Vamiririri vemazuva ano vehutano hwakanaka vanofarira kutenda kuti kukundwa kwechokumusoro kwebasa chiri chinhu chinonyanya kukosha muupenyu. Zvakafanana ne "kure kure kureka", umo mukadzi anofanira kukunda, zvisinei angave akanzwa se "kwete kunyarara". Zvechokwadi, iyi ndiyo gwaro revakadzi avo chete avo vakasarudza kupa chibayiro chemugadziri weimba, vakaenda mberi munyika yekukunda uye kubudirira kwebasa. Nhasi takasarudza kufungidzira pamusoro pebasa revakadzi kubva kune chinangwa chekufunga nezvepfungwa, nekuenzanisa basa nebato re marathon. Mukupedzisira, kuenzanisa uku hakusi zvachose, nokuti mumitauro yose yeRomance-Germanic boka pfungwa ye "run" uye "basa" inotsanangurwa neshoko rimwe chete.
Kuisa
Mudzimai anoita basa akafanana neZarulm yemukadzi: chinhu chinokurudzira icho chinokonzera kutyisidzira pachacho uye zvakatipoteredza zvave zvisingatauriki. Haana kumbogadzirira kudzokera mangwana izvo zvinoda kuitwa zuva rakapfuura zuro, uye nokuda kwechikonzero ichi iye anofanira kugara kushanda kumagumo ekukunda, ayo, sekutonga, ari pedyo nekutanga kwezuva rinotevera rekushanda, panguva iyo zvose zvinogona kudzokororwa nenzira imwechete yakarurama.
Nebasa rakanaka, sekutonga, vanobatanidza munhu ane tsitsi, ane njere uye anotsvaga ropa. Zvose izvi zvinoshamisa hazvifananidzi zvakafanana nemaitiro evanhukadzi chete: zvisingatauriki, zvisingazivikanwi, manzwiro. Muchiitiko chekuti mukadzi anoedza, achibatsirwa nemabasa ekuzvipira, kudzidzisa mutariri akanaka mumoyo make, anongopedzisira aita kuti mukadzi ave nehutano maari. Ndizvo chete nzira iyi inowanzosimbiswa pakati penzira uye mufananidzo wehafu-mupemhi-hafu-mukadzi anobuda.
Vakadzi kakawanda vanoda kuisa pfungwa dzavo pane zvose zviri kuitika zvakapoteredza, pamusoro we "se-kwete se", uye kwete "zvinodiwa - zvisina kufanira". Vakadzi vemapoka nguva dzose vanotungamirirwa nevaduku-vaduku, uyewo makuhwa, podsizhivaniya, kukurudzirwa kusinganzwisisiki nekudzingwa. Basa revashandi rinokuvadza zvakanyanya maererano nemari yemari kana yebhizimisi, uye, zvechokwadi, sezvinodiwa mwoyo nemafungiro. Pakupedzisira, mutungamiririkadzi wechikadzi ane tsika yekubata vatungamiri sevana.
Uye chii chakasara kumusha wemhuri? Kutaura kuti dambudziko mumhuri yavo yega, vatariri vevakadzi havangatauri, nokuda kweizvi vane unyanzvi hwepfungwa. Sezvo mutemo, hafu yechipiri yemukadzi akadaro anofanira kunge ari murume akaora mwoyo. Icho chinongova dambudziko rekushaya nguva kwemazuva ekugadzirira, kushambidza uye kuchenesa mari mumhuri yakaoma kwazvo. Zvechokwadi, pane mudziyo wakatendeka wemhuri uye kune mari yakawedzerwa mutariri weimba. Zvakanyanya kuoma kukurukurirana, nokuti manheru mubasa remunhu anonyanya kushanduka anowanzova musangano wekugadzira wakasarudzwa: pafoni (pamwe neimba neyofaira panguva imwechete), zvinetso zvinokurukurwa newe pachake sazvo, uye "kurarama" nehupenyu hwehupenyu humwe, dzimwe nguva hauna maminetsi okutaura pamusoro pemisoro yenyika. Kana ari mubhedha, vakadzi ava vanowanzotora paranoia ikoko - "havaremekedzi, havaoni, vanochera" - uye uyu "wechitatu" haapi kupa piquancy kune zvepabonde.
Mazuva aripo? Semurairo, vanopfuurira mukutsvaka nguva dzose "kuwedzera huwandu": kukura kwevanhu, seminamato, mapoka ... Vamwe vachiri kuedza kuenda kumitambo yekurovedza, vachitungamirirwa nekuti ivo vanoti vakadzi vane chimiro chakanaka zviri nyore kukwira basa rinotsvedzana.
