Hapana anokwanisa kupikisa chokwadi chokuti hafu yakanaka yevanhu inonyanya kukunda kupfuura yevasikana vakasiyana. Emotionality ndiyo inonyanya kukosha yevakadzi. Pamusana pekuti isu tinokwanisa kuratidza manzwiro edu, manzwiro ehurukuro haasi kumbobviswa, asi, pane zvinopesana, anokurudzirwa. Uye zvakadini kana chikamu chechipiri chisina zviito zvinokonzera kutaura kwekunzwa kwevakadzi? Kuedza kugovana zviitiko zvako neadiwa wako, hauna kuwana mhinduro naye here? Izvi zvingatiudzei nezvazvo?
Pane zvikonzero zvakasiyana zvekunetseka mupfungwa kwevanhu.
Dzidzo
Kubvira paucheche, kurera kunotamba basa rinokosha zvikuru muupenyu hwehupenyu hwemunhu chero upi zvake. Kune varume, zvinofanira kuonekwa apa kuti kurera kunogona kuita mukomana muduku semunhu munyoro, anonzwira tsitsi, uye akakwana zvakasimba uye akasimba. Mushure mezvose, kutaura kwakadai sekuti "usachema, uri munhu" kana kuti "usafanana nemusikana" kunokonzera kune izvo zvinonzi revers effect. Zviratidzo zvekuramba kuratidzika rannimymokruzhayuschim, vakomana, manzwiro nemanzwiro dzimwe nguva zvinotsiviwa nechisimba uye kutonhora.
Kupesana pakati pevabereki-vabereki
Iyo nzira yehucheche inoshandisa nheyo yakasimba kwazvo yekudzorera unhu hwemunhu. Saka, semuenzaniso, vabereki vasina kuratidza zviratidzo zvekuda mwana, uye kunyange pakati pavo, hukama hwakagadzirwa mumhuri yakadai ine kuvapo kwechando. Munyaya iyi, zvinogona kufungidzirwa kuti mwana, kuva munhu mukuru, achafananidza nzira yemafambiro evabereki vake, sezvo munhu anogona kutaura kuti vakamudzidzisa izvi. Nemunhu akadaro zvinenge zvichidikanwa kushivirira chokwadi chokuti haunzwi mazwi e rudo norudo, izvi hazvirevi kuti haaine manzwiro, ivo, haasi kushandiswa kurondedzera zviri nyore.
Zvinhu zvekare zvakashata
Pano zvinofanira kuonekwa kuti kana munhu, semuenzaniso, pazera remakore ekuyaruka asina rudo rwakashata, zvikurukuru kana aine pamwe nekunyengedzera nekupandukira, ndicho chikonzero kuti mune ramangwana achabatana nemafungiro akadai seokuti: "zvakapoteredza unyengeri" uye "kusavimba kunze kwega iwe" . Zvichida pakuguma kwemazuva, zviitiko zvisingafadzi zvichabva pakuyeuka, uye pachava nemukana wekuvaka hukama hwakasimba nehafu yechipiri.
Midzi yemunhu
Kubvira panguva yekare, murume wacho akapiwa mabasa akawanda, akadai somuenzaniso, kugadzirwa kwezvokudya, kuvhima mhuka dzesango. Zvakakoshawo kuziva kuti hunyoro hwekubudirira kwekudya chingwa haufaniri kunge hwakanyorova uye hunova nehanya. Munguva yekare munguva yevarume, unhu hwomurwi hwakakosha zvikuru. Uye izvi zvinoratidzira kuvapo kwesimba, kusagadzikana, kushingaira kwakadzikama.
Zvinonakidza kuti masayendisiti eCanada akaita sarudzo kuti aone nzvimbo dzehuropi dzinokonzera chikamu chepfungwa chemuitiro. Nokudaro, zvakaratidzwa kuti mumarume, nokuda kwekubuda kwemanzwiro, pane kupatsanurwa zvakatsanangurwa kweuropi. Uyewo nezvevakadzi, pano, pane zvinopesana, nzvimbo dzinokonzerwa nemanzwiro zviripo zvose kuruboshwe uye mune zvakakwana hemisphere yeuropi. Uye pano tinogona kugumisa kuti murume uyu anotaura nezvehupenyu hwehupenyu hwakarongeka zvakasiyana. Nokudaro, munhu haagoni kutarisa dambudziko rimwechete nemudzimai zvakaenzana. Ngatitaurei kuti varume vanofunga zvine musoro, nevakadzi vachiri vazhinji. Iwe unogona kupa muenzaniso. Mudzimai anodzokera kumusha, uye anotanga kugovana zvakaitika kwaari nehafu yechipiri, uye kushandisa zvichinyatsoitika kuti murume wacho anyerere zvinyararire, anopa ruzhinji rwekunzwa. Asi murume wacho haafariri manzwiro uye manzwiro, mumamiriro ezvinhu aya anonyatsoratidza kuti izvi kana kuti dambudziko racho rinogona kubuda sei, uye chii chinoda kuitwa kuti chidzivise.
Kana kuti zvinokwanisika kugumisa here kuti izvi hazvina hanya?
Ichokwadi, zvakaoma kukwevera miganhu pakati pemafungiro akadai sokusava nehanya uye kutonhora kwepfungwa. Zvose nokuti zvinenge zvakafanana mukuonekwa. Kazhinji kacho, vakadzi vanoedza kururamisa chero chiito chevasanangurwa avo pane zvavanoda. Asi ichi chikanganiso.
Mukupa kupa chinangwa chechikonzero chehafu yavo yechipiri, zvakakosha kutarisa mamiriro aya kubva kumativi asina kwaakarerekera. Ini, zvakakosha kubvisa zvishuvo zvako nemanzwiro kune waunofambidzana uye kutarisa kutarisisa kwezvinhu.Zvirevo zvakanakisisa zvemunhu zvinogona kuwanikwa kuburikidza nekuongororwa kwezviito zvake. Tora zvakanyatsoona uye uite chinangwa chako pachako.