Pamwe, musati mukadzi chero upi zvake pane mubvunzo unonakidza, ndiani angave ari nani kana kuti akakodzera kudana kuberekwa? Kune rumwe rutivi, unoda kudana munhu wako anodikanwa uye anodikanwa, kune rumwe rutivi, unoda kuti munhu uyu asave nyore, asi nenzira imwe neimwe aikwanisa kubatsira munguva ino yakaoma kubatsira mutemo wakarurama, kuitira kuti rubatsiro rwakakosha runobva kwaari. Uye saka ungasarudza sei waunodana?
Tiri kutaura nezvomumwe munhu ari mubatsiri uyo aisazove aripo pamwe chete uye achishevedzera pamashoko, kunyange izvi zvisiriwo zviduku, anofanira kunge ari iwe "I" pane zvevashandi vezvechiremba. Zvakakosha kuti anokwanisa kuramba achiyeuka nezvekutambudzika kwakanyanya, kutarisa mamiriro ehutano hwemukadzi kwete kubva pakuona kwechiremba, asi semunhu ari pedyo uye ane hanya, munhu akadaro anogona kuona zvishoma zvishoma mumamiriro ezvinhu. Munhu akadaro achakwanisa kuita basa rekubatana, achazorwa nekufema, anoratidza nguva yekufambisa uye kufema nenzira yakarurama, ichi chichava pakati pevarume uye iwe. Zvinofanira kunzi kuti nguva inokurudzira uye mirayiridzo kunyange nezvekufema kwakanaka kunogona kuita kuti kuberekwa kwakanyanya uye kuderedza kusuruvara kwebasa. Mubatsiri anokwanisa panguva yakakodzera yekukanda pasi rezasi, kutambanudza mishonga yemisumbu, panguva yakatarisa simisa ganda. Mukuberekwa kwakaoma zvikuru, mukadzi ane pfupi pfupi yekutsigirwa uye zano rakanaka, kunyange munyaya yakadai, kana zvakakosha kutora anesthetic kana kwete. Zvisinei, pane mibvunzo yakawanda kwazvo uye mamiriro ekuberekwa.
Kazhinji kacho, varume vanotya kuenda kune zviitiko zvakadaro, kuvanda shure kwekuti havagoni kuvapo semubatsiri, uye kuti vanoda rubatsiro pachavo. Asi kutya uku kunokonzerwa nekusa kunzwisisa uye kusaziva zvinoda munhu uye zvaaigona kubatsira zvachose. Uye zvinogona kumubatsira zvakananga kwazvo, somuenzaniso, anogona kuona nguva yezvibvumirano, uye chero bedzi pasina, murume achakwanisa kupa chikumbiro kuna vanachiremba kana kumutsa mudzimai wake munguva yekufema zvakadzika. Mukuwedzera, iwe unogona chimwe chinhu pamusoro chechokwadi, asi kunyange kungova nekwenyoro yakanyorova, iko kubatsirwa uye kubata kunokupa simba. Uyewo kune mukana wekuve nekutaurirana nehama uye kurondedzera pamusoro pemamiriro ekubereka mwana. Kunyanya kukosha ndiyo nguva isati yatanga kuberekwa, mukumirira kwenguva refu kwekurwa uye pakutanga kwebasa, apo mamiriro emudzimai ari kufadza, zvino kutaurirana nemunhu waunoda kunokosha pane zvimwe zvose.
Asi izvi zvose zvinokurudzirwa kukunyengetedza, asi chaizvoizvo zvakakosha chido chemumwe wako, nokuti kunyengetedza kwenguva refu kunogona kuvimbiswa nemunhu, asi zvino murume wacho haakwanisi kukubatsira kunyange mumibvunzo inokosha. Nokudaro, kana hafu yechipiri, mushure mokufunga nezvechirongwa, inoramba, zviri nani kuti usapfuurira uye usingaomani. Zvinotofanira kunyatsonzwisiswa kuti uyu murume, uye kuvapo pakuberekwa hakusi basa remukati kwaari, kunze kwekuti, kwete murume wose anogona kubvumira kutambura kwakadaro. Dzimwe nguva izvi zvinogona kunge zvakashata pakufunga kwake, apo anoziva kuti semurume aisagona kubatsira chero, kunyange zvazvo aivepo.
Usarega kurasikirwa uye usazvidya mwoyo, nokuti nhasi kune nyanzvi munyaya dzakadai, iyo dhi. Iwe unogona kutendeukira kune unyanzvi akadaro mumamiriro ezvinhu akaipisisa, apo unoda kuvapo kwemunhu, asi hakuna munhu. Dove haasi muchecheti, iye ari mubatsiri wekubereka mwana, anobatsira vanhu uye mupfungwa. Zvakakosha kutaura kuti muEurope, uye zvechokwadi munyika, izvi zvatova tsika yakajairika apo amai vane ramangwana vanotanga kuberekerwa doula.
Ndeipi chinangwa, nokuti uyu haasi munhu wepedyo, angabatsira sei, inoitwa muRussia?
Iko kunofanira kutaurwa kuti dove haisi itsva, asi zvichida basa rekare, vatsigiri vakadaro vave vachibva kare kare. Nhasi kunyange vhiki rose inopemberera musi waMarch 22-29, uye iri ndiro International Day, kunyange zvazvo iri makore matatu chete mumazuva ano. Mumazuva akare, dove mukadzikadzi ane ruzivo.Ubatsiro hwevakadzi vane ruzivo kuvakadzi vari mubasa nguva dzose rwakanga huripo mumagariro evanhu, asi munzanga yanhasi tsika dzakadaro dzakanganwika. Iko chete muUnited States mumakore makumi manomwe ekupedzisira ezana remakore rapfuura yakatanga rumutsiriro rwemitambo yekare. March 22, mutsime ndiko kutanga kwezvose zvinouya muupenyu mushure mechando, uku ndiko kuberekwa kwechimiro chitsva uye hupenyu hutsva, saka zuva racho rinopindirana nekarendende yepanyama.
