Zvichida, iwe unowanzosangana nehupenyu nevanhu vanoramba vachigunun'una pamusoro pezvinetso zvavo, vanoti, havana kuita chimwe chinhu, kana, asi, vakaita zvavasina uye havana nguva dzose chido chokuramba vachikurukura nomunhu akadaro. Icho chinhu chimwe chete kana iwe uchiteerera kumhan'arira wekushanda naye kubasa uye zvakanyanya kuti unzwe kuchema kwakadaro kune mumwe munhu wausingazivi zvachose, somuenzaniso, panguva imwechete. Muchiitiko chekutanga, iwe unomanikidzwa, zvakanaka, mune wechipiri, munhu wose asina maturo asina kana kukanganisa mu psyche, anoedza kurega kukurukurirana nokukurumidza sezvazvinogona. Saka, iwe hauna kufunga, asi nei iwe uchida kusateerera kune dzimwe nyunzvi dzevanhu?
Kusiya nemamwe matambudziko evanhu hazvina kufarira uye mumatambudziko akawanda kana pane matambudziko, zvino inofanira kutaridzirwa. Munhu munhu mupfuri wehupenyu hwake uye kana pane mibvunzo, iwe unoda kuzvigadzirisa iwe pachako, nokuti hapana munhu achabatsira munhu nani kupfuura iyeye. Kana iwe uchigara uchipeta matambudziko ako, izvi zvinotungamirira kukuti iyo yakaipa inowedzera uye pakupedzisira iye agere kurutivi rwechimiro chezvirwere.
Kana iwe usingadi kubatwa, zvino, kudzivirira zvirwere munguva yemberi mupfungwa, kureva, kurega kufunga nezvekusuruubha mamiriro ezvinhu nekungozvigadzirisa. Kuti uregere kusagadzikana mukati mako, asi usingagoni kugadzirisa chinokonzera kusagadzikana, unogona kungozvitaura, kana iri musikana, mutorwa kana masvingo. Nzira yakadaro (haisi iyo inobudirira) yekusunungurwa kwenguva pfupi kubva pakushungurudzika kwemweya kunobatsira chete kune mumwe munhu, asi dambudziko rinoramba riri dambudziko, asi munhu uyo wawakapa dambudziko rake mune chero zvingava nemafungiro pamusoro pako acharamba akagadzirwa, anga achida here kana kuti kwete.
Kusagutsikana nehupenyu uye nehupenyu kunogona kukonzera munhu kuti asaona chokwadi, anotanga kuparadza upenyu hwega ivo nevamwe, uye nguva inogona kushandiswa mukugadzirisa dambudziko rakasiyana inoparara. Kana iwe ukaona kuti munhu wawakasarudza kutaura naye anoedza kubva kunze kwekutaura uye ane chiso chisingagutsikane, zvinoreva kuti uri kuita chimwe chinhu chakashata uye iye zvino mubvunzo unomuka kana zvakakosha kuti utange hurukuro zvachose.
Ichokwadi kuti pane zvikonzero zvakawanda zvevanhu vasina kugutsikana, asi mumwe haafaniri kuva wehupenzi uye nguva dzose achitaura nezvekushungurudzika kwake, nokuti munhu anogara ari munhu anoteerera tsitsi anotanga kunetseka, uye kazhinji acharasikirwa nechido uye pakupedzisira anoedza kurega kutaura saizvozvo nokuda kwechimwe chikonzero. Vanhu vanoda kuteerera mashoko akanaka, uye haasi kunyadzisa, asi chokwadi chokuti kana iwe uchiteerera mashoko akanaka, kunyange mafungiro anovandudza, uye hazvina kunaka kutaura nemunhu ane tariro yakanaka kupfuura ane whiner.
