Mwana akazvarwa, paanova naamai vake mudumbu, anoshandisa nguva dzekutanga dzoupenyu hwake oga, kusiyana nemapatya ari pedyo nepamwe. Uye izvi zvinotsanangura mune zvakawanda maitiro rudo rwavo runoshamisa pamwero we "mweya yehama".
Nemhaka yekubatana kwakadaro, mapatya anokwanisa kunzwa mweya yavo yemunharaunda ari kure kana kunetseka kana vasingaoni mumwe kwenguva refu. Kubvira pakuberekwa kwavo, vanozviona sevari uye kwete kuisa pachena! Asi panguva imwe chete, kunyange vasati vaberekwa, vanotanga kurwisa hutungamiri. Uye ikozvino mudumbu raamai vangu, mumwe wavo acharamba "akakunda" nharaunda huru. Uye ndiye uyo achava mutungamiriri uye achaonekwa, zvisinei nemaminetsi mashomanana, asi vasati vasvika mapatya. Zvinonakidza kuti, kunyange zvazvo vari mhuka isingaoneki, kukakavadzana kwavo kuchagara kuri pane chero, kunyange nguva shomanana.
Zvakananga sei: "Ini" kana "Isu"?
Kana maine mapatya maviri mumhuri, vabereki vanobva vatanga kunyatsozivikanwa: vana vanofanira kunge vakafanana mune zvose. Yakapfekedzwa uye yakasvibiswa, iyo teyiyi nemamwe mavara. Izvi zvinoreva kuti vabereki vanoita kuti vana vavo vaduku vadikanwe vave vakafanana. Izvo zvakafanana nekucherechedza. Kana iwe uchitamba kana kutaurirana, ipapo nezvose, kuitira kuti zvikamu zvekucherechedza zvienzane. Saka hazvishamisi kuti nemaitiro akadaro edzidzo yemapatya, pamakore ekutanga, vana vanoona ivo voga "Ini" yakaoma kupfuura vamwe vana. Pfungwa ye "We" inoumbwa zvikuru mberi uye inokurumidza kudarika pfungwa yehupenyu hwako. Twinese vana kubvira paucheche vanoona kuwedzera kwekucherechedza kwevanhu senhau, hongu, vachiziva kare kuti kufanana kwavo ndiko kunokonzera kukwezva.
Saka chii chiri musiyano?
Kufanana kwemababa hakungobatanidzi munhu wose aripo, asi kunogonawo kukanganisa kukura kwepfungwa kwevana, kunyanya kana vasina hama nehanzvadzi. Vanogona kukudziridza tsika yekunyanya "kuvanza" imwe pashure pechimwe, nokuda kwekufananidza kwavo, kana vakaonekwa sevamwe vaviri vakanaka vevana vakangofanana. Pakuguma, kufanana uku kuchava kunaka kwavo, izvo zvavanogona kushandisa nguva dzose, uye izvo zvinogara zviripo.
Uye mune dzimwe nguva, mapatya anogona kuvaka ma microcosm avo, zvisikwa zvishoma zvokuti hapana, kunyange vabereki vavo, vachada kuisa mukati, vachida kutaurirana chete, nokuti vakanyatsonaka. Nenzira iyi vanogona kuvanza kubva kune avo vose vanovapoteredza, uye vatarisa kune umwe neumwe. Kazhinji, mapatya, zvisinei nekusaziva, vanogadzira mutauro wavo, zvinonzwisisika chete kwavari, sei vabereki vachigona kutanga kunetseka nevana vavo. Saka unodzivirira sei "kutama" ikoko mumhuri?
Zvechokwadi, zvose zviri nyore! Kune zvimwe zvikamu zvehutano hwemapatya, izvo zvakakwana kuti titeerere.
Chokutanga , simbisai zvakasiyana muvana! Kubvira pakuberekwa, edza kupfeka uye kuvabvisa zvakasiyana. (Somuenzaniso, Masha tails, Olya ane pigtails, Vanya ane bhuruu yebhuruu, Petya ane gorosi). Zvakakosha kuyeuka kuti chero mwana anoda nzvimbo yake, uye hazvina basa kana ane mapatya kana kwete. Itai kuti munhu wese ave nevana vake mavoti, mabhuku, ndiro, zvidimbu, nezvimwewo. Mifananidzo yemhando yevana inobatsira pakuvaka ivo pachavo "Ini". Itai kuti munhu wese ave neyemifananidzo yake yega album, kwaanogona kuisa mifananidzo yavo yaanoda.
Chechipiri , shandisa nguva kwete chete, asiwo kuwana mukana wemakirasi nemitambo pamwe nemapatya maviri oga, kutanga nevana vaduku. Mushure mezvose, mwana anoda kunzwa kutarisa kwaamai nababa, akaisa pfungwa paari oga. Hapana chakaipa chichaitika kana papa achifamba achifamba naMasha mupaki, uye amai vangu vanotora Olga kuenda kumvura. Pane kudaro, pavanodzoka kumusha, vachakwanisa kugoverana maitiro avo ekufamba. Sekuzviparadzanisa, vana vachakwanisa kuzivana uye kuwana ruzivo rwevamwe nevamwe vana, uye vanoziva kuti pane vamwe vanofananidza nevarume vanogona kutamba kufara, sekune hama kana hanzvadzi.
Chechitatu , ngative nekodzero yekusarudza umwe neumwe wemapatya: chii chatinofanira kutenga, michero ipi yekudya, kuti ungaverenga sei bhuku. Kunyange chisarudzo chisina kunyanya kukosha chichadzidzisa mwana kuita zvisarudzo uye kunzwisisa zvaanoda.
Pakarepo zvakakosha kutaura kuti zvakakodzera kuti vatendere ivo vachitamba ivo pachavo, kana kuvapa, nekugara pedyo navo, kwete. Zvichigoverwa maitiro emapatya, ivo vachiri pedyo zvikuru. Asi iwe unofanira kuzviziva iwe, uye ivo, kuti ivo pachavo. Kana mwana mumwe achida mamwe maonero uye kakawanda sezvinobvira, wechipiri anovagamuchira ivo voga, nokuda kwekambani. Nokudaro, yechipiri ine ngozi yekuwedzera. Kana, somuenzaniso, kana rimwe twine rakanyanya kuneta kudarika nguva dzose ("yakasimuka pamakumbo asina kunaka", pamusoro-inopindurwa, inopindurwa nemamiriro okunze kuchinja, nezvimwewo), mumwe anofanirwa kumuisa pamubhedha kare, gweda maoko uye mumunyarare. Amai mapatya, pasina mubvunzo, achafanira kuva kaviri sekunyatsoteerera, kuvimbika uye kusina!
Ndiani mutungamiri?
Vaviri, saka boka racho rave iko! Uye hukama huri mukati maro hunovakwa huchikosha, hwakatangira asati aberekwa. Kazhinji mumapatya maviri hutungamiri hune hutano hunove nemwana wekutanga, uye wechipiri anoita basa reuranda. Mutungamiri anotungamirira munun'una wake kana hanzvadzi yake, achiita kuti marudzi ose emagetsi aonekwe, kana wekutanga anotanga kuwana hukama. Mukubatana kwakadaro, mapatya anotungamirirwa kazhinji haagamuchiri basa rakadaro uye anobvumirana pane zvese zvinotungamirirwa nemutungamiri. Asi vabereki vanofanira kupindira kana mamiriro ezvinhu aya achizoita. Somuenzaniso, paunenge uchiita basa, muranda anofanira kuiswa sechinhu chikuru. Rega mapatya ashambidze ndiro pamwe chete, asi iyo inoguma mapatya ichataura nezvebasa rakaitwa pamberi pako.
Zvakaoma zvikuru kurarama nemapatya-vatungamiri. Kune hukama hwakadaro! Mukutaura kwakadaro, mumwe nomumwe wevana anoda kutonga, uye saka hondo yeutungamiri inyaya yakawanda mumhuri dzakadaro. Asi kubatana kwakadaro kunoshamisa kunogona kuunza rugare nerunyararo. Chimwe chezvigadziriswa chiito chekubvumirana. Kuti urege kupesana, rega vabereki vagogadza mukuru, asi nemamiriro ekuti nguva inotevera iyo huru ichava yechipiri. Kurongeka kunofanira kunyatsochengetwa, kuitira kuti hapazovi nekukwirikana uye kusagadzikana pakati pemapatya. Uye kana mapatya ako achizvimiririra achipa mumwe mutero kodzero yekufambisa, asina magrafu uye zvidzidzo, chinhu chakakosha ndechokusimbisa hurumende yakadaro mumubatanidzwa wavo nekusavhiringidza muhukama hwavo.