Mutsara unoti "mukadzi haafaniri kuva nechikwereti kune mumwe munhu" anongoramba ari mutsara, achinyanya kufanana nokunyomba, uye kuputsa pamusoro pehupenyu hwezuva nezuva, apo mudzimai kakawanda anofanira uye anofanira. Kuvandudza chirevo ichi, ndinoda kuyeuka "bhuku rekumubati", rakabudiswa mumavambo makumi matanhatu nemakumi matanhatu. Nhasi, kuverenga kwaro kuvakadzi vemazuva ano kunokonzera kushamiswa, nokuti kune chikonzero chekuti kune mazano ekuita mararamiro nehupenyu huripo, anenge ari peji rimwe nerimwe pane "mukadzi anosungirwa" uye "anofanira". Izvo mabasa omurume anotendeuka kusvika pane zvishoma, uye ane hanya kupfuura chimwe chinhu chakakosha, kupfuura kungwara kwezuva nezuva hupenyu. Uye zvinobva kune zviduku izvo upenyu hwedu hwakasikwa hukuru.
Saka ngatifungei, chaizvoizvo, mukadzi anofanira kutarisira murume wake, kana kuti kungova kusara kwezvakaitika zvekare?
Mukadzi sezvaari
Zvichida, sayenzi uye teknolojia yakaramba iri kure nekusika zvinhu zvakadaro, iyo inoshanda kwayo inogona kuparadzanisa mukadzi. Isu tinokwanisa kuita zvuru nezvinhu chimwe pazuva, tichiwana nguva yevanhu vose nezvose, kudzidzisa, kubata, kugadzirira, tsvina, kushamba, kuteerera, kutaura, kushanda nekuzvidya mwoyo kune vose varipoteredza. Tinogara tichin'un'una pamusoro pokushayikwa kwenguva yedu pachedu, asi panguva imwe chete yeminiti tinotora chimwe chinhu chinobatsira. Nokuda kwechimwe chikonzero, vana vakawanda vanoshamisika kana vachifanira kugara nababa vavo kwemazuva mashomanana, uye mumamiriro ezvinhu aya, papa haashamisi zvishoma. Uye chinonyanya kufadza, unogona kunzwa mubvunzo mumwechete kubva kumativi ose maviri: "Ndinofanira kuitei nazvo?" Kunyange kana iwe uchifunga zvakananga, iwe unorarama pamwe chete, uye iwewo wakakurira pamwe chete, saka nei izvi zvichiitika? Mhinduro yacho iri nyore: "Uyu ndiye baba vangu (murume, murume), uye amai vangu (mudzimai, mukadzi) vanofanira ...". Uye tinorega kushivirira izvi, uye dzimwe nguva tinoshamiswa nekuderedzwa uku kwatiri, asi dzimwe nguva tinoda kuchinja chimwe chinhu, kunyange zvazvo kushingaira kwakadaro kuchikurumidzira, kuchinjira muupenyu hwezuva nezuva nemaitiro.
Tichifunga nezvehupenyu huripo hwemudzimai akawandisa kubva pakutanga kusvika pakupedzisira, unogona kutsvaga kupesana kukuru. Kune rumwe rutivi, achiri muduku, musikana kubva kuna amai vake vanonzwa mirairo, chinangwa chaicho chisingadzokidzizve kukanganisa kwake kwevechidiki, apo iye, pasi pekutungamirirwa kwakajeka kwaamai vake, "kuitira kuti murume wake asatiza," anotora zvinhu zvose paari. Panguva imwecheteyo, mwana anoona mifananidzo yese yemhuri uye anogamuchira zvidzidzo zvekuita. Kuva mukuru, musikana wacho anowana rusununguko rwekusarudza uye chiito, asi nokuda kwechimwe chikonzero chinodzokera kune chaiva, pasina kuedza kuchinja chero chinhu. Saka isu tinokwanisa here kuisa zvinetso izvi zvose, zvinetso nemabasa epamba pachedu pachedu nekuda kwekuti tinozvifarira? Kana chii chinotitungamirira isu patinozviti tiri zvisikwa zvisina simba, uye panguva imwe chete tinoisa pamapfudzi edu mitoro inotyisa. Ngationgororei injini dzedu, dzimwe nguva kunyange zvisingabatsiri, kumira.
Rudo
Kana kuri kutarisira murume wake, mukadzi anotungamirirwa chete nechimwe chinhu-rudo. Ndiko kunzwa kwakanyatsojeka kubva pamazuva okutanga kunotikurudzira kuti titore zvose zvatinokwanisa kuita isu pachedu, tichiedza kuchengetedza vanodiwa uye vanodiwa vematambudziko ose. Asi kazhinji kushingaira kwakadaro kunopfuura mitsara yose, uye somugumisiro, murume ari mumba anowanzowanikwa mune zvakakosha nepepanhau, kana kuti akabatanidzwa mumamiriro ake ega, uye mudzimai akadzingwa kumativi ose. Takafungidzira upenyu hwemhuri nekutarisira murume wedu here? Vanhu vashoma vachapindura hongu.
Chimwe chikonzero chekuparadzana uku kwemabasa ndechekufunga kwehupenyu hwemhuri. Mubairo, mudzimai anofanira kutarisira zvinhu zvakapoteredza imba uye kurera vana, murume wake kuenda kunoshanda, manheru manheru wese anonyatsogadzirira kuunganidza kudya kwekupisa uye zvose zvakanaka, zvakatsvuka uye zvakajeka, kufanana nemafirimu ekare. Asi hupenyu hunowanzowedzera, uye kune mhuri yakadaro iwe unoda kushanda zvakaoma. Uye nokuda kwechimwe chikonzero, vakadzi vanoda kutora basa iri, vachikanganwa kuti mhuri inoumbwa nevanhu vaviri uye nzira yeupenyu inofanirawo kugoverwa kuva mbiri. Asi vanhu vashomanana kubva pamazuva okutanga ewanano vakasarudza kuparadzirwa kwakadaro. Saka zvinoshanduka kuti mudzimai ane vavariro dzakanakisisa anotarisira murume wake. Iye, kubva kune maoko ane hanya namai vake mumaoko emukadzi wake, haafaniri kuita chero chinhu pamusoro peimba, uye mudzimai haabvunzi. Iyo ndiyo nzira yatinorarama nayo nechifukidzo chepiniki, uye kana ichikanganisika, hachina kunonoka kuita uye kuchinja chimwe chinhu.
Kana pamwe pamwe pamwe?
Unofanirwa hupenyu hunofadza hwemhuri - kana kwete mudzimai chete ane hanya nezvomurume wake, asi panguva imwechete anonzwa kugadzikana kunetseka. Inogona kuzviratidza pachedu zvishoma, asi zviri nyore kuti mudzimai ararame. Zvakanakisisa kudzidzira murume wako kuhutano hwehupenyu hwezuva nezuva mumakore ekutanga emuchato, nokuti ipapo mitemo yakasimbiswa yakaoma zvikuru kuchinja.
Zvechokwadi, izvo muhupenyu zvinoitika kune imwe nzira iyo yose, apo murume anova muridzi wepamusoro mumba, uye mudzimai panguva ino anoita basa, kana kuti hapana chaanoita. Asi izvi zvinopfuura zvakasiyana nemitemo. Kazhinji, zvakajairika kuti vakadzi vazvidye mwoyo kana murume akadya zvaanenge akapfeka, paanenge ari, kuti anonzwa sei, uye panguva imwechete akamirira kudzoka kune imwe nzvimbo mukati me mweya wake uye kuramba achingwarira, kunyange pasina.
Naizvozvo, vadiwa madzimai, pasinei nokuti makanga musingabatsiri zvakasikwa, zvisinei kuti hamungadi sei kuchengetedza dambudziko renyu kubva kumatambudziko ose emhuri, fungai nezvemunhu wamunoda mune remangwana, mumwe mwana kana mudzimai wako waunogona kuvimba nechivimbo mune chero mamiriro ezvinhu, kuwana rubatsiro uye kubatsirwa mairi.
Ndinofungidzira kuti vazhinji, zvechokwadi, vanoda kuwona kutsigirwa mumudzimai, saka musaparadza nguva pasina kwemazana ezvikonzero, nei asingagoni. Yeuka, kana uchikwanisa, saka nei mumwe munhu asingakwanisi? Kana iwe uchikwanisa kuva mudzimai, amai, mushandi, uye madzimadzi, unogona kunyatsokumbira kuti mumwe wako aite mabasa akafanana. Ndizvo chete ipapo kutarisira kwako kunofanira kuyerwa mukuremekedzwa.