Hazvirevi nezve "kudzivirira" kukurukurirana, nokuti mishonga yemishonga pamuviri wemwana yakasimba uye iwe unoda kuita nekukurumidza. Kusagutsikana hakubatsiri. Vechidiki havatyi nemashoko ekutambura nekufa kwevanhu vanoshandisa zvinodhaka. Iyi ndiyo nguva - iyo ye "kusafa". Vechidiki havagoni kuwana mukana wekufa kwavo "zvechokwadi." Basa guru nderokubatsira mwana kuti ave munhu akazvimiririra, kuumba kuda, kuzvidzora uye kuzvimiririra kufunga. Ipapo mwana wacho achawedzera zvakanyanya mikana yekudzivisa simba romumwe munhu. Usamudzivisa, uone kodzero yake yekudzivirira maonero ake, kana asingabvumirane newe - pamwe zvichida achawana simba rekuti "kwete" panguva yakakodzera. Mushure mezvose, chikonzero chikuru chinoita kuti vana vatange kushandisa madhiragi ndeyechido chekugara nevarume kubva kune avo. Simba revezera rako rakakwirira zvikuru, sekuda kutya kusafarirwa mumamiriro ekuyaruka.
Asi, kuti ungabatsira sei mwana kana akashandisa zvinodhaka kwechinguva (kureva kuti, haisi imwe mhosva)? Mwana wako ari kurwara zvakanyanya - hachiri mubvunzo wekunyengera kana kusava nesimba. Chinhu chekutanga chekuita munyaya iyi ndechokuisa pfungwa dzose pamusoro pe "uye" muhukama nayo. Dana mwana wacho kuti ataure zvakakomba panguva yaanenge akangwara. Usaedza kuwana hukama kana ari pasi pesimba remishonga - hazvina maturo.
Iva akatendeseka - ndiudze zvakananga nezvekufungira kwako: "Ndinofunga kuti unoshandisa zvinodhaka." Usachema, usachema uye urege kutyisidzira-zvinogona kungomusundira kure newe. Usamirira kutendeseka kwechokwadi - kuvhiringidzwa, sekudhakwa, kunowanzoramba kuvimba kwavo.
Ingotaurira mwana nezvezvinhu zvinotevera: "Tinoziva kuti iwe unoshandisa zvinodhaka, hupenyu hwako ndewe uye une kodzero yekugadzirisa zvokuita nayo." Tinokuda uye tinozvidemba kuti iwe uri kuzvikuvadza iwe. kuitira kuti iwe ufe nekuda kwezvinodhaka, uye kana ukasarudza kuvapa, isu takagadzirira kukubatsira nenzira ipi zvayo.Kana iwe usingadi kuchinja mamiriro acho ezvinhu, yeuka kuti kunze kwekodzero yekutsanangurira mararamiro aunoita, une basa rako pachako Tinoona kukura kwewakazviitira iwe pachako uye hutano hwako hwakawedzera, matambudziko atanga kuchikoro, zvinhu zvakanyangarika kubva mumba mako, mari uye zvinodhaka zvinodhura, uye iwe haugone kuvabata zvakatendeseka, saka iwe wakatanga kuba nokuda kwezvinodhaka, pane kuva munhu wakasununguka iwe unopindwa muropa, uye haufaniri kuvimba nemushonga chete, asiwo kune vanoita zvekutengesa vanokutengesa uchetura, pane zvose izvi iwe unopindura iwe pachako. Kana ukasarudza zvinodhaka, tinomanikidzirwa kudzivirira rusununguko rwako kuitira kuti tisadzoka kwauri, kana iwe unofanira kusiya mhuri. "
Kana mwana mushure mokunge mutauriro wacho unobvumirana kudzokera kune narcologist kuti abatsirwe - chinangwa chekukurukurirana chinowanikwa. Asi, izvi zvinongova kutanga kwemugwagwa. Usamirira kuti zvive nyore kukunda.
Zvisingabatsiri ndezve nzira dzokurwisa kusvuta kwezvinodhaka, sekuvhara muimba kana kuti "kuendeswa kunze kune imwe guta". Vabereki vechidhakwa vanofanira kuyeuka kuti havagone kuchinja mamiriro acho pakarepo - chisarudzo chokuzvidira.
