Zvingave ndakagadzirira kuva mum? Ndiri kururamisa nemwana wangu here? Mwana wangu anondibata sei? Nokukurumidza kana kuti mberi munhu wose ari kuzvibvunza mibvunzo iyi. Takabvunza nyanzvi yepfungwa yemhuri Maria Kashin kuti ataure nezvemazuva anokosha muupenyu hwemukadzi (kugadzirira musangano nemwana, kuberekwa uye dzidzo). Zvichida, nyaya ino ichaita kuti iwe ufunge uye uchinje maitiro ako.
Zvechokwadi, hazvina kumbopera nguva refu kuva mai. Saka hupenyu hwemukadzi hunorongwa, kuti hutano hwemamai mune chero zvipi zvacho hunoratidzwa kune vose vamiririri vehafu yakanaka yevanhu. Kunyange kana iye zvino iwe usingakwanisi kuzvifungidzira iwe nomufambi, bhodhoro uye mwana paanenge akagadzirira, hazvirevi kuti mugore, maviri, matatu, gumi, iwe haunganzwi kuti iwe unoda chaizvo kuchinja hupenyu hwako hwose pamusangano nomunhu anokosha kupfuura mamwe ose muupenyu hwako . Nzira yekuziva sei kuti wakagadzirira (uye kana uchifanira kumirira nguva ino)? Nzira yekuve amai vakanaka sei? Nzira yekuziva sei mwana ane hafu-shoko? Ngatiedze kupindura izvi nemimwe mibvunzo ...
NDINODA MWANA
Kana zvisati zvamboitika kuda kwakadaro kwakamuka pakati pevakadzi nezera remakore makumi maviri nemakumi maviri nemaviri, zvino mazuva ano amai vanogona kunge vari "vakwegura", - vanoti nyanzvi yemagariro edzimhuri Maria Kashina. - Vasikana vezana remakore rechi20 vane pfungwa dzepfungwa dzakagadzirira kuva amai mumakore 27-30. Uye izvi zvakajairika. Basa revakadzi munharaunda rakashanduka: Tinofanira kuwana imwechete kana yepamusoro dzidzo, tishande, tishandure hutano hwakasiyana-siyana hwepabonde uye tobva tasarudza kuva amai. Mukuwedzera, uwandu hwemishonga yemazuva ano inobvumira vakadzi kubereka muna 30, uye muna 40, uye kunyange mumakore makumi mashanu. Asi mukutsvaga kukura kwebasa, dzimwe nguva tinokanganwa nezvebasa guru revakadzi, rakagara ratemerwa nemasikirwo pacharo. Kuva amai kune zvose zvakaoma uye zviri nyore panguva imwe chete. Upenyu hwako huchachinja. Ichi ichokwadi. Asi panzvimbo yekushanda kubasa, iwe uchava nemufaro wekutanga kunyemwerera, zino rekutanga, danho rokutanga recheche wako, uye panzvimbo yekodhi anocherechedza iwe unonzwa shoko rokuti "amai". Hungu, uye kuberekwa kwomwana hakuiti kuguma kwebasa rako (hazvisi kuitika kugara kumba kusvikira musi wegumi nemasere ekuberekwa kwomwana wako), kana kuchikoro (hapana munhu akadzivisa zororo rokudzidza), kana kuti varaidzo (vanasekuru, vanababa vanoita kuti vabatsire kuenda cinema, restaurant uye shopu, uye negore iwe unogona kutotanga kuenda kuzororo). Pakati pemabhonasi ekuberekwa - hutano hutsva hwakakwana (vakadzi vakawanda pashure pekuonekwa kwecheche vanotanga kuona hutano hwemudzimai). Kazhinji, kana vana vaduku vasingakugumbudzi, kana iwe kazhinji uchisimuka pahwindo nevana vevana uye ma teyi - nguva yako yasvika. Uye kusava nechokwadi uye zvimwe kutya zvinowanzoitika. Upenyu hwako hahubvumi, hwakazadzwa nechinangwa chitsva! "
Ndine CHAKADZWA ...
Zvinoratidzika kune vakawanda kuti mamiriro ehumai anobvumira kuva nyore uye kutsungirira, kugara kumba, kutarisira vana uye kuchengetedza moto mumhuri yemhuri. Asi vakadzi vose vakasiyana zvose muhutano, mune unhu, uye mune zvavanofunga pamusoro pedzidzo yakakodzera yevana. "Kana, mushure mokuranga mwana wenyu, munonzwa uine mhaka, saka iwe uri amai vakakodzera, vanogona kufungidzira uye kufungidzira," anodaro nyanzvi yezvepfungwa Maria Maria Kashina. - Vose vana vakasiyana: mumwe munhu anoona nzira yekutaura chete, munhu anogona kubvumirana nemumwe munhu, uye mumwe munhu anoda kurasikirwa nemamiriro ezvinhu zvakasiyana. Kana iwe uchigara uchingopa mwana wako, tarisa hurumende yake, unomuidza mazita ane rudo, kazhinji simbi uye kumuda zvikuru - iwe unongova amai vanozonaka. Dzidzidze kamwe chete. Kusuruvara uye kusanzwisisika zvachose. Kuti unzwisise nzira yekukurukurirana zviri nani nemwana wako, enda kumudzidzi wepfungwa kana edza kuongorora maitiro ako. Wakaita rini kuti uwane kunzwisisa nekuwana zvakanakisisa? Wakaita sei uye unoti chii? Yeuka izvi nguva uye uzviise mubasa. Uyezve: usazvizvidza pachako nokuti iwe unoenda pane imwe nzvimbo usina mwana. Iwe haufaniri kupedza maawa makumi maviri nemaviri nemwana. Anoda dzimwe hama (mbuya, vanasekuru, vanasekuru, vanamunini). "
CHII CHINOFUNGA NEZVEI?
Mwana wezera remakore ekutanga haasi mukana wekutaura pamusoro pezvakaitika uye kuzvidya mwoyo, uye zvakakosha kuti amai vechidiki vasapotsa nguva apo mwana anoda rubatsiro rwake uye kutsigirwa, uye apo, pane zvinopesana, anoda zvakasununguka. Kubvunza mibvunzo inobatsira hakuna maturo - haunzwisisike kunzwa kubva kumwana wako kunyatsopindura. Vadzidzi vekuchikoro vanowanzoedzwa kuburikidza nekudhira uye kutamba. Hazvina kunonoka kuzviita.
Mufananidzo-muedzo "Amai + Ini"
Mwana wacho anokokwa kuti azvikweke iye naamai vake. Ngatitarisei kakawanda pane zvakasiyana-siyana:
a) Amai nevana vari pakati pehizha, vanobatana nemaoko, zviyero zvakaenzana, zvakavezwa muhupenyu hwakajeka-kuratidza mavara - iyi ndiyo nzira yakarurama inoratidza kuvimba uye kubatana mumhuri, hukama hwakanaka uye hunofadza mumba. Congratulations!
b) Amai nevana vanoratidzwa sechinhu chimwe chete, zviyero zvinoita sezvibatana - ichi chifananidzo chinotaura nezvehukama hwepedyo pakati pako nechechecheche, haazvizvizivi somunhu akazvimirira, akazvimiririra. Uye iwe? Pamwe inguva yekureva "ini" panzvimbo yecheche "isu"?
c) Amai vakafukidzwa zvikuru, uye mwana wacho haana kufanana uye ari kure. Izvi zvinowanikwa mumhuri umo amai vanobatana nemhando yezvidzidzo zvekudzidzisa kana kushandisa nguva shoma nevana. Kana iwe usingakwanisi kurega basa rako (zvichida hazvidikanwi), edza kuedza kwemaminitsi makumi mashanu pazuva kuti upe mwana wako chisina kutsauswa) kumabasa epamba uye foni kunyange mupfungwa!
d) Mwana anotorwa, uye amai vashoma uye vari voga: izvi zvinoratidza kuti amai vari mumhuri vari pamabasa echipiri uye havana simba rakakodzera. Inguva yekuratidza kuti ndiani ndiye tenzi weimba!
