Havanzwisisi kuti nei vabereki vavo vachigovana, uye nei baba vavo vanodikanwa vasingakwanisi kuvapo zuva nezuva, sepakutanga.
Asi, tarisai, dutu dzinofambisa urongwa hwekurambana dzakaderera, uye mubvunzo unomuka pamusoro pekuti "kuuya papa" kuchakurukurirana sei nevana. Zvinosuruvarisa, havasi mapapa mushure mokusiya mhuri nguva dzose vanoshanyira vana vavo uye vachishingaira muupenyu hwavo. Ngationei kuti nei mushure mekurambana, maonero ababa kumwana anochinja.
Basa rinokosha rinowedzerwa nechinangwa chekuchinja mabasa: apo mhuri yaiva mhuri, mutoro wevana (iyo ibasa, kwete basa redu) rakagoverwa nehafu pakati pevabereki. Mune mamiriro ezvinhu apo munhu akaparadzana kubva kumhuri yake (shure kwezvose, vana muRussia vanoramba vaine amai vavo 95% yenguva), kazhinji anodzikinura kubva pane zvakawanda zvebasa revana. Muvanhu vose, vekare-varume vanozviratidza ivo pachavo nokuti, chero zvakadaro, havagoni kubatanidzwa zvakakwana muhupenyu hwevana, nokuti Usararame navo pasi pedenga rimwe. Muzvokwadi, munhu iyeye anoshandisa mamiriro acho ezvinhu kuti anakidzwe nehutano rusununguko. Kubva kuna baba vomumhuri, iye, sezviri, anotendeukira kuva hama yakwegura, uyo "akatiza uye akatizira kubva mudendere remubereki." Rudo rwevana runoreva kuti mubereki anoda kuona kuti vanokura nekuita sei muupenyu hwavo. Asi zvinoratidzika kune varume vakawanda kuti ivo vachiri "munguva", havafungi kuti kukoshesa kwavanoita zuva nezuva muhupenyu hwevana, nokuti vana vanokura zvakanyanya.
Zvinofanira kuonekwa kuti munyika dzeEurope - mufananidzo wakasiyana zvachose. Vanababa vanobatanidzwa mukati mehupenyu hwevana uye, mukurambana, vanoenderera mberi kutakura basa revana nevana: vanopedza nguva yakawanda nevana vavo saamai. Vabereki vanoenda kumisangano yevabereki kuchikoro, vaende nevana pavanopinda mitambo yemitambo, nezvimwewo. Kusiyana neEurope, mune tsika dzedu dzenyika, tinofunga zvose zvinoitwa mumba, kusanganisira kutarisira vana - "bhizimisi revakadzi."
Mukuwedzera, muRussia, sekutonga, vakaroora vakaroorana havafungi kuti zvakafanira kuva vashandi uye pamwe chete kugadzirisa nyaya dzine chokuita nevana. Kazhinji tinoona mufananidzo wakatarisana: pane kubatana, vabereki vanoratidza kusafambidzana kune vamwe uye kuvhiringidza vadzivisi - "shandisai matanda mumagetsi." Semuenzaniso, mamiriro ezvinhu apo mumwe wevabereki haasaina mvumo yekusiya mwana nemumwe wekuzorora yakajairika.
Zvikonzero nei, mushure mokurambana, maonero ababa pamusoro pomwana anogona kutarisana nezvikonzero zvakasiyana:
- Zvakaitika kuna baba mumhuri yevabereki, kurera. Kana munhu akakurira mumhuri umo baba vakatora chikamu chekuita nekurera vana: akageza vana, akavadyisa pariji, akavakurudzira - akashandisa nzira iyi yekuita. Uyezve, rudo rukuru, runotarisira vana vake, vachienzanisa namadzibaba, avo vane ruzivo mumhuri yevabereki vakanga vasina kunaka.
