Izvo zvakashata - nguva inopera
Izwi rokuti "dambudziko" rakabva muchiGiriki rokuti "krineo", uye chaizvoizvo rinoreva "kupatsanurwa kwemigwagwa." Kutaura zvazviri, iyi ndiyo nguva inokosha yekuita chisarudzo, kuchinja kwehupenyu hwemunhu, sangano, chikamu, chimiro, kana chero hupi hupi hupi hupi hupi hwehupi hwehupenyu hwepasi. Munyaya imwe neimwe yega, dambudziko rinowedzera nenzira dzakasiyana, kunyange zvazvo matambudziko ose ane imwe chirongwa chakanaka. Kuti unzwisise zviri nani pamusoro pezvinetso mumatambudziko ekugadzirwa kwepfungwa kwevanhu, inofanirwa kuonekwa sekutengesa, saSherlock Holmes. Iko ndiko, kubva kune vakuru kusvika kune vega. Nyanzvi dzezvemagariro evanhu dzinoparadzanisa zvinetso izvi zvekutambura kwevanhu mumarudzi maviri: munhu-wega uye wezera. Zvose zvinetso zvezera zvinomunhu mumwe nomumwe uye munhu oga, zvisinei, mumwe munhu-munhu zvake haagoni kunge ane makore. Zera, zvakare, rakakamurwa kuva vana (pano zvakare rinosanganisira vechidiki) uye vanhu vakuru. Nezvematambudziko evana anozivikanwa nehutano hwehukuru kupfuura hwevakuru, nekuda kwezvikonzero zviviri.
Chokutanga, vanoda ruzivo rwekudzidza, systematization uye kukunda. Bvumirana kuti mukana wemwana wekutarisana nekushanduka kwekuzvimiririra uye tekisi munzira yakarurama ndiyo urongwa hwehukuru kudarika huya munhu mukuru ane ruzivo. Chikonzero chechipiri: kudzidza kwavo kwakapiwa nyore nyore kupfuura kuongororwa kwevanhu vakuru matambudziko, umo bhari yemunhu maitiro anowedzera uye "kutendeseka" kwemashoko kakawanda "akaremara". Izvo zvinotangira matambudziko zvinogona kukura kwemakore, kunyange makumi emakore. Zvichida, zvechokwadi, kwemwedzi nemavhiki. Asi mamiriro ekugadziriswa kwayo nguva dzose akafanana: tiri kuramba tichiita chimwe chinhu "chakaipa" muupenyu. Hatisi kudya, hatisi kurarama neavo, tinoshanda ikoko. Uyezve, zvakaderera tinogona kufungidzira zvatiri kuita zvisina kururama. Asi kuvhara "kunotevera" kana uremesa, zvisingave tsitsi, sezvo inopisidzira nehumwe kurasikirwa, zvisinei kuti kutungamirirwa kweiyi "kupi" hakuzivikanwi.
Esotericists uye zvinhu zvenyama vanotsanangura zvinokonzera matambudziko nenzira dzakasiyana, asi chinangwa cheizvi hachichinje. Munguva imwe nguva zviito zvisina kururama zvinowedzera, uye nokuda kweizvi "tiri mubayiro" pasi pese purogiramu. Somugumisiro, isu tiri kutarisana nekukura kwechiitiko, uye zvino kunouya dambudziko remakore. Somugumisiro wekunetseka mupfungwa, hupenyu hunochinja. Icho chiri munguva yematambudziko apo nhamba huru yekurambana inowanzoitika, kukakavadzana kwakanyanya nevanhu vashoma, kupomerwa, nguva yekuchikoro kusina kunaka uye kupesana mune mufambiro. Dambudziko remakore rakafanana nekuputika kwebhobho reatomu. Zvose zvinoratidzika sezviri kutendeuka. Mifungo yedu nezviito zvedu zvinogona kutishamisa zvakare. Ndingaita sei izvi? Ndakanyatsofunga nezvemurume uyu here? Mushure mematambudziko, pane nzira mbiri dzinogona kuitika:
"Rufu kuberekwa patsva." Pakutanga ndakapiwa mubayiro, saka ndakanzwisisa nokuda kweizvi, ndakagadzirisa, ndakagadzirisa zvikanganiso, ndakashambidza zvose zvisingakoshi, ndakaramba ndiripozve uye huripo huripo - kune vamwe;
"The Black Strip." Ndine simba "rakagamuchirwa", handina kudzidza chinhu uye ndakatamira mberi nekutsvaga nzira dzakajeka, kubva pane imwe nguva imwe nguva kuwira kuchadzorerwa zvakare - kune vamwe.
