Pakutanga, amai vamwene ndivowo munhu, saka, ine zvigaro uye zvisingabatsiri, uye izvi zvinofanira kuongororwa pakusimbisa hutano. Hakuna munhu akakwana. Saka dzimwe nguva unofanirwa kuchinja. Mukuwedzera, iyewo mukadzi, uye izvi, zvichida, dzimwe nguva zvinobatsira kutarisa mamiriro acho kubva pane zvaanoona. Zvechokwadi, pane vane nhanho vane ruzivo rukuru naamai vamwene vavo, vane hutano hwakakwana, vanokodzana mumwe nomumwe maererano nemafungiro, maitiro uye maonero ehupenyu. Amai vake vanova shamwari, shamwari, shamwari yakwegura, uye dzimwe nguva amai vechipiri. Asi isu tichapfuurira kubva pakuona kuti kune mhuri shoma shoma kupfuura yevhareji, inowanzo, iyo mutezvara nemwanasikana wake vane mapiro avo mumisoro yavo. Mumamiriro ezvinhu akadaro, ruzivo rwekuwirirana pakati pehama dzangobva kuzvarwa dzinogona kusiyana zvikuru kubva kune hukama hune ushamwari hune ushamwari uye hunoremekedzana kune avo vanosemesa, apo vanhu vasingatenderi mweya mumwe nomumwe. Zvose zvinoenderana nemamiriro ezvinhu uye kune vanhu vakapinda mazviri, saka haugone kupa mazano chaiwo pamusoro pokuti ungazviita uye sei kugadzirisa dambudziko racho. Asi iwe unogona kupa mamwe mazano, kubva kwauri iwe unogona kuvakira, zvichienderana nehu nuances iyo imwe neimwe ine yavo. Chokutanga pane zvose, inofanira kurehwa kuti kubatana uye kuparadzanisa kugara neamai vomurume wake kune misi miviri yakasiyana. Kazhinji zvinoenderana neizvi, kuti hukama hwako huri nani pamwe nemwene wamai vako vomukomana huchavakwa. Zvechokwadi, dzimwe nguva kana kuparadzana kurarama kana kure kure kunoita kuti hukama hudziye, uye mbuyazvara nemuroora-mhandara havagoni kuwana mutauro mumwe chete kunyange pavanoonekwa kamwe kamwe pamwedzi. Asi kazhinji kacho kuvakira ukama hukama kune vakadzi ava vaviri kune zvakaoma zvikuru kana vachigara pasi pedenga rimwe chete, kunyanya kana denga iri riri raamai vamwene, sezvo risingamboiti. Ichokwadi, chinhu chakanakisisa ndechekurarama zvakasiyana nevabereki. Asi kunyange munyaya iyi hapana chivimbo chokuti hakuna munhu achapindira muhupenyu hwako, asingatauri mamiriro ezvinhu apo mwanasikana-achipinda mumba mutsva apo vamwene vake vatararama kwemakore akawanda, ane maonero ake, maitiro, uye hupenyu hwakatogadzwa. Asi muroora wake munhu mukuru, ane unhu hwake, nemaonero ake nemaitiro. Uye iye, zvakare, akauya kuzogara nemurume wake, uye, saizvozvo, anoda kunzwa ari pamba, kuona kuti iye ari nhengo imwechete yemhuri, pamwe chete nezvose zvinotaridzwawo pamwe naye. Pano panogona kutanga kupesana kokutanga. Zvakakosha kunzwisisa kuti kunyange iwe nemadzimai vako musina mutemo musina kusarirana mumwe nomumwe, munofanira kuedza kudzidza kudzikama, nokuti nguva dzose kukakavadzana mumararamiro e "amai vamwene-muroora-mukwambo", kunyanya pane imwe nzvimbo inorarama, vanokwanisa kukwanisa kuparadza kunyange imba yakasimba. Edza kusvika pakuziva amai vamwene vako zvakanakisisa sezvinobvira, unhu hwake, tsika, zvido, maonero ehupenyu. Saka zvichava nyore kuti iwe uzvinzwisise, kuti unzwisise zvidzidzo zvaunoda kuvhomora kuti uvakane ukama nayo zvakanaka. Iwe unonzwisisa zvaanoda, uye zvakanakisisa zvekudzivisa paunoita naye. Teerera nyaya dzomurume nezvemhuri yake uye nezvevabereki. Saka iwe unogona kudzidza nezvemitambo yemhuri netsika, pamusoro pemararamiro emhuri, nezvehukama pakati pevabereki, nokuti kazhinji muenzaniso wehukama hwevabereki hunoita kuti maonero evana ave nehukama hwehukama munguva yemberi. Mumwe nomumwe amai vamwene vanonzwisisa kuti