Pakupedzisira, vamwe vanhu vanoedza kuzvidzora ivo pachavo nekutaura nezvechinetso, asi kwete kugadzirisa icho, asi vamwe, pane zvinopesana, vanoita uye vachibvisa, zvinoitika kuti kukurukurirana kwakaparadzwa pasina, vanongova nekunonoka kwekanguva uye havaiti zvakawanda, saka "kutaura chinetso" haisi nzira yekugadzirisa nayo uye haisi yechokwadi.
Saka, unowana sei nzira yako yekugadzirisa dambudziko munguva dzoupenyu?
Nhamo, asi hapana zvipo zvepasi rose, nokuti mamiriro ose ega ari oga, asi kune chigadziro chinonakidza chezviito, kuterera kune, iwe unogona kuzviunza iwe pedyo nechinangwa.
Chinhu chokutanga chaunofanira kuita ndechokuti uzviise iwe pachako mupfungwa yako kana kunyora pasi pepapepa nzira dzakawanda dzekugadzirisa mamiriro ekukakavara.
Zvadaro, sarudza panguva (yakawanda uye zvishoma) yaunofunga kuti ichaenda kuzogadzirisa mamiriro acho ezvinhu, sezvavanotaura, sarudza nguva, zvakanaka, edza kuzvichengeta.
Kana iwe usingakwanisi kugadzirisa dambudziko racho, edza kutsvaga nzira dzakawanda dzokugadzirisa nayo, kana yakagadziriswa hafu, ipapo ichi ndicho chikonzero, wakaedza, asi kana ukawana zvinhu zvose iwe pachako uye wakagamuchira mhinduro isina kunaka kana kuti yakanaka, unogona kugadzikana, pane chikonzero.
Saka, dambudziko rako rakaramba riripo uye iwe unotanga kushandisa simba rako nguva uye hutano pakufunga nezvemhando iyi: "Chii chaizoitika kana ..." nezvimwe zvakadaro. Zvakakosha kumira, nokuti kuzvikudza kwakadaro kunotungamirira kusina chinhu, nhoroondo yakatoitika kare, mumwe anofanirwa kufunga nezveramangwana nekuita. Tora basa remuviri, richakuvhiringidza, uye kuunza migumisiro yaro, zvakanaka, pakuguma, kuchafara.
Dzidza kuzviona kubva kune dzimwe nyika, uchikudziridza hurefu hwekuzvidzora, nokuti mumamiriro ezvinhu aya chete unomira uchichera munguva yakapfuura uye uchifunga nezvezvakaipa. Upenyu hune simba hahudi kuve husina maturo pakufunga pamusoro pezvaizoitika kana, zvakanyanya kuparadza. Iwe unofanirwa kutarisa kune zvakanaka, kunyange kana zvakaipa zvisingabvi mumusoro wako, tsvaka chimwe chinhu chakanaka chakakomberedza iwe woita kuti ive pakati pepfungwa dzako. Kuti urege kuzviparadza iwe kubva mukati, tungira mukufunga kwakanaka, nokuti unofanirwa kuva nemafungiro ekuzvidzivirira. Mamiriro emukati evanhu anongoraramira pazviri chete, saka iwe unofanirwa kuisa pfungwa pane zvakanaka.
Iwe wakakwanisa kuzvigadzirisa kune zvakanaka, zvakanaka, zvakadini kana vanhu vasina hanya vakakupoteredzai? Hungu, pane mamiriro ezvinhu apo zvakaipa hazvitiza, asi kana ukadzidza kukudziridza mararamiro akanaka (kana isina kubviswa kubvira paucheche), unogona kuderedza zvakaipa zvaunowana kubva pakutaura naye.
Vanhu vanofunga nezvevakaipa vakagara varipo uye vachava, iyo inopa uye inofanira kurapwa zvinyararire (kana, zvechokwadi, kune simba rakakwana kuti nguva dzose riteerere chimwe chinhu chisina kunaka) uye rega zvose zviende nenzeve. Kufunga zvakanaka, iwe unoda kushanda zvakaoma uye wakaoma iwe pachako zvose mupfungwa uye mumuviri, uye kazhinji uine usimbe usimbe.
