Kutanga, chokwadi, tinofanira kuwana chikonzero chekukakavara mumhuri.
Kurwisana pakati pevakaroorana kunokonzerwa nekuda kwekusiyana kwemaonero avo pane zvakasiyana-siyana zvehupenyu, pasinei kurera vana uye kutarisira bhajeti yemhuri kana urongwa hwezvokudya. Chikonzero chinowanzoitawo kusakwanisa kunzwisisa, ndicho chikonzero zvakaoma kusangana nemudzimai anokwanisa kutaura nechivimbo achiti: "Tinonzwisisana kubva kune hafu-shoko." Maererano nevasayendisiti, kazhinji chikonzero chekukakavadzana ndechokusawirirana kwe "maawa ezvisikwa" zvevakaroorana. Meso nemakungu zvinowona zvakaoma kufambidzana, nokuti mumwe munhu anotsamwiswa nemakombiyuta anoona chiedza, maziso ekucheka, pakati peusiku, mumwe munhu anongoridza nemheremhere yemidziyo yemumba mangwanani-ngwanani. Asi pasinei nekupesana kwaive, yakagadziriswa chete - kuburikidza nekunyengedza uye kugadzirisa zvinogadzirisa matambudziko anobva mumhuri. Chinonyanya kukosha - cherechedza mitemo shoma shoma . Zita:
- Hazvina mhosva iwe unogona kubvumira chido chekuratidza chimwe chinhu kana kuratidza udyire hwako uye kusindimara kwemakumbo emwana.
- Usapfuurira kumatunhu akakwirira uye usarega kuzvipira kune manzwiro.
- Iwe haugoni kusanganisira vausingazivi - hama, shamwari - mukukakavadzana - iyi dambudziko pakati pezviviri, nekukumbira rubatsiro kubva kune hama, iwe unongopedza ngozi yekuparadza ukama hwavo.
- Uyewo, munhu haagoni kuwana hukama pamberi pevana, kuitira kuti varege kuve nemuenzaniso usina kukodzera wekuita nehama dzavo, uye izvi zvinokonzerwa nekunetseka mupfungwa.
- Usakanganwa zvikwanganiso zvekare uye funga nezvekusavapo kwezvinetso, saka iwe unongodururira mafuta pamoto, uye maonero ako haazofungidziri.
- Zvingava zvakanaka kuti ugare pasi uye utaure nemumwe wako, kurukurai pane zvamunofunga kuti ndizvo zvinokonzera mamiriro ezvinhu uye edza kuzvigadzirisa nehurumende.
- Dzimwe nguva zvakakosha kupa kupa kodzero yeshoko rokutanga kumumwe munhu anozviona achigumburwa.
- Uye usambo, rangarira, usambofa uchinge uchinge uchinzwa kuseka, kunyomba uye uchapupu hauna kumisa chero munhu.
Kana iwe usingagoni kugadzirisa kukakavara iwe pachako, unogona kutendeukira kumudzimai wepfungwa dzepfungwa. Mumwe nyanzvi haazombodziviriri mumwe wemapoka, sevamwe shamwari neshamwari kazhinji vanoita, uye vachakwanisa kupa mamwe mazano anokosha. Hazvishamisi kuti maitiro avo anozivikanwa zvikuru mazuva ano uye ari kudiwa kumadokero uye muRussia. Muchiitiko chaunofunga kuti psychoanalysts inoparadza mari uye nguva, asi haugoni kugadzirisa dambudziko racho iwe pachako, unogona kudana hotline yereline.
"Uye zvakadini kana kukakavadzana kwose mumhuri kusamuka nekuda kwechecheche, chii chavanofanira kuita kana iye ari mutungamiriri wavo?" - iwe unobvunza. Zviri nyore: kana mwana atanga kukakavara, iwe unofanira kutanga uzvichenjerera iwe, teerera pane zvawakaita zvisina kunaka. Iwe haugoni kuchengetedza mwana kune "pasi". Iwe unoda kumuratidza ruremekedzo rwunoda iwe pachako. Funga nezvazvo, iwe ungamboti kune shamwari yako zvaunotaura kuvana vako zuva nezuva, somuenzaniso, "Isai suo, saka iwe usapfuurire paruvazhe," kana kuti "Kana iwe usingadyi zvinhu zvose, haugoni kusiya patafura"? Kwete kwete. Ungada kukurukura mumwe wevamwe shamwari dzako here? Zvakare, kwete. Vana ndivo vanhu vakangofanana nesu tinewe, asi ivo vanodzivirira uye vanotambura. Kunyanya, usakanganwa kuti iri muhuduku kuti psyche inotambudzwa zvikuru, kune kusazvidavirira uye kunetseka, muenzaniso wehutano nevamwe vanhu uri kuvakwa, saka mwana anofanira kuonekwa sechikwata chakakwana chevanhu, uye pfungwa yake inofanira kuonekwa. Saka, kana mwana achiri mudiki pane murume nguva dzose vabereki vakavhuniwa, ipapo iye achaputsawo vana vake.
Kana chiitiko icho mwana achingozvidza zvikumbiro uye zvido zvevabereki nevabereki pamwe chete, chinhu chakakosha hachisi kuputsa, usadanidzira pamwana, nokudaro kuratidza kutsamwa kwako, uye kudzokorora chikumbiro chako, ita izvi zvine mwero uye nounyoro, taura nenzwi rakaderera. Kumbira mwana izvo mubereki akafanirwa nekuremekedzwa kwakadaro, saka, zvichida, mwanakomana kana mwanasikana ivo pachavo vachaudza kuti chii, sei, sei uye sei. Mushure mokuteerera mwana, edza kugadzirisa dambudziko pamwe chete nekukakavadzana nemumwe wako - kuburikidza nekubvumirana uye kukanganisa, uye ipapo, unogona kuva nechokwadi, chiitiko chakanaka hachingatore nguva refu.
Ndinotya kutaura kuti kumwe kukakavadzana hakunawo kungoita zvakaipa. Nemhaka yekukakavara, isu tinomanikidzwa kuverenga nemafungiro evashori. Uye ichi hachisi chivimbo chehupenyu hwemhuri hunofadza uye hunobvumirana here? Tinovimba kuti ikozvino iwe uchagadzirisa dambudziko rekusanzwisiswa pasina simba rakawanda, nokuti unoziva kugadzirisa mhirizhonga yemhuri zviri nani!