Kune mazano ehupfungwa ehupfungwa, izvo zvinotevera iwe haugoni kupindura mibvunzo inonyengera uye kuisa muvengi wako munzvimbo isina kunakidza, asi zvakare kutarisa zvakanaka. Kuti urege kuonekwa seusina maturo kune mamiriro ezvinhu chaiwo, zvakakosha kutanga kutanga kudzidza mazano aya uye kubvunza shamwari kana hama kuti dzirovedze newe.
Zvirongwa zvinobva kumumiririri naSherlock Holmes
Apo mutauriri anokubvunza mubvunzo wakananga, haufaniri kupindura mazviri nenzira imwechete yekrete. Iwe unogona kupa mhinduro imwechete seyemugadziri mune anecdote. Apo Sherlock Holmesletel akanga ari mubhodhi uye akarasikirwa nenzira yake, akabvunza, "Changamire, iwe ungatiudza here kuti tiripi?" Munhu wacho akanyora akadzikama akapindura, "Ishe, muri mudengu rebhokisi." Pasinei nokuti iyo mhinduro haina kuburitsa ruzivo rwakakosha, mupurogiramu akapindura chokwadi ndokusiya mamiriro asina kunaka kwaari.
Uyewo, unogona kupa mhinduro yakawanda iyo ichakubatsira kuti uende, asi iwe haugoni kupiwa. Somuenzaniso, mubvunzo wekuti "Unobhadhara mari yakawanda sei?", Unogona kupindura "Ndinowana muvhareji wepahoro pootrasli."
Mirror effect
Kana iyo interlocutor ichikumbira mubvunzo weupenzi kana usina kufanira iwe, unogona kubva mamiriro acho nekumukumbira mubvunzo wepamusoro. Muchiitiko ichi, unogona kushandisa imwe yemaitiro maviri.
Ita mubvunzo wepamberi munzira ipi zvayo, kuitira kuti mupikisi anyara kunyanya kufarira kwake muupenyu hwako. Nokuda kwekugadzirisa, iwe unogona kushandisa mutsara wakasiyana-siyana "Kana ndichinzwisisa zvakarurama, saka ...", kuguma kwacho kuchaenderana nemubvunzo wakabvunzwa, uyewo kana uchida kuramba uchikurukurirana pamusoro pechinyorwa ichi kana kuti uchida kumisa hurukuro uye usadzokera zvakare kune iyi nyaya .
Kana iyo interlocutor ichishingairira hupenyu hwako hwega, ichiti "Kana ndichinzwisisa zvakarurama, saka iwe hausi kutora kenduru pamubhedha wangu?" Kana kuti "Kana ndichinzwisisa zvakarurama, haugoni kurara kusvikira iwe uchidzidza zvese zvehupenyu hwangu?"
Izvo zvinodiwa kuti utaure zvose izvi zvinyararire uye zvine mwero, izwi rinofanira kuva chinyenyeri, haufaniri kuisa gesticulate. Zvose zvaunokwanisa kuwana ndezvokusimudza nheyo kushamisika.
Nzira yechipiri ndeyekuwedzera kufarira muhurukuro, uchikumbira mutauriri wezvinhu zvakanyanyisa. Semuenzaniso, kana munhu anopikisa achibvunza, "Iwe uchazosimudzirwa rini kubasa?", Unogona kubvunza "Wakave wakanganisa here kubasa?"
Iva tarenda yemutori
Kana iwe uchibvunzwa mubvunzo unofadza, iwe unogona kugara uchiita basa, usingaratidzi ukama hwako hwechokwadi nedambudziko. Munyaya iyi, pane zvakawanda zvingasarudzwa zvekugadzirisa kusarudzwa kwemamiriro acho ezvinhu.
Iwe unogona kutamba tariro uye utaure muzwi rinosuruvarisa, "Ndinokukumbira, usataurazve nezvazvo zvakare." Chisarudzo chechipiri - zvione iwe uri mukuru wenyika mumusangano, uchiti "Maita iwe, mubvunzo unotevera." Iwe unogonawo kupindura mu "comic form" "Aya mashoko akavanzika, uye anowanikwa kune vasanangurwa chete".
Usave wakabereka
Pasinei nokuti iyo yekubvunzurudzwa interlocutor inokugumbura zvikuru, haugone kuratidza utera hwako mune chero zviitiko. Panzvimbo pokutsamwa, kugumburwa, kupopota, zviri nani kusemwe uye kupa mhinduro yeupenzi muzwi risina rusarura.
Isa muvengi wako mumugumo wakafa, uchienda kumashoko asina kujeka achaita kuti awedzere. Somuenzaniso:
"Iwe uchazoroora rini?"
- Nyeredzi yangu akati pakutanga zvakakosha kusarudza zuva rakarurama, zvisinei kana kuroorana kuchazoparadzwa pasina ruzivo. Vafudzi vanofanira kuuya pamwechete, shure kweizvozvo isu tose tinoziva kuti tinofanira kunyatsoroorana. Apo patinonzwa izvi, pazuva rekutanga rakanaka rekarenda yemwedzi, tinoroora.
Edza kutaura nemafungiro akachenjera uye asina kugadzikana semashoko mazhinji nemashoko sezvinobvira, umo mutauriri asinganyatsonzwisisi. Hazvigone kuti achada kuramba achikurukura.
Joke
Maseko eWemen anogona kugara achibatsira kubva mumamiriro ezvinhu asina kunaka.
"Mari iyi inodhura zvakadini?"
- Ndakadzoka gore, asi ndaifanira kutora chikwereti kubva kubhangi, asi hapana, kunaka kwakakosha!
Mhinduro kune dzimwe nguva
Uye iko zvino tinoedza kutora mhinduro dzepasi pose dzinobatsira kubuda uye kudzivisa mamiriro asina kufadza.
- Ndiri kufara netarenda yako kubvunza mibvunzo yakadaro isina kururama!
"Ndapota tora mhino yako, ndakaiona mumatambudziko angu."
- Iwe unofarira kwazvo hupenyu hwangu here? Ndinonzwa sechinyorwa chaiye. Unoziva here kuti nyeredzi dzinofarira kushambadzira bhizinesi ravo?
Uye pakupedzisira. Vakaroorana vasina chokwadi vanowanzosangana nechinzvimbo chisina kunaka kana vachikumbira kubwinya. Nekuremekedza, iwe unogona kubva mumamiriro ezvinhu aya nekupindura, "Ndinoshamisika kana ndakanga ndaroora, iwe ungabvunza kana ini ndazopedzisira ndarambana here?"