Panguva iyoyo, kushamisa kunofadza kunzwika sezwi rokuti "kurambana" rinonzwika. Apo imwe nguva guru Leo Tolstoy akati mhuri dzinofara dzakafanana, uye mhuri yose isina kufara haina kufara munzira yayo pachayo. Mumazana emakore maviri ayo apfuura kubva pamashoko aya, hapana chakachinja. Kana mhuri kwakasimbiswa uye anofara, ipapo zvikonzero kwete kutsvaga, asi kana chinhu chakakanganisika uye isiri nzvimbo, unoda kuwana zvinyorwa, kuti zvionekwe kuti ndiani ari mhosva, chii mhosva upenyu hwemhuri.
Ndinoda kunzwisisa chii chakakanganisika mune ukama vanhu vane zviso kufara pamwe muchato mapikicha uye kana zvichibvira kuti kugadzira, kana zvechokwadi wakaputsika zvachose, harungashandurwi ikoko uye kurambana - chete uye chinetso.
Pasinei nezvose zvakasiyana-siyana zvinokonzera kurambana, shanduro dzakawanda dzinowedzera kumativi ose - zvikonzero zvikuru zvinotungamirira kurambana zvinogona kuderedzwa kusvika kumapoka anotevera.
Boka rokutanga ndiko kuti kurambana chaizvoizvo mukana wega wemhuri kuti uchengetedze hupenyu hwavo, hutano uye kuzviremekedza. Ndezvemhuri inoparadzana nekuda kwoutsinye hwomumwe wevakaroorana, zvose mumuviri uye mutsika. Pogoi, kutuka, kudzvinyirira - ichi ndicho chikonzero chekurambana, izvo hazvisi kukurumidza. Kuzeza kana kufungisisa mumamiriro ezvinhu aya hazvibviri.
Boka rechipiri nderokurambana maererano nekudhakwa kweimwe yemhuri. Kunwa, kupindwa muropa nezvinodhaka, kukanganisa kubhejera. Izvi zvinokanganisa zvine zvinhu zvechirwere uye dzimwe nguva zvinorapwa. Nokudaro, chisarudzo chokurambana hachigoni kutorwa nehasha, pasina kuedza kumativi ose maviri kuti utsungirire matambudziko aya asingafadzi. Asi, kana kuedza kunogadzirwa neboka rimwe chete, saka zvinobudirira hazvigone kuwanikwa. Dzimwe nguva ukama hwevakaroorana huri kuipa nekuda kwezvikonzero zvakasiyana zvachose, uye chero ani zvake anwa waini anopiwa kunze kwekudhakwa newaini uye nokuda kwechikonzero chikuru chokukurukura nyaya yekurambana.
Zvichida, zvimwe zvikonzero zvose zvekurambana hazvina zvikonzero zvinangwa. Midzi yavo inogara mune zvinokonzera kuzviisa pasi. Izvi zvikonzero zvinoratidzwa mumashoko akasiyana, zvikonzero zvakasiyana-siyana uye zviitiko zvinopiwa, kutaurirana pamwe nekunyombwa. Vakaroorana munguva yekurambana vanoratidzirana zvose zvakaunganidza uye kubika munguva yeupenyu pamwe chete. "Anobhadhara zvishomanana," "Anonyengera," "Haabatsiri nemabasa epamba," "Haazi kuziva kubika," "Anouya nguva pfupi kubva kubasa," "Anonoka kubasa." Zvikonzero izvi zvinhu zvinokosha kuti kurambana pamakore okutanga oupenyu, uye vose zvavo zviripo kuneta kurarama pamwe chete, nekusagona kana kusada kuchinja mumwe, boyish (yakazvimirira chaiwo zera) nokuda attenuation kuzunungusa uye manzwiro zvinofadza rudo.
