Vatambi uye marara
MuBuddhism, pane shoko rakanyatsotsanangurwa rokuti: "Anorega zvibayiro nokuda kwemufambi, asi kwete mufambi - nokuda kweruvhu". Isu tose takanzwa nyaya dzinosuruvarisa pamusoro pekuti mudzimai akabayira sei basa remurume wesayenzi, tsika, nyaradzo, hutano uye kugara, akachinjwa kuti ave semonia, stinker, bhiza rakadhakwa, mukoti, uye munhu uyu ane usimbe haana kumuka kubva pamubhedha. Zvimwe zvakasiyana-siyana zvinokwanisika: nokuti yechishanu akafambidzana nebhizimisi rake, anoenderera mberi nekufamba uye kunwa, uye kunotamba pamagetsi ekutsvaga, achiri kutsvaga iye pachake uye anowana zvinhu zvose zvisina maturo, anopika, anopika uye haaisi mari ipi neipi mune penny. Anotya, anokwegura, anotarisa akaipa uye anorwara. Uye isu tinofunga: "Zvinotyisa zvakadini! Mudzimai anotambudzika, kunyanya kushayiwa uye kutambura-uye zvose pasina! "Haasi murombo. Iye, urombo nokuda kwehasha, yakaipa, nokuti anozvipira iye oga nokuda kweimwe "mhute", kunyange kusuruvara uye kusuruvara, asi zvachose kusina maturo uye kusazvitsigira kune iye oga uye nokuda kwevanhu. Isu takagadzirirwa zviratidzo kuti tipe zvibayiro kune vasina simba. Nokuda kwevana - nokuti vane simba guru uye ramangwana ravo; nekuda kwevarwere - pane tariro yokuti achadzoka; nekuda kweunhu hwakanaka uye matarenda - achaunza pfungwa mupfungwa, kudzikama uye kuchengetedza nyika, sangano richazarura nekusika mabasa makumi maviri. Asi nekuda kwemasorochek emadzimai edu munharaunda iyi nguva nenguva vanowira marudzi ose asina basa uye psychos. Kana kuti vanhu vakanaka kwazvo, vane ruremekedzo rushoma kudarika isu, uye avo vanoita kuzvipira kune kusakosha sekushandura zana zana kusvika gumi.
Kuyera kwezviremba
Usati wabayira, iwe unofanira kusanganisira pfungwa uye kukoshesa chiremera chemunhu waunoda kupa chimwe chinhu. Anofanira kunge akakwirira kwauri pane chimwe chinhu kana mune zvose. Kana zvisina kudaro chibayiro chako chichava chisingabatsiri uye chinokuvadza iwe mose. Izvozvo zvose zvinogumbura chete. Apo Anna Snitkina, mudiki wezvinyorwa zvemafirimu, akatanga kusvika kuhofisi yeFyodor Dostoevsky achidedera kuti amubatsire mubasa, akayeuka mabhuku ake ose nemoyo uye akaziva: ndiye munyori mukuru. Munguva yebasa rekubatana musikana akatarisa kwaari uye akaongorora unhu hwake, akagoverana nekucherechedza neshamwari. Ndakashamisika kana aigona kubatana naye. Uye akabvuma kuva mudzimai wake uye kumupira nokuda kwomweya wezvokunamata uye kuzvikudza, kwete nekunamata-denga rakabvisa chido, asi maererano nekuverenga kwakanyanyisa: "Akanaka, uye ini handisi." Uye heino imwe nyaya - shamwari yangu Olga, mushandi webazi rekufamba. Hatina kutarisana kwemwedzi mitatu. Uye panguva ino, murume wake Dhanieri akasiya basa mubhangi ndokurara pafafa. Anogomera kuti ane nguva yakaoma yekuziva zvakapfuura uye kuisa zvinangwa zvitsva-upenyu hupfuura, hapana chinonzwisisika, kusanganisira basa mubhangi. Anoda nguva-kunze, kunyarara mumba uye ruoko runyoro rwemudiwa wake anodikanwa pahuma yake. Kuti aite kuti anzwe zvakanaka, Olga anofanira kunge ainaye, kuramba kubva kune dzimwe nzvimbo dzinofadza dzebhizimisi uye kubva kune chero chiitiko chekusimudzirwa kubasa, asi panguva imwechete kutora boka rezvinyorwa zvekuvenga - mari inodiwa. Anofanirwa kuramba nzira yake yehupenyu inofarira, kutamba uye mapato, pamwe nekurota kwomwana. Uye iye achaputira simba rake nesimba kumurume wake, kusvikira aine marwadzo anonyangadza, kusina hanya uye kusava nehanya nezvose, kusanganisira iye pachake. Murume wake zvakajeka haasi Dostoevsky. Uye ndisati ndaita zvibayiro zvakadaro, Olga akauya kwandiri kuti afunge zvinonzwika pamusoro pezvaidiwa naaida vake makore 38. Takatanga kuronga rudzi rwema diplomas uye mapurogiramu akabudirira aaiva nayo muhupfumi hwake. Hungu, akazopedza magistracy muEngland, anokwanisa kubata kune imwe nzvimbo yebasa kwemakore anopfuura, anoziva kuisa mwoyo yevanhu nemashoko uye vanhu vekare nevana vanoenda kwaari. Olga anoyeuka kuti akazvipira amai vake munda wakabva mangwanani-ngwanani kusvikira manheru, anogara achitaura kuti unotenda nekuda kwesimbi yakagadzirwa uye kumutsvoda mangwanani. Kushivirira, kushingaira uye kutarisa kune vadikanwa zvakare vakaenda kuchivigiro chezvakanaka. Olga akabvuma kuti anoda kupiwa mukudzoka. Pashure pezvose, tinozvipira nekuda kwechinangwa: VaAfrica vanoshamwaridzana vanopisa mbudzana nekuda kwemvura uye vanoikuya nemafuta kuti vavhime zvakanaka. Anotarisira kuponesa mukomana kubva pakutambudzika, achimirira kuti achakanganiswa uye amuonge, ozarura bhizimisi idzva, imba ichazova zvakare mukombe wakazara uye pachava nemufaro mairi. Uye iye anoda ponychitsya zvishoma naye, kusvikira asina vana. Somugumisiro, Olga akaenda kumba achifunga. Zvinoratidzika kuti Dhanieri ane kukosha. Iye zvino anofanira kuzvienzanisa nemurume wake uye osarudza kuti ndeupi wavo. Kana zviri izvo iye haaiti chero chinhu chipi zvacho: hazvina musoro. Kana iye achisarudza ngirozi dzipi dzinotsigira uye ngirozi dzinokurudzira dzakagadzirira kugovana naye.
Iwe nevamwe
Panoenzanisa nhanho, hapana mazano kunze anobatsira. Iwe unoziva, iyi inguva yakanyanyisa uye inokosha: iwe unozviongorora iwe uye uenzanise nekutenderera, unotungamirirwa nekunzwa kumwe. Uye iwe haunoteereri munhu kunze kwewe pachako. Mudzimai waOsip Mandelstam, Nadezhda, akazviona somuenzaniso wevhidhiyo, uye murume wake semunyori mukuru. Akanga aine mikana yakawanda yekurarama hupenyu hunokosha uye hwakanaka naye kupfuura iye asina. Uye iye akasiya kupenda uye akapira zvivako zvake nekuda kwomunhu anodiwa. Anna Akhmatova akamuwana chipo chechihedheni chikuru uye haana kuzviisa pamusana penyaradzo nomufaro wemurume wake, Nikolai Gumilev - uyewo munyori akanaka. Hazvina basa kuti iwe hausi Akhmatova uye iwe hauna matarenda akakurumbira. Hapana chakakosha, kunze kwekunzwa kwako: unogona here kusiya imwe chikamu chako pachako kana kwete. Kana iwe wakagadzirira kukanganwa chimwe chinhu chakakosha zvikuru kwauri - kubudirira kana kuzvikudza, chiitiko kana shamwari, makore ehupenyu - uye usingazungunuki, kutya uye kuzvipira. Kukahadzika - kurega. Mukuyaruka, kupa zvibayiro nekuda kweumwe kune nyore, sezvo tine zvishoma-mikana chete, dzimwe tsika, hope uye zvirongwa zvemuzvere. Uye nguva yakawanda iri mberi. Mumakore akakura, zvakanyanya kuoma kuzvipira: iwe wakawana maitiro akawanda uye zvigadziriswa, kudzidza kubudirira, mufaro wekusika. Uye nguva yako inomhanya nemhepo inopenga, iri kuwedzera, uye mutengo uri kuwedzera.
Pane munhu anoda izvi here?
Sei chibayiro chedu dzimwe nguva chisingafariri? Tichazarura chakavanzika chinotyisa: kazhinji nokuti tinounza chibayiro chakaipa uye chisingadikanwi. Pane imwe nguva ndakatora bhuku remanyano umo whale ine ngozi yaipiwa nemhandara. Zvichida, mhandara yaizobatsira kumunyori. Asi chii chaunofanira kuita nehawha yake - haina kunyatsojeka. Haana kurara kana kudya - nekuda kwezvisikwa zvehupenyu hwake. Aizove nematatu matatu e plankton, zvichida atove akaiswa. Uye kana uri kuenda kuzobayira mumwe munhu, ona, zvichida, izvo munhu uyu anoda! Uye iwe uchapinda muhupenzi, iyo inowanzoitika nevabereki vanobayira chimwe chinhu nekuda kwevana. Mwanakomana wemukadzi akarambana haazombanzwisisi kuti nei baba vake vokutanga vasipo vari mubairo kwaari uye anofanira kumutenda nokuda kwayo. Zvino, kana zhizha rose panzvimbo pokuzorora pamhenderekedzo yeTurkey yakadzungaira kumativi ose makomo pamwe naye (iyo yakanga yakakosha kwaari), uye kana akamupa nguva yekusununguka, mwanakomana mukuru aizorangarira izvi norudo uye kuonga. Uye kana ukasarudza kupira chimwe chinhu nekuda kwomurume wako, bvunza: "Unoda here kuti ndimirire kudzoka kwako pamabasa usiku humwe woenda kunorara? Kana iwe hauna hanya kana pane mumwe munhu pamba, uye iwe unongorota chete kuti ungakurumidza sei kuwira pamutsipa? Iwe unoda kuti ndirege basa rangu, siya mwanasikana wangu naamai vangu uye enda newe kuti uvake hupenyu hutsva muNorway? Kana ungada here kuenda woga, kuronga zvinhu zvose uye kutitumidza isu nechechecheche? "Uye ipapo hakuzombotongove nharaunda yezvibayiro zvisingakoshi mumhuri yako.
Chibayiro chako chakarurama
Kana uyo waunoponesa, nguva nenguva, achizvirega kuti aponeswe - anorega kutamba saDostoevsky, kana kunwa saOzzy Osbourne, anobva mukusuruvara uye kukuonga iwe nokuda kwezvaunoedza. Anowana izvo zvaanenge achifunga, uye kubudirira kana rugare hunoonekwa mumba mako - kana mukurumbira wake uye kubwinya kunokubata iwe nemapiro ake.
Chibayiro chako hachina maturo
Nguva inofamba, asi hapana chinochinja. Gore rakapfuura, murume wangu achiri kugara akakomberedza uye akamirira, akatambanudzwa pamubhedha, kusvikira "yechitatu yeziso yakazaruka." Haasi kuzadzwa nekuonga uye kushuva manzwiro pamusoro pako, haafariri, haaimbi uye haakurumbidzi, haazvipfeke. Uye haazivi mutumwa, asi chidimbu - nokuti iwe unomunyengetedza kuti aite basa uye anokumbira kuti arege kuchena uye usapika.
Kuti urege kuenda unopenga
Dzimwe nguva vanodikanwa vanodarika dambudziko ramakagadza uye vanoita chiito chisagamuchirwa iwe. Zvino hapana chinofanira kuitwa nayo - zvisinei iwe ucharasikirwa nepfungwa dzako kubva kune zvakanyanya kukanganisa kana kuchinja kuva kudzvinyirira kuchenesa. Tatiana Lappa, mudzimai wokutanga wemunyori Mikhail Bulgakov, akashanda naye muchipatara cheZemstvo somurezi - kuitira kuti aisazove akaoma, achisuruvara uye akasurukirwa, uye ipapo, panguva yeHondo Yenyika I, akaenda mberi kwake. Akabatsira murume wake mukurambidzwa, uye paakanga achirega kushungurudzika, akamuchema pahofu yake. Akamuporesa kubva pamarphine muropa, akapikisa zvose zvaaifunga uye kushungurudzika. Yakabatsira kudzokera kuhupenyu huripo. Pakupedzisira akanyora "White Guard" uye akawana mukurumbira wakanaka. Uye akabva achinja Tanya neLyubov Belozerskaya akachenjera, uye akabva aita chikwata kumukadzi wevatatu vavo: "May Lyuba agare zvishomanana nesu? Zvakanaka? "" Zvakaipa! "Tanya akati akamuramba. Haana kumuregerera iye nokuda kwekutambudza. Akanga akagadzirira chibayiro nokuda kwake - asi kwete zvakadaro! Mikhail Bulgakov vasati vafa muna delirium vakakumbira kumutumidza Tatiana uye vakaramba vachidzokorora kuti ane mhosva pamberi pake. Uye Tatiana akabudirira chaizvo kuroora kechipiri uye akararama makore makumi mapfumbamwe. Ichokwadi, zvinoitika kuti mishonga yose icharamba, asi hutano huchaora mwoyo, dutu remhepo uye dysfunctions dzinotanga, kusingaverengeki migraines, kuwedzerwa kweropa kunokwidza kana zvirwere zvehutachiona. Muchiitiko ichi zvakakosha kubatwa, kuita zvese zvichibvira zvakanaka iwe pachako. Uye kuchinja nzira yehupenyu.