mwanakomana wavowo munhu, uye naizvozvo haisi yakanaka. Uye kunyange inogona kunyora kukanganisa kwayo yose. Asi chimwe chinhu apo iye pachake pachake anonzwisisa izvi, uye zvakanyanyisa, apo iwe uri mukutsamwa kwehasha anotanga kutaura pamusoro pezvinhu zvisingafadzi pamusoro pake. Kana kuti kunyunyuta pamusoro paro, kunyanya nekunze. Iwe, zvichida, kuburikidza neawa uye kunotonhorera, uye nemurume wake achiyananisa, asi shoko, sezvavanotaura, kwete shiri duku ... Uye amai vamwene vangu mazwi aya anonyadzisa pamusoro pemwanakomana mukuyeuka acharehwa nokukurumidza kupfuura murume wako. Amai vamwene vanofanira kuziva kuti munoda mwanakomana wavo akatendeka. Uye kana iwe ukamutsoropodza, iye achazvitora sechinyaradzo chake. Iva namai vamwene vako vakangwarira uye vasina basa, vamuitire noruremekedzo, vanyatsova nehanya naye. Usanyengedzera, ingova wakanaka. Kana unyengeri hwakagadzirira kubva pamiromo yako, edza kuzvivhiringidza. Amai vamwene ndivo vachaomerwa kukugamuchirai zvisina kunaka kana muine ushamwari kwaari. Ita naye pamwe nechiremera uye chivimbo. Kana amai vamwene vako vasingafadzi zvikuru kwamuri, edzai kuti muwane mamwe maitiro akafanirwa nekuremekedzwa kwenyu. Kana amai vamwene vako vachigara vachikupa mazano asina kufanira, vatevere ivo vakanyarara uye vane ushamwari, uye vakuitirei vakasununguka munzira yenyu pachavo. Zvinetso zvekugara pamwe chete zvinogonawo kusimuka kubva pakuti iwe naamai vamwene vako vanoparadzanisa nzvimbo yenyu pachavo , tishandise mumwe nomumwe. Somuenzaniso, mumwe wenyu anogona kutora mararamiro anopesana nehupenyu hweumwe. Kana pasina nzira yekunyengedza, kana pasina munhu anoda, zvino kugara pamwe pamwe zvichikanganisa, nokuti zvinowedzera-zvakanyanya. Kana iwe ukangotanga kugara pamwe chete, unofanirwa kurukura hupenyu hunoenderana nemabasa edzimba, kuitira kuti mushure mokunge pasave nekusawirirana nekuchema. Mune nyaya dzekurera vana, regai vazive kuti iwe unoremekedza uye unoonga maonero ake, asi chisarudzo chokupedzisira chichaitwa newe, vabereki. Maonero ako pamagazini iyi angangodaro akasiyana nekuda kwemakore akasiyana. Asi zvakadaro rega amai vamwene vako vatorewo chikamu, nokuti iye ambuya. Edza kudzidza kubva kuna amai vamwene vako chimwe chinhu chinonakidza, kuti udzidze kubva pane zvakaitika kwaari. Uye zvakakunakira iwe, uye zvakanaka kwaari. Kubva pakutanga, taura nzvimbo yako pachako, uko iwe nemurume wako musingazombotambudzi. Iwe unoita urongwa muimba yako. Ita zvakajeka kana iwe usingafariri iyo paunopinda mukamuri usina kugogodza. Kana kukurukurirana naamai vamwene vako vachipiwa kwauri zvakaoma, edza kuderedza kukurukurirana uku kusvika pahutano huchasangana nemunhu wese uye hakuzokonzeri mibvunzo isingakoshi. Zvakaoma apo amai vamwene vanogara vachizvidza muroora, vanosimbisa murume wavo kumudzimai wake, uye dzimwe nguva vana vanopesana naamai vake, zvinopindira muhupenyu hwevakaroorana uye mukurerwa kwevana, uye dzimwe nguva vanofunga kuti muroora wake haana kukodzera mwanakomana wake. Asi muroora-mukomana, zvakare, haasi shuga. Kana iwe uchinzwa kuti kukakavara hakugoni kuitika, zviri nani kubuda kunze uye kuchengetedza ukama, pamwe nemitsipa. Uye kukurukurirana kuchava nyore. Kana iwe usingakwanisi kuda amai vako vamwene, usatambudza iwe, kungova hukama hwakanaka uye hwekuremekedza, zvichida uri kure. Tinotarisira kuti nyaya yedu "Nzira yekuzvidzivirira iwe nemhuri yako kubva kurwisana naamai vamwene vako" ichakubatsira iwe kuti uite ukama nemukadzi wako wechipiri.
