Psi-factor
- Mubvunzo wokutanga uye mukuru: Ndingaita zvepabonde pamubhedha kana mwana muduku ari kurara pedyo? Kune rumwe rutivi, haanzwisisi zviri kuitika, kunyange akazuka. Kune rumwe rutivi, vazhinji vedu tinonzwa kusagutsikana kwebasa pane zvakadaro. Vakawanda vanoita zvepabonde vanotenda kuti kuvapo kwemwana pamubhedha panguva yepabonde hakugamuchiri, uye ndizvo. Ichokwadi kuti munhu ave neukama hwehukama pakati pehutano hwepabonde uye chiito chepabonde pachako. Panguva imwecheteyo, kana vanhu vane rudo vanoita zvepabonde, vanoti, mumusango we hayloft uye vakagamuchira mufaro unoshamisa kubva ipapo, zvino kunhuhwira kwehutu kuchava chinhu chakasimba chinosimudzira. Nyanzvi dzinofunga kuti hazvina kukodzera kuisa pangozi, zvichisiya mwana ari panhovo panguva yechiito chepabonde. Basa reuropi rakashamisa uye rinoshamisa, haufaniri kutendera dambudziko rekuparadzanisa zvechido chepabonde.
- Nharo yechipiri mukuda kwezwi rokuti "kwete" inobva mumanzwiro evanhu vanoita zvepabonde munguva pfupi pedyo nechechecheche.Inzwi remukati rezvinyorwa zvinokonzera kunyadziswa, pfungwa yengozi, sekunge iwe uri kutariswa, uye izvi zvinogonawo kutungamirira kuchinangwa chekubatana kwepabonde Ichokwadi ndechokuti mushure mokuberekwa kwemwana, mukadzi anotanga kuve nemanzwiro anonyadzisa pane zvepabonde, kupesana kwesimba remanzwiro nehana kunogona kutungamirira kune chido chinotevera chekuita rudo pasi pemaitiro chaiwo "akaipisisa".
- Nharo yechitatu ibasa rekusangana kwepfungwa. Icho chinhu chimwe chete apo iwe unogara uchiteerera, kana mwana asina kumuka muimba inotevera. Uye zvakanyanyisa, apo iwe unonzwisisa zvisingatarisirwi izvi izvi zvakagadzika parutivi rwako. Chinhu chakaoma chekushushikana chisingatauri kutungamirira kumarara ekutsvaira akarondedzerwa pamusoro, asi inogona kuita kuti chiito chepabonde chive chinokonzera kushungurudzika, uye izvi hazvina matanho akanaka pane zvepabonde zveshamwari.
- Chechina ndezvisingakwanisi "kuputsa" pakati pebasa raamai uye mukadzi anenge ari pedyo nechechecheche. Izvi hazvisi nyore kune varume, asi kunyanya amai ndivo vane simba muamai vaduku, kunyanya munguva yehucheche hwomwana. Mamiriro ezvinhu aya, kuita zvepabonde hakuzounzi mufaro wepabonde, asi kuchashanduka mu "conjugal duty". Ichokwadi kuti zvinhu zvakadaro hazviitike kune munhu wose uye kwete nguva dzose, asi kazhinji, vabereki vaduku vanowanzotambura kana mwana ari pedyo nenguva yepabonde.
Ndeipi kuronga zvinhu zvose?
Kana iwe uchida kuva nehupenyu hwakakwana hwepabonde, asi usati wagadzirira kana usingadi kudzidzisa mwana kurara zvakasiyana, iwe uchazobuda kunze kwebhedha yemhuri iwe pachako kana kuti kuchinja kwechinguva mwana. Heano zvimwe zvingasarudzwa.
• Nyatsotarisa doro racho kuti rive mufambisi kana kuputika kana ratovata. Kazhinji, pavanorara pamwe chete, mwana anovata pahope raamai. Nenguva ino, fudza zvakashata, uise musoro wake paruoko rwake. Chimirira kusvikira apedza chikamu chekutanga chekurara nekukurumidza uye chikamu chakadzika: chigumbuso chichamira kuputira nemaoko, chiso chake chichasunungurwa zvakakwana, iye achasunungura mbundu kubva mumuromo wake uye orega kunonoka muhope dzake. Mushure meizvi, zvinyoronyoro zvinyatsoendesa mumutsetse kana mubhedha umo chidimbu chinopisa chinosara. Iwe unogona kuutora zvakare pakarepo paanotanga kuratidza zviratidzo zvekuzvidya mwoyo.
• Ita rudo kwete mubhedha. Kana iwe uchigara mune imwe imba yakasiyana, zvino inoparadzanisa hupenyu hwako hwepabonde. Idya zviduku, zvifukidze nehombodo, kumirira kusvika iyo inorara yakarara, uye ibve pamubhedha zvakanyatsonaka, sekusingaperi, apo iwe unoda kupedza mabasa epamba manheru.
Usapfurikidza nehurukuro
Vabereki vakawanda vanoona kuvapo kwemakumbo mubhedha sekurambidzwa kwevamwe vanorega, kusanganisira vasina zvepabonde. Uye pasina. Iyo Kid haizotambudziki zvachose kubva pakuziva kuti Amai naBaba vanobatana uye vanobatana nounyoro. Uyezve, vazhinji vanofunga nezvepfungwa vanofunga kuti kuvapo kwemwana mumubhedha wemubereki kunobatsira kuumba chibatanidzwa. Vana vazhinji vanofarira kurara nevabereki vavo pavanotya, kuenda kunorara naamai vavo nababa kuti "varara" mangwanani. Iyi ndiyo nzira yakanakisisa, kunyanya kuvabereki vari kushanda vasingagoni kubhadhara vana zvikuru. Mumhuri umo mafungiro ekudziya anotonga, kunyange vakwegura vana vanovata pamubhedha naamai vavo nababa. Vamwe vakaroorana vanotya kuti kubatana kurara nemucheche kuchakanganisa hupenyu hwepabonde, kunotonhora kupesana pakati pevakaroorana. Ichokwadi, mumhuri dzakachengeteka izvi hazviitiki, uye zvepabonde zvinoderedzwa nekuda kwekuneta, zvinetso zvepfungwa zvichibva pakuonekwa kwemakumbo. Edza kuronga hupenyu hwako nenzira yekufarira mabasa maviri: mubereki nemudzimai.