Mumhuri umo mwana anoshandisa zvinodhaka, chinhu chinokosha kuvabereki hachisi chokubatana nehosha yacho. Kuvanza dambudziko kune vamwe iko kukanganisa kukuru. Kana hama neshamwari usingazivi nezvekuvimba kwevana vako - hazvingave zvakaoma kwaari kuti "atore" kubva kwavari mari kumutengo unotevera. Taurira mwana pamusoro pemishonga yekushandisa zvinodhaka kuvabereki veshamwari dzake-zvichida ichaponesa mumwe munhu kubva kune dambudziko kana kusvinudza meso ake kune dambudziko riripo. Nzira yekubatsira mwana kana akashandisa zvinodhaka
Usasarudza mwana wechinetso chake - kuchikoro, nemapurisa, zvikwereti, nezvimwewo. Izvi zvinomurambidza iye zvekukurudzira kurwisana nechirwere ichi. Nhengo dzemhuri umo mishonga inorarama, kune dambudziko guru reku "shandiswa". Vabereki vane hanya vanosarudza mazano asina kunaka: havatauri nemwana, nezvekuvimba kwake, vachitya kukuvadza manzwiro ake, kuvanda kune vamwe kuti kune mishonga yemishonga mumhuri, kugadzirisa zvinetso kwaari. Zvose zvirongwa mumhuri zvakavakwa nechinoshandiswa kune "vanorwara" - vashanyi havakokwi, mapepa mapepa haatengi, nezvimwewo. Vamwe vana mumhuri vanofanira kuzviita "vakanyanyisa kupfuura mvura uye pasi peuswa" kuitira kuti "vasapinda pasi," nokuti mhuri ine shungu dzakadaro. Zvakakosha kuyeuka kuti nzira yakadaro inongowedzera chirwere ichi.
Iyo yakanyanya kugadzirisa iyo inodhaka yekudhakwa kwemishonga inogona kuitika ndeye chido chake chinopisa chokudzoka, nokuti kushandiswa kwemishonga pamuviri wemwana kunoparadza. Vabereki havagoni kuita izvi kwaari. Chinhu chimwe chete icho mishonga yemishonga inogona kubatsira chaizvo ndeyekuchinja maitiro avo pachavo. Zvakakosha kubvisa mutoro wekushushikana kwemwana uye kumira kudzivirira kubva pamigumisiro yakaipa yekushandisa zvinodhaka. Izvi zvinomubatsira kuti aone zvakajeka kuti kuvimba kunobata sei hupenyu hwake. Bvumira mushandi wezvinodhaka kunyura pasi, ipapo pane mukana wekuti achada kumusundira kure nekushambira kunze. Mwana wechidiki anofanira kuziva kuti kushanduka maari kwakaitika kunyange pahutano hwepanyama. Achiziva izvi uye achida kubva kunze, mwana achatsvaga nzira inogadziriswa yokubvisa kusagadzikana. Kunzwa kubva kumwana "Ndinoda kusungira" haufaniri kumhanyira musoro kuti amutsvake kliniki iri nani. Regai atore matanho okutanga pachake - iye achashanyira narcologist munharaunda. Asi, kana akakukumbira kuti uende pane zvaunokurukura - usaramba.
Saka, takakurukura kuti tingabatsira sei mwana kana akashandisa zvinodhaka. Asi usakanganwa nezvehupenyu hwako. Ndezvipi zvinokurudzira kuti uwane mwana kana vabereki vake vachipedza nguva yavo yose vachirwa kurwisana nechirwere chake? Kurarama muitiro wakadaro usingaiti, haugoni kuita kuti mwana ari kuyaruka kuti hupenyu husina kunaka hwakanaka. Muratidze kuti anoshaiwa zvakadini.
Parizvino, kune mazita mashoma emapoka akasiyana-siyana ekubatsira kune hama dzevashandisi vezvinodhaka, vakavakwa mufananidzo weboka revanhu vasingazivikanwi doro. Shandisa zvakanaka pane zvakaitika kune vanhu vari kurwisana nechinetso chimwechete sewe.