Sangano remazuva ano riri kuchinja nekukurumidza, uye chimiro chemhuri hachina nguva yaro. Zvichida, ndicho chikonzero chikonzero chepfungwa dzepfungwa dzakatanga kutaura pamusoro penhamo yemhuri. Kutaura zvazviri, pangava pasina dambudziko kana isu, vakadzi, tibata ukama mumhuri zvishoma nekuchengetedza. Zvechokwadi, tinogona kutaura kuti hazvisi simba revakadzi kuti vachinje zvimwe zvinhu, uye kuti hazvibviri kuchinja mumwe mukadzi, uye pasina icho hapana chichabuda. Asi zvakadaro, basa guru mukuchengetedza dzimba rakagara riri ravakadzi. Saka ngatiedzei kuongorora kuti zvinorevei kuva nekuchengetedza muhukama nemurume.
Makumi emakumi emakore adarika apfuura, mhuri dzakavakwa pamitemo yakasiyana zvakasiyana ikozvino. Mhuri yakasikwa kuitira kuti zvive nyore kuchengetedza purazi yakabatana, kurera vana. Mukadzi uyu ainyanya kuonekwa semudzimai weimba, kunyange akashanda. Hazvishamisi kuti mumhuri dzakadaro zvaive nani "kurarama paDomostroi". Mukubatana kwakadai, rudo haruna kunyanya kuva rwekutanga, zvakanyanya kukosha yaiva chibvumirano pakati pemurume nemudzimai. Dzimwe nguva vakaroorana vakaramba vachigara pamwe chete vasina tsika, kunyange kana vakarasikirwa.
Iye zvino hurumende yakashanduka kuitira kuti vakadzi vagamuchire kuenzana nevarume kwete chete, zvakatsigirwa nehukuru hwakakodzera hwemari uye kusununguka kwemukadzi. Uye zvichiri kuoma kuti varume vauye nekutadza kwekudya kunopisa uye kuti mudzimai wake anonoka kubasa. Mumafungiro evanhu vazhinji kune imwezve nharo yokuti mararamiro akanaka anovakirwa pamaitiro emhuri.
Zvisinei, kuomerera pane zvigaro zvisingatarisirwi muhukama nemurume wake, hazvisi kungoziva hutungamiri hwake mumhuri. Iko kune mafungiro munharaunda yekuti mararamiro anoita murume nemafambiro emukadzi anofanira kunge ari, sei kurera vana, nezvimwe. Asi mhuri imwe neimwe iri sega sega yega nhengo dzayo. Nokudaro, kunamatira kune imwe nzira yemufambiro "ne inertia", unogona kukanganisa chimwe chinhu chakakosha muhukama. Uye zvino kukakavara kunotanga, kusagutsikana, vana vanove vasingateereri, uye vakaroorana vari kufunga nezvekurambana. Cherechedza, kukakavara uye kusagutsikana nemurume zvakasanganawo mumhuri dzevabereki vedu, asi vakashandisa kurambana chete sechinhu chakanyanyisa. Iye zvino vanhu vari kuramba vachirambana kakawanda nokuti mumwe wake anonhuwa, haanzwisisi, haateereri, pane zvishoma zvinowanzodiwa naye.
Chikonzero chechiitiko ichi hachisi chokuti vanhu vakashanduka, uye hazvisi nyore kuwana munhu akatendeseka ari pedyo naiye angararama hupenyu. Chikonzero ndechokuti vanhu vanofunga zvakawanda pamusoro pekunze kwechato, vabereki vati, vavakidzani, shamwari vanofunga. Kuteerera kune nzvimbo dzakachengetedza, tinokanganwa kuti kushandiswa kwemashoko e "conservatism" ndiko "kuchinja." Tinokanganwa kuti muhukama hwakakosha kugadzirisa kune mumwe wako. Izvi hazvipesani nemitemo yevanhukadzi mumhuri uye munzanga. Asi mumamiriro ezvinhu akadaro, zvinorevei kuchengetedza muukama nemurume wako?
Kuchengetedza muhukama nemurume wake kunogona kunge kune nyaya dzekudzidzisa vana, zvepabonde, basa reumwe neumwe wemhuri. Chokutanga pane zvose, conservatism zvinoreva kuti mukadzi haaedzi kuedza zvinodiwa nemurume wake (uye nevana), asi anoedza mamwe mazano akanaka. Pasi pekuchengetedzwa kwepabonde, kunyara, kunyadziswa, nekushayikwa kwekudzidzisa zvepabonde kazhinji kwakavanzwa. Muhukama, conservatism inoratidzwa mukuedza kusaisa pasi maitiro avo chete, asiwo mufambiro wemamwe mitezo emhuri yakagadzirirwa kunze kwechiitiko. Zvinowanzoitika kuti varume havangambofungi nenzira dzakasiyana-siyana kuti vasawirirana hukama hwavo, edza mabasa matsva. Asi madzimai, zvinosuruvarisa, musaziva nguva dzose kuti mubvunze nezvazvo.
Funga pamusoro pekuti iwe ungaita kuti hupenyu hwemhuri yako huve hunovhiringidza hutevera mitemo netsika, kana zvichida zvakakosha kuti uwedzere mitemo yako pachayo here? Kana iwe usina kufara nechimwe chinhu muhukama hwako nemurume wako, haisi nguva yekutaura naye nezvazvo here? Nzira yekuziva, zvichida iye pachake anoramba kwenguva yakareba, apo iwe unopa imwe pfungwa itsva.
Chero zvingave, conservatism, ichi hachisi chikonzero chezvinzvimbo zvako kana kusada kuchinja chimwe chinhu. Hazvisiko kuti uchengetedze kana iwe usingazivi kuti ungavaka sei ukama hwako nemurume wako. Kana iwe uchida ukama hwakabatana mumhuri, unofanirwa kuyeuka kuti mhuri ndeyekukurukurirana. Kuti ugadzire nekuchengetedza hukama hwakanaka mumhuri, unofanira kuvaka hukama kuburikidza nekukurukurirana nemumwe wako. Zvadaro hazvizove zvakakosha ndiani ari tenzi weimba uye kuti angaita sei mukicheni kana mumubhedha.