Pakazosvika makore mashanu nemashanu kusvika matanhatu, iyo "yakanaka" yakatogadzirira 90%. Izvi zvinoitika sei? Musikana anowa mukuda na papa, anotorwa kwaari. Zvinonzwisisika, izvi zvinoitika zvisingazivikanwi. Iyi ndiyo nzira yakaoma iyo Electra complex, inozivikanwa mune zvepfungwa, inozviratidza. Musikana wacho anogona kunyange kutaura pachena achiti: "Baba, batai ini!" Anotanga kuva negodo kwaari kuna amai vake, achiita zvose zvaanogona kuti ave saiye. Nokudaro utsinye hutsva hunowanikwa nemakumbo emadzimai angu nemakumbo emvere, coquetry. Vose vane chinangwa chimwe chete: kufadza munhu anokosha zvikuru munyika - baba vangu vanodikanwa. Zvepabonde zvinyorwa ndezvechokwadi, ipapo, asi hazvizivikanwi nemwana. Ndeipi inofanira kuva munhu akakodzera - verenga mubhuku redu.
Ikutanga uye inonyanya kukosha
Kana vabereki vakawana mazwi akakodzera - dutu remanzwiro rinopfuurira, mwana anorangarirwa pamusoro pezvirongwa zvake zvechikwata, asi mufananidzo wepapa semuenzaniso wemunhu unoramba uripo. Asi kana baba vane chirwere chekudhakwa, iye ane utsinye, anomutsa ruoko rwake kuna amai vake, haaoni musikana wake - kazhinji, kure nemusoro wakanaka wemhuri - murume achasarudza murume chero zvakadaro mumufananidzo uye zvakafanana. Ichokwadi ndechokuti chinhu chisingatauri hachiparadzanisa zviito uye mufambiro wepapa pane zvakanaka nezvakaipa. Kusiyana naamai, musikana anomugamuchira sezvaari. Kunyanya kana baba vachipa mwana izvo zvose zvinodiwa kuti vafare. Nokudaro, musoro wemhuri inogona kuisa maitiro avo pamusi wekuvhara vareniki, asi yakanyanyisa uye yakanyanyisa kudzoka kubva kubasa. Kana kuti uve murume wevakadzi, shandisa husiku huri panze kunze kweimba, asi pakupera kwevhiki unotanga nemwanasikana wenyoka inobhururuka. Uye mune izvozvo, uye mune imwe nyaya, zvakakosha zvepapa mumusoro wemucheche hazviisi pasi pekunetseka.
Uye ndinoziva zvakanaka ne ... Kunhuwa
Iwe pakupedzisira wakasangana nemumwe wavari kurota-iyo chaiyo kopi yemapapa kana kwete. Asi chimwe chinhu chakashata. Zvichida, iwe hauna kubvumirana pamusoro pekunhuwira kwemuviri, masayendisiti anoti. Zvisikwa zvakagara zvatarisa zvose: izvi zvinenge zvisinganzwisisiki zvinonhuwira zvinotakura ruzivo rwezvemagetsi, iyo uropi, semakombiyuta, inoverenga. Saka, kana mumwe wako akakodzera kunhuhwira, ruzivo rwezvechimiro chakasiyana zvakanyanya kubva kwauri. Izvi zvinowedzera mikana yevana vane utano, hwakasimba. Asi "kushandiswa kwemakemikari" hausi kure nemufaro wemhuri. Pheromones inogona kumutsa mafungiro, kuratidza kuti ndiani akakodzera kubereka, asi ivo havasi mazano pakusarudza shamwari yehupenyu.
Mumufananidzo uye kufanana ...
Mhuri yaAlena inogona kutumidzwa hafu yakapera: Baba vehanzvadzi yangu yakanga yakanyatsosvika pakati pehupenyu hwake - kusvika pamakore gumi. Akabva aenda kune imwe mhuri. Asi Alena chaiyo gore gare gare baba vake vokutanga vakaonekwa - vakanaka uye vane hanya. Chii chakashamiswa naAlena Mama, apo Gosh, mwanasikana akasarudzwa, akanga akafanana nababa vake. Akange asingakwanisi kufungidzira hupenyu husina tsvina uye akanga achishanda munguva yechando. "Ndinongomuda, uye baba vangu havana chavanoita nazvo," shamwari yake yakakurudzira amai vake. "Uye pamusoro pekufungidzira kwaPapin pakushambidza muhombe, ndakanga ndisingazivi." Hazvigoneki kuti Alain akafukura vatasvi vemabhiza maererano nemirairo yekufananidza - haasi kufanana nababa vake. Asi chisarudzo mukufarira Goshi hachikwanisi kunzi chiitiko. Pfungwa dzomwana asinganzwisisiki yakafanana ne "kufukura" papa, akaturika zita rokuti "rakanaka" pamufananidzo, uye achiitumira kumadzika ayo. Musikana wacho anokura, uye mufananidzo wenguva yemberi sarudzo inotanga kuvaka pasina kuziva. Electra complex is unable to grow. Kana asingabvumirwi panguva, hupenyu hwehupenyu hunogona kufanana nekufamba mumitambo yegehena. Anonzwisisa zvakakwana kuti haafariri vanhu vakakwana, kuti makaro chinhu chakaipa, uye zvingava zviri nani kana mudiwa wake aine dzidzo yepamusoro uye imba kupfuura mudzidzi ari murombo. Musikana wacho anoita zvose zvaanogona kuti asarudze varume vakanaka, asi asingazivi uye anonyatsomudhonza kune avo vanoita sababa vanoonekwa uye unhu. Uye kubva kwavari anoedza kufambisa rudo irworwo uye shungu dzaakadzingwa muhuduku hwake. Zvakafanana nekushandura pfungwa. Munyaya iyo apo munhu wose ari kutaura achiti: "Ndiye akadhakwa zvakakwana, mukadzi ane simba, unogona sei kugara naye?" - musikana wacho anoita seanonzwisisa izvi, asi haagoni kuzvibatsira.
