Mune imwe yemapurogiramu anonakidza pane imwe nyaya pamusoro pemusangano wokutanga wemurume nemukadzi. Vakabvuma kubvunza pamusangano mibvunzo mitatu inofarira munhu wose.
Anobvunza mibvunzo: "Unofarira maruva api?" Ndiwe aniko nechiratidzo chezodhiac? Unofarira kudya kupi? "
Anobvunza mibvunzo: "Munharaunda ipi inzvimbo yako? Ndeipi chinonzi motokari yako? Mari yakawanda iri mubhadha yako yebhangi? "
Vakadzi vakawanda pazuva rekutanga vanofananidza kwete heroines romunharaunda zvachose, asi vamwe vashandi vebhangi vanoita chisarudzo chekupa chikwereti. Nokudaro, varume vazhinji vanoita bhizinesi rakadaro vanoita kuti zvikurumidze kusiya.
Kazhinji, pamubvunzano wekutanga, kubvunzurudzwa kunoitwa nekuchiva, kuchifananidza nemuongorori anonyatsoedza, kuedza kuratidza chiremera chavo kumudzidzisi, kuputika pasina kumira. Zvose zvakatorwa pamwe hazvigoni kukurudzira kusimba kwehukama. Sezvinoratidzwa nekutsvakurudza kwepfungwa, muminiti imwechete yekutanga mafungiro omunhu anoumbwa.
Zvadaro pfungwa iyi inogona kuratidzirwa kana kutsigirwa, inotora nguva yakawanda. Nzira yekuita musangano wekutanga usati wapera muminiti, asi ingadai iri kuenderera mberi kweukama hweshamwari kana rudo.
Sezvo mutemo, tinoda avo vakaita sesu. Nevanhu vakadaro zviri nyore kutaura uye zviri nyore kuwirirana. Vanhu, avo varipo kuvimba nekutaura kwakanaka, vanotanga kuzvibata nenzira yakafanana. Inosvika kuitira kuti ufadze mumwe munhu waunoda kuva saiye. Uye hazvidikanwi kuti izvi zviti hongu kuburikidza neshoko rimwe nerimwe kumudzimai wake, uye kopanidza zvese zvaanoita sezvinoita monkey.
Zvakakwana kuvaka sangano pamusoro pezvaanoda uye kuwana nzvimbo yakafanana. Usatsamwiswa kana pasina maonero, unoda munhu wausina naye uye ikoko hakuzovi chinhu chakafanana? Pane dzakawanda zvakavanzika zvekutaurirana iwe unogona kufarira munhu waunoda, uyewo kunzwisisa kana uchida kuramba uchikurukura naye. Ngatitarisei zvakavanzika zvekukurukurirana uye unyanzvi hwemumwe anofarira uye anofadza.
Sarudza musoro wehurukuro
Zvinokosha mumusangano wokutanga kuti urambe uine ukama ndiyo musoro wehurukuro. Saka munhu anoona kuti unofadza sei kwaari. Kunyanya kukunda-kukunda sarudzo ichave iri kutaura pamusoro pemunhu iye pachake. Asi munyaya iyi inopisa zvakakosha kutaura chete izvo zvinonakidza kune interlocutor, zvakakosha kwaari, uye kwete kungotaura chete zvinonakidza iwe. Somuenzaniso, pamusoro pebhengi rake rebhangi, nezvebasa, kana iye asiri munhu anozvidzivirira workaholic. Vakadzi chete vanotadza kuti pazuva ravanoshanduka kuva muchengeti wevanoshanda vanoona kuti ndeupi mutungamiri uye kuti anoona zvakadini zvakataurwa. Zvechokwadi, mibvunzo yakadaro inoda kujekeswa, asi zvakanakisisa kuzviita zvishoma nezvishoma uye unobtrusively.
Zvitendero
Vanhu vanokoshesa zvikuru zvitendero zvavo, uye kana ukawana chimwe chinhu chinonakidza uye chakakosha kune mutauriri, unogona kuva iye munhu anofarira zvikuru. Nokuti mutauriri wehutano unogona kuva chido chekubatsira vamwe, basa, hukama nevanhu, kuda mhuka, rudo, kubudirira uye zvimwe zvakadaro. Somuenzaniso, unogona kuwana kubva kune interlocutor kukosha kwaanopa nguva.
