Unoda kutora mwana kubva kunherera, asi haazive nezvekwanisi hwavo? Shandisa sarudzo "chiedza". Iyi ndiyo nzira yevashanyi kana, sezvinonziwo, mavhiki ekumhuri.
Zvikonzero izvo vanhu vakuru vanokumbirwa kwevhiki nevhiki uye zororo kuti vashanyire mwana kubva kunherera kana zvimwe, zvakawanda. Mumwe munhu ane tsika dzakagadzirira kugamuchirwa, mumwe munhu anoshaya kukurukurirana zvisati zviduku kune dzimba dzevana. Uye vamwe vanoda kungobatsira, "nokuda kwaro", vachirayira kubva pakapesana kwemasimba maviri anogona kukwira makomo: tsitsi uye rudo kuvanhu. Asi chero zvakadaro, muenzi wemitambo yevana kubva "kuchipatara" ndeyekutengesa kwemafungiro uye kusununguka kwevanhu. Uye pamusoro pe "vaeni", uye nokuda kwe "vadzidzisi".
Zvimwe zvemwana Kutanga, mwana anoona hupenyu kunze kwemadziro eimba yevana. Tsvaga kuti mhuri haisi yega kubva mumabhuku uye mafirimu, anodzidza kurarama. Mwana wacho anosiya maitiro, anotarisa kuti hukama hunogona sei kuvakwa mune imwe, kwete kumba kwevana, uye inobatanidzwa mavari, hukama pamwe chete. Chechipiri, anenge ane munhu mumwechete uyo wese-anofarira muupenyu hwake uye iye pachake. Vadzidzisi, vadzidzisi neshamwari dzinobva kumusha wenherera, zvechokwadi, zvakare mune hupenyu hwake. Asi vanovhara zvakasimba denderedzwa pasi pezita rokuti "imba yevana". Munhu muduku anodzidza kugadzirira zvokudya, kubhadhara imba, kumanikidzira, kuenda kuchitoro - anowana unyanzvi husingadzidziswe mumusha wevana. Chechitatu, inova inokwanisika kutora hutano hwemwana zvakadzama. Chechina, anovandudza maitiro ake, anoziva nyika. Mitambo, masamuziyamu, makirasi echikoro, mitambo yemitambo, pakupedzisira, anogona kushanyira kakawanda.
Zvechokwadi, kune vana vanobva kunherera vanoronga mafambiro uye mahedheni. Asi mumhuri chete, kunyange muimba yevashanyi, unogona kuona izvo murume uyu wechidiki anokwezva uye anosarudza purogiramu, achifungisisa zvaanoda.
Cons for the child
Vana vanogona kunzwa kunzwa kwakakomba kunherera.Mibvunzo inomuka: sei vasinganditore nokusingaperi? Sei pasingaiti vhiki rega rega, atolko kaviri pamwedzi? Havagoni kutsanangura chero kucherechedza kunononoka, chero mamiriro ezvinhu. Icho chinopera kuti haasi iye, sezvo iye asingadi zvakanyanya.
Vakomana vanogara kwevhiki nevhiki uye zororo mumusha wenherera vangave negodo kune avo vakawana mhuri, kunyanya kwevhiki. Pashure pevakashevedzwa vakadaro, muduku wacho anogona kuzvibata nemufaro, kutanga kuzvirumbidza nezvezvipo, zvisinganzwisisiki, asingateereri vadzidzisi.
Kamwe uye kwenguva dzose
Kubva pane chisarudzo chokutora mwana kubva kumusha wenherera haigoni kurambwa, saka gara pasi uye funga-iwe unogona kuita. Iwe uchada kuwana mukati mako kwete kungoda kubatsira panguva ino chaiyo, asiwo kushivirira kuchakubatsira iwe kupona uye nguva iyo "muenzi" wako achava akachenjera, asina hanya, ane godo reimba kana kubvunza mubvunzo wako unokosha zvikuru: "Ndiwe rini iwe uchanditora kunze ? "Vana vakawanda vane nherera vanozivikanwa: kunonoka pakuvandudza mupfungwa. Izvi zvinodawo kugadzirirwa. Kunyanya paunouya kumhuri, kunyange mumutambo wemueni (kana iri nguva dzose), munhu muduku anove akasununguka, akavimba, akagadzirira kutaura.
Usambofa- "Amai"
Masayendisiti nevashandi veherera vanotaura kuti muganhu pakati pako nemwana unofanira kuiswa pakarepo. Iwe ndiwe mutevedzeri, iye mueni uye rega akudane iwe nezita kana nezita uye patronymic, asi usati - "Amai". Taura nokukurumidza kuti iwe unomukoka kwevhiki uye chete. Vimbiso, vimbiso, kunyange utaure kuti rimwe zuva iwe uchaitora nokusingaperi-haugoni, zvinogona kukonzera kurwadziwa kwakakomba. Taura rubatsiro kumwana wako pakarepo paunosvika nguva inotevera. Izvi zvakakosha zvikuru, zvichakumirira. Kana iwe usingagoni kusvika pazuva rakagadzwa, iva nechokwadi chekuyevera. Kuvimbiswa kwevanhu vaduku kunogona kuchengetwa kana uri kunyange zvishomanana kubva pakutanga. Yeuka, vana ava havana mvumo kune iwe. Mwana haafaniri kutarisirwa kuratidza manzwiro pazuva rekutanga rekuungana kwako, tenda uchiziva nguva uye zvaunopa kwaari. Ichokwadi chokuti iwe wakamukoka kuti ashanyire isarudzo yako, kwete yake.
Zvichida kadhi duku haigoni kudzokera shure. Dzimwe nguva zvakaoma kutsanangura kuti sei iwe usingakwanisi kuisiya. Asi kunyange munyaya iyi - kwete zvipikirwa zvekare. Kusada kudzokera kunherera mushure mekushanyira nguva dzose "kushanya" kunopera: tsika!
Usabvunza mwana kuti ave nezvipo, usafudza zvakanaka uye usazvidemba: "Oo iwe chinhu chakaipa, wakatambura". Pamwechete, simuka, geza ndiro ndiro pamwe chete, enda kuma cinema pamwe chete. Mitemo iyi ichabatsira kugadzirisa upenyu huchauya.
Nzira yekuita sei?
Zvinyorwa zvinoda kubhadharwa kwevatenzi pasi pekuchengetedza kana kubvumidzwa. Noa ane unhu hwake. Kuti iwe ubvumirwe kutora mwana, unoda kubvunza kutsigirwa kwemukuru weanherera, ndiye mutariri wehurumende wemwana. Musangane naye, pedza nguva nevana. Mukuwedzera kune chibvumirano, mutungamiriri anofanirwa kutora mapepa emapepa, iye achangobva kuwedzera, zvinosanganisira chikwangwani chemari, mari yezvipatara, chipo chekusavapo. Hurumende haitsigire chiito ichocho chemari. Chinhu chikuru ndechekutsunga kwako.
Sei "kusarudza" mwana? Funga nezvezera, rega ave iye anopfuura gumi. Zvakaoma zvikuru kune mwana wechikoro kuti atsanangure kuti nei vakamutora, vakasarudza kumudzorera apatom. Tarisa pedyo, tarisa. Paunouya kumba pamwechete, ita chipo chakakosha kumueni wako: usareva nhema kwaari, zvakanaka?