- "Kukura kweunhu" hwevanhu: zvakadini munhu akagadzirira kutora mhosva yezvinoitika muupenyu hwake, uye naizvozvo nekuda kwehupenyu hwevana vake. Zvinosuruvarisa, vamwe vanaamai vanoita zvekunyengedzera mukuda kwavo kwevana vavo kuti ivo vakagadzirira kutora zvisarudzo zvose zvinokosha kwavari kusvika pakukwegura uye kushingairira kuchengetedza kunetseka kupi zvako. Somugumisiro - munhu mukuru, maererano nepasipoti, murume, anoramba aripo, chaizvoizvo, mwana akarereka. Haana kugadzirira kupindura nekuda kwezviito zvake, achida kuvanza uye kupomera mhosva dzose dzekare-mukadzi wake.
- Kugadzirira kwevaimbova vakaroorana nekuda kwehukama maererano nevana. Zvakakosha kuvabereki vakarambana kuti varambe zvido zvavo pachavo kuti vabatsire mwana. Kana mwana achangopera kuva nhumbi yekuzvitsivira kumurume wake wekare (mudzimai), asi anodzokera kumamiriro emwana anodikanwa - hupenyu hwehupenyu hwake hunobuda zvakasimba. Kana vabereki vane ruzivo rwekuti vanoda kuramba vari vashandi munhau dzine chokuita nevana vanowanzoonekwa - kuwana mutauro wakafanana hakusi kwakaoma.
- Kubatana zvakadini muhupenyu hwomwana uyo murume akatora vasati varambana. "Izvo zvatinoda, tinoda zvikuru", "Hatidi avo vari kwatiri, asi avo-avo isu" - mumashoko aya kune imwe yeiyi dzehukama hwevanhu munavose, uye nemanzwiro e rudo rwababa - kunyanya. Kana baba vacho vasati varambana vakaratidzira mwana wavo pamasikati kwemazuva mashomanana pazuva - vasati vavata, uye, pakupera kwevhiki vaisarudza kukurukura nevana terevhizheni-saka, hazvishamisi kuti paanobva mumhuri, hazvizovi iye, dambudziko rakadaro kugumisa kusangana nevana. Pane zvinopesana, kune murume asina kurara usiku naamai vake, achizunungusa chivako chaivapo pamutambo wekutanga wecheche uye akaridza pamba rokutanga pamabvi ake-kuparadzaniswa kubva kune "guru" rake-rinorwadza. Uye, baba vakadai - vanotungamirira zvose zvaanoedza kuita kuti hukama hwemwana hurege kubvhiringidzika.
- Murume ane mhuri itsva nevana mumhuri itsva. Inonyanya kutenda kuti murume anoda vana amai vake vachivada. Uye-zvakasiyana: kana murume achida mukadzi, iye achada vana vake. Izvi zvinoreva kuti, kusiya mhuri itsva, baba, sezvazviri, inotsiva mwana wavo neumwe, uye nokudaro inogutsa manzwiro ake ebaba. Izvi hazvisi zvechokwadi. Ichokwadi, muhupenyu kune mamiriro ezvinhu akajeka. Asi, neropafadzo iyi haisi mutemo. Zvisinei, hazvikwanisi kurambwa kuti, mukuzadzisa basa rababa pamusoro pevana vakagamuchirwa, murume haasi nguva dzose akabudirira kuunganidza kuchengetwa kwe "mawadi" matsva nekutarisira kwevana vake kubva kumhuri yekare, izvo zvinowanzoita kuti varatidze baba vavo. Uyezve: hukuru hukuru hwekuti baba panguva yekurambana vachakurukurirana nevana vavo, sekutonga, vane mudzimai wavo mutsva. Zvinosuruvarisa, vakadzi vazhinji, nekuda kwezvinangwa zvoudyire, kana, nekutya chokwadi chokuti murume anogona kutendeukira kumukadzi wake wekare, nesimba rake rose, anopindira nekukurukura kwake nemhuri yekare.
Asi zvisinei zvakanyanya kurambana, zvisinei kuti zvisingagoni kuitika sei kusiyana kwevaimbova vakaroorana havana kuonekwa, vanhu vakuru vanofanira kugara vachiyeuka avo avo vanogara ivo amai vanodiwa uye baba, avo vanogona, kunyange mushure memakore mashomanana, kumirira kudana kwavo pamusuo.