Iwe unonzwisisa izvi nokukurumidza zvikuru kana iwe wakanonoka kwezuva, kana ichi ichikosha kwaari. Ratidza kubatana kwako nemashoko anoti: "Ndinonyatsonzwisisa iwe, nokuti handidi ini kana mumwe munhu achinonoka." Iwe, saka, shandura kune zvaanotenda, uye mukukurukurirana unounza munharaunda yemafungiro ako. Kana iwe uchikwanisa kuwana mutauro wakajairika, ipapo mutauriri iwe unogona kuita zvakanyanya kunaka. Uye kwenguva yakareba haazodi kurega kutaurirana newe.
Kubva pamafungiro akadaro, pamusangano wekutanga unofanirwa kuvaka hurukuro pamusoro pako pachako panguva dzinobatanidza nehutano hwemutauriri. Kana iye achiita mitambo, ndiudze nezvemitambo yako yezvinobudirira, kana iwe uri kure nemitambo, saka usazvitaurira kusvikira iwe uine zvimwe zvido zvinoputika.
Chiitiko chako pachako
Nyeredzi mbiri, vanamukoti vaviri, vaviri vanoona mabhadhareji vanosangana pamwe chete, vachakurumidza kuwana mutauro unozivikanwa. Zvinogonawo kuitika kana ukasangana nomunhu akadzidza newe iwe yunivhesiti kana kuchikoro. Zvakaitika zvako pachako kana "mapepa" zvinopindirana uye munzvimbo idzi dzepakati-soro zvinova chinhu che "kufanana", rubatsiro rwakafanana. Nokuda kwechikonzero ichi, rudo mumasangano ezvidzidzo uye kubasa zviri nyore. Kunyange zviitiko zvakajairika, zvakajeka zvinobatsira kutanga ushamwari uye kuvimba.
Iwe uchayeuka shamwari dzakafanana, mamiriro ezvinhu akafanana awakasangana nawo, nzvimbo dzawakambove uye nezvakadaro. Pane imwe nhanho yekukurukurirana, kugunun'una muchibvumirano, shandisa mitsara munhaurirano, iyo ichaita kuti zvive pachena kuti iwe unotarisana kune imwe yega faira ne interlocutor. Kana pasina ruzivo rwekubatana, iwe unogona kuzvigadzira nyore nyore, somuenzaniso, shanyira chiitiko chemasangano kana yemitambo.
Shandisa musangano wekutanga mune imwe nzvimbo inenge isingakanganwiki, kuitira kuti iwe pave paya uite, pamwe nekukwanisika, pamwe chete manzwiro. Yeuka kuti hapana chinofanira kuputsa musangano uyu, kana achitya kutamba neparachute, zvino musangano uyu hauzoita seanobudirira. Chinhu chikuru ndechekuti munhu waunoda kufadza naye, akazviratidza nenzira yakanakisisa, uye haagoni kupinda mumamiriro ezvinhu apo anonzwa asina kuchengeteka.
Gadzira hurukuro
Pamusangano wokutanga vanhu havazivi mumwe nomumwe, asi vanonzwa vachida kudziviswa. Nokuda kwechikonzero ichi, kukurukurirana kunogona kutungamirira kumugumo wakafa. Asi kazhinji hatisi kurega kukurukurirana kwemazuva ano kusvibiswa kunoshandura hukuru hukurukuro. Uye zvinosvika nokuti hatizivi nzira yekugadzirisa hurukuro, tinokumbira mibvunzo isina kururama. Mibvunzo inotanga inotanga nemashoko anoti "nguva", "sei", "nei", "nei uye nezvimwe zvakadaro, uye zvinoda mhinduro yakawedzerwa.
Pakutanga kwekukurukurirana, mibvunzo yakasununguka ndeyechokwadi. Kana iwe ukabvunza mubvunzo kune waunofambidzana naye "Sei akasarudza iyi motokari?", Achatanga kutaura nemufaro pamusoro pemotokari yake, uye naizvozvo unogona kukurudzira mutauriri kuti aenderere mberi nehurukuro. Kana iwe uchibvunza mibvunzo yakavharwa iyo inoratidza mhinduro isina chokwadi yekuti "hongu" kana "kwete, somuenzaniso," Iyi ndiyo motokari inodhura here? ", Zvadaro kukurukurirana kwakadaro kuchakurumidza kusvika kune mugumo wakafa.
