Chizvarwa chega chega chiri kugunun'una kuti, ivo vanoti, jaya nhasi rakapfuura "kwete iro", rinopfeka uye rinoita "kwete kudaro" uye kuti kazhinji "zvaive zviri nani kare". Zvisinei, vechidiki vemazuva ano vane chimwe chakakomba chakakomba, infantilism, kana kusada kukura. Izvi zvinonzwisisika kwete nevabereki chete, vadzidzisi uye vanapfungwa dzepfungwa. Madzimai anogutsikana nevana vaduku, uye varume - vakadzi vechidiki ... uye hazvirevi nezvekudzivirira kwepanyama - kuchema kwepfungwa semhaka yekushaya oxygen panguva yekuberekwa, matambudziko emagetsi uye mamwe matambudziko ehutano - uye nezvepfungwa yepfungwa. Uye kunyange zvazvo isina chokuita nemajene uye congenital haisipo, ndevabereki vano "kupa" vagari venhaka dzorudzi urwu vane chirema, infantilism - kusada kwevanhu kukura.
Pane shoko rakadaro "unofanira"
Zviratidzo zve "utera" - infantilism, munhu wose anonyatsoziva - kusakwana, kusava nechido, kusada kushanda uye kutora mutoro. Kunyanya, naivety, kusava nehanya, zvido zvepamusoro uye kushandura mafungiro - muchidimbu, zvinhu zvose zvinokosha kuvana vaduku. "Usava nehanya uye usingazivi!" - Sang mumutambo unozivikanwa wefirimu Tortilla. Asi chinhu chimwe chete "kusava nehanya uye kusaziva" pazera remakore manomwe, uye kune imwezve - pa17 uye kunyange pa37 ... Nhamo, kusvikira makore 10-12 kuti azive mune mugari wenhaka zviratidzo zvekudzivirira zvisingakwanisi, nokuti vana vaduku vose vari kutamba, uye vanovenga shoko rokuti "unofanira". Gare gare, nezera remakore 13 kusvika ku14, pfungwa yacho inofanira kunge isinganzwisisiki - mune nzira yekukura, apo mwana anodzidza kuita kwete chete zvaanoda uye zvaanofarira, asiwo izvo zvinodiwa. Semuenzaniso, bvisa maikoni ari muimba yacho, tora mukoma muduku kubva kuchikoro chechikoro chechikoro chechikoro, kana kuti kutengesa kwemaawa akawanda pamusoro pefizikiki inovengwa. Munhu akakura mwana anova, iye anowedzera mabasa aanoita, iro rinotarisirwa kuti atakure pane zvaanoita.
Asi kune vamwe vana kuchinja uku mukuziva kwechimwe chikonzero hakuiti, uye vanoramba vachiita sevana - uye mumakore ekuchinja, uye kunyange gare gare. Panzvimbo pokuteerera mudzidzisi, vanotaura zvinonzwika pachidzidzo nemuvakidzani, vanyorera mumabhuku uye vachirota kuenda kuAfrica. Panzvimbo pokuita basa rechikoro, kutamba kwemaawa pamakombiyuta kana ... kurara sevana! Panzvimbo pokubatsira vabereki mumba, vanogumburwa kuti havana kuvabatsira uye havana kutenga chinhu chakavimbiswa kare. Panzvimbo pokuudza chokwadi pamusoro pechikonzero chekurumidza, vanouya nechekereji zvikonzero zvakadai se "Ndakafamba ndokuwira mugomba" kana kuti "Mvura yangu yemvura yakatanga kusatarirwa mangwanani." Uye zvakadaro.
Vamwe vabereki vanotanga kuwana tsvina yakadaro ichifadza uye kunyange kugunzva, ndokubva vashamisika kuti: "Murume uyu ane makore makumi maviri nemashanu, uye achiri kugara pamitsipa yevabereki vake!" Uyewo achagara, nokuti kwaari saka zvakanyarara. Pashure pezvose, haasi kushandiswa kushanda, kupindura nekuda kwezvikanganiso zvake uye zvisakarurama. Izvi, nenzira, ndiyo ngozi huru yekuwana infantilism. Vaya vakanamatira muhuduku havawanzogutsikana nebasa rakanaka - mushure mezvose, rinoda huwandu hwemhosva. Uye ivo vanotyawo kunzwa mukukudzwa kwavo marendo ekuroorana emuchato eMendelssohn, achida kurarama nemhirizhonga yehurumende: kana chimwe chinhu, tichapararira, uye hapana munhu anosungirwa kune ani zvake. Vanowanzochinja shamwari neshamwari dzepabonde, nokuti vanogara vachiora mwoyo. "Infantiles" anoziva kubvuma kubereka vana: izvi zvinotambudza! Heino imbwa-imwe imwe nyaya. Ichokwadi, kana iwe uchifamba naye zuva nezuva mangwanani uye manheru pachava nomumwe munhu ...
Ndiani ari pangozi?
Iko kupi chiratidzo chepfungwa chekusununguka kubva kune - kusada kwevanhu kukura? Pano pane shanduko yaakazova yakakwana nekuda kwe ... kubudirira kwakanyanya munzanga. Sezvo Boris Grebenshchikov achiimba: "Vana vevakuru vakuru vanopenga nokuti havana chimwe chinhu chavanoda." Vechiduku vemazuva ano vakangodya chete: vane zvinhu zvose kubva pamapottopine kuenda kumotokari, hazvichadi kuedza chero chinhu. Iyo nharo inogutsa, kunyanya kana tikafunga kuti infantilism yava chirwere chechizvarwa chechiduku, kwete muUkraine chete.
Zvisinei, shoko rekupedzisira richiri revabereki. Kana vachikwanisa kukurudzira kuzvimiririra kwomwana uye kuzvimirira, vana vacho havakwanise "kubatira" muhuduku kwenguva refu. Nezvimwewo, vana-vakapwanyika, vakadzipwa ne rudo rwevabereki, kutarisirwa uye kutarisirwa, zvakare musatora munwe pamunwe. Uye nei zvakashata kana vanhu vakuru vane zvokudya zvepuni, mubhedha uchatsvaga, mabhuti akacheneswa, zvipfeko zvicheneswa, uye pamwe navo kuchikoro kutakura bhegi rakazara re raznosolov?
Kana amai nababa vasingamiri kuti vafunge uye vorega kutarisira mwana semurwere, kufungidzirwa kwe "kufunga kwepfungwa" kunovimbiswa kwaari. Kunyanya kana iri ...
Kwapera nguva, mwana akamirira kwenguva refu. Vabereki vakarota pamusoro pechiratidzo chake kwemakore akawanda zvokuti vakagadzirira kuita zvose kune vadiwa vavo "chick", kunyange kana "chick" yakagara ichiveura.
Mwana muduku muzera guru. Anowanzoputirwa, kunyatsochengetedzwa, zvishoma nezvishoma kurangwa. Kwaari, sekutonga, nannies haisi amai namababa chete, asiwo hama nehanzvadzi dzakwegura.
Vakomana vaigara vachirwara muhuduku hwavo. Vabereki, vachitya nezvirwere zvavo zvisingaperi, edza kudzivirira vagari venhaka kwete chete kubva kumashizha, asiwo kubva pane zvisinganyanyi kudzvinyirira: "Usashungurudza pasi, asi kamwe kamwe iwe unotanga kukura kune guruva?"
Vagari venhaka yekubudirira, vanobatwa muupenyu hwevanhu. Vakashanda, vane simba, vane chinangwa vabereki dzimwe nguva vanobata vana nekukosha kwavo uye kubudirira: "Ndakaverenga mune zvepakutanga mumazuva ako eShakespeare naDickens, uye iwe haugone kuwirirana mazwi maviri muchiChirungu!" Achitenda kuti haakwanisi kusvika pamwero wakakwirira wezvakaitwa nevabereki, mwana anotangira asati asangana nematambudziko ehupenyu, anotya uye asingakanganisi, achitarisa kwose kwose kuna amai vane simba uye baba.
Kune imwezve yakanyanyisa , apo vabereki vakapfuma vanoshambidza vana vavo muhupfumi: "Uri kuenda kunosuka ndiro here? Uye zvakadini nemuchengeti weimba?" Panyanyisa, imba ine mudziyo wokushambidzira. " Nokudaro, vanhu vakuru vanozvikudziridza nevanasikana nevanakomana vasingadi kushanda. Asi kunyange Rockefeller, murume uyo ari kure nevarombo, akachengetedza vagari venhaka yake mumagetsi emakiti, achivapa mari yehomwe chete nokuda kwebasa rakaitwa. Nokudaro, somuenzaniso, kuwedzera kwepenzura kunodhura masendi gumi, awa yezvidzidzo zvemimhanzi - zvishanu, nokuda kwemasora gumi akabudiswa mumunda wamesanga mwana aifanira kunge ane dollar imwe, uye nokuda kwehuni huni - gumi nemashanu. Kunyange bhasikoro, uye imwe yaiva yevana vaRockefeller imwe yechina: baba vakafunga kuti saka vana vachangobva kudzidza kudzidza.
Regai aende kumushandirapamwe!
Unotya here kuti mwana wako ane mukana wega wega wekuva mwana asingakwanisi kubhadharwa uye ane slacker? Zvadaro endai nokukurumidza kuti mumubvise kunze kwechikepe ichi! Uyezve, maererano nevanodzidza nezvepfungwa, nechinangwa chisina kujeka chekusaziva-kusada kwemunhu kukwidziridzwa, zvinotarisirwa zvinowanzofadza - zvidzidzo zvebasa rezvemishonga, rinokosha uye, kunyanya kukosha, mitoro ine basa - uye mwana anokura pamberi pedu! Asi mune zviitiko zvakanyanya zvisina hanya pasina mushonga haagoni kuita, nokuti kunze kwekukurukurirana kwemweya, iwe ungadawo mishonga.