Kazhinji kazhinji kubva pamiromo yedu uye yevamwe tinonzwa nezve "bhanhire" muhupenyu. Asi maererano nekucherechedza kwevepfungwa dzepfungwa, pane mamwe ma "mapoka machena" muupenyu hwedu! Zvinoshamisa, pasinei nokusakwana kwepasi rose, kakawanda matambudziko evanhu pachake anoguma mumamiriro ekutanga. Ichi ndechokuti dambudziko nderimwe remamiriro ezvinhu ezvakasarudzwa. Munenge tose zvedu tinonyatsofunga nezvekufambisa kwayo. Pamwe mugumo unofadza wematambudziko inodzikama uye inotevera hupenyu hunopera. Kakawanda, mushure mezera rematambudziko, kugadzirwa kwekusika kunoitika. Vanhu vanosarudza kuchinja hupenyu hwavo nenzira yakanaka. Edza kuzviita muupenyu, chimwe chinhu chinokosha, chinokosha.
Asi avo vakaora mwoyo, avo vane usimbe kwazvo kuti vanzwisise zvinokonzera dambudziko remakore pamwe nemigumisiro yaro, vachasangana neshoko risingaoneki. Izvo zvinowanzoitika migumisiro iri kupera, zvirwere (kusanganisira mupfungwa), zvinetso zvisingatauriki neshamwari, mumhuri, kubasa. Kana tikaswedera kumubvunzo nenzira yekufananidzira, isu takasangana, tichikandira tsoka dzedu kubva pasi (sezvinoitwa frog munhau inonyanya kufadza) - kana isu tinonaya.
Kusangana nezera remwana
Nekutambudzika kwevana, nyaya yacho yakasiyana zvakasiyana, asi, chokwadi, chinhu chimwe chete. Pane kuchinja kune imwe mamiriro ezvinhu emuviri uye psyche, zvisingawanzoiti, mune dzimwe nzvimbo dzisina vagari, "dzisina kugadziriswa" uye nokudaro zvinomanikidzira. Muchikamu chevana, humwe matambudziko makuru anocherechedza, pakati peiwo mapfupi aripo anokwanisa. Zvisinei, mukana uye chiyero chekuratidzwa kwavo ndechega munhu oga uye anozviisa pasi.
Rimwe dambudziko remakore rimwe chete - pakutanga, rinotyisa, asi pakutanga pakutanga. Uku ndiko kukonzerwa kwehukama nenyika uye chisarudzo chisingazivikanwi pamusoro pekugamuchira kana kuti kwete. Kuda vamwe, kuzvidza, kana kutya, kunosarudzwa pano uye ikozvino.
Imwe matambudziko emakore matatu ndeyekusava nemafungiro akaipa kunyange nemafungiro akanaka. Kuziva kwechirevo che "kwete", "hazvibviri", chiitiko chekutanga chekusati kwawana kudiwa.
Iyo makore manomwe ematambudziko ndiyo dambudziko rekuparadzanisa nehuduku. Socialization, kugadzirwa kwezvinhu zvose zvinogona kuitika (uye zvisingaitike), kusarudzwa pamusana pakati pekuderera kunowedzera uye kunzwa kwerumwe chete. Panguva ino, vazhinji vedu tinodzidza kutaura nhema.
Nguva yekutendeuka inowanzoonekwa pazera remakore gumi nemaviri kusvika kune gumi nemana. Kunyange zvazvo inogona kutanga mumakore gumi nematanhatu, uye kupedzisa pa21. Statistically, vazhinji vari kuyaruka "vanoenda" kune imwe nyika kubva makore 11 kusvika ku17. Zera rekuzvidzivirira zvepabonde uye, semugumisiro, kuwedzera kushungurudzika, kuputika kwemahomoni uye kugadzirisa mafungiro. Kurwisana kwekusununguka, yekutanga majeka ezvinetso zvepfungwa zvinotevera. Kubvira pamakore gumi nemasere kusvika kumakumi maviri, kazhinji kazhinji kuparadzana kwekupedzisira kubva paudiki, kusarudzwa kwebasa, kutanga kwekureba kwenguva refu uye kusindimara kurwisana kwenzvimbo muzuva.
Midlife crises
Nguva iyo kubva pamakore makumi maviri kusvika kumakumi maviri nemaviri inofungidzirwa kuti haina makore. Mune mamwe mazwi, mhirizhonga inowanikwa muzera rezera iri ndeye munhu chaiye. Vanhu vazhinji vanoyeuka makore aya sevanakisisa muupenyu hwavo. Vamwe vanofunga nezvemagariro evanhu vanofunga kuti zuva re "mbiri yepakati pematambudziko" rinokosha rinofanira kubudiswa kubva pachiyero chekugara kweupenyu chinoparadzaniswa hafu, zvishoma kana chiyero chehupenyu hwekugara muhutano. Panyaya iyi, yakarongerwa kuongorora dambudziko rine makore makumi maviri nemashanu. Zvisinei, kukakavadzana kwedzidziso yakadaro kune pachena. Mukuwedzera, nguva yezvisikwa zvemhuri uye kubereka mumakumi emakore achangopfuura yasvika makore makumi matatu, zvichiwedzera kukwana kwedu kusina hanya.
