Pane maonero ekuti kushushikana kwevakadzi kunenge kwakagadziriswa zvachose kurambidzwa kune vanhu vanogara mumhuri yakagadzikana, kwenguva refu. Sezvo ari kuvanda shure kwemaonero ekuenzana, nokudaro anongoshanda chete nevakadzi, kunyatsofunga kuti munhu, kana kwete muvengi chaiwo wemukadzi, pane imwe nzvimbo pedyo neizvi, kubva kune ichi mukadzi anogara achitambura uye anotambudzika. Chii chinokonzerwa nevakadzi kumhuri?
Mhuri uye Mukadzi
Kana huchikadzi hupenyu hwomukadzi chikadzi, ipapo murume ari mumufananidzo uyu mutorwa, imwe "tsanangudzo" yakawedzerwa iyo dzimwe nguva inobatsira, asi kwete zvachose yakakanganiswa nemukadzi pachake. Vakadzi vanobvumirana nemafungiro echikadzi pakutanga pakutanga havafungi nezvekuchengetedza mhuri mushure mekunzwa "kwakaneta." Zvakakodzera kureva kuti hukadzi hunotsanangurira hukadzi hwemadzimai kubvisa murume, uyo ane zvimwe zvisingabatsiri, kana rudo rwekare rwapera, uye hupenyu pamwe pamwe hukava hutoro. Zvakanaka, uye kana iwe uchifunga kuti vanhu havana zvikanganiso, ipapo anenge mhuri dzose dzinoparadzana. Kuvapo kwevana mumhuri hakubatsiri basa chero ripi zvaro, nokuti chinhu chinokosha kumukadzi ndiye, uye vana vanogona kuita vasina baba. Mushure mezvose, imwezve yemitemo yevakadzi - "mwana haafaniri kuva nababa namai, zvakakwana izvo zvaanoda chete."
Vakadzi havafungi uye zviri nyore kugovana nevarume vavo, asi ivo havaedzi kurarama vasina kuda, asi mhuri yakagadzikana, inokosha pakukura nekukura kwevana. Vana vanorerwa mumhuri dzakaputsika vanowanzoshuva maitiro evabereki vavo muupenyu hwavo pachavo. Mune shoko, kusakwanisa kukurukura nevakomana vakasiyana, kusakwanisa kuchengetedza hukama hwakasimba kwenguva refu, "rakarongwa". Nokudaro, hukama hwevakadzi hunoita hunovimbisa kuti chizvarwa chinotevera chevanhu chichava chizvarwa chevanhu vakasurukirwa. Muenzaniso wakadaro unopiwa nevanofungidzirwa zvevakadzi - inenge dzose dzakawanda dzinoparadzana ne "hafu" yavo.
Uchikadzi hunodzivisa Kusika kweMhuri Yakazvarwa
Imwe yemitemo yakakosha yevakadzi inotaura kuti "murume wepabonde akamanikidzwa kwemazana emakore nevakadzi, nenzira dzose akavadzvinyirira uye aida kuteerera kwavo uye kuderera." Uye uhukadzi hwakabvumira mudzimai kuti anzwe nhengo yakakwana yevanhu - yakakodzana uye isina rusununguko. Ichokwadi, maonero evanhukadzi vanobvumirana nehupo hwekufunga kwakadaro, sezvo munhu wose anoziva kusimba kwakasimba pakuenzanisa nemurume. Chido chokuva kana kuonekwa se "mutenzi wenyika" chiratidzo chevamiririri vevakadzi, asi muupenyu huri nyore hunosiya nekuparadzanisa kwakanyanya kwemaikwanisa yekuzadzisa chinangwa ichi.
Mumwe munhu angabvunza kuti chii chikadzi? Uye kunze kwekuti, avo vanonamatira kumadzimai anenge "kusvika kumatenga" vanobvisa kuzvikudza uye kuzvikudza (kune zviitiko kana zvakakodzera, uye kune-pasina, asi kubvisa). Panguva imwe chete, kukwanisa kutarisa pasina "magirazi anozununguka" pane iwe pachako kwakanyanyisa kuderera (sokuti "vaimbove vachinyengedzwa nemafungiro avo vanofunga kuti havana kukwana, asi iye zvino vakasununguka" - mune rimwe shoko, "dizzy uye kubudirira"). Uye saka, panguva yekuongororwa kwake "akasununguka" akatarisa pasi pose, mukadzi anoona kuti avo vanokodzera hukuru hwake hwemumiririri vevarume havasi ivo (uye kana pane, varipo vakatora kana kuti "varume", naizvozvo ivo havana kukodzera) . Kana kuzvikudza kwakadaro kwakakosha - mukadzi anogona kungonzwira tsitsi chete, asi vanhu vakadaro (nekutadza kuzviremekedza, vakadzi kana varume) pane zvishoma. Munenge vanhu vose vari muhuwandu hwavo. Kuumba mapaviri vangadai vasvika pedyo nomunhu mumwe chete wepakati. Asi hazvina kudaro! Uhukadzi hunokonzera mukadzi kusurukirwa panzvimbo yekuumba mhuri ine munhuwo zvake wepakati pevanhu. Nokuti pasi pe "hit" zvinowanzowira pasi vanenge varume vose vangadai vakaita mukadzi kune vakaroorana. Uye vanhu vanogona kurarama hupenyu hurefu hurefu (zvichida pasina shungu kwazvo kana pasina mufaro mukuru, asi zvakanaka). Uye zvakakosha kutaura kuti ichi chikadzi ndicho chikonzero chekuita kusurukirwa zvachose.