Dzimwe nguva zvinowanzoitika kuti ubiznes-murume murume, mushure mechinguva, anotanga kunyarara zvakakwana uye anorasikirwa nechishuvo chekuwana mari. Zvechokwadi, izvi hazvisi mamiriro ezvinhu chaiwo, asi kunze kwekuti haana kururamisa. Dambudziko rehuamai ndeimwe "ibwe pasi pemvura" munyika yose maonero emukadzi wemukadzi.
Sei izvi zvichikwira?
Munhu wese anoziva kuti vamiririri vehutano hwakasimba vanoita basa kana mari kunyanya kuitira kufadza mukadzi. Iyo tsanangudzo yemadzitateguru ekushanda kwevakadzi ndeyekuzvimirira kune varume. Kufanana, nhasi kune murume, asi mangwana hakuna. Saka, chikwata ichi chichiri kutanga kugadzirira kukundwa pamunhu pachake. Mune mamwe mazwi, coding.
Rutivi rwechipiri rwemari nderokuti careerist inenge ine mhuri. Chinangwa chemumwe wedu ndechekusununguka kwezvinetso. Mudzimai anoshandisa chikamu chechirwere chenguva yake kubasa uye pamabhizimisi anofamba (yakakwirira basa, denser schedule), zvinoreva kuti ane zana rose rinokonzerwa neizvi. Munharaunda yekugadzirwa, zvimwe zvinhu uye nyaya dzimwe nguva zvinogona kugadziriswa nyore nyore. Uyo ari pasi haasi muwani kana mwana, izvo zvinoreva kuti hazvizopikisani nekukakavadzana, zvikumbiro zvose zvichazadziswa pasina kukakavara.
Mukadzi wemhuri anoisa basa raamai vake "kunyange pasina kuvhara ziso" kune vadzidzisi, zvikoro zvepachivande, vadzidzisi nevamwe vanaamai vanozvimirira, vachiruramisa basa rake rakazara uye mari yakawanda yemari. Mubhadharo wakanaka, kunze kwekunobatsira zvakananga, anokupa kodzero yakakwana yekuita mabasa epamba uye kuchengetedza wawakaroorana naye, kana, Mwari asingabvumirwi, zvinoitika kuti awane mari shoma. Saka mhinduro yematambudziko ega ega kuburikidza nebasa rebasa nguva dzose inonzwisisika uye inosanganisa reverse. Kunyanya kubudirira kwebhizimisi mukadzi, kunyanya kuzvidzivirira anodzivirira maonero ake evanhu.
Kune mukadzi iyeye, hutungamiri hwehutungamiri kazhinji hunova nemagumo asina kunaka. Chinhu chakakosha zvikuru ndehukama hwepedyo hwevanhu - uye ivo, marwa, haasviki. Sezvo hama neshamwari dzakaparadzana kubva nayo kuburikidza nemari inopesana nemari, uye vamiriri vanoparadzaniswa. Chero zvaunotaura, dambudziko iri rinowirirana zvakananga nekuzviisa pasi kwevakadzi. Chinhu ndechokuti munyika yedu dzimwe nguva unokwanisa kusangana nevamiriri vevakadzi vasina simba, izvo zvinosanganisira boka re "chinetso chevakadzi." Uye pano hazvibatsiri kana vari ivo professionists kana kwete. Iye achava mukadzi weimba, ichi chichava nhamo yakakwana yehama dzake, kutanga kune dzose, zvevana.
Uye zvakasiyana-siyana: vamiririri vehutano hwakanaka avo vanogona kushandisa muhupenyu hwavo hwose hune unhu hwakanaka uye hunobudirira - intuition, kugadzirisa, kunyanya kuona vanhu vakavapoteredza, uyezve, pamwe nezvose zvinganzwisisika zvinoenderana nemamiriro avo uye nzvimbo, zvinogona kunge zvakapfuura "munhangemutange nokuda kwekubudirira "kweimwe, kunyange munhu akachenjera zvikuru.
Uye pakupedzisira, kwekutanga kwezviuru zvemakore, vakadzi vane mukana wekuziva kunze kwemhuri, saka havazosimbidzi zvakare. Asi sezvinoratidzwa nemuitiro, nhamba yevarume vemapulisa inowedzera zvikuru! Icho hachisi icho chikonzero chekuti vashandi panzvimbo pevarume vanosarudza vari voga here?