Chikamu chakanaka chevanhu chinongwarira pamusoro pekusarudza kwake, kana chiri ukama hwakakomba. Kune mukadzi, murume ane chimiro chisingazivikanwi murume, kuramba kwemujaho. Nokudaro, baba vevana remangwana vanosarudzwa pane vasingazivi. Mamiriro ekudanana nemufananidzo chiratidzo chekusarudzwa kwezvakasikwa. Muchidimbu, mukadzi anoita sarudzo, iyo inoenda kune yakasimba, kana yakanakisa, kana yakasimba kana yakakwirira, yakangwara uye yakashinga, inokurumidza uye inofadza.
Apo mukadzi anoti anoda rumwe rudzi, izvi zvinoreva kuti ndevarume ava vanofunga kuti vakanaka vari kuramba vari genus. Zvinosuruvarisa, chisarudzo chokusarudza shamwari yehupenyu chete pahutano hwehupenyu kazhinji chinotungamirira kushungurudzika kusuruvara muhukama, sezvo kushamwaridzana kukurukurirana uye mabasa akabatana anozarura zvitsva zvemudiwa. Zvinogonawo kusvika pakunzwisisa kuti akasanangurwa akazova munhu akasiyana zvakakwana kupfuura muchinda, sezvaakaonekwa panguva yekufara kwekudanana nemufananidzo. Iyo ndiyo iyo yekuziva kunovuya kuti kukokwe kwechizvarwa haisi iyo mhedzisiro yekusarudza.
Uye mwana wacho, zvechokwadi, anogona kuva nehupenyu hwakanaka, asi huchave hwakawanda sei, kana mhuri ichigumburwa uye vabereki vakaodzwa mwoyo kune mumwe nemumwe? Mwana wacho, saka, anokura mumamiriro ezvinhu epfungwa asina kugadzikana, ndizvo izvo amai vake vaida? Mubvunzo "kuti unzwisise sei murume akakodzera mukadzi" unobvunzwa nemamiriyoni evasikana nevakadzi. Cherechedza kuti miedzo yese yepfungwa panyaya iyi inotarisana nemagariro evanhu uye zvepfungwa. Sezvo iri iyo mitemo inobatsira kunzwisisa kana munhu akakodzera uye ndiyo nheyo yechisarudzo chakanaka. Nenharaunda yevamwe vanhu tinoreva kuti hupfumi hwemurume, hukama hwake hwemagariro evanhu, kubudirira kwezvinangwa zvake, hugaro hwehupenyu, mafungiro emhuri, ukama. Nechirevo chepfungwa tinonzwisisa kushamwaridzana kwepfungwa dzevamwe, kushamwaridzana kwemweya, kutendana pamwe nekuremekedzana, unhu hweunhu. Kusarudza murume maererano nechikonzero chepfungwa kunowedzera hutano hwemukadzi mupfungwa, kugadzikana uye kufara pakukurukurirana nemurume. Kusarudzwa nehutano hwemagariro evanhu kunopa mukadzi akasimba, hutano hwehupfumi, hupenyu hwakanaka. Chinhu chakanaka, kana murume akafanirwa nemukadzi nezvose zvinodiwa.
Kunzwisisa kana munhu akakodzera nenzira yaanobata mukadzi, anofungisisa pamusoro pake, anoremekedza maonero ake uye kodzero. Zvakakosha kuti mukadzi wacho anonzwa sei akasununguka kuva pedyo nemusanangurwa wake, zvaanofunga uye kuti anotaura sei pamusoro pake - kana mukadzi asingaremekedzi shamwari yake, saka haifaniri kufanana naye, nokukurumidza kana kuti gare gare ichaita kukakavara. Murume anotsamwisa kana kushungurudza pane chikamu chemukadzi haasati asangana nemirairo yake. Mukusangana neakasanangurwa, mukadzi anofanira kunge ane mafungiro akanaka chete; Kuziva kwekuti rakanakira sei kusangana naye. Manzwiro erudo anopfuura nokukurumidza, asi munhu anoramba aripo, saka pfungwa ye rudo inokosha, iyo yakadzika, yakasimba uye yakanyanya kudarika rudo.
Kana mukadzi akawana mukana wakanaka kwaari, ipapo kunzwa kwerudo hakuzonyungudwi nenguva, asi kukura kusimba uye kukura zvakasimba. Rudo rwakavakirwa pamanzwiro, munharaunda yezvido, kuremekedzana. Vakadzi vazhinji vanogadzira huwandu hwekuongororwa kwehutano nehupfumi, hwakaratidzwa mukukurukurirana nemurume. Saka ikozvino pane imwe nguva yekutanga inenge yava kunzwisisika kuti murume anokoshesa sei mukadzi. Asi, zvinonyanya kukosha, usapinda mukati memusoro wekuongorora, zvisinei iwe unogona kungoona mushure memunhu wakatarisana nemunhu akanaka uye akazaruka, zvakafanana nehope dzomuchinda wako.