Mashoko asina kururama haabatsiri zvachose, zvinoparadza uye zvinoparadza, saka unoda kuita kuti zvipfuure iwe. Kana iwe usingakwanisi kuteerera mutauriri wako wepfungwa, usapedza nguva uye mukana wekukurukurirana nezvo uye unomupupurira zvakananga kuti iwe unofarira kune dzimwe nyaya dzekutaura.
Kununura kune interlocutor pfungwa pamusoro pekunzwisisa, pfungwa dzakaipa dzinoratidzwa muupenyu hwehupenyu uye ndizvo zvinokonzera kukundikana. Kana iwe uchida kubatsira mutauriri, ratidza mhinduro dzakawanda kumamiriro ake ezvinhu uye kana asinganzwi mazano ako, ingoita shanduro hurukuro kune imwe hurukuro, sezvo zviri pachena kuti munhu wacho haafariri kugadzirisa chinetso, asi anongoda kunyunyuta ndokudaro akadzikama, uye ipapo tinoziva kuti kukurukurirana kwakadaro hakuna kutungamirira kune chero chinhu.
Saka, tinosarudza kuguma kufunga pamusoro pezvakaipa zvaunoda: Nguva dzose shanda iwe pachako, uchiedza kuisa pfungwa dzako zvishomanana pane zvakaipa, funga nezvakanaka.
Pamamiriro ezvinhu akaipa muhupenyu hwako, haufaniri kuisa pfungwa pamusoro pazvo uye edza kukanganwa zvose izvi nekukurumidza, asi paunonzwisisa zvakajeka kuti kufunga nezvezvakaipa, unogona kukuvadza muviri wako. Maonero akanaka ehupenyu ndiye shamwari inobatsira yemararamiro anoshanda. Kana pane dambudziko, unofanirwa kujekesa uye nekukurumidza kubvuma sezvazviri uye kunzwisisa, kuronga chirongwa chekuita kubviswa kwake, kutanga kwaro kushanda, asi usingakanganwi kupedza maawa maviri pazuva mumhepo itsva, uye zvakare kuisa muhupenyu hwako hwezuva nezuva , tanga kuita gymnastics kana chimwe chekuita muviri. Edza kuzvidzora kubva pane zvakaipa uye chero zvakasadaro usazviisa pamwoyo.
Kune vanhu vane mafungiro asina kunaka, unoda kukomberedza munhu wose, unofanirwa kugamuchira hupo hwavo, unonzwisisa kuti vazhinji vavo havazoiti chero chinhu chipi nechipi kuti vavandudze mafungiro avo uye mupfungwa, nokuti iri basa rakaoma. Vanosarudza kukurukura matambudziko, asi musavagadzirisa. Iwe mukukurukurirana nevanhu vakadaro unoda nenzira imwe neimwe kuedza kuunza hurukuro mumugwagwa wakanaka kana kunyange kuchinja zvakanyanya musoro wehurukuro. Usataure pane zvavanotaura uye usaedza kutora mashoko ose akanzwa nemwoyo wose, asi usanyanya kuisa pfungwa. Unogona kupa mhinduro yako kune dambudziko rekusava nemafungiro asina kunaka, asi uchishandisa kushandiswa nemasvingo, kureva, somuenzaniso, shamwari yako yakanga ine dambudziko rakadaro uye akazvisarudza nenzira inotevera, asi kana asingateereri mafungiro ako, akabva paanoedza kubatsira Shandura hurukuro kune imwe senyaya. Simba risina simba rinobva kune interlocutor, chero ripi zvaro, harina basa kwauri uye rakashata mafungiro rinogona kuva chikonzero chezvirwere, saka edza kuzvidzivirira kubva kune zvakaipa kubva kunze, uye edza kusafunga nezvazvo iwe pachako.