Uye vanhu vose vanogara vachitaura nomwoyo wose kuti vanorota semhuri yakanyarara, vana uye mudzimai munyoro ane rudo, asi kwete ikozvino, asi munguva yemberi.
Ngationei kuti nei varume vachitya ukama hwepedyo? Chimwe chikonzero ndechokusava nehanya "kuzvisunga" nekuda kwemamataveli asina kubudirira munguva yakapfuura uye, sekutonga, kana munhu achinyanya kushungurudzika muhukama hworudo, paanowedzera kutya kwekukundikana zvakare, nenzira imwecheteyo, havatsvaki kuzvisunga kune hukama husingaperi hukama ne vakasiyana. Varume vanocherechedza kurambana uye kugoverana kwepfuma yehama neshamwari vasingafungi vachiedza "kudzokazve" zviitiko zvinotyisa, nokuti, chokwadi, kurambana kune rudzi rwekukundwa kwepabonde rakasimba, saka vanhu vanoedza kuti vasakundikana kukunda muupenyu hwavo. Vamwe varume vari kugara vari kutsvaga mukadzi akakodzera, nokuti ndiye akaisvonaka kwazvo, anonzwisisa uye ane rudo, anogara achinzwisisa uye achidziya. Kuwana zvikanganiso kune vamwe vanokwikwidzana neukama hwakakomba, murume wacho "anotsvaira" munhu anenge asarudzwa nekuda kwekusawirirana neanoda. Vamwe varume, kunyange vatova murudo nehafu yavo yechipiri, edza kudzivisa kutaura pamusoro pekugara pamwe chete, kungofunga kuti panguva iyo yakangokurumidza kufungidzira nezvemamwe matarisiro. Varume vakawanda, kunyange zvazvo vakasiya kuroorana, pakuguma, vanozvisunga nemuchato. Asi kunewo mhando dzevarume vasina kukwanisa kugadzikana nekugara kwenguva dzose. Vamwe varume vane mafungiro akaipa vanoedza kusakurumidza. Pane kunonoka kukura, vamiririri vehutano hwakasimba havasati vatanga uye vanotya kuzivisa hupenyu hwezuva nezuva hwehukama hwemhuri muupenyu hwavo. Imwe rudzi rwevarume, avo vanonzi "vakaomeswa bachelor." Sezvo mutemo, vatova nemakore 35-40, ava ndivo varume vanojaira kurarama vari voga, vanovimba chete ivo pachavo uye kuvimba zvachose pane chinhu muhupenyu hwavo. Kunzwa kuva nechisungo kumudzimai, achiziva kuti anotanga kutora kukosha kunokosha muupenyu hwake, munhu akadaro anotanga kuzvidzora-anorega kusangana, anoshevedza nguva shomanana, anoreva nyaya dzinogara dzichikurumidzira. Vadzidzi vakaoma vakaoma kusvitsa mukadzi mumusha wavo, kwete kutaura kuti vanoda kurarama pasi pedenga rimwechete. Zviri nani kunyara kubva kuvanhu vakadaro, kunze kwekuti, zvirokwazvo, iwe unokwezva kune basa rekuva shamwari isingaperi.
Chii isu isu, kurara pabonde, tichida kurarama nemurume wavo anodikanwa upenyu hwakareba uye hunofadza? Nzira chete yekugadzirisa ukama nemurume muhupenyu hwakareba uye hwakagadzikana ndeyekubvuma maonero ake. Kuramba achitambudza munhu ane mibvunzo pamusoro pekutarisira kwemazuva anotevera, mukadzi anotanga kuisa zviratidzo "Saka iwe haundidi ini! "" Handina hanya newe! "Uye zvakadaro. , anotanga kuchema uye kukura kusuruvara. Nzira dzakadaro dzinenge dzichipa nguva dzose kushamwaridzana mukati mehukama uye kutungamirira kune zvakashata. Murume, achiona kutambura uye kutambudzika komumwe wake, anosarudza kungosiya, kuitira kuti asave nemanzwiro ekuzvipa mhosva anopfuura mamwe ose manzwiro.
Asi panewo zviratidzo zvekuti iwe unogona kunzwisisa nyore nyore kuti hukama hwakakomba hupenyu hwehupenyu hunokosha uye unobata mumwe wake zvakanaka uye zvakanyanya. Chiratidzo chekutanga chinogona kugadziriswa kana pane hurukuro yemurume ane musanangurwa wake kana neshamwari izwi rokuti "isu" rinowanzoonekwa kakawanda. Male psychology inotaura kuti kana munhu atanga kuonekwa nemumwe munhu, iye kubva kare akasiya nzvimbo yake seyeye uye ari kuvaka ramangwana rake pamwe neshamwari yake. Kana iwe uchipedza nguva yakawanda pamwe chete, ichi chiratidzo cheukama hwakakomba. Murume asingafariri kugovana nguva nemudzimai (kunze kwekuti izvi hachisi rudo rworudo), achapedza nguva yake yekusununguka pamitambo, kuita zvinhu zvinokuvaraidza kana kufara mune imwe shamwari inofara yevamwe shamwari. Uchapupu hwekutenda uye chimiro chakakosha ndechokuti munhu anokwanisa kupa "zvidyo zvemasikana" - kombiyuta, motokari nezvimwe zvinhu zvaanoda kumukadzi wake. Chiroro chimwe chiratidzo cheukama hwakakomba. Munhu chete murudo, anokoshesa mudzimai wake, achapedza nguva uye mitsipa pakukakavara nemumwe wake. Zvinonzwisisika, chinangwa cheukama hwakakomba pakati pevanhu ndechekukakavara nemagumisiro akanaka. Chiratidzo chinokosha cheukama hwakakomba kuziva iwe vabereki nevamwe shamwari. Shamwari ishamwari yevanhu vanogona kuva ivo uye vanozorora, saka, vachiziva musanangurwa wake nevabereki vake kana shamwari, murume anoda kubvumirwa uye pfungwa kubva kuvanhu vanokosha. Zvakanaka, chiratidzo chakanyatsojeka uye chakajeka chehutano hwehukama ndeyekuvakwa kwezvirongwa uye tarisiro yehupenyu huri pamwe chete. Izvi zvinoreva kuti murume anotanga kutora mutoro kwete iye oga, asiwo kumukadzi wake anodiwa. Uye kana munhu akasarudza kugara neaanoda, ngazvive nehurukuro kuti iyi ndiyo yekutanga, kutarisa zviri nani shamwari, pasina mubvunzo, iyi inhanho huru mune nzira yakarurama.
Mhando dzevakadzi dzinodiwa uye dzakasarudzwa nevarume vane zvirongwa zvakakura zvehukama hwakakomba? Vakadzi vanomupa mukana wekunzwa semurume asingaiti kuti zvive zvekudya zvekudya zvekushambidza uye anonyatsodzora misangano neshamwari dzinonzwisisa nekugamuchira zvido zvevarume. Shamwari yakachenjera, uyo waunogona kutaura naye pane chero musoro. Murume anoremekedza anoteerera mafungiro ake, kunyange kana asingabvumirane naye, hurumende uye unyanzvi mumamiriro ezvinhu akaoma. Chero mukadzi upi noupi murume anozvisarudzira, zvakakosha kuti arambe ari iye zvakanakisisa uye zvakanakisisa! Usakanganwa kuti manzwiro akasimba haasi kure kune vanhu uye chikonzero chikuru chinotungamirira munhu munyika yehupenyu hwemhuri nguva dzose rudo!