Mufambi wekare wechiGiriki Diogenes, dzimwe nguva achienda kumudziyo, akanga asingatyi kusurukirwa uye kuzivikanwa nokuda kwekunakidzwa kwake uye hupenyu hwevanhu zvakanaka.
Zvinyorwa kubva kuna Diogenes, mukadzi chero upi zvake akasiyana kunze kwekunge ari kune mumwe wepabonde. Nokuti chimwe nechimwe nemasikirwo anozvigadzirira, izvo kusurukirwa, muhuwandu hwakawanda, ndiyo mukana wakanaka wekuve uri woga pachako, uzivi, kuita chimwe chinhu chakanakidza uye kunyange kutosiwa mudiwa wako, uyo akasiya kwemazuva mashomanana pamba rebhizimisi. Muzvokwadi, kutya kwekusurukirwa kwakaipa. Kuisa pane imwe kana imwe masikisi, kusurukirwa kwakanyengedzwa nekuchenjera uye nokudaro kunosanganisira vakadzi mumabasa avo ekutsvaga, kuti, kunyunyuta, somuenzaniso, wehutano hwepanyama kana kuwedzera kurema, havatadzi pachivi chechokwadi.
Ndiani anosarudza ari oga?
Zvinokonzera kusurukirwa zvinowanzotanga achiri muduku. Nyanzvi dzave dzichiziva kwenguva refu kuti kukura kwepfungwa kwomwana anoremekedzwa rudo uye kutarisirwa kunonoka kudarika kune vezera rake, uye mutoro wezvakaipa zvinoramba uri muchirangaridzo kwehupenyu hwose uye unozviita iwo pachawo nenzira inoshamisa uye kunyange yakaipa.
Upenyu hwomukadzi asina kuroorwa hwakafanana nehurongwa hwekombiyuta ine hutachiona, iyo nekuda kwechikonzero chimwe kana chimwe yakagamuchirwa semucheche. Pakutanga hutachiona hahuzvichengetedzi, huvande mumvura yakadzika yehusaziva, asi panguva yakakodzera inofamba kusvika pakuzara kwayo. Kutambura kubva pakusanzwisisa vamwe, kuchinzwa mamiriro asina tariro kana kurasikirwa netariro yekusangana nemudiwa, vakadzi havanzwisisi zvinokonzera kutya, asi kurwisana navo - zvakanakisisa zvavanogona. Semuenzaniso, vanoedza kuzviratidza kuti ... mbuya vavo vaiva chirikadzi panguva yehondo, asi, sezvinozivikanwa, havana kufa nekusuwa. Kana kuti edza kufara kune vamwe, vachitarisira saizvozvo kuzviisa ivo pachavo. Kana kuti ivo vanokudziridza kutukwa mumweya yavo pachavo, zvishoma nezvishoma vanopinda muvasingazivi egoists uye samoyedok. Chero zvazvingava, vanoita kuti simba repfungwa uye rechiviri rikurwise kurwisana nechinetso chinorwadza uye, vasingazivi zvavari kuita, zvinosanganisira simba rakasimba rekudzivirira pfungwa mupfungwa. Asi dambudziko rinoramba riripo, uye mukadzi anoshandiswa kurarama nemarwadzo - kusanzwisisika, kuora mwoyo, kusava nehanya, nokuti haajai kushandiswa kwe "zvipfeko" zvakadaro kune vadzidzisi.
Nokufamba kwenguva, mamiriro acho ezvinhu anowedzera zvakanyanya uye, zvingaita sezviri pachena, hazvisi pachena nei "munhu akaremara" wekusurukirwa anotanga kuve nekutya, anotambura nokushaya hope, anotendeukira kune gynecologist nokuda kwezvisina kukodzera mukuenda kumwedzi, kunyunyuta pamusoro pemarwadzo ekudzokera shure ... Uye haafungi kuti iri chirongwa chehupenyu ne hutachiona hunoparadza imba yaro kubva mukati. Kuwedzera - zvakawanda: utano hwepfungwa hunotambura. Zviitiko zvakawanda zvinonzwisisika-zvakasununguka, zvese zviduku zvingabatana zvakakosha zvikuru, uye mamiriro ezvinhu chaizvoizvo anogona-kuguma kusuruvara.
Muenzaniso weiyu mufananidzo weLisa ane hurombo muzita rimwechete remunyori Karamzin. Musikana uyu akakurira ari oga uye muhuduku hwake haana kuona, sezvinonzi vanachipangamazano vanoti, mienzaniso yemhuri inofara. Manzwiro ake, akatsamwa nemufananidzo waErast, wakanga uri kure nematambudziko emukati uye kunyange kufunga kweamai vekare vasina kutambura nekufa kwemumwe musikana hakuna kumudzivisa kuita chisarudzo chakaipa.
Vamwe vakadzi, vachiedza kuvanza ivo pachavo kusurukirwa, kuroorwa, kurambana, kubereka vana, kubereka vana vasikana vasingaverengeki, avo ivo, kazhinji, havana chavanoita navo. Mune shoko, "vanodzivisa" kusurukirwa mune zvisina maturo. Inobatsira here? Aiwa, kwete. Nokuti mune boka revanhu unogona kunzwa zvakanyanya iwe pachako kupfuura iwe pachako.
Freud achatibatsiraSigmund Freud, baba ve psychoanalysis, akanga asiri chiremba chete, asiwo munhu ari oga. Pane imwe nguva, akagara pasi padhesiki rake uye achiongorora dambudziko rake, akarirasa, "kubuda" papepa. Nokudaro, nyanzvi dzakagamuchira imwe yenzira dzinoshanda zvikuru - psychoanalysis, iyo inoshandiswa kusvikira nhasi. Murwere, pasi pekutungamirirwa kwakasimba kwepfungwaanalyst, anotaura zvinetso zvake uye anozvirasa - izvi, mumusangano wepakutanga, urongwa hwokurapa kwekusurukirwa.
PSYCHOTHERAPEUTIC ADVICE:
- manzwiro ekuremara, manzwiro ekuzvipa mhosva uye kusakosha, kusagadzikana mune zvemweya - izvi zviratidzo zvekusurukirwa kwekusurukirwa;
- kudzora manzwiro ako, isa pfungwa dzako mukuronga;
- Kugadzirisa zvinetso sezvavari kuitika;
- Usaisa chigadziko - kubva kubva pakufungidzira kusvika pakuita chiito;
- Edza kudzivisa kuwandisa mupfungwa uye kutyisa kwekutya;
- Usarega kusurukirwa kuchipinda mumweya yevana vako;
- zvatove zvakawanda zvekuita sarudzo mukufarira hupenyu.