Chikoro chekutanga chekukura ndechezera remakore makumi maviri nemaviri nemakumi maviri nemashanu, rakapfuura "dambudziko remashumi matatu" . Panguva ino tinofananidza kurota uye chokwadi, uye kugomera kunetseka. Icho chinonyanya kugadzirisa chinangwa chekuita rudzi rwemabasa uye nzira yehupenyu. Vakadzi, kusvika kune makumi matatu vakavaka basa, kamwe kamwe vanozvipira pachavo pakusikwa kwemhuri nekuberekwa kwevana. Uye vanaamai vemhuri, pane kudaro, vanotanga kuita basa. Chikamu cheizvi chinokonzerwa nenhema inowanikwa zvakasimba mukuziva "kubereka 30". Kutanga nemwana wemakore makumi matatu nematatu, matambudziko ose anotevera mumunhu anoitika pasi pechiratidzo chekuvandudzika kwehutsika uye kubvunza zvose zvakamboitika muupenyu. Ndiko panguva ino pfungwa dzinomuka: "Ini ndatove, uye ini ndichiri" uye "uye izvi ndizvo zvose zvandinofanira?"
Pamusoro pematambudziko emakore makumi matatu, "hutano hwepakati-hupenyu" hunotevera, hunogona kukanganisa kukanganisa kwakanyanya pamunhu, basa, uye, kunyanya kukosha, mamiriro emhuri emunhu. 40 - 45 makore - nguva yekurambana uye kuroorwazve, "madhimoni mumabvu" uye hafu-madenga, anofungidzirwa kuva vechidiki. Ndivo vane makore makumi mana vane makore akawanda vanowanzoenda kune psychoanalysts. Uye kana paine kubuda kusina kunaka kubva padambudziko, ivo vanowanzopinda mumarudzi ose emachechi. Nharaunda ye "pakati pehupenyu" inowanzoonekwa pamberi pedu nemirazi yakakomberedzwa, umo zvikanganiso zvedu zvinoratidzirwa kuwedzererwa, uye kubudirira hakuoneki zvachose.
Matambudziko evakwegura
Munenge kubva pamakore mashanu kusvika kune makumi manomwe munhu anopfuura ne "dambudziko rekwegura" , iyo pfungwa, iyo, zvimwe, yakajeka zvikuru. Iyi nguva ine zvikamu zvakasiyana, nhamba chaiyo uye nguva yakatarwa zvinoenderana nehutano hwehutano hunowanikwa mune zvebasa nemagariro evanhu. Uyewo kubva pakunzwisisa nekunamata kwevanhu. Panguva ino, iwe mose munogona kutanga kurwisa pfungwa dzekufa, uye kuyanana navo uye nenzira yakakodzera kuenda kumugumo. Nzira yekushandura mararamiro ako kuti uve mukana wekugadzirisa, uye kugadzira kambani yevakwegura vanoda kuparadzanisa. Vakawanda vanotya kuti "vachapona" kuenda kumusha uye vanotanga kushanda zvakanaka kupfuura vaduku. Vamwe, nenzira, vanoroora. Chimwe chezvikamu zvehutano hwekukwegura ndeye "nguva yakasarudzwa" (makore makumi manomwe kusvika makumi mapfumbamwe), apo munhu anounganidza, sekunge mumutambo, zvose zvakagadziriswa, zvakagamuchirwa, zvakarasika uye zvakaitika. Akato "pano", uye "ipapo," uye mune dzimwe nguva mune zvekunamata zvakasununguka kupfuura vamwe vane makore makumi maviri nemashanu. Kazhinji munhu anokwanisa kurarama kuti ave nemakore zana. Vaya vanopona kusvika kumusi wegore rose vanotarisana ne "futurological crisis" , vachiziva kuti vachakurumidza kusimuka, uye vachagara nekuda kwesayenzi. Pakati pezana remakore, pasinei nokuti rinoratidzika sei, kurwisa kuzvibudirira kunonyanya kuitika. Zvisinei, "kujekeswa" panguva ino ndeyechokwadi. Vakwegura havasi ivo vasina maturo panguva dzose uye mumitemo yese vanofunga kuti vakangwara.
Hazvibviri kuvimbisa kusangana nematambudziko ekugadzirwa kwepfungwa kwomunhu. Zvisinei, inofanira kuyeukwa kuti dambudziko, sezvose zviri muhupenyu huno, rine kuguma kwayo. Uye kuti ichava sei inobva pane iwe chete. Izvozvo zvinogona kukonzera zvose zvisingagumi zvinyorwa uye nhanho itsva inoshamisa muupenyu.