Post-marital depression, sei ungazvidzivirira?

Saka, zvakaitwa, iwe wakapiwa, uye mushure mechinguva mutambo wemuchato mukuru wakatevera. Uye zvinhu zvose zvaizova zvakanaka: newe pane murume wezviroto zvako, pane imba yako, asi chimwe chinhu chakaipa, kunyange pasina zvikonzero zvekuchema.
Kana iwe usati wambova nemuchato iwe uchakwanisa kudzivirira kukanganisa kwakawanda, pamwe nekudzivisa mushure-kuora mwoyo kunetseka. Maererano nehuwandu hwemashoko, uri mumwedzi wokutanga wehupenyu huri pamwe chete huri kuchata huri kutarisana nezvinhu zvakawanda zvinokanganisa, zvakabatana nekusiyana pakati pezvinotarisirwa uye hupenyu hwehupenyu chaihwo.

Muchato, pasina mubvunzo, chimwe chezvinhu zvinonyanya kukosha muupenyu hwevanhu vose, uye chiitiko ichi dzimwe nguva hachina kugadzirirwa mwedzi umwe chete, asi pamitambo yakanakisisa yakagadzirirwa mwedzi mitanhatu negore. Dzimwe nguva zvinowanzoitika kuti muchato wacho unoshanduka kuva chinangwa chakakosha muupenyu, wakaziva uye uchiziva kuti, munhu anonzwa kuparadzwa, nokuti ipapo haaoni chinangwa chinonakidza pamberi pake.

Muchato unotora mazuva maviri, kuitira kuti mushure mokupemberera uku mushure wemachato mushure usati wauya, chinhu chinonyanya kukosha ndechokufunga pamusoro pezvinangwa zvehupenyu huri hwega uye kuti usaramba uchifunga nezvekuti zororo racho rapfuura. Paunenge uchigadzirira muchato, usakanganwa nezvehupenyu hwako hunowanzogara, taurirana neshamwari dzako, ita zvaunofarira.

Mushure memuchato, zvakanakisisa kuti pakarepo uende kune imwe nguva, sezvo vachitaura kubva muzororo kusvika kubhokisi. Munguva yehusiku, zorora uye uuye nezvinangwa zveupenyu hutsva. Zvechokwadi, unogona kutarisa mavhidhiyo uye mapikicha kubva kumuchato, asi haufaniri kupa nguva yakawanda kuti uwedzere, usafambisa zvakapfuura, unofanirwa kuisa pfungwa pane ramangwana uye kuronga kwayo.

Kuti uite ruzivo muhukama iwe unogona kuenda kune vabati vehodzi uye uchinje hutsve hwebvudzi rako, nokudaro iwe uchaita ruzha.

Kazhinji, vazhinji vanofunga kuti mushure mechato, upenyu huri pamwe chete hunosimbisa rudo, kune rumwe rutivi ndizvo zvazviri, asi mumwe anofanira kunge akagadzirira kuti murume muhupenyu chaihwo haazove akakodzera semisangano, kunyanya dai usina upenyu huri pamwe chiitiko. Zvakakosha kuti uwane kukanganisa.

Mushure memhemberero yemuchato, tungamira nzira yehupenyu yawaiva nayo isati yasvika. Kana iwe wakanga uchiri kudya, ramba uchitevera, enda mune zvemitambo - kunyange zviri nani. Murume anofarira mafuta uye high-calorie zvokudya here? Izvi hazvirevi kuti iwe unofanirwa kudya zvakafanana. Pamwechete, ita zvose zvaiitwa musati waroora, usazvikanda iwe uye usava mudzimai weimba wekuzvarwa (usakanganwa kuita mushure murume asati abva kubasa). Ita zvinoshamisa kumurume wako, kumupamba, asi mukuenzanisa.

Vakadzi vari kunyanya kuoma pamusoro pemuchato, kune vakadzi vakawanda kubva paudiki chaizvo, chinangwa chinonyanya kukosha chehupenyu mhembati chena uye mutungamiriri pabhiza jena, saka hazvishamisi kuti vakadzi vakanyanyisa vakadaro mushure momuchato havafari. Mushure memuchato, musamudzivisa murume wake kuti ataurirane neshamwari, uye usakanganwa nezvevamwe shamwari dzako.

Mushure memuchato, nguva itsva inotangira muupenyu hweumwe neumwe, iyo muviri unoda nguva yekugadzirisa. Upenyu huri pamwe hahuzi nyore uye hunopenya, sezvo hunogona kuonekwa pakutanga. Upenyu hwemhuri hutsva hutsva muhupenyu hwemunhu uye zvinotora nguva kuti uzvienzanise nazvo, saka kana iwe usingaregi tariro mushure mechato, izvi zvinoshungurudza zvichapfuura nokukurumidza.

Sezvaunogona kuona, kutora-kushungurudzika kwemuchato hakusi kunotyisa, chinhu chinonyanya kukosha ndechokuziva nzira yekudzivirira nayo, kana kuderedza migumisiro yaro.