Uye shure kwaizvozvo iwe, pakupedzisira, wakaneta zvachose, yeuka iwe unodikanwa uye uburuke kunomupa kunyange zvishoma zvenguva yake inokosha. Uye pakupedzisira, iwe uchamutarisa, achitarisira kuona kutaridzirwa kwenguva refu uye kutaridzirwa kunotungamirirwa kwauri, uzere nekushushikana kushushikana uye kushamiswa kusina kufanira kwauri. Uye zvino kamwe-kamwe, kutarisa mudiwa wako, iwe uchashamisika kuona kuti chido choga icho chinowanikwa nechinangwa chekuda kwako ndicho chido pakarepo, nguva ino chaiyo ... kurara uye hapana chimwezve! Uye chii zvino hupenyu hwomukadzi hukama hwepedyo?
Nzira yei yekudzivisa iyi mhepo ine simba inonzi "mazuva ano ehupenyu"? Mushure mokunge, mangwanani, musingarasikirwi nechishuvo chekushingaira, iwe unosvika kune basa rakadaro "rinodiwa uye rinodikamwa," uye ikoko vanoda kushanda "kupera" muzita remangwana rinopenya kwazvo, vachikuregeredza zvachose, semunhu, nekunyengedza "majisi ose" , uye paunodzoka kumusha, iwe unounganidza zvikamu zvemasimba epfungwa izvo zvasara muhondo isina kukwana inonzi "hupenyu", saka, pasinei nemamiriro ezvinhu akaoma ezvinhu, mumvura yakadzika yemweya wako, zvakadaro pane chido chekuchinja zvinhu zvose zviri nani, pakupedzisira kutanga kurarama hupenyu huzere, kunyanya, hwepedyo!
Nenguva shoma pamusoro pezviduku.
Chimwe chezvisarudzo, izvo zvinowanikwa mumamiriro ezvinhu akafanana, zvinotaurwa zvakadai sokuti: "Tinopedza nguva yakawandisa pamwe chete uye tatove takashungurudzirana. Tinoda manzwiro asina kujairika, anofadza uye anofadza kumweya kuitira kuti anzwe kuzara kwehupenyu kuita kuti hukama hwepedyo huzere. " Uye manzwiro akadaro anowanikwa nekukurumidza, asi haafaniri kutsvakwa zvachose nekutsvaga matambudziko emukati nemumwe chete, asi mune hukama hutsva nemumwe uye zvachose mumwe munhu. Uye, zvinonyanya kufadza, nokuda kwechimwe chikonzero, mumwe wako mutsva nguva dzose uye akakwana, uye nguva uye chido. Asi nguva nenguva, kupindira nekufadzwa noupenyu, mubvunzo unomuka: "Uye kwenguva yakareba sei izvi zvose?".
Uye zvino, zvisingatarisirwi, kusava nekusahadzika uye kutambudzika pamusoro pekunzwisisa kwezvinhu zvose zviri kuitika kamwe kamwe zvinouya, kune manzwiro ekuchiva uye kusakwanisa kuva nenguva "kwose kwose uye kamwe". Uye, pane izvi nguva isingakoshi, iwe unoshamisika kuti uone kamwe kamwe kuti simba rako risingaverengeki, rinoratidzika, rinotanga kubuda nokukurumidza zvikuru, hupenyu hwako hwepedyo hunopera.
Muchiitiko ichi, kune rimwe rinoshamisa uye rinodzidzisa mufananidzo pamusoro pemurume uyo, mushure mekunge akanganisa mukati megondohwe regondohwe, akauya kumudzidzisi ane chikumbiro chekumubatsira.
