Matrix: Dzokorora zvakare
Dzimwe nguva zvinowanzoitika kuti hazvibatsiri kuti ndiani anobva kune avo vaviri vakaroorana vekutanga "kwekuzorora kwenguva duku kubva kune mumwe nemumwe". Chero chii chakanga chiri, asi dzimwe nguva zvinoitika kuti vaviri vari vaviri vanoona pfungwa iyi nekunyarara kukuru. Uye chinhu ndechokuti dzimwe nguva ukama hunotanga "kuzvirambidza": nguva dzose kukakavara pamusoro pezvakanaka, izvo zvangobva kuwana chimiro uye mushure mokukurukurirana kunopisa, vanowedzera kuwedzera kusvika kumatambudziko emunyika yose, "kusuwa kwepfungwa" kubva kune mumwe nemumwe , kurasikirwa nezvido zvepabonde nezvimwe zvakawanda.
Nokudaro, kuyera zvose zvinobudirira uye zvakashata, mapato maviri aya anopindirana anotarisa nzira chete yekubuda pakushandura mamiriro ezvinhu ikozvino kuparadzana. Asi kwete kuparadzana nokusingaperi, uye izvo zvinonzi kuda nguva-kunze. Zvakanaka, uye chii? Iwe wakatojaira kune mumwe nemumwe, iwe une (ivo vose vane, asi kungozvidza zvishoma) manzwiro uye zvakaoma kuti iwe ufunge kuti munhu uyu haazove aripo. Pane chibvumirano chakakodzera, icho chinofanira kuvakirwa pane zvinotevera zvinokosha:
- Nguva yose-nguva yekubuda. Iwe uchashevedza here kana kushanyirana panguva iyi? Uyewo panguva ino "usasimuke" uye "usatuka" ...
- Kuva akatendeseka-usatanga zvinyorwa kudivi rekoroti uye usasarudze "dzimwe nzira.
- Urarame uri wakakwana uri woga uye "kusvika pamunogona napo, kushamwaridzana ukama hwako nevanze".
Sezvo wakawana kubvumirana munyaya idzi, iwe unogona kuchengeteka, nekuita kugumbuka kugadzikana, kuparadzanisa "pamabanki akasiyana", achitarisira kuti kubudirira "mweya mutsva" mukati mako hukama hwakatodzana.
Apo zvose zvakafanana zvinenge zviri kuputsa mabheki
Sezvo mutemo, pfungwa yekutanga yekutanga kuita rudo runoputika mumusoro mushure mehafu yegore yekugara pamwe chete, apo zvose-euphoria kubva kuchido zvanyangarika, uye yese tsika dzekutanga dzakaratidzwa dzichigumbusa. Mumamiriro ezvinhu aya, nguva-kunze inowanzoita kuti pave nekuputsa kwakakwana: kushamwaridzana kwepfungwa kwakatove kwakanyanya kusimba uye zvinoratidzika kuti zviri nyore kuwana chido chitsva pane kuyananisa kana kubvumira zvisizvo zvose zvakajeka zvekare.
Panzvimbo yechipiri pane nguva yakawanda-nguva-kunze ndiko kuberekwa kwomwana. Vamiririri vehutano hwakasimba pane imwe nguva panguva ino vanotanga kunzwa kuti muupenyu huri "hurumende" chaiyo, uye zvakakodzera kuva wega "chigaro choumambo" chakatorwa nemwana anogara achichema. Dambudziko rekugadziridzwa kwakakwana kwezvinhu zvose zvinoda kuzorora kwakakwana uye nguva yakawanda.Hano, mumamiriro ezvinhu aya, imwe hafu kazhinji yakanyanyisa kuratidza kuti murume anofungisisa mune kuzvidada oga ...
Imwe nguva isati yakakodzera yekutanga rudo-timeout inofungidzirwa kuva pakati pe "mhuka yeupenyu". Sezvo, sekutonga, nezera remakore makumi matatu nemakumi matatu nemaviri, varume vanotanga kuve nehanya zvikuru nemafungiro anoramba achitya ezvo mubvunzo wekuwana chinangwa chehupenyu. Nguva dzose achifunga nezvezvakave zvaitwa uye izvo zvisati zvamboitwa, murume wacho anozvisarudzira, asi anomuda: basa iri, basa, uye mudzimai uyu. Nenguva iyo iye akatizira kubva pachake, anotiza kubva kumudiwa wake. Heino ndiyo nguva yekumupa zvakakwana uye mukana wokuzviita. Nenzira, zvakakodzera kudzokorora chokwadi chokuti zviri nyore kuti munhu awane "kukwanisa kwaari", zvakanyanya kuitika kuti zvose zvichakwanisa kudzokera kune imwe nzvimbo.
Mitemo yakakosha yemitemo yemaputsi
- Chokutanga pane zvose, inofanira kunzi kuti kusingagumi-nguva-kunze kwehukama pamusoro pehurukuro a-la "Kusvikira isu tose tisingakwanisi kunzwa zvakakwana kuti ..." hachipo! Mune maonero evanhu vanofunga nezvepfungwa, munhu anenge asingakwanisi kutsigira kukanganisa kwakadaro kune zvakanakisisa zvaanogona. Nguva yakanakisisa yorudo rurefu inofungidzirwa kuva nguva yevhiki imwe kusvika pamwedzi.
- Isu tose tinorangarira mazwi eimboimboimbwa rwiyo: "Usachema, usatya, usabvunza!". Saka, panguva yakadaro, hapana chidiro chakafanana netsime, tsvina manzwiro ako nenzira dzakasiyana, kana, kunyanya kuipa, munzira dzose uye inenge isingaiti, edza kuchengeta mudiwa wako pedyo newe, kunyange kana chipo chekuita nguva kubva kune hukama hwakakubata iwe.
- Hazvina kudikanwa kuisa ruzivo rwakakura rwevanhu mukukurukurirana kwechinyorwa chino. Uye nemakamanikana, nenzira, iwe unofanirwa kuchenjerera. Pano iwe unofunga kufunga nemusoro wako uye ushande nehuyu convolutions!
- Hapana chikonzero chekuchinjana kwe "vasungwa vehondo"! Hazvina kudiwa kudzorera zvinhu zvose zvakapiwa, kuratidzira uye nekushingaira kuberekwa maitiro ekubvisa mapccckare netsamba uye kugura sofa nehafu. Pano zvakakosha chaizvo kuita zvakasiyana, nesimba rose unoedza kusimbisa kusakwana kwemamiriro aya ne "mafuta" maviri.
- Mutemo wokupedzisira ndewokuti iwe unofanira kufambisa pfungwa dzose. Mune mamwe mazwi, iwe unofanirwa kugara uchiyeuka kuti chero rudzi rwemhando yehupenyu-rudo-nguva-kunze, haufaniri kudzokera kwariri mupfungwa!
Uye pamagumo ehurukuro iyi ndinoda kumbotaura Oscar Wilde, uyo akambotaura kuti: "Vakaroorana vakanaka vanowanzovata zvakakwana zvakadzimba, vanodya panguva dzakasiyana, vobva vashandisa vroz.Odnim shoko, ita zvose zvinogona kuchengetedza imba yavo inofadza ! "Saka funga nezvemashoko aya uye rega mamiriro acho ezvinhu aende oga. Chero munyaya iyi chete, zvinhu zvose zvinogona kuchinja, uye hukama hwako huchakwanisa kuwana chinangwa chitsva, nokuti dzimwe nguva zvinobatsira kubatsirana kubva kune mumwe nemumwe!