Heano mienzaniso yeimwe nzira yakasiyana
- Zvinoratidzika kwandiri kuti basa romutori wenhau rinonakidza zvikuru, ndiudzei nei wakafarira basa iri? Mubvunzo wakashama.
- Unoda basa rako here? - Mubvunzo wakavharwa.
Mibvunzo yakasununguka yakakodzera kuwana ruzivo, uye mibvunzo yakavharwa yakakodzera kujekesa iyi ruzivo.
Kukwanisa kuteerera
Kana wako interlocutor ari munhu anotaura manzwiro ake pakarepo, munhu anoshingaira, zvino zvichava zvakaoma kwaari kuti ataure nemunhu asingafungi anovanza manzwiro ake. Vanhu vanotarisira kufanana kwakadaro, ndizvo zvavanoziva kuti vanonzwisiswa. Kuenderera mberi kubva pane izvi, edza kuchinja kune kufamba, zviratidzo uye chiso chemudiwa. Uye hazvidikanwi kukopa zvinhu zvose zvinoshandiswa nomutauriri, zvinongoraramirawo zvakare.
Kana iwe uchitaura nemunhu ane hasha, edza kutsigira mazwi ako nemitauro, taura nekukurumidza, tsanangura manzwiro ako zvakajeka. Nevanhu vanofarira vanofarira kutaura navo, imwe yehutano hwakabatanidza, havatauri zvishoma pamusoro pavo, asi panguva imwechete iyo vanorega mutauriri wavo anzwisise kuti anofarira kwaari, zvakakosha kwaari uye kunzwisiswa naye. Iko unyanzvi hunoti unhu hunoteerera kuteerera. Munhu haangorambi anyerere, anoteerera mutauriri, asiwo anokurudzira mumwe wake. Izvi zvose zvinoumba hukama hwakanaka hwehukama pakati pevanhu vaviri uye kuvimba. Zvinyorwa zvishomanana zvaunogona kushandisa zvakanaka.
Kudzokorora
Isa mazwi omumwe wako mumitsara yako "Iwe unofunga kuti mukadzi haafaniri kushanda here?" Dzokorora mazwi ekupedzisira emumwe musikana wezwi-neshoko. Edza kudzokorora nemashoko ekubvunzurudza mazwi mashoma anotaurwa nemumwe wako.
Kudzokorora
Chinyorwa chiduku chemashoko omumwe wako. Edza kuumba mu-laconic zvawakataura naye. Tevera manzwiro ako pachako, asi tevera manzwiro emumwe wako.
Tsanangudzo
Mutsara wekufungidzira kwezvokwadi yezvakataurwa. Bvunza kujekesa mibvunzo, "Iwe unogona kutaura izvi nokuti ...?", "Iwe unogona kunge uchireva kuti ...?". Shandisa nzira yekufungidzira kwakagadziriswa kana mibvunzo yekuongorora: "Zvimwe ungada ku ...?"
Kuenzanisa
Kutarisa dambudziko rakasiyana - "Iwe wati haugoni kutyaira motokari, asi ndinoona kuti iwe unofambisa sei zvigaro zvemotokari?".
Refinement
"Paunotaura nezve ... chii chaunacho?". Uchishandisa maitiro aya, unogona kubatsira kuswedera pedyo kune imwe nguva nokukurumidza, kusimbisa kuvimba, uye kuwirirana nomunhu mumwe chete muhutano hwakafanana. Saka, kufarira kune mumwe munhu, unogona kuzvidzora uye unonzwa uine chivimbo. Yeuka mutemo unokosha wekuti interlocutor, chioni ichi, chinoratidza kukanganisa kwedu uye chiremerera chedu.
Iye zvino tinoziva nezvezuva rokutanga: chakavanzika chekubudirira, teerera zvakavanzika zvekubudirira, uye kana uchikwanisa kuratidza unhu hwakanakisisa uyo mumwe wako anozviona iwe pachako, ipapo iwe uchagamuchira musoro wevakadzi vanoyemura uye vanofarira munyika.