Kuwirirana kwevakaroorana munguva yekurambana kunokonzerwa nezvikonzero izvi zvakanyanya kusagadzikana uye kuchinja. Vanosungurudza sekudzungira kubva kune ruvengo rwevamwe kusvika kumakumbo epanguva pfupi uye kunyange kuputika kwetsva kwerudo, zvakare kunopesana nekuzvidza pamwe. Idzi nguva anogona kugara kwenguva refu, kakawanda uye pakupedzisira kuchatungamirira kwokupedzisira atsamwira kana zvishoma nezvishoma kuserera, dzokera munguva uye mumhuri kuchava norugare uye kuwirirana, kana kanenge yakawiriranwa kushivirira uye unyanzvi kwete omerera nemudiwa kwaPetro.
Mumamiriro ezvinhu akadaro zvakakosha kuti tisapindira muhukama hwevakaroorana, kwete kutsigira imwe kana rumwe rutivi, kuti tisapisa mamiriro ezvinhu mumhuri kunyange kubva kune vavariro dzakanaka. Kazhinji chivi ichi chinowanikwa muvabereki vevakaroorana, dzimwe nguva shamwari dzakanakisisa. Chero kupindira munhau dzemhuri kubva kunze (kana kutaura kusingatauri kutyisidzira kuhupenyu kana hutano) kunozara nemigumisiro isingatarisirwi. Hazvina mhosva kuti hukama hwemhuri hunokura sei munguva yemberi, kupindira kwekunze hakungakanganwiki. Nezwi rimwe risine hanya, iwe unogona kuparadza zvachose mhuri yako uye uzviwanire iwe mubasa rekupomerwa kusingaperi mune iri kuparadzwa. Kana mhuri ichiri kupona mumatambudziko ose ehupenyu, zvose zvakafanana, ukama nemumwe wevadzidzi huchaparadzwa zvachose.
Kunyanya kunorwadza ukama huri pakati pevakaroorana panguva yekurambana kwevana vavo. Muhuduku zvinhu zvose zvinoratidzika kusingaperi. Mufaro haungaputsiki, zvinetso hazvigadziriswi. Nokudaro, kukakavara kupi zvako, uye kunyanya kusarudzwa kwekurambana, kunonyanya kuchinja mupfungwa yemwana, zvose zviri vaduku uye vaduku. Kusiyana kwepfungwa mupfungwa kwevana vemazuva ano kunokonzerwa nekuti vanopfuura hafu yavo vanogara mumhuri dzine mubereki ari oga kana neine mubereki anokurera (kakawanda baba, asi amai vanorerawo havowo zvavo). Saka, munguva yekurambana, vabereki vanofanira kunyatsongwaririra mukukurukura nevana uye kwete kuchinja matambudziko avo kumweya yavo yakaoma uye mapepa.
Kana zvakadaro asvika nomutemo kurambana, kuparadzana uye weboka pfuma, zvose zvikonzero maiva chokurambana zvakare kuva nyaya vaitirane nharo, uye vari kushandiswa nenharo mukuedza kuhwina chikuru Acquired pfuma. Hapana anokakavadzana kuti zvinhu zvose zvinoshanda zvakaoma kwatiri, asi zviri nani kuchengetedza hukama hwakanaka kune umwe kune umwe kunze kwehupi hupi hunokosha. Muhupenyu, unogona kuwana mienzaniso mizhinji apo vakaroorana mushure mekurambana vanoramba vachichengetedza hukama hwakanaka, pamwe chete kutarisira vana, kubatsirana kana zvichidiwa. Uyezve, pane vanhu vanoramba vachivengana mushure memakore akawanda eupenyu hwakasiyana. Tarisa kune avo nevamwe, teererai uye edzai kuramba muri vanhu kunyange mumamiriro ezvinhu akaoma sehupenyu sekurambana. Funga zvose zvidzidzo zvehupenyu hwako, yeuka zvikanganiso zvako uye kukanganisa kwevamwe vanhu, kuti urege kuzvidzoka munguva yemberi. Mushure mezvose, mushure mekurambana hupenyu hunoenderera mberi uye mafungiro edu pamusoro pacho anobva pane zvachazove.