Sage, kunyatsoteerera zvose zvenyaya dzisina kujairika dzakaitika kumurume, kamwe-kamwe akataura zvisingatarisirwi: "Iwe unongoda kuwana mhou." Murume uyu, sezviri pachena asingatarisiri zano rakadaro risingazivikanwi, akatanga kubvunza mibvunzo yevabereki, uye zvakare akatanga kutaurira zvakadzama nezvekutambudzwa kwake, achifunga kuti sage haana kunzwisisa zvairehwa. Zvisinei, sage akaenderera mberi achiomerera kuti varimi vatange mhou. Zvakanaka, murume uyu akanga asina chaaiita kunze kwekuteerera mazano evakuru uye kuwana mhou. Uye saka, paakauya nemhuka yacho, murume wacho akadzikama, achifunga kuti iye zvino akanga agadzirisa matambudziko ake ose, uye hukama hwepedyo hwemukadzi hahumufadzi.
Asi ikoko kwaiva! Nguva pfupi mushure mekuonekwa kwemhou, murume uyu akatonyanya kutambudzwa. Haana kuwana nzvimbo yake uye akanga achingofunga nezvekubvisa mhou iyi isina kufanira. Uye, saka, ndaneta kuneta, murume uyu akashoma kusvika kumwari uye zvakare akatanga kunyunyuta pamusoro pehupenyu hwake hukava hero. Muchenjeri zvakare akanyatsoteerera murume wacho uye, mushure mekunge akambomira pfupi, akati: "Kana uchida kubvisa matambudziko - tengesera mhou." Murume uyu akaonga mutenzi ndokuenda kumba. Mushure mokufunga kwekanguva, munhu wacho akasarudza kutevera zano iri remuchenjeri uye kubvisa mhou yakadaro inovengwa. Uye saka, kutengesa mhuka yacho, kamwe-kamwe murume akawana kuti yakava nyore nyore pamweya wake, akangoerekana ava nenguva yakawanda yekusununguka uye iye, kushamisika kwake akawana kuti akanga asina chaanotya nazvo! Upenyu hwave huri nani, hunyoro uye hunofadza!
Uye kana, mushure mekuverenga nyaya iyi inodzidzisa, mamwe maonero anonzwisisika akabuda kubva kune mumwe munhu uye akabata zvikonzero zvinobatsira, saka yakanyorwa kwete pasina. Uye mumwe munhu uyo nokuda kwechimwe chikonzero haana kufunga nezvezvinorehwa nemufananidzo uyu, zviri pachena, zvinofanira kuratidza neimwe nzira. Somuenzaniso,
Pane imwe nguva murudo muhukama hwepedyo hwemukadzi.
Zvichida, vanhu vazhinji vatova nehana yakajeka yerudo, semamwe manzwiro emashiripiti uye asingaoneki. Zvinoratidzika chete mune hukama huri kwenguva refu huri hunhu kupfuura huripo huripo muchokwadi, hunofungidzirwa kuti hukama hwepedyo hwomukadzi wakakura hunoregererwa nenguva ino. Kugadzira fomu yepanyama kuitira kuti zvive nyore kupukunyuka kubva paukama hwekunzwa, sekunzwa kwerudo, zvinokosha kuti ubatane mafungiro ose uye mafungiro ayo munhu ane. Kunyangwe, zvichida izvi hazvigone zvakakwana, uye zvichave zvakakosha kusika nzvimbo yakakosha yepakati, yakasangana neharo yechakavanzika uye kusava nehanya, ipapo hukama hwepedyo huchawedzera.
Hapana mubvunzo kuti chokwadi ndechokuti pane vechidiki vanofarira zvikuru "matambudziko" avo uye mabasa. Uye kana vadzoka kumba vachicherechedza zvose kana zvimwe chete zvezviitiko zvinopfuura, havagoni kunzwisisa uye kugumisa zviri kuitika chaizvoizvo. Uye zvino, kamwe-kamwe, ivo vane pfungwa mune kubwinya kweziso kuti zvichida havatarisirwi pano zvachose? Vanhu vakadaro vanofanira kunge vakagadzirira kare. Muchiitiko ichi, mazano maviri emitransparent uye kukurukurirana zvakananga, mumutauro wakajeka, unogona kubatsira. Asi chinhu chikuru mubhizinesi iri ndechokufungira uye kukurudzira kufarira mune izvi kana mamiriro ezvinhu.
