Sezvo vaitisa zvidzidzo zvakawanda nekucherechedza, masayendisiti akawana kuti mushure mokunge varambana, nhamba huru yevarume inosangana nekushungurudzika uye kuora mwoyo, vachifunga kuti kurambana ndiko kutengesa pane chikamu chechipiri. Vamwe vevarume ava vanofunga nezvekuzviuraya, chimwe chikamu chinonyatsoda kutsiva kune waimbova mudzimai kuti apedze ukama. Nhamba dzinoratidza kuti makumi matatu neanomwe kubva muzana yevarume mushure memakore maviri kubvira musi wokurambana vakatanga kusununguka, uye makumi maviri neviri chete muzana yeavo vakaongororwa vakafara kuti vakatanga kutungamirira hupenyu hwehutano.
Mukuwedzera, varume vakaroorana kakawanda havasi kukurumidza kusimbisa hukama nevakwegura vekare, avo vanodzorera hukama hwekare chete makumi matatu nesere muzana. Heano mazano anoratidza zvakananga kuti varume vari kunyanya kupfurikidza nekurambana: chetatu, icho chikamu makumi matatu nematatu kubva muzana vekare vaimbova varume, mushure mekunge vari voga, vanotanga kuwedzera kushungurudzika kwavo nedoro uye nekukurumidza kunwa doro; makumi maviri nematatu kubva muzana akavhiringidzika nekusangana kwechinhu chisingaiti; vane gumi nematatu muzana vanoedza kudzokera kune nguva isati yaroorana uye vanosangana nevakadzi vaizivikanwa vasati varoorana.
Uye pane hupenyu mushure mekurambana kwevakadzi here? Sezvo vaitarisisa nekucherechedza zvakakosha, vanachipangamazano vepfungwa vakawana kuti vakadzi vakaroorana havanyanyi kunetseka nekurasikirwa neukama newaimbova mudiwa. Muzviitiko zvizhinji, vakadzi vakaroorana havasi kungovandudza hutano hwavo, asi hupenyu hwemweya hunoenda kuhupenyu. Zvinofanira kunzi kuti vamwe vamiririri vevakadzi vasina simba vari mumamiriro ezvinhu euphoria kwegore, kana kupfuura, kubvira pakurambana.
Kana anenge chikamu chetatu chevarume vakaroorana vachiedza kuroora nokukurumidza, zvichida kushandiswa kune mazano anopiwa nemasangano embadhi, saka vakadzi, muhuwandu hwemamiriro ezvinhu, havasi kukurumidza kuroora, kutanga kufunga pamusoro peizvi dzimwe nguva makore akawanda mushure mekurambana.
Iyi miitiro yevarume nevakadzi mushure mekurambana, hukama hwehukama hwemhuri hunojekesa zvakajeka. Sezvo asina kusununguka kubva pamabasa emhuri, murume ane utsinye kana murume akaipa, mukadzi anogona kurarama sezvaanofarira, anonakidzwa nekusununguka uye anozvinyatsozvitarisira. Nhamba huru yevamiririri vehafu yakanaka yevanhu vanovandudza hukama hwekare, kutaura nevanoshamwaridzana, kunyatsoongorora chitarisiko chavo uye hutano, endai rwendo.
Chikamu chemurume, mushure mekuparadzaniswa nehupenyu hwemhuri hunoziva, inonzwa pfungwa yekuvhiringidzika kubva mumatambudziko uye kunetseka kwave kuonekwa. Mukutaura, varume havakwanisi kuchinja hupenyu hwehupenyu, izvi ndezviitiko zvepfungwa yevanhu. Ndicho chikonzero, sekutonga, hupenyu mushure mekurambana kwevarume kunoshanduka kuva kushungurudzika kwakadzika, izvo zvichange zvakanyanya kusimba kana danho rekurambana rakatorwa nemumwe wako.
Zviri pachena kuti, kurambana mumwe nomumwe kunokonzerwa nezvimwe zvikonzero, zvakasiyana kune vaviri vaviri. Kutarisa nekunetseka kwepfungwa, kurambana kunotora nzvimbo yekutanga maererano nemigumisiro yepfungwa dzevanhu. Munhu anofanira kuzvisarudzira kana pane hupenyu pashure pokurambana, kana kwete.
Julia Sobolevskaya , kunyanya kune nzvimbo