Cat and mouse players
Yeuka, uye "Autumn Marathon" muturikiri mukuru wekare anobvunza shamwari yaine tarenda uye ane hanya kuti amubatsire kushandura? Uye ane utsinye anotungamirirwa nemumwe munhu asingabatsiri - kana kuti, kunyorera zvinhu zvose zvakare. Iye uye hupenyu hwake haane nguva yakakwana, asi iye atoita kupinda chinhu chisina kunaka nemusoro wake uye haaone kuti meso akasuruvara egomo sei - mushanduri anomutevera anova maziso maviri makuru, anotarisa makumbo ekukunda. Mouse yakamedza - basa raitwa. Maoko anoshamisa.
Musha akachenjera munhu
Iye, sezvinofanirwa kune munhu akachenjera, anorayira. Nokushayikwa kwevateereri vakawanda - musha. Izvo zvakaoma kufunga, nokuti chokwadi ikonti uye mune imwe neimwe yakadaro inoda kudzorerwa. Iyo "mharidzo yekumba" yakabvisa kubva kune zvakasara zvepfungwa dzayo ine usimbe kamwe chete. Kwezviitiko zvose iye ane rimwe rakanyora rondedzero: "Uye ndakataura izvozvo! Ndinofanira kuteerera!" Iko kushandiswa kwakaipisisa kudarika kunotsanangurwa pamusoro apa: inopa "munhu akachenjera" ane pfungwa dzakakwirira kunze kwekuedza chero kupi zvake (uye hongu, pasina chikonzero chiduku-duku).
Mumwe wemapiro
Ndiani asina kushivirira mumwe wake - mwana wekusingaperi? Kuva asingakanganisi zvidzidzo, iye ane unyanzvi hunoshamisa akashandiswa kune basa rekutya, kusagadzikana, kwete nguva dzose kunzwisisa zvavanoda kubva kwaari, kumiririra kukurumidza kushamwaridzana (kutarisira). Kudana nekushuva kwekusingaperi kwevanhu vane rupo - kutora pasi peapiro revasina simba, risina kugadziriswa - rinorongwa pasi pephiko romumwe munhu, sechiucoo mu jack ye robin: inofara uye yakanyatsonaka. Pasina mubvunzo - iyi "nheyo" ichapona uye inogara kunze (kugara) vose vashandi vayo vane ruzivo uye vanovimbisa.
Mwana mumhuri
"Saka zvinhu zvose zviri pamusoro pangu, uye kunyange varimi vari kumativi ose pamubhedha zuva rose, vakawira pasi pechipfeko, uye kusvikira zvino hapana chakafanoonekwa," - vamwe vakadzi vanotaura mutsara uyu wemapapiro wemakore ekuma 90 kwete kwete nekutemwa, asi nekunzwira tsitsi - netsitsi. Sei? Hasha dzaizova dzakasikwa. Asi iye haasi uye haazovi, nokuti hocus-pocus yakabudirira: "murume ari pamubhedha" akagara paari zvakasimba uye kwenguva refu. Sei uchinetseka, famba, funga nezvechingwa chezuva nezuva? Mudzimai anoda kunwa, kudya, kutonga, kunzwira tsitsi. Iyo inopetwa kaviri-kuti inonzwisa sei inotungamirira kumba ngoro.
Uye pano imwe imwe mhando yevanoshuva "kuvanza mice mu cylinder":
Iwe hauna kunzwa sei? (Hamuna kuona here?)
Mushandi wacho, anogara achienda kwehafu yeawa, anomhanyira muhofisi nekutaridzika kutarisa: "Zvakanaka, unofarira sei zuro?" Vanhu vanosimudza misoro yavo, mukuru ane hasha anokanganwa zvose zvaaida kuti aise "murume uyu asina hanya." Yakazotevera tere-sensation, ne pereprochennye uye kupfuura-salted details. Munhu wose anobatana muhurukuro nechisimba, uye iyo inopera inofamba yakanyarara shure kwedeski. Apo zvishuvo zvikanyarara, mutambudzi wacho akabatanidzwa mubasa rake zvichiita kuti iye ataure kuti ndiyo inonyanya kusanzwisisa ... Kugamuchirwa kwakashata, asi inoshanda zvisingaiti.