Kutanga tinokurudzira iwe kushandisa mazano ekupfungwa kwepfungwa.
Kurudzira mwana kuti ave oga. Kana akasarudza kwenguva yekutanga muupenyu hwake kubika pasta (iyo yaakashandura kuva phariji), usaseka unyanzvi husina ruzivo rwezvokudya. Uyezve - nenzira dzose dzinorumbidzwa! Uye kwete kungoita chete, asiwo zvekudya kwakagadzirirwa. Uye pakati pezviitiko zvinondiudza kuti nguva inotevera pasita ichave yakanyanya kudikanwa, kana dzimwe nguva inokurudzira.
Usatambidzana neanhaka: taura zvakawanda naye, edza kuramba uchitarisana nezvese zvaakaona. Ronga mazororo emhuri, kazhinji ugare nemhuri yose. Infantile vana vari nyore kuonekwa uye vanogona kuwira pasi pesimba remakambani akaipa nemigumisiro yese ...
Funga nezvenyaya yezvinhu izvo mwana wako anogona kuita. Izvo zvichamunyaradza, kumuponesa kubva pakudzoka kusina kufanira, mumudzidzise nzira yekuronga zuva rake uye kutora mutoro wezvimwe zvikamu. Ngatitii mudzidzi wechikoro chekusekondari anokwanisa kuchenesa tereyi yekati zuva rega rega, kuchenesa imba yake uye kuenda kuchitoro chechingwa. Ipa mwana mirayiridzo, igare yakasimba uye inopfuurira. Kana iwe ukati: "Kuchenesa kate - basa rako rezuva nezuva," saka usasvike manheru kuti uone kana iwe mugari wenhaka achiyeuka. Wakanganwa? Iva nechokwadi chekuyeuchidza! Kana mwana akadzidza kuva ane mhosva yezvinhu zviduku, zvino munguva yakareba, kunyange zvikuru zvichatendeseka uye nehana.
Infantile vana vanodyire vasina rudo. Yeuka izvi! Basa rako - kutungamirira zvido zvevana zvekufambira mberi murugare. Mwana anorota kuenda kune dzimwe nyika? Nyora pasi muchikamu chekushanyirwa. Uye hazvina basa kuti iyo nzira inorara munzvimbo iri pedyo nemasango, uye kwete mumurenje reSahara, asi mutariri achaunza muroti kubva kudenga pasi. Mushure mezvose, mairi achadzidza kudzika moto, kugadzirira kudya, kufamba nenyeredzi. Ichi ndicho chigadziro chemazuva mazhinji chaiwo!
Mwanakomana wamai ari ngozi!
Varume, avo amai vemweya vakange vasingadi kunwa - vakatora ruoko rwake, vakamudzivirira kubva kune "shamwari dzakaipa", vachivhiringidza kukakavadzana kwevana, vachikura sevana vaamai uye ... varume vasina maturo. Nyanzvi dzezvepfungwa dzinofunga kuti kukudzwa kwakakura kwevakadzi kunoendesa kune chokwadi chokuti munhu anokura kuzvikudza, achitenda kuti zvinhu zvose zviri munyika ino ndezvaiye chete. Haafariri kutora mabasa asina kufanira - shure kwezvose nokuda kwake zvose zvakaitwa naamai vake, uye zvino, maererano nemaonero ake, zvose zvinofanira kuitwa nemudzimai. Varume vasina kufanana vanoita sevana: vanoda kuti vaunganidzwe kubasa, kubika kwekudya kwavanenge vachigadzirira, kunyange kana vadikanwi vasina kurara usiku hwose kana kurara mumubhedha vane kupisa kwakakwirira. Apo mwana mucheche anopinda mumhuri, kukakavara hakugoni kudziviswa, nokuti "kusanzwisisana uku kuri kudyisa" kunobvisa kutarisa kwomukadzi anodiwa! Dambudziko nderokuti varume vakadaro vakaita sepabonde rakanaka, nokuti vane rudo chaizvo. Vanogona, semuenzaniso, kukanda miriyoni imwe yemirasi tsvuku pamakumbo avo. Ichokwadi, mari yemirasi inogona kutorwa kubva kuvabereki ...
Infantile iri nyore kudzivirira kudarika kurapa. Cherechedza kana vana ...
- Haasi kutakurwa zvachose nechimwe chinhu kana zvaanoda zvinoramba zvichinja;
- kunakidza nekuvaraidza kwaari kunokosha kupfuura kudzidza;
- anogara achinyengera muchikonzero chake, achipa mhosva vamwe:
- nguva dzose bvunza maonero evanhu vakuru, kunyange pamibvunzo isinganyanyi kukosha;
- anotambura nemafungiro akaoma; Gurgling kuseka kunopa nzira yekuchema;
- harina досоживает kusvikira kuguma kwechidzidzo, zvisingafungi.