"Kune rudo here?" Ndezvipi zviratidzo zvaro? Handitendi mazviri ... "- mubvunzo uyu wakabvunzwa kwandiri nemusikana ane makore gumi namashanu. Ndakafunga ... Kutaura zvazviri, kukurukurirana pamusoro pehurukuro - kana kune rudo kune dzimwe nguva inotanga kuchinja kwatiri mukuyaruka. Yaiva mumakore aya atinosangana nekutanga rudo rudo, kukanganisa nekuchema. Ndezvipi zviri kuitika kwatiri: iyo yekuvakazve mahomoni yemuviri kana yekutanga kuzivana nechikoro cheupenyu?
Kwemakore, kuwana ruzivo muhukama nevanhurume vakasiyana, tinotarisa zvakasiyana-siyana zvose kuda, uye kumatambudziko ose anotevera. Chinhu chikuru ndechokuti kukanganisa kwekutanga kwevechidiki hakusvibise mafungiro emusikana wesikana uye maonero ake pamusoro pehupenyu uye nevarume kunyanya. Zvingava zvakanaka kuti uve neanyanzvi akachenjera pedyo naye, zviri nani, hongu, amai kana mumwe munhu akatendeseka.
Tichifunga nezvekushungurudzika kwemweya mutsva uye kusati kugadzirira kwechidiki chepfungwa kuti aone kuora mwoyo kweupenyu zvakakwana, zvakakosha uye zvingava zvakanaka kuti usakurumidza nemukomana wekutanga. Musikana anofanira kunge ari, kutanga kune zvose, akagadzirira kuti rudo runogona kuva kwete yehupenyu, kuti irege kudiwa. Mukadzi wekutanga wepabonde haafaniri kunge ari "mubhadharo" nekuda kwe rudo kana nechimwe cheumwe munhu. Kuita zvepabonde kunogona kungoitika apo kunounza kufadza kumukadzi pachake, pasina kuda chimwe chinhu mukudzoka.
Saka chii rudo? Isu tinowanzoda, tichida kuratidzira. Imwe nyanzvi yeupenzi inoshanda: "Iwe kwandiri - ini kwauri" ... Rudo rwakachena, rusina udyire harudi chinhu chipi zvacho, asi rudo rwakadaro haruwanzovi uye harunounzi mufaro kumunhu ane rudo. Kakawanda rudo runovhiringidza runopesana nerudo rwechokwadi. Kuita zvepabonde ndiko kunzwa kwenguva isipi, zvichida kukanganisa kwehomoni dzevanhu dzakadaro: tiri kupisa, kupisa, kurasikirwa musoro wedu, uye shure kwekanguva hatigoni kunzwisisa zvatinowana munyaya yekukudza kwedu.
Kana iwe uchida, iwe uchakurumidza, kumirira zvakadzikama, pasina mubvunzo uye nekunaka kwemufaro womukati. Sezvo mumwe musikana muduku akati: "Rudo ndirwo apo amai vanoona baba vachigara padzimba, uye haazvifungi." Izvi zvinoratidza zvakare kuti rudo kune zvakawanda, kune zvakawanda zviratidzo zverudo, uye munhu mumwe nomumwe anokwanisa kuratidzira kuumbwa kwake kwekunzwa uku.
Sezvo pasina vanhu vaviri vakafanana, saka hapana mairi maviri akafanana kuratidzwa kwe rudo. Munhu mumwe nomumwe anoda nenzira dzakasiyana, sezvaanopiwa. Nokudaro, rudo rwemukadzi mumwechete nevarume vakasiyana ruchave rwakasiyana: kune munhu ane shungu, asina hanya uye asina kufara panguva imwechete, uye imwe-yakanyarara, yakadzikama uye yakavimbika. Asi izvi hazvirevi kuti wekutanga kana wechipiri akamuda zvakanyanya kana zvishoma, kana akazviita ...