Vakawanda vari kutsvaga rudo muhupenyu hwepedyo, tsvaga zvakasiyana siyana zvekugadzirisa kwezviitiko, somuenzaniso, kuronga tafura muresitorendi, uchienda muguta racho, kana kukukoka "hafu" yako kutarisa firimu romukati. Pamwechete, unogona kuuya nehuwandu, iwe unongoda kuongorora mamiriro ako emari uye, kana zvichibvira, tarisira kuti zvinogona kuitwa nemudiwa wako kune zvakasiyana-siyana zvehupenyu hwepedyo.
Mumwe wevamwe shamwari dzangu akandiudza pamusoro peusiku hunoita manheru mumhuri yehupenyu hwake. Nguva pfupi mushure mekunge murume wake adzoka kubva kubasa, akawana kadhi pedyo nemusuo waaida chaizvo kuti apinde mukicheni. Akayambuka chikumbaridzo chekicheni, murume wacho akashamisika kuwana tsamba yakaisvonaka yakashanda. Asi zvakare kutarisa kwake zvakare kwakawira pane imwe mharidzo, umo maaizofanira kukurumidza kuenda kuimba yekurara. Zvadaro murume wangu shamwari akawana nyora dzakawanda ndokuenda kubhandi, ndokuenda kuimba, iye dzimwe nguva aida kutarisa pasi pe sofa!
Pakupedzisira ndakaneta kubva pane chido chekuwana "kushamisika" kwakagadzirirwa, murume weshamwari yangu akazowanikwa muimba yekushambidzira iyo yakaipa yekutsvaga kwakanyanya uye kunopera - mudzimai wake. Gare gare, chokwadi, mukadzi wacho akaratidza zvaanoda nenzira shomanana kune "kurota" kwake. Asi, pasinei neizvi, murume wemukadzi uyu akafara uye akashamiswa nekufungidzira kwakadaro kwakapfuma kwomudiwa wake. Nokudaro, hukama hwepedyo hwemukadzi uyu hwakave hwakasiyana zvikuru.
Nenguva shoma pamusoro pekupera
Zvinonyatsoziva kuti urongwa uye mazano chinhu chakanaka, asi hatifaniri kukanganwa kuti pane basa rinonakidza uye rinonakidza - mharidzo. Somugumisiro wekushingaira nekufungidzira kusingagumi, anokwanisa kuita zvishamiso. Muchiitiko chekuti iwe wakabatikana nebhizimisi uye unosangana nemudiwa wako chete pane zvataurwa, mumaresitorendi, pamarudzi ose emapato, zvino, kana uchida, unogona kushandisa mazano aya. Zvisinei, usamirira nguva dziri nani. Nokuti iwe, mushure mekuvaraidza kose, manheru, wakaneta uye wakaneta, uchadzoka, pakupedzisira, kumba, saka iwe hauchazove wakabatanidzwa pakuita rudo. Muchiitiko ichi, hupenyu hwomukadzi hukama huchava huri nyore.
Chinofadza uye chinonakidza chirevo chekubatanidza kuve nekufadzwa mukona yakachengetedzeka kwete chepi chero chekupa mharidzo, kana mutambo wepamutemo. Iko kunotyisa, kusvetwa, kushamisika kusinganzwisisiki kwemaziso akaisvonaka, akafukidzwa mubhuku rekuti "povoloka," kusagadzikana kunobata pasi petafura, zvichiita kuti kugadziriswa kuvepo uye, ikozvino, kugadziriswa kunoitwa. Uye kana iwe uchida, iwe unogona kufungidzira kuti iwe haunzwisisi uye iwe unongova nehope imwe chete - chero zvakakosha kuti uedze munhu wezviroto zvako - ichi ndicho chimwe chinhu chingaita hupenyu hunofadza hwemuwani. Uye zvirokwazvo, chaizvoizvo, inoshanda seinovhiringidza kune vakawanda.
