Vakadzi vakawanda, savarume, havadi kuti vauye muchetatu rwe rudo, pasinei nekuchinja kukuru kwevanhu vanobatana nehutano hwezvepabonde, kushandiswa kwemitemo kunoparidzirwa munhau, nheyo yakagadzwa yekuderera kwesimba remhuri. Chikonzero uye njere dzinowanzotiudza kuti tingararama sei.
Sezvo mutemo, rudo rwechirwere zvitatu zvinopera nokukurumidza, kunyanya kana varume vakaroorana vari mumamiriro ezvinhu aya. Vanoparara chaizvoizvo pamudzi wezvavanoitika. Pane dzimwe nguva apo zvidutu zvakadai zviripo kwenguva yakareba, asi kazhinji mushure mekunge vatengeswa nemumwe wevakaroorana, tsika dzinodzorerwa zvakare, kuchinja kunouya kuri kuuya. Uye hazvishamisi kuti mushure meku "kuziviswa kwemakadhi ose" murume akagara mumhuri, kazhinji mhuri inoparadzana. Kuwa kwekanyararo rwe rudo kunowanzobva panguva yekuonekwa kwechokwadi cheupombwe nemudzimai anotenderwa. Kazhinji zviitiko apo ukama nemurume akaroorana unogona kugara kwemakore.
Zvinowanzoitika kuti vose vatatu vakanyarara, vachiziva nezvekuvapo kwekanyararo. Kurwisana kwemunhu kunogona kupedza makore akawanda, makore mazhinji. Muchiitiko ichi, ndiye murume chete ndiye achakunda mukurwisana uku, asi vakadzi havangatori rutivi rwekukunda kana anorasikirwa. Runyararo rwe rudo runogona kuparadza mumwe chete ari mairi mune imwe chete. Kana iri ukama nemurume akaroorwa, ndiye oga anokwanisa kutora uye anoona mamiriro acho ezvinhu - kana kupedzisa ukama muhukama hutatu kana "kubha" mukati maro zvishoma. Iwe ungakanganwa sei murume wako anodikanwa, kana akaroorwa?
Zvakaoma kumisa ukama uye kuedza kukanganwa murume anodikamwa akaroorwa, kana mukadzi ari mukatatu akadai kwenguva yakareba. Uye haisi kungobatanidza kune vadikanwa, asiwo kuzviremekedza kwevakadzi, nokuti murume anofanira "kugoverana" nemuvengi. Asi uchiri kutora danho rakashata kuti ubudise kubva kune coil, zvakakosha. Pane mitemo yakawanda iyo ukama hwomukadzi ane murume akaroora hunovakwa. Kana ukasarudza kukanganwa murume wako waunoda uye kunze, kana akaroorwa, unofanira kutevera mamwe mazano.
Chinhu chekutanga chinofanira kubhadharwa - kwete mukadzi wese anokwanisa kuwirirana nemurume akaroorwa. Yeuka zvawakapfuura, uongorore mamiriro evabereki vako, ukama hwavo kune umwe neumwe. Zvichida shoko rokuti "rudo" rinokuita kuti usanyanya kunyatsonzwisisa manzwiro, asi unobatanidza nechimwe chinhu chinoparadza, chinounza marwadzo. Nokudaro, uri kuedza kutsvaga munhu angakubatsira iwe kubudisa mufananidzo wehukama hwako paudiki muimba yevabereki. Nokudaro, uri kutsvaga chinangwa "chinetso" murume. Kubva pamitambo inokosha uye zvakakosha kubvisa. Zvakakosha kuwana kugadzirisa nekubata nemutoro wekare. Zvino iwe une mukana wekusiya ukama nemurume akaroora. Kana vabereki vako vekare vasati vakuitira iwe muenzaniso wekurera zvakanaka, manzwiro akajeka mukati memhuri, uye hukama hwavo hwakanga hwakavhiringidza, saka zvichida iwe unofanira kufambisa kune chiremba wezvepfungwa uyo achakubatsira kugadzirisa nyaya iyi.
Chinhu chinotevera kuchengeta mupfungwa kune vakadzi vakasarudza kukanganwa murume wavo anodikanwa, uyo akaroorwa, ndiro mubvunzo wekuwedzera kuzvikudza kwavo. Waizviziva here kuti ukama nemurume ane ringani kuruoko rwake rworudyi chinhu chinokonzera kukuvadza kwevakadzi? Haana kuziva, asi akanzwa. Zvinowanzoitika kuti vakadzi mumitambo yakadaro pakutanga vanotadza kuzvidzora. Mukadzi anonzwa benzi, asina kunaka, asingakodzeri kuva iye unofadza zvikuru uye akaenzana kune iye akasarudzwa. Kungoti kusatenda mukati mavo pachako kunomutsa, zvakawanda zvinokudziridza matambudziko anongomusimbisa chete kusatenda. Ikozvino, mamiriro acho anoenda: kana mudzimai asingadi, anozvida, anoremekedza, kazhinji anowanzova nematambudziko varume.
Varume vanoda kuzvirumbidza pamusoro pehuwandu hwevakadzi vakanyengerwa uye vanogona kuve nerudo nevakadzi kana mumwe chete, uye kunyanya, zvichiita kuti usagutsikana. Vanongopa chikonzero chekusimbisa pane imwe mukana wakakodzera, sezvo vakakuponesa kubva kune kusurukirwa nehanya kwako uye mafungiro akajeka. Nokudaro, mushure mehukama hwakadaro nevarume vakaroorana, vakadzi vanoda chirongwa chose chekuti vadzokezve mukuremekedza kwavo uye rudo kwavari pachavo. Mumamiriro ezvinhu akadaro, tanga nekuita urongwa hwemhando mbiri dzevanhu muhupenyu hwako - vanhu avo vamunofunga shamwari, vadiwa, vanokutora mwoyo wakakwana sezvazviri, uye avo vanogona kunzi vhupi zvepfungwa. Vanodya simba renyu pavanokugumbusa uye kukuratidzai muchiedza chakaipa, vanakidzwa nenyonganyonga kana mamiriro ezvinhu asina kunaka, vachiedza kutarisa zviri nani pamamiriro enyu ezvinhu. Edza kunyatsoronga denderedzwa yekukurukurirana panguva yokutanga (pamwe mwedzi kana maviri), kana wapedza ukama nemurume akaroorana - izvi zvichakubatsira kuti udzorere kuzviremekedza. Kutsigira kwako pakunamata neshamwari dzepedyo dzichava vanhu kubva pakurongwa rwekutanga. Nevaya vamunowedzera paurongwa rwechipiri, rega kutaura navo zvachose, musarega kuti vaonekwe muupenyu hwenyu.
Kune mukadzi, kubata nemunhu nguva dzose kuedzwa, uye kana akaroorwa, kaviri kuedzwa. Mune nhaurwa dzakadai, unogona kuwana zvose mufaro nemufaro, uye kurwadziwa kusinganzwisisi uye kutambura. Zvakakosha kumira zvose zvakafanana munguva uye kuwana simba rekusimbisa ukama hwakadaro, nokuti tarisiro yekuguma kunofadza zvikuru, yakanyanya kuduku.