Nzira yekuzvidzivirira iwe nemhuri yako kubva pakurwiswa kwaamai vamwene
Pakutanga, amai vamwene ndivowo munhu, saka, ine zvigaro uye zvisingabatsiri, uye izvi zvinofanira kuongororwa pakusimbisa hutano. Hakuna munhu akakwana. Saka dzimwe nguva unofanirwa kuchinja. Mukuwedzera, iyewo mukadzi, uye izvi, zvichida, dzimwe nguva zvinobatsira kutarisa mamiriro acho kubva pane zvaanoona. Zvechokwadi, pane vane nhanho vane ruzivo rukuru naamai vamwene vavo, vane hutano hwakakwana, vanokodzana mumwe nomumwe maererano nemafungiro, maitiro uye maonero ehupenyu. Amai vake vanova shamwari, shamwari, shamwari yakwegura, uye dzimwe nguva amai vechipiri. Asi isu tichapfuurira kubva pakuona kuti kune mhuri shoma shoma kupfuura yevhareji, inowanzo, iyo mutezvara nemwanasikana wake vane mapiro avo mumisoro yavo. Mumamiriro ezvinhu akadaro, ruzivo rwekuwirirana pakati pehama dzangobva kuzvarwa dzinogona kusiyana zvikuru kubva kune hukama hune ushamwari hune ushamwari uye hunoremekedzana kune avo vanosemesa, apo vanhu vasingatenderi mweya mumwe nomumwe. Zvose zvinoenderana nemamiriro ezvinhu uye kune vanhu vakapinda mazviri, saka haugone kupa mazano chaiwo pamusoro pokuti ungazviita uye sei kugadzirisa dambudziko racho. Asi iwe unogona kupa mamwe mazano, kubva kwauri iwe unogona kuvakira, zvichienderana nehu nuances iyo imwe neimwe ine yavo. Chokutanga pane zvose, inofanira kurehwa kuti kubatana uye kuparadzanisa kugara neamai vomurume wake kune misi miviri yakasiyana. Kazhinji zvinoenderana neizvi, kuti hukama hwako huri nani pamwe nemwene wamai vako vomukomana huchavakwa. Zvechokwadi, dzimwe nguva kana kuparadzana kurarama kana kure kure kunoita kuti hukama hudziye, uye mbuyazvara nemuroora-mhandara havagoni kuwana mutauro mumwe chete kunyange pavanoonekwa kamwe kamwe pamwedzi. Asi kazhinji kacho kuvakira ukama hukama kune vakadzi ava vaviri kune zvakaoma zvikuru kana vachigara pasi pedenga rimwe chete, kunyanya kana denga iri riri raamai vamwene, sezvo risingamboiti. Ichokwadi, chinhu chakanakisisa ndechekurarama zvakasiyana nevabereki. Asi kunyange munyaya iyi hapana chivimbo chokuti hakuna munhu achapindira muhupenyu hwako, asingatauri mamiriro ezvinhu apo mwanasikana-achipinda mumba mutsva apo vamwene vake vatararama kwemakore akawanda, ane maonero ake, maitiro, uye hupenyu hwakatogadzwa. Asi muroora wake munhu mukuru, ane unhu hwake, nemaonero ake nemaitiro. Uye iye, zvakare, akauya kuzogara nemurume wake, uye, saizvozvo, anoda kunzwa ari pamba, kuona kuti iye ari nhengo imwechete yemhuri, pamwe chete nezvose zvinotaridzwawo pamwe naye. Pano panogona kutanga kupesana kokutanga. Zvakakosha kunzwisisa kuti kunyange iwe nemadzimai vako musina mutemo musina kusarirana mumwe nomumwe, munofanira kuedza kudzidza kudzikama, nokuti nguva dzose kukakavadzana mumararamiro e "amai vamwene-muroora-mukwambo", kunyanya pane imwe nzvimbo inorarama, vanokwanisa kukwanisa kuparadza kunyange imba yakasimba. Edza kusvika pakuziva amai vamwene vako zvakanakisisa sezvinobvira, unhu hwake, tsika, zvido, maonero ehupenyu. Saka zvichava nyore kuti iwe uzvinzwisise, kuti unzwisise zvidzidzo zvaunoda kuvhomora kuti uvakane ukama nayo zvakanaka. Iwe unonzwisisa zvaanoda, uye zvakanakisisa zvekudzivisa paunoita naye. Teerera nyaya dzomurume nezvemhuri yake uye nezvevabereki. Saka iwe unogona kudzidza nezvemitambo yemhuri netsika, pamusoro pemararamiro emhuri, nezvehukama pakati pevabereki, nokuti kazhinji muenzaniso wehukama hwevabereki hunoita kuti maonero evana ave nehukama hwehukama munguva yemberi. Mumwe nomumwe amai vamwene vanonzwisisa kuti mwanakomana wavowo munhu, uye naizvozvo haisi yakanaka. Uye kunyange inogona kunyora kukanganisa kwayo yose. Asi chimwe chinhu apo iye pachake pachake anonzwisisa izvi, uye zvakanyanyisa, apo iwe uri mukutsamwa kwehasha anotanga kutaura pamusoro pezvinhu zvisingafadzi pamusoro pake. Kana kuti kunyunyuta pamusoro paro, kunyanya nekunze. Iwe, zvichida, kuburikidza neawa uye kunotonhorera, uