanzvi here?
Chokutanga pane zvose, tinoda kuyeuka mutema usina kunaka wekutanga kwezwi rimwechete - "psycho". Chirwere chepfungwa chepfungwa, chipatara chepfungwa chinouya mupfungwa ... Asi ipapo ivo vanobatanidzwa mumakirini emakiriniki, uye nyanzvi kune chiremba wepfungwa! Nokudaro, tinovandudza mupfungwa wepfungwa uye chiremba wepfungwa - shure kwezvose, vane vashandi vavo. Vanobata nevaya vanonzwa, kuti vazviise zvinyoro, kwete nenzira yakanakisisa. Uye zvakapiwa izvo chete zvechirwere chechirwere uye zvinodhakwa zvinodhaka "zvinogara zvichikwirira" zvinofara, uye zvingave zvakasiyana-siyana, munhu mumwe nomumwe anogona kuva muchengeti wepfungwa yepfungwa uye mupfungwa yepfungwa, kunyange izvi hazvisi izvochete.
Kune rumwe rutivi, munharaunda ye "masangano e" mweya "vanoita niches dzakasiyana uye vanosiyana nenzira dzakasiyana dze" kupindira ".
Kana iwe wakagadzirira kunzwisisa zvikonzero zvekuita kwako, "dive" mumazuva iwayo apo unhu hwako huri kuumbwa, kuzvifunga iwe semugumisiro wezvidzidzo mune izvi kana kuti zvakasikwa, ipapo iwe-kumurapi. Kana iwe uchitya izvi, uye hauna kugadzirira kwehafu yegore (kana kuti kunyange yakapera) chirongwa che "kugadzirisa" iwe pachako - enda kumunhu wepfungwa.
Psychology semasayenzi anoongorora mweya, uye psychotherapy inorapa. Nokudaro, kana iwe wakagadzirira "kunyorera mavanga" kwete iwe oga, asiwo kubudirira - kwauri kumurapa. Uye kana iwe wakagadzirira kushandisa vamwe kana kubvisa kushandiswa, shandisa mazano, "lotions", "glue plasters" pamaronda ako - zvino enda kumudzidzi wepfungwa iwe zvakanaka.
Pasi pose, zvose zviri zviviri zvinopa zvakafanana. Kushanyira kune chiremba wepfungwa uye chiremba wepfungwa, zvisinei kuti hazvifananidzi, zvinotungamirira kuswedera asi kwete zvakafanana. Asi kana iwe wakagadzirira kusangozviongedza iwe nevamwe, asi unoda kuchinja kwenyika uye nemugumisiro wakareba - ipapo teerera ku psychotherapy.
"Handigoni kuita izvi" = nyanzvi yepfungwa
Pane imwe nguva yaive mupfungwa wepfungwa (pabazi rekushanda) iro rakandibatsira kunyora nyaya. Ndakauya nedambudziko rakananga - "Handigone kunyora, kana kubva pasi pepfungwa yangu-ini" ndinopinza ". Uye kwete kubva pamwoyo - hazvina kunaka. " Kusara nechisarudzo chimwe chete. Kana imwe zvinyorwa zvishoma-mupfungwa wepfungwa "pahuma" akandibvunza kuti: "Ndiani anokutakura iwe?", Uye ndakaona kuti hakuna munhu kunze kwangu.
"Kwandiri zvakaipa, uye mune izvo chaizvo-ini handizivi ..." = chiremba wepfungwa
Ndakatendeukira kumudzidzisi zvikuru gare gare. Ndakanzwa kuti ndaive basa raamai vangu. Uye pakuguma ndakazvibvunza mubvunzo we sacramental: chii chaicho chiri humi hwangu - yangu, uye amai vangu chii? Kwenguva refu, inenge gore, iyo nzira yakandidzidzisa kuti ndizviongorore zvakakwana ini uye ndigovana "amai" vangu namai vangu. Ndakaona kuti kunorwadziwa kwangu kwakadini, uye kupi-kunonzwisisika kubva kune kurwadziwa kwomumwe munhu. Nenzira, panguva imwechete ndakafunga kuti chiremba wepfungwa uye chiremba wepfungwa haana kufanana.
Saka, chiremba wepfungwa anofanira kuenda nechinetso chakasiyana, uye mushandi anogamuchirwa nemanzwiro "Ndinonzwa zvakaipa, asi sei-ini handizivi!" Zvishoma nezvishoma, mushonga ane mibvunzo inotungamirira achakwanisa kunzwisisa chii chinokudzivirira kuti usafarire hupenyu, asi gadzirira kuti iwe uri kwete kuziviswa.
Kufunga nenzira itsva
Iyo nzira yekuzvinzwisisa iwe uye maitiro ako ndezvakareba zvakanyanya uye zvisingaiti. Izvi zvinokonzerwa nekugara kwedu tichidzivirira kubva kuchinja kwe psyche. Asi, paunosvika pakunzwisisana kwekunzwisisa pamwe chete nevarapi izvo zvisina kunaka, uye kuti ungaita sei, iwe uchafunga zvakasiyana. Zvimwe zvikamu, zvimwe zvikamu. Uye kazhinji kacho - kuziva kuti izvi ndezvenhatu. Kupindira muhutano hwe "kufunga" kwako kwezuva nezuva hakugone kuva nyanzvi yezvepfungwa. Murapi wehupi hupi-huripo kubva kune imwechete kusvika ku systemic family therapy, kubva kune fan ye Freud kuenda kune Gestalt murapi-anogona. Kana kuti, usapindira, asi zvinongoratidza kuti kune vanhu avo, nezvose zvakafanana nedhesi yekutanga, iwe, kusvika pakupedzisira zvakasiyana ...
Iva wakagadzirira!
Iva akagadzirira kuti iwe uchinje pfungwa yepasi uye mabasa ako mumhuri, pamusoro pezvaunonyatsoda iwe kana iwe uchienda kumurapi. Psychology sechigamba chenguva pfupi inogona kubatsira mune boka guru reboka guru remabhizimusi, asi hakuna munhu achakokwa kukoka mupfungwa wepfungwa (kunyanya kwatiri) kuvashandi vavo. Pashure pezvose, kurapa kunoreva kusunungurwa, uye vazhinji vachiri kutya zvakadaro rusununguko ... uye basa ravo, manzwiro avo uye zvinangwa, iyo iyo rusununguko inoreva.