Nezera, tinodzidza kuda. Uye kana tikasvitsa makore gumi nemishanu takachera zvidzitiro zvedu uye tichichema mumutsiro kubva kune rumwe rudzi rwe rudo rwakakundikana, ipapo pamakumi maviri nemashanu, kwete mukadzi wese aizodzvinyirira nenzira iyi. Yakagadzirirwa somunhu, achiziva kuti iye zvinokosha, mukadzi anodzidza kuva "mhuka" mukuvhima varume. Kana zvikaitika zvakasiyana, uye iwe unomhanyira pakutanga kudana kwomunhu, saka, zvichida, achakurumidza kurasikirwa nechido kwauri.
Hongu, pane rudo pakutanga pakuona, ini ndinotendawo mazviri, asi kwete munhu wose ane mukana wekuwana rudo rwakadaro. Mhedziso yechokwadi inowanzoberekwa kwete kubva pamaminitsi ekutanga emusangano, asi zvizhinji gare gare, dzimwe nguva kunyange pashure pegore. Nokudaro, munhu anofanira kunge achigona kana kudzidza kudzika hukama hwakadaro huchasimbiswa uye hunosimbisa nezuva rimwe nerimwe rinopfuura. Zvinonzwisisika, pamafungire akadaro iwe unoda chimwe chiitiko kana tarenda yakaberekwa.
Uye zvino funga nezvezvinyorwa zvedzidziso ye "rudo". Zvinonyatsozivikanwa kuti rudo rwakasiyana, pamusana peizvi, kusiyanisa marudzi mazhinji e rudo.
Mhando dze rudo
- Eros - rudo-ruchiva, rwakakonzerwa, pamusoro pezvose, nekukwezva zvepabonde. Icho chido, chimiro uye zvemweya, kupfuura iwe pachako kupfuura kune imwe, rudo pachako rwakajeka uye ruchida. Rudzi urwu rworudo harusi nguva dzose rwunofara, nokuti mukukurumidza kwemanzwiro, vadadi vanowanzorasikirwa misoro yavo, uye zvino inouya nguva ye "kushungurudza".
- Filia - rudo-ushamwari, rudo-kufanana nechisarudzo, chekufungisisa. Uku ndiko kunzwa kwakanyarara. Kune rumwe ruvoko, murudo urwu, unogona kupa kunyange kuverenga, semunhu anofungisisa uye anoongorora hukama hwake. Mune dzidziso dzePlato, rudzi urwu rwerudo rwakakwiridzirwa kusvika kumusoro.
- Agape rudo rwekunamata, rusingadi. Icho rudo rwechibayiro, rudo nokuda kweumwe, sechibayiro kune iwe pachako. Zvitendero zvenyika zvinoona rudo urwu semunhu mukuru pane manzwiro epanyika. Haasi munhu wose anogona kudanana nerudo rwakadaro, rudo asi asingatsvaki chinhu chipi zvacho. Ichokwadi, ichi ichokwadi rudo. Zvinosuruvarisa kuti kazhinji rudzi urwu rworudo haruri pamwe.
- Storge - rudo rwemhuri, rudo-kutarisa, rudo-tsitsi. Rudo rwakadaro rwunofanira kunge ruripo mumhuri yakanakisisa, uko kunzwisisana pamwe, kuremekedzana kune mumwe kune kutonga. Kakawanda murudzi urwu rwe rudo rwakapfuura mafomu ari pamusoro apa.
- Mania rudo-kuora mwoyo, zvichiita kupisa kwemafiro, kuvhiringidzika uye kurwadziwa mumweya, kurasikirwa kwehope uye chido. Zvinonzwika zvakanyanya kuipa, kunyange zvazvo vasikana vakawanda vaduku muvecheche vavo "vanotambura" nerudzi urwu rwe rudo.
Ichokwadi ndechokuti: rudo runozviratidza mumhando dzakasiyana uye mavara. Uye hazvina mhosva kuti rudo rwakarisa sei, rwakagara rwuri, uye ruchava. Uye iwe unofarira kuratidzwa kwayo-eros, kubatana, agape, storge kana mania, kusarudza uye kunzwa zvako chete. Wati wamboedza kutaura pamusoro pokuti kune rudo neshamwari kana mudiwa uye mudiwa here? Zvinenge zvichifadza kuziva maonero ake. Kunyange, chokwadi chinotaurirwa, kwete vose vanozokuudza chokwadi cheupenyu hwavo ...