Ndiani iye uye kuti angaiwana sei kwatiri?
Sezvatotaurwa, dare iri mubatsiri wekubereka mwana, asi, kwete mukadzi wose akatozvara, kureva mudzidzisi anobatsira nemumwe mushandi wezvokurapa, haasi chiremba wezvipatara. Basa guru rehurukuro nderokupa mukadzi wacho kugadzikana mupfungwa, kutsigirwa kwepfungwa uye kuwedzera kukutevera kwekunyaradza kwenyama. Dole inotsigira mukadzi mupfungwa panguva yekuberekwa kwayo, kubva pamusha, inobatsira kana uchida kuunganidza pamwe chirwere, uye inopawo chirongwa chekubvumirana neimba yekubereka.Izvo zvatove zvichiratidzwa kuti mukadzi anowanzobereka mwana, zvinongoda kurasa pfungwa dzose, zorora mupfungwa, kurongedza zvose zvinotarisirwa pakuberekwa uye kubereka. Izvo ndezvekudzvinyirira kwakasimba, kutya, kukanganisa uye kutya zvinowedzera nekurwadziwa zvinorwadza zvinowanikwa. Munguva iyi yekugadzirira, kana nguva inopfurikidza nekutaridzika kunorwadza uye kunorwadza, dove inofanira kutarisira mukadzi mumamiriro ose. Izvi zvinosanganisira kudya, kukurukurirana, kutsigirwa kwehupombwe, kushambadza kwakakodzera, kusimbisa kwepfungwa uye kukurudzira. Asi izvi zvose zvinofanira kunge zvakasikwa uye zvipenyu sezvinobvira.
Anofanirwa kukanganwa nezvake uye kutarisira mukadzi.Vakadzi vanotora kuberekwa, sezvinotarisirwa, vanachiremba, asi dove inogona kupa mazano akanaka mune chinzvimbo chekuedza kubata mwana, iye achangokuudza iwe mubvunzo wekufema, kutarisa nguva dzakasiyana-siyana.
Chinhu chinonyanya kukosha ndechokuti kutaurirana pamwe chete nemarapi kunotora zita iro, nekuda kwekukurukurirana kwakadaro kunowanzova kunorwadza.Asi zvisinei, haagoni kuchinja mitemo yekuberekwa, mamiriro ezvinhu ari muchipatara, regai kutarisira kuzvitakura ivo pachavo uye kupindira mune izvi achiedza kudzorera vanachiremba.
Munyika uye muU.SA, dzimba dzakawanda dzomudzimai dzekuberekwa dzakatove dzakagadzirirwa unyanzvi hwepamusoro, uye dzinopiwa nokuda kwebasa ravo sezvinodiwa, uye pasina. Zvakataurwa kuti kana mubatsiri kana shamwari aripo nemukadzi, iye, sekutonga, haafaniri anesthesia. Uyezve, zviitiko zvekudzivirira zvikamu zvakaderedzwa zvakanyanya, izvo zvinokoshawo zvakanyanya.
Zvechokwadi, mumutambo wekuRussia wokuberekwa, vatsigiri vezvenyanzvi vakadaro havasati vanyanyisa. Isu hatina dzidzo yakadaro, chaizvoizvo tinoshanda navanachiremba, avo vanodzidzisa zvidzidzo zvevakadzi vane pamuviri, dzimwe nguva masayendisiti, uyewo vanaamai vane ruzivo rwevakaberekerwa vakawanda uye dzidzo yezvokurapa. Munyika yedu ivo vanoshevedzwa kuti "vabatsiri vemweya", zvisinei, vakadzi vekare vakaberekerwa pamba vakadanwa, nekuda kweizvi pane kuvhiringidzika kuduku.
Zvakanaka, kazhinji, zvichienderana nemabasa akashandiswa na doula, rubatsiro rwakadaro runogona kupiwa kwauri nemunhu chero upi zvake waunovimba naye, kubva kune vanhu vatsva kana kuti vakavhara, zvinokosha kuti vanzwe kutsigirwa kubva kwaari. Inogona kunge iri amai vako, hanzvadzi, musikana, iwe unongoda kufunga kuti munhu ari kushanda kwekutanga, achaonawo kufara uye kusagadzikana. Ichi ndicho chinonyanya kukosha che douala, haambovi kurasikirwa, anoziva nemamiriro acho ezvinhu, akabatsira kakawanda mupfungwa mumatambudziko akaoma. Saka mukadzi, ari mune maoko akavimbika, anonzwa akadzikama uye akadzivirirwa.
Kana ukasarudza kubatsira dare, tsvaga mukadzi uyo kuburikidza nekuvapo kwake anokuita kuti ugadzikane uye uvimbe, zvinoitika pamwero wekunzwa uye intuition. Kurukura naye nguva shoma apo iwe unosangana, unzwe kana zvichikufananidza iwe kana kwete, asi zvakakosha kuti unzwisise zvakajeka ruzivo rwakapiwa nedare kana kuti nyanzvi mune zvidzidzo. Dzimwe nguva unogona kunzwa mazano akawanda pamusoro pekuberekwa mumvura kana kumba, kupa zvizvarwa kune mumwe chiremba, kana kukurudzira kugamuchirwa kwemishonga, maitiro kana mishonga, unofanira kungwarira pakuita zvisarudzo, nokuti ndiye mwana wako.