Mhuri duku iri nguva dzose iri basa guru, ihwo kutanga kwechiitiko chitsva, chakanaka, kuchinja kukuru muupenyu hwevamwe vaviri. Asi mumhuri imwe neimwe kune matambudziko uye kukakavara, nokuti kushamwaridzana kwevanhu kunova kwakasimba kwazvo, uye kukakavara pachako dzimwe nguva kune unhu hwekudzivirira, iyo yatinopiwa hukama hwemhuri. Chisungo: "Mafungiro epfungwa anokonzera kukakavadzana mumhuri mhuri" ichakuudza pamusoro pezvinyorwa zvakasimba zvehukama muchangobva kuzvarwa sero revanhu nechinangwa chokudzivisa munguva yemberi.
Muchidimbu chavo, kukakavara kunogona kuzaruka (kutaura, kuchema, kukakavadzana), pamwe nekuvhara (kusazvidza, kutsamwa, kunyarara). Chinangwa chekupesana kazhinji chido chekuzadzisa zvido zvavo, kuzviratidza ivo, kugutsa zvido zvavo zvepfungwa, nezvimwewo. Kurwisana kukakavadzana kakawanda kunokakavadzana, kukakavadzana, kupomerwa ... Maitiro, zviratidzo uye zvikonzero zveumwe neumwe zvinogona kunge zvakasiyana. Muchikamu chino, pfungwa huru dzepfungwa dzinokonzera kukakavadzana mumhuri mitsva dzichazotumidzwa.
Nenzira yakawanda, zvinobvira kutarisa midzi yavo pamwe chete nezvinodiwa nevanhu, kubva kwavanowanzoitika. Izvi zvinosanganisira: zvepabonde, zvokudya, kukurukurirana ... Kusawirirana kuchaitika kana pane dambudziko rekushaiwa kugutsikana kweumwe wavo.
Kubva pakupedzisira: kukakavadzana kunogona kuitika apo matambudziko anotanga kana kune dambudziko rekusagutsikana nezvido zvedu nezvatinotarisira. Mumhuri mune "nguva yakaoma" nguva, apo hukama huri kuwedzera, uye ngozi yekukakavara inowedzera.
Chokutanga cheizvi chichava chikwata chokutanga chehukama, apo pfungwa "I" inoputsa, uye "isu" inomuka mupfungwa dzevakaroorana. Iyi inguva yekugadziriswa, vaviri vacho vanodzidza kurarama pamwe chete, rudo nerudo zvinopera, uye munzvimbo yavo inouya hupenyu hwezuva nezuva, nenzira yakasiyana-siyana yehupenyu, mumwe nomumwe anozviratidza kubva kune rumwe rutivi, anoratidza zvaanozviita. Nguva yekutanga yehukama hwemhuri yakaoma, mungozi yekurambana yakanyanya kwazvo.
Nguva yechipiri inobatanidzwa nekuzvarwa kwomwana. Kune matambudziko anokonzerwa nokuora simba kwetsika uye kwepanyama, panguva iyo maonero akasiyana nemaonero ehupenyu angasangana.
Nguva yechitatu ndeye "pakati" yemakore ekuroorana. Vashandi vanofunga zvakare nezvehupenyu hwavo, vachicherechedza mairi upenyu hwamazuva ose, tsika uye huni, kune "oversaturation" yeumwe neumwe.
Zvimwe zvinokonzera kukakavadzana pamatanho akasiyana zvingangodaro kusagadzikana kwepabonde kwepabonde kwevashandi, kusakwanisa kuratidza maonero avo uye kupa ruzivo pamusoro pezvavanoda zvepfungwa kune mumwe wako.
Nechikonzero chimwe chete chekukakavadzana kungave kusagutsikana mukukurukurirana, kunyaradza, kubatsira, kutsigira, kusaremekedza manzwiro eumwe wevamwe, kubvisa "I" wake.
Somuenzaniso: Chimwe chezvinhu zvinokonzera kukakavara mumhuri mitsva kunogona kudhakwa zvakanyanya kune mumwe wavo. Muchiitiko ichi, mumwe munhu anoshungurudza doro, anotyora mitemo yevoruzhinji, haasi kurasikirwa nehutano hwake chete, asi anoparadzanisa kubva kune dzimwe nyika, kusanganisira kubva kune vakaroora. Kurwisana kunokonzerwa nekuti mumwe wevakaroorana anodhakwa kugutsa zvido zvavo chete, kuratidza kusakwana kwakakwana kwekunzwisisa kwechipiri uye kusazvidza manzwiro ake nezvido zvake.
Kusawirirana kunogona kubuda kubva pazvikonzero zvekusagadzikana kwetsika uye tsika dzeumwe neumwe wevakaroorana, kusava kwebhajheji yemhuri, uye, nyore, pamusana pemafungiro akasiyana nezvekuzorora.
Kuziva zvikonzero zvinokonzera kukakavadzana, tinogona kuongorora nzira dzekudzikisa ngozi yekuitika kwavo, kudzivirira uye kuderedza. Kuti ugadzire kupopotedzana kwakanyanya mumhuri, munhu anofanira kudzidza kutaura, nokuti kuva mudzimai akanaka unyanzvi hwakakura: iwe unoshanda kune iwe pachako, kukurira ugove wako, uchitarisa pane zvido zvemumwe munhu. Mushure mezvose, kuroorana kubatana kwevanhu vaviri avo vari iko zvino yose, iyo inofanirwa kukanganwa pamusoro pemaitiro ekuzvichengeta iwe pachako uye nezvido zvako. Yeuka kuti mumwe wako anoda iwe, mubatsiro rako, kutarira uye rudo.
Kunyanya kuvimba kune mumwe nemumwe munyaya dzose, kusvika zvishoma zvakakosha kuderedza godo. Usakanganwa kuti kana murume akakusarudza iwe - zvinoreva kare kuti iwe ndiwe chete uye unodikanwa kwaari, kuti iwe ndiwe, kwete vamwe, akazouda, uye kuroorana - ichi chiratidzo. Usakakahadzika iwe pachako uye kukwezva kwako, nokuti kukanganisa kana kuzvidzora kuzvidzora kunokonzerawo kukonzera kukakavara, zvose pamwe neshamwari uye iwe pachako.
Zviremekedze iwe newawakaroorana naye, ivai nehanya naye uye zvinokuvaraidza, vanoyemura zvaanoita, kumurumbidza uye kugovera zvaanokoshesa. Ita zvinoshamisa, kupedza nguva yakawanda pamwe chete - hupenyu hwemhuri hunogona kukuzarura iwe zvakawanda zvekunakidza uye kushamisika, usaita uye usatora gurusa uye uchibvunda. Kune nguva dzose nzira dzakawanda dzekusiyanisa uye kusimbisa ukama hwako.
Zvichenjerere iwe nekukura kwako, usazvimhanya iwe pachako, ramba uchitarira maitiro ako. Iva nehanya uye uchinetseka pamusoro pemurume wake, asi kungoratidza kuti iwe unomuda, nokuti iye ndiye akakodzera iwe.
Asi kana kukakavadzana kumwe chete kuchiitika, unoda kukwanisa kuzvigadzirisa. Pano chinhu chikuru hachisi chokukwezva vausingazivi, kuva vakasununguka uye vakatendeseka, kutaura chete zvaunofunga uye kunzwa. Usavanza ruzivo, usatya kutaura chinhu chikuru, ita izvo vamwe vanhu vakapa zano, nokuti iwe chete unoda kuita zvisarudzo mumatambudziko ako.
Kugadzirisa kwakanakisisa kugadziriswa panguva yekukurukurirana umo umwe neumwe wevatori vechikamu anoedza kunzwisisa, kubatsirana uye kuwana kuyanana. Usaisa pfungwa dzako pane zvaunofunga. Kana iwe uine chokwadi chekuti nzvimbo yako chete ndiyo ichava mhinduro mumamiriro ezvinhu aya, zvakanyatsotarisirwa uye, zvinonyanya kukosha, tsanangura zvakajeka nei uchifunga kudaro, uye nei mumwe nomumwe wenyu achida chisarudzo ichi, pane kuchema nekusimbisa pane zvaunofunga , nokuda kwechikonzero, nokuti "Ini ndinoda."
Pakupedzisira, zvakakosha kuyeuka kuti kukakavadzana kwose kunogadziriswa, uye maitiro avo haafaniri kutya. Hazvirevi kuti kubatana kwako kuri kudonha, kana kuti hauna kukodzera pamwe chete. Asi zvisinei, vaviri vari vaviri vanoda kuziva kuti chii chinokonzera kukanganisa kwemakakatanwa mumhuri duku. Kusawirirana mune zvishoma kana zvishoma nhamba yavo inhudziro yemhuri dzose, chinhu chikuru, dzidza kurarama nazvo. Yeuka kuti hupenyu hwemhuri yako hunoenderana chete newe.