Pakatenderera mitsara.
Yeuka kuti une nzira yako pachako, uye iwe unodawo. Mumwe nomumwe wedu anovaka hupenyu hwake ari oga, pasina rubatsiro rwevamwe.
Asi kangani nzira dzako dzinopindirana dzichavimba chete newe. Zvichida iwo mapoka maviri akaenzana akajeka asingambofi, pasi pemhando ipi zvayo, inopindirana, pamwe chete muhope. Uye, zvichida, aya ndiwo mitsetse miviri yakanyatsogadzirisa iyo inoita nhau-nharo uye magic pattern.
Iwe unogona kugadzira zvikonzero zvakakwana pamusoro pokuti basa rinotora maawa makumi maviri nemasere, kuti imba yakaneta zvachose. Zvisinei, izvi ndizvo chete hupenyu hwako uye chisarudzo chako. Edza kuchinja zvishoma nezvishoma. Edza kuronga uye kuronga hupenyu hwako nenzira yakadai yekuwana nguva yekufamba pamwe chete nemamwe mabasa anofadza. Mushure mezvose, zvinonyatsonaka kuwana hafu yeawa mukati mezuva rekushanda kuitira kuti musangane uye kuchinjana nhau dzezvino. Iwe unogona kungotaura pafoni kunze kwekutaura pamusoro penyaya yenyaya yacho uye kudzivisa kuongorora kwakakwana kwezviitiko. Itai kuti inzwi renyu rive rakanyorova uye ranyoro, rinokurudzira, rinonyanya uye rinopikira zvakawanda. Uyezve murume wako achava akagadzirira kusiya zvinhu zvose kuenda kumusha nokukurumidza sezvinobvira, kune vaanoda uye oita kuti hukama hwako hwepedyo husingakanganwiki. Zvakanaka, iwe unongoda kuti usapotsa nguva yakakodzera, yakagadzirirwa iyo nenzira dzose dzinozivikanwa kwauri.
Zvisinei, mune izvi zvose pane chete "asi". Zvakanaka, zvechokwadi, mamiriro ezvinhu anotaridzirwa apo chido chiri pamwe. Asi kazhinji zvinowanzoitika kuti kusanganisa kwemaonero pamusoro pekuti kuchava kwakanaka sei kune vadiwa vose hakuiti. Zvinowanzoitika kuti iwe hauna mafungiro, uye zvino mafungiro anochinja nemumwe wako, saka hukama hwepedyo huchava hunovhiringidza. Izvi zvinoitika, uye mumwe haafaniri kuita dambudziko kubva mairi uye kuzvikurira iwe nekusava nechokwadi kusingakoshi. Unogona kuedza zvakasiyana-siyana zvekunyengera. Usanetseka kana iwe usingabudiriri - nguva inotevera iwe uchazombova nerombo. Mazuva asina kubudirira anoitika kune wese. Zvisinei, iwe haugoni kumanikidzira iwe pachako kana kuti iwe wako - izvi zvechokwadi kusarasarudzwa, hukama hwepedyo hahubatsiri pane izvi. Yeuka kuti haufaniri kungoti "kwete" munguva, asiwo kutarisira zvido zvemudiwa wako. Chinhu chikuru hachisi chokukurumidzira, nokuti hupenyu hurefu uye iwe uchava nemikana yakawanda yekuziva zvose zvaunofunga zvakavanzika uye zvido zvako.
Yeuka kuti kana uchitaura nezvekuwirwa murudo, haugoni kuva nemhirizhonga mupfungwa, sezvo yakasiyana uye dzimwe nguva inotitora zvisingatarisirwi. Zvisinei, munhu wese anotarisira kuhuwana. Uye nokuda kweizvi unoda dzimwe nguva kungovimba nekuda kwemamiriro ezvinhu nezvose. Nhanho yakanaka kwauri!