"O, ndakatsamwirwa sei!" -kudanidzira uku kubva parwiyo mukaroto "The Blue Puppy" inorondedzera kwete chete manzwiro ehondo yepirate, asi dzimwe nguva mwana wako, uye nokukurumidza kana kuti gare gare mubereki wese anotarisana naro. Kubata vana uye kushungurudzika kunotsanangurwa nezvinokosha zvekukura kwechiitiko, kushanduka kwezvinodiwa zvomwana.
Makore matatu kusvika matanhatu
Kwemakore mitatu munda wemwana wekutaurirana uri kuwedzera. Anoenda kuchikwata chechikoro, achishingaira achishanyira mapoka ekubudirira, ane vana vakawanda vanoziva. Saka, nemufaro mutsva nekuwana, nharo itsva dzichioneka. Mwana anotarisana nechokwadi chokuti hukama hwevanhu hahugoni kugara husina makore, kukakavadzana kunowanzoitika, uye anofanirwa kusangana nematambudziko asingafadzi. Uye kana mugore nehafu kana makore maviri zvaive zvakakwana kuti unzwirwe tsitsi nemunhu akashungurudzika, uyo asina kugovera fudzi rake nebhaketeni, uye shandura iyo. kutarisa, ipapo nezera remakore matatu mwana atoziva kutaura uye kunzwisisa zvakakwana kuti apinde mukati mokukurukurirana.
Chikoro ichi chinzvimbo umo vana vanowana mukana unokosha wekunzwa manzwiro uye hukama semuhupenyu hwevanhu vakuru: rudo nekuparadzanisa, ushamwari uye kuora mwoyo, mufaro uye godo. Uye pano zvakakosha kuti mubereki akaita senzvimbo yakatendeseka yegungwa, umo chikepe chezviitiko zvevana chinogona kupotera. Kana mwana akanzwa kuti kutambura kwake kunonzwisiswa, saka vanova vashoma kumuparadza. Muchiitiko ichi, mai vanogona kutanga hurukuro yakaita seiyi: "Ndinoona kuti iwe wakatanga kuchema kakawanda, hausi kuda kuenda kuchikoro chechikoro, chii chakaitika?" Kana mwana wacho asingachipinduri, zvinokosha kuti utaure zvinyorwa zvakawanda, nokuti pane dzimwe nguva vanhu vakuru vanogona kukanganisa mukufungidzira kwavo: "Mudzidzisi akakurondedzera kwauri here uye iwe wakatsamwa? Wakawana chimwe chinhu chakanga chisingafariri muchechi chechikoro here kana chimwe chinhu chakashata nevamwe - Wakakakavadzana nomumwe munhu here? Zvichida mumwe munhu akarega kutamba newe? " Kazhinji mwana anopindura kune rimwe remibvunzo kana kuti ane zvaanoita. Iyi ndiyo kutanga kwekukurukurirana umo mubereki ari kutaura uye anodana manzwiro emwana: "Zvechokwadi, zvinonyadzisa apo musikana wacho anotanga kuva neshamwari nevamwe uye anorega kutaurirana newe asi zvinoitika - munhu wose ane kodzero yekusarudza kuti ataure naye. Iwe unofunga kuti ungada kuva neshamwari nevasikana ava zvakare, kana kuti pane mumwe munhu mubhokisi kuti iwe ungave uchifarira kutamba navo? Zvichida iwe uchazvibvunza kuti utambe pamwe chete? " Muhurukuro iyi, mubereki haasi kungotaurawo manzwiro omwana, asiwo anomubatsira kurarama kusakwana kwehukama hwechokwadi, kuratidzira nzira dzakasiyana dzemamiriro ezvinhu.