Kana nhamba yako iri muchimiro isingaverengeki uye "yakabvarurwa" kubva kune mumwe nemumwe (zvinyorwa muna uye d), usakurumidza kufungidzira. Tarisa mamwe mifananidzo yemwana wako, zvichida dambudziko harisi mukutambudzika kwepfungwa, asi mukukwanisa kurasa zvinhu pane pepa.
Ngwarira mavara emifananidzo yacho: inofungidzirwa kuti kunyanya mavara, zviri nani. Asi vanenge vose vana panguva imwe chete vanoda mavara ose akajeka madota. Uye izvi hazvizi chiratidzo chematambudziko matsvuku uye epfungwa, vana chete vanokwezva nekusiyana nechechena kana kuti vanokurudzirwa nechido ("Ko kana ndikazadza mufananidzo wose nemuvara uyu chete?").
Mutambo-muedzo "Assorted guests."
Tamba nemwana musi wekuzvarwa kwake. Vashanyi vakauya kwaari (hama neshamwari), uye ivo vanofanira kunge vakagara patafura imwe chete. Uyo mwana achadyara pedyo naye, iye ari pedyo nekuwedzerwa kwaari. Zviri pachena kuti vashanyi vanogona kunge vari amai, baba, vanasekuru nababa, shamwari, matoyi, nezvimwewo. Kuti uwedzere kufadza, gara patafura uye uise makate nemahwendefa.
CHIKAMU CHEAMAMAMI AKAFARA
Ira Lukyanova, aimbova solo solo yeboka "Brilliant"
Kubva muboka re "Brilliant" ndakasiya nechisarudzo chokuzvipira ini zvachose kumhuri, sezvo ini nomurume wangu takaronga mwana. Zvechokwadi, mwedzi yokutanga yekudzivirira yakabuda nenzira imwe neimwe isina kuziva. Zvose zvakauya zvishoma nezvishoma. Ndinoyeuka apo Anechka akazvarwa, handina kukwanisa kusarudza zita rake kwenguva refu. Ndisati ndaberekwa, ndaida kumudana kuti Sonia. Asi pandakaona mwanasikana wangu, ndakaona kuti akanga asiri Mwanakomanaya. Apo Anechka akanga atangotanga kuongorora nyika, iye, chaizvoizvo, akaita zvose zvaisakwanisika: zvose zvakanga zvichimuka, zvichitsanura ... Zvechokwadi, handina kumubvumira izvi, asi iye akanga asina kunyanya kuoma naye.
Anastasia Tsvetayeva, actress
Pandakava nepamuviri, hupenyu hwangu hwakashandurwa ne12 degrees. Mushure mezvose, kuva mai, hazvina kunonoka kuongorora hupenyu hwako hwekare. Ndakaramba kupfura mune mamwe mafirimu akafanirwa, nokuti ndakaona kuti kubvisa mwana pasina kunyanya kusakosha kunokosha kwandiri. Uye, iwe unoziva, pane nguva apo ini ndakatanga kunyatsofunga kuti ndaizova amai. Ndakatarisa mwana wacho pamakombiyuta akacherechedza panguva ye ultrasound uye akaona kuti akashanduka. Uye ndakasarudza kusaziva hutano hwemwana. Ndaifara chaizvo kuti ndine mwana. Ndiri kufara kwazvo, kutarisira uye kwete kunyatsomesa amai.
Olga Prokofieva, actress
Imwe heroine mumutambo Maugham akati: "Vamwe vedu tiri vakadzi, vamwe vanaamai." Ndiri pamwe zvakare kune amai, shure kwezvose. Uye izvi zvakajairika. Apo ndaive nepamuviri naSasha, ndakanzwa, chii chiri mufaro - kutakura mumwana wacho pachako! PaSasha wangu zvino yava nguva yekuva, dutu nemanzwiro. Kune kuputika uye kuputika muhukama hwedu. Iye, sevakomana vose, vane usimbe dzimwe nguva. Gamuchirai pfungwa yemurume uye tsanangai maitiro emwanakomana wake, kuzviisa panzvimbo yake, zvisati zvisingabviri, nokuti bhurume nevakadzi vanobata nenzira dzakasiyana. Saka ndinoedza kusaisa kumanikidza.