Kushushikana kwenguva refu uye zvisungo muurudo zvinowanzodzvinyirirwa nekusava netsika kwevamwe vakaroorana, kusakwanisa kwavo uye kusada kurambidza, kunyomba, kunyengera, nezvimwewo. Nokuda kwechikonzero ichi, 42% yemhuri inoparadzaniswa. 31% yevakadzi uye 23% yevarume vanoparadza ukama hwavo nekuda kwekudhakwa kwechipiri wavo. Chechitatu, chikonzero chikuru chekurambana ndiko kusavimbika kwemurume kana mukadzi.
Chinonyanya kufadza, kune dzimwe mwedzi mumwaka uye kunyange mazuva evhiki apo hukama hurefu hwehukama hwakatyisidzirwa. Pepanhau Mirror yakaitisa zvidzidzo zvakananga, uye yakawana, kazhinji karoorana vanoparara munaJanuary. Hazvishamisi - Gore Idzva, hupenyu hutsva ... Uyezve, zvinoita kuti zvive nyore kuwana hukama, kuisa pfungwa dzose pamusoro uye, uye mberi kwazviri zvingangova nenguva isina kukwana. Uyewo mu80% yemurume kana mudzimai anosiya mhuri neMugovera kana Svondo.
Iwe ungaita sei hafu yako yechipiri isakanganwa zvaunosungirwa murudo, kuti ungachengetedza sei imba?
Zvinotarisa kuti pane zvinhu zvakawanda zvinosimbisa kana, asi zvinopesana, zvinokonzera kuparara kwehukama. Kana iwe uchigara mumba mako, uye usabvarura imba, ipapo mukana wekurambana wako wakaderedzwa ne 45%. Mwana akawanzana uye kugara pamwe chete musati warochato usati wabatsire kusimbisa hukama, kunyange vazhinji vanotenda zvimwe. Kazhinji vakaroorana vanotsoropodza, asi zvinoitika kuti zvakakosha kuchengeta chikamu - 1 kutsoropodza - 5 mazano, zvisinei, iwe uchawana kurambana. Vanoti avo avo vanotarisa mune imwe nzira, uye kwete kune umwe neumwe, vanofara murudo. Mutsvakurudzi Hans-Ver-Ner Birhoff akawana kuti kana vakaroorana vachifunga zvakafanana, vane tsika dzakadaro, ipapo imba yavo ichava yakasimba kudarika vamwe vose. Uye chii chinoita kuti vakaroorana vakanganwe zvose zvinotarisirwa uye vaende kune imwe mhuri? Zvinosvika pakuti chikonzero chingava dzidzo isina kururama mumhuri. Nyanzvi yezvepfungwa David Likken yakawana kuti vana vevabereki vakarambana kakawanda havagoni kuumba hukama husingaperi. Zvose pamusoro pemanzwiro nemafambiro avanokopa kubva kuvabereki vavo. Kune vamwe vakaroorana vaduku havagone kuchengeta rudo rwavo. Kana muchato wacho usati wava nemakore makumi maviri nemaviri, pane mukana wekurumidza kurambana. Vamwe vakuru vakaroorana vane mikana yakawanda yekuwana hupenyu hunofadza, uye gore rimwe nerimwe mararamiro anowedzera mamwe mazana - zvevarume - 2%, zvevakadzi - 7% zvekuti kurambana hakuzoitiki. Chitendero chinowanzoswededza vanhu pamwe chete. Uye hupenyu huri muguta guru, pane zvinopesana, hunoita mikana yekurambana.
Sayenzi inogara iri mberi mberi. Purofesa wePychology John Gottman uye purofesa wemasvomhu James Murray vanodavira kuti vanenge 100 muzana vanogona kuziva kana vamwe vakaroorana vachararama mu "imba yakareba uye inofara". Vakatarisa hupenyu hwevakadzi vanomwe, uye maererano nezvavakaona, vakasimbisa kuti zvinokwanisika kuziva nguva yakareba yehukama hwavo mune zviri mumakakatanwa nekukurukurirana. Vakaroorana vakapiwa hurukuro yekukurukurirana nekukurudzirwa kutanga nharo. Kana vaviri panguva yekukurukurirana, vakateerera mhirizhonga yemumwe mukomana, nguva dzose, kunyange kana pfungwa dzekuona dzave dzakasiyana, dzakaedza kuratidza rudo rwavo uye rudo, saka hukama hwakamira. Kana zvakadaro, kukakavadzana kwakashanduka kuva mutauro unonyomba, uye vakaroorana vakaramba vachidzokorora chokwadi chavo, zvachose kusanzwirana, zvichida, pamberi pavo kwaiva kurambana.
Chirongwa che rudo hachina kugadzirwa, chimwe nechimwe chine zvayo. Asi, kana tikashuva kuhukama hwakasimba uye hwakavimbika - hafu yechinhu ichi yaitwa, vamwe vose vachabatsirwa nerudo nekutsungirira.