Ngatitangei mienzaniso yevakadzi ivavo vasingafungi chinhu chipi nechipi chinonyadzisa, kutanga nenyaya nemumwe mutorwa. Chii chiri kutungamirira?
1. Anofunga kuti imba yaanoda haizoperi kwenguva refu. Anofunga chimwe chinhu chakadai: chokwadi chokuti iye atova akaroora haisi kungoitika, anofanira kunge ari wangu. Nokudaro, isu tinoda kukurumidza kumubvisa kubva kumhuri "isina kukodzera". Haanzwisisi here kuti mudzimai wake haasi kungova vaviri kwaari? Anobata mudzimai wake nemaune. Anomuseka, sei achimuda?
Vanhu ava vaviri, havangagoni kurarama kwenguva refu pamwe chete. Asi Tiri imwe nyaya. Isu takasikwa kune mumwe nemumwe, tinonzwisisa mumwe nemumwe nehafu, uye patinosangana, tinongokanganwa pamusoro pekuvapo kwenguva. Tinofanira kumuita kuti ave nemudzimai wake, uye isu tichaenda nemaoko nemaoko.
2. Razluchnitsa anofunga kuti muhukama pakati pomunoda wake nemudzimai wake pane hutano hwakakwana, unyoro, rudo uye zvishoma. Zvino iwe unofunga nezvei? Kana ari kumba kumba kwake kuchiva chete kunonzwa kutukwa kana kumuita muranda: "Bvisa marara!", "Kuvhara", "Inguva yekugadzirisa, haufungi zvakadaro?". Asi nzira inoenda pamwoyo wemunhu inorara kwete chete nemudumbu, usamanikidza munhu kuti aite chimwe chinhu, unoda kumusunungura kubva kumatambudziko ezuva nezuva.
Asi pamwe neni achafara, uye hupenyu hahuzopindi ukama hwedu. Uye kana tikapedza nguva shoma pamwe chete, zvakanaka, ini ndichamira, ndinonzwisisa zvose, ane basa rakawanda uye anoshanda. Ini chete ndichanyaradzwa nefungwa yokuti ndeyangu. Uye kazhinji kacho misangano, yakasimba.
3. Zvichida tenzikadzi anonzwira tsitsi nemudzimai wake, nokuti mudzimai haanomucherecheri zvachose, haana pfupa uye shati, masango mumasokisi kana asina kuisa mabhodhoro. Haakwanise kunzwisisa kuti mudzimai anokodzera anogona kubata sei murume wake ane kusava nehanya kwakadai paanoona mafuta ane mafuta pahomwe yake.
Uye nei murume anofarira zvakadaro achidya sandwiches maviri nemasese uye cheese, uye asati aenda kubasa, haadyi chinhu zvachose, kana kunwa chimwe chechidiro chechidimbu? Anodya nekukurumidza uye zvaanofanira kuita - hazvigoni uye zvinokuvadza kune utano. Saka unogona kuunza murume wako kumudumbu wesonda, kana kuti munhu achava nehuwandu hwemhepo.
4. Zvichida "mhombwe" haatarisiri pane izvo zvaanoda zvakapfeka, uye zvaanodya. Ane basa rimwe chete-kufarira, kumunyengedza, uye, kazhinji pane, haasi iye, ane zvirongwa zvakashata zvakadaro, izvo "mudzimai" asingagoni kubuda. Anoita izvi nekunaka kwakadaro uye kushushikana kwokuti murume anowa murudo pakarepo, achikanganwa pamusoro pezvose.
Iye haazive kuti nei achida mutorwa, ari muvhimi, anofarira kuwana nzira yake, ndokubva asiya waimbofarira. Havadi kugara naye kuti ave noupenyu, uye ozomuroora. Asi kusiyana nevamwe vakadzi, haana hanya nezvesimo uye nguva yemurume. Iye akaita sechetheni iri nyore kwaari, unogona kutamba naye uye kurega.
Saka ndeipi mikana yemhando dzose dzevanyengeri kuti vabvise murume kunze kwemhuri? Zvinongowanikwa chete kumunhu, uye anofara sei mumhuri kana kuti akaneta sei ndeyekugara achiita zvinhu.
Asi haisi chokwadi chokuti mushure mekunge murume wacho abuda mumhuri, iwe uchabudirira pakuumba mhuri yakasimba. Mushure mezvose, imba yechipiri haina simba kupfuura yekutanga. Maererano nevepfungwa dzepfungwa, murume anoenda kuruboshwe, kana mudzimai wake uye tenzikadzi vasingamudi. Murume anosangana nemumwe mukadzi nokuti anongoda "kukunda chikwata chinotevera" uye ave nechokwadi chekukwezva kwake. Saka, mudzimai ndiye anofanira kuita kuti murume wake ave akasununguka naye, uye haatanga kutarisa musikana kune rumwe rutivi.