Tichikurukurirana pachena pamamiriro ezvinhu akaoma nevana, tinoratidza kuti izvi zvinogona uye zvinofanira kutaurirwa pamusoro. Uye pavanenge vakura vanobvisa chido chekusazvivharira pachavo kubva pakakakavadzana nekunyarara, asi kuvadzirisa muhurukuro. Mukuwedzera, kunzwisisa manzwiro avo, mwana anotanga kunzwisisa zvakajeka uye vamwe vanhu, anoziva kuvasiya ivo kodzero yekuva ivo pachavo. Uku kunzwisisa kwezviri kuitika kunosimbisa kuzvivimba kwake.
Chii chatisingafaniri kuita neizvi?
Musoro wekuti munhu anokwanisa sei kugadzirisa misodzi nemisodzi uye kamwe uye yose ndeyeye yakazara nenhamba yakawanda yenhema yakapfuura kubva pamuromo kusvika pamuromo uye inokurukurwa muvabereki maforamu. Zvisinei, dzimwe dzedzidzidzo idzi dzinokwanisa kukuvadza muhukama hwevabereki.
Anobata shalat
Imwe yenzira dzinowanzopiwa kuvabereki ndekuudza mwana kuti haana mhosva yega, asi "mapepa ake anopera", anoita chimwe chinhu chakanyatsorambidzwa, kana "mumwe mukomana / musikana / cartoon character" - mumwe munhu akagogodza mwana kusvika pakusateerera uye kudii.
"Ngatitaurirei zvakasimba navo, kuitira kuti varege kuita izvi zvakare uye hatidi kupopotedzana newe," mwana anopiwa. Zvinotaridzika kuti nzira iyi ine chinangwa chakakwana-kurega mwana achifunga kuti vanomuda asingatenderwi, uye anongoruramisa chete maitiro ake. Uye chero chii chakaitika, iye ndiye akakurumbira munyika. Mune chikamu, izvi zvakadzika mumatsika evanhu, pamwe nekutenda kuti "simba remafu" rakasimwa mumunhu akanaka. Ndeipi ngozi yeyi nzira? Kana makumbo nemaoko ari kurarama hupenyu hwakasiyana kana zvinhu zvose zvinogona kutora Carlson, zvinoreva kuti mwana haasi iye mutumbi wemuviri kana zviito zvake. Kuchinja kwemutoro kunogona kuva nzvimbo yakanaka, zvakare, tsanangudzo yakadaro haitidzidzise kunzwisisa zviri kuitika. Zvakakosha kuti usatsoropodza munhu asiri kunze, asi kufunga nezvechimwe chinhu chinokurudzira, panguva imwe chete achitsanangurira mwana manzwiro ake uye zvido zvake: "Unofarira kutamba nemaoko ako mune dutu here? Hongu, zvinonakidza, asi kana iwe uchidya, hauna kuzviita. , uye mushure mekudya kwekudya kwekudya tichatamba naye oga. "
Handioni chinhu, handinzwi chero chinhu
Vabereki vakawanda vanotenda nomwoyo wose kuti kunyatsoteerera kwemisodzi kunokonzera mwana. Nevana vaduku, vanomira nenzira yekutaura vachitaura kana vanotumwa kuti vagare voga muimba. Uyezve, kunyange kutambura kubva pakudiwa kwekushandisa nzira dzakadaro dzedzidzo dzakasimba, vazhinji vedu tinonyatsofunga kuti vari kubatsira mwana wavo. "Pashure pezvose, ini handina kukwidzwa kutsamwa," mubereki anozvikurudzira pachake panguva ino. Midzi yehutano iyi ndeyekuti inotaridzika kwatiri zvakaoma: mwana anonyanya kutamba "inamato yemuitevedzeri", saka zvinokosha chete kumuchengetedza vateereri. Uye iyo kuvhara mupfungwa, iyo yatinoisa nayo, ichaparadza "chirongwa chinonyengera". Muzvokwadi, mbudzana inobatwa nechikonzero chokuti haakwanisi kurarama nemwoyo wose nemanzwiro ake. Uye panguva ino yakaoma, munhu ari pedyo zvikuru anotanga kumurega, uye mwana achasanganawo nekunzwa kusurukirwa kwakanyanya. Kurangwa nokunyarara panguva iyoyo kwakava nzira yakakurumbira yemubereki - mushure mokunge mwana wose akakurumidza kubvumirana nematambudziko edu ose. Manzwiro ekurambwa ane simba rakadaro rinokuvadza iro rinomanikidza mwana kuti ayananise nechinzvimbo chero chipi zvacho chevakuru, kungoita kuti adzore kuputsika kwehutano. Anoita izvi kwete nekuti akaziva zvinhu zvose uye akawana zvikwanganiso, asi nekuda kwekuti kutyisidzira kwekuputsa ukama hunova nesimba kudarika chido chekuwana chimwe chinhu. Mukuguma, "kukura" kwakadaro kunotungamirira kukuti mwana anongochinja mafungiro emamiriro acho ezvinhu achibvuma kugadzikana kwekuti munhu haagoni kuvimba nemubereki uye zviri nani kusavimba naye zvachose. Mune ramangwana, anotengesa kutora muenzaniso wakafanana wekusatenda kune vanhu vakuru vanoedza kuvaka ukama hwepedyo naye pakukura. Nokudaro, nokuparadzanisa mwana, pane kuva pedyo nepanguva iyi yakaoma, tinongowedzera dambudziko.
Zvakawanda "kwete"
Dzimwe nguva kushungurudzika uye kugadzirisa kwemwana kunopindirana nekuti vanhu vakuru vanopesana nemwana chaiye anoda kuongorora nyika, nekugadzirisa zvipingamupinyi zvakawanda zvinorambidza. Izvo zviri nyore zvikuru uye nokukurumidza kudyisa mwana pachedu uye kuchinja usati wabuda. Panofamba, isu tiri kunyarara, kuitira kuti agare akaswedera pedyo: "Iwe uchawa kubva pachikomo ichi", "Usamhanya uye utarise pasi petsoka dzako," "Zvino tumira tsvina tsvina." Hazvishamisi kuti kushivirira kwemwana, uyo unhu hunotaurira asingatyi kuenda mberi uye kuedza zvinhu zvitsva, kuputika uye nzizi dzinobva kumahombekombe. Mushure mezvose, basa revana nderokuti varambe vari vatsvakurudzi, uye basa redu nderokuvabatsira munzira, vachichengeteka "nzvimbo yekuedza." Somuenzaniso, kana mwana achida kubatsira kushambidza ndiro, muratidze kuti angazviita sei zvakanyanya, achibvisa mapanga akasimba achienda mberi. Ichokwadi, kunyange kana mubereki achibvumira chimwe chinhu, mwana angasava nehutano uye mano nekuda kwezera, chido "ini ndoga" chakanyanya. Iyi mhirizhonga inokonzera kusagadzikana kusingaiti. Hazvifananidzi kupa mhosva mwana akaora mwoyo, asi kumutsigira, kuratidza kuti unoedza zvakare nerubatsiro rwako. Zvisinei, tinogona kuona imwe yakanyanyisa, apo, kufamba mumugwagwa wekusagadzikana, zviri nyore kuti tigadzirise mwana wose. Kazhinji izvi zvakafukidzirwa nechido chakanaka chekusakonzera rusununguko rwake rwomukati nekuunza mutoro wezvisarudzo zvake. Mwana panguva imwechete anozviwana ari munyika isina mano, ane pfungwa yekusava nesimba kwake uye kusavapo kwemiganhu. Iyi nhaurwa yevabereki inogona kutungamirira kukanganisa kukuru kwekukura kwevana. Mushure mezvose, kuitira kuti tirarame munyika chaiyo, munhu anofanira kudzidza kuti anzwisise kuti pane zvimwe zvingakwanisi mairi. Zvakakosha kuti vana vazive munguva iyo nyika isina kukwana, chimwe chinhu chiri kushanda mairi, uye zvino tinoshungurudzika uye tichichema, uye apo inosvika tinofara. Uye izvi zvakajairika, nokuti iyi ihupenyu.