Kubva pakatarisana ...
Muhupenyu hwaKatya, Papa aigara aripo. Iye haasi munhu akaipa, asi haana kumbove ari mukuru mumhuri yavo. Paiva nenguva apo aida kunwa, saka akanga achizosiya mhuri kune mumwe mukadzi, uye zvakaitika, iye akanyangarika kubva muupenyu hwavo kwemavhiki mashoma. Mudzimai Catherine - zvakanyatsopesana nababa vake: haanwi, haasvuti, ane bhizinesi rake, ari oga. Chii chinoitika, nokukurumidza kana kuti gare gare murume achava sababa? Kwete chaizvo. Munyaya iyi, pfungwa yakashandurwa. Sekuyaruka, musikana anonzwisisa kuti ndiani asingadi kuona naye, uye anotsvaka murume wake "kubva kune imwe nzvimbo". Asi, zvisingaiti sezvingaita sokuti, michato yakadaro inoparadzwa kakawanda pane hukama hune rudo. Chinhu chacho ndiko kusakwanisa kugutsikana. Murume akakodzera, kusiyana nebaba vake, haatore "kubata". Kwenguva yakati, zvinhu zvose zvakanaka, asi zvishoma nezvishoma mukadzi anotanga kuvharidzira kushungurudza pane zviduku. Panguva imwecheteyo, inoratidzika kunge inobviswa nemasimba ezvakaipa. Murume anorega kuziva mudzimai wake uye anotumira kurambana. Mune kuti musikana anoteerera kune zvakasiyana nababa, kunewo zvakakodzera amai. Kuti anyevere mwana wekukanganisa, amai vangu vanoti: "Tarisai, baba vako chii - zvakare akadzungairazve." Mushure memazwi aya, sarudza murume mumurume akafanana naiye anotambudza mhuri, haadi.
Vasina baba ...
Zvakanaka, kana baba vakanaka mumhuri uye vanova vakanaka kumwanasikana wavo. Asi baba vanoyevedza dzimwe nguva nemoto hamungawana - zvinosvika, rombo kune avo vakakurira vasina iye? Kwete chaizvoizvo. Muchiitiko ichi, varume havagoni kurega kubva pachigadziro chero zvakadaro. Zvichava sei zvichienderana neamai, iko, pamafungiro ake kuvanhu, kunyanya kuna baba vemusikana. Kana amai vasingakwanisi kungwarira kuti vadzivirire pamashoko asina maturo pamusoro pake, pfungwa dzomwana dzinogona kubvisa maonero: "Vanhu vanounza kutambura chete!". Nokudaro - kusagadzikana nevakomana vakasiyana uye kuongororwa kwezvikamu "korona yekubata". Asi, kana musikana asina baba, mufananidzo wemurume akakodzera kwaari anogona kuva munhu ane ushamwari hwemhuri anotarisira mwana. Baba vakawanda, asi kwete vose. Zvechokwadi, zvinongova zvakakosha kuti musikana aonekwe semucheche semukadzi akachenjera, akanaka uye akanaka. Uye kuziva uku kunofanira kunge kunoreva kubva kuna baba. Kana zvisina kudaro, kuva mwana wechidiki, musikana anowanzotanga kutsvaga "kunaka" kwake kune vamwe varume. Sezvo mutemo, kutsvaga kwahwo kunoshanda: varume vanowanzobudirira, uye vose zvavo vakasiyana zvakanyanya zvokuti hazvibviri kunzwisisa kuti ndiani ari mukuravira kwake. Iye pachake haazive. Anongoda avo vanofanana naye. Basa guru nderekubhadhara nekuda kwekushayikwa kwebaba munguva yehuduku. Asi hazvikwanisi kutaurwa kuti papa akazosangana nechiedza nebhanhire. Kusarudzwa kwemurume kunobva pane zvinokosha zvehupenyu, genotype, dzidzo, kuzviremekedza uye nezvimwe zvakawanda. Saka, dambudziko re Electra, sekutonga, rinotambura nevanhu vasina simba vanoda kufananidzira kusakwanisa kuchinja hupenyu nekuti "Ndiri mukadzi, ndicho chikonzero ndinotsungirira ..."
Chii iye, murume wako akakodzera?
Kuti usangane nemunhu akakodzera, haufaniri kumirira kuti aoneke, agere pamubhedha, kana kuti ane hanya-ane shungu kuedza kuona mumapepa ose. Inofanira kuenda kune imwe nzira. Gadzira mufananidzo wemurume akakodzera - kwete mumusoro, asi pamapepa. Nyora pasi unhu hupi hwaaifanira kuva nawo, uye rondedzera zvakajeka kuonekwa kwake. Sarudza pamusoro pemafungiro ake kwauri. Kuti aifanira kukuda haukwanisi kukurukurwa. Asi nyora hupenyu hupenyu nemararamiro ayo, ayo, mumaonero ako, achava akakodzera pane iwe. Iwe uri munhu werudzii nemurume wako? Rondedzera zvose zvakadzama: zvaunonzwa, zvauri kuda, zvauri kurota pedyo naye. Wakazvigadzirira mufananidzo wakadaro werudo, iwe uchaziva kuti ndiani ane mukana wokuva wako wako, uye ndiani asingafaniri kuparadza nguva yako inokosha.