Kana kuti mamiriro acho ezvinhu, zvinoshamwaridzana nevose uye vose:
Kwete nehomwe yako!
Isu tinomira pamberi pekamberi, tichinyatsoongorora magetsi ematanda (pani, mabhegi, vacuum cleaners - kwete chimiro), izvo zvatisingawani. Sezvo uchifarira zvakawanda, ndapota, kuratidza iyo iri nyore. "Uye zvichida uyu?" - uye mutengesi anotitarira, achinyemwerera zvishomanana, anogunun'una pamumvuri weganda re orange-orange wakaitwa muFrance. "Sei?" Ndiratidzei! " - tinokanda mukupindura, tichimedza bundu mumutsipa uye tichizvinyengera, izvo zvichange zvichifanira kurega nekuda kwechinhu ichi chekumavirira ... Zvose zvakanaka. Takatenga muchibvumirano chisina kuchenjera, chekuverenga - chakatenga chimwe chinhu kubva pane zvakakosha zvikuru mumba.
Izvozvo ndizvo zvinyorwa zvese zvinogadzirisa zvinokonzera kushandiswa: manipulator anoona uye pakarepo anoverenga kushaya simba kwedu. Ndizvo "zvinhu", "kutenga" uye "kutengesa" iyo iyo manipulator yakagadzirisa muupenyu.
Sei tisingatauriki navo, asi ivo vari kwatiri "chinhu-mukati-pachako", "bhokisi rakasviba"? Mhinduro yacho iri muchokwadi chokuti kushandiswa, kunyanya kutaura, kune munhu. Sei uchizviedza iwe pachako, kana mumwe munhu akazvitora? Vana, somuenzaniso, vari muenzaniso wevatongi. Ndibaba vakaita sei vasina kumira pamusoro pekuenzanisa panzvimbo yevaya vane usimbe avo vanotanga kukumbira ruramisiro, uye "vanokanganwa" kuti vangashandisa sei, nezvimwewo. uye zvakadaro. Kuputika mumurangariro, ani zvake acharangarira kuti kakawanda akadzinga sei mumhino yevanokumbira zvakanaka, achivamanikidza kuti vate pasi mapfupa avo apo aive ane usimbe zvikuru kuti atore munwe wake muduku. Asi isu takakura. Rimwe zuva zvakasvika kwatiri kuti kuvimba kune vamwe hakusi kunyadzisa chete, asiwo kune njodzi: munhu anonyadzisa, aramba kutakura matambudziko ehupenyu kune mumwe nomumwe. Unhu hunobudiswa. Chimwe chinhu kubva pazviri chakasviba, pasina izvo kana kuremekedzwa kana kuzviremekedza kunogona. Kune muganhu usingakwanisi kuyambuka. Manipulators vakazvicherechedza - ndokubva kunze kwechikwata chevanhu vaungaita navo. Chii icho avo vasingadi kujoina mazhenje nevarodgers? Haagoni kutengesa chimwe chinhu chisingagoni kutengeswa: tsitsi, tsitsi, tsitsi, rudo? - Ziva zvishoma zvishoma chokwadi. Uye kutanga pane zvose kuti tione: tinozvibvumira kuzvitonga isu. Ndezvipi, kana zvisingadi zvido zvishoma, zvichitiendesa isu kwegumi kuti tiwande nokuda kwebhait Dodger? ("Iwe, iwe hausati waona?")
Uye haisi kushivirira, kwete chido chokubvisa mwana nekukurumidza, zvichiita kuti tibvunze mumashonga panzvimbo payo here? Dzidzisa, kududzira, kutsanangura, kukumbira kudzokorora - kwenguva yakareba uye inosema, zviri nyore kuzviita ("Ndibatsire").
Kunyadziswa kwenhema, uye hapana chimwezve, kunotiudza kuti tive nemari yepamwedzi yeunyanzvi isingakoshi ("Kwete nehomwe yako"). Hazvisi zvekudavira zvachose, asi kusava nehanya (kana, panzvimbo pezvo, kutya) kunokonzera kwemakore kushambadzira kunotenderera nemunhu anonyengera anenge ane nzvimbo yeumwe munhu ("Mhiri mhiriko.") Paunoona kuti unobatwa chete neutera hwako, zviri nyore kuziva nguva yekushandiswa. , nenzira yokufananidzira, chiratidzo chinonyanya kuvimbika chokuti iwe wava kuda kuva "hove" inonzwa kunyara uye kusagadzikana.Uri kuvenga kuita izvo zvinotevera mhepo yakasvibirira inomira (kunyange zvinyoronyoro, yakafukidzwa): chikwereti, bvunza , fidza "zvakanaka" (kwete iwe, asi kwaari) h munhu, "Shamwari kuona" nzira-nezvimwe, nezvimwewo.
Zvinogara zvakaoma kuramba: mutambi mukati nemushonga anovaka kuverenga kwake nenzira dzakawanda. Uye iwe haurambe. Usati kwete. Pane imwe yemashiripiti iyo inotambisa chero kushungurudzika-zvose zvisinganzwisisiki uye zvakanyanya. Hezvino zvinoreva: "Ndinotya iwe unofungidzira (ndinogona kuwedzeredza) mano angu (zvigadzirwa, mikana)". Iyo manipulator ichakurumidzira kukakavhirana nharo kuti izvi hazvisi izvo, iye anonyatsova nechokwadi chekupa kwako nekuteerera, nekufungidzira uye rupo ... Asi nguva yacho inoshaikwa - maziso ekati atovhenekera, mutsvuku wemashiripiti akaoneka zvakajeka. Iye zvino unogona kuenda zvishoma nezvishoma kune izvo zvinodanwa kusachengetedzwa kwekuchengetedza, usati wambonzwa kushungurudzwa zvachose. Zvichida hauna kunzwisisa kana kutosanzwisisa. Shandura hurukuro kune imwe senyaya. "Yeuka", kuti iwe uchagamuchira kudanwa kunokurumidza, uye nyaya dzinonyanya kuzivikanwa uye iwe unofanira kupukunyuka. Iyo manipulator inowanzobva kwauri yaora mwoyo.
Kazhinji, kubva pakuona kwechirwere chepfungwa chinonzi "mapofu akasiyana-siyana": hukama hwevanhu hwakasiyana-siyana hunovanzvenga, nokuti vakambosarudza mavara maviri: grey uye madema, "vanoda" - "vasingadi". Kushushikana uku kukuvara kwakakomba mutsika. Hazvibviri kushandisa vamwe nekuregererwa kwehutano hwepfungwa. Uye ndicho chikonzero nei vakawanda vanpulator vasina ruzivo. "Kuvhima" kune mumwe kunoda kushungurudzika nguva dzose. Mapenzi manipulators anonzwisisa kuti hazvibviri kuverenga mamiriro ezvinhu akaoma. Uyezve muusiku hunotevera, mumwe wavo anotanga pamberi pavo muhuipi hwavo hwose. Chinhu chinosuruvarisa ndezvekuti manipulators, kuva vatambi vadzidzisi uye kunyange kusvika kune dzimwe nzvimbo dzakakwirira mu "uipi hwakaipa hwekubiridzira," vanorasikirwa nechinhu chiduku chiduku, izvo nokuda kwechimwe chikonzero ivo vasingambofungi-hupenyu hwavo. Nokuti ruvara rwavo - ushamwari, rudo, kuyemura, rudo nguva dzose haruna kufarira.
Lyubov Scherbatova
"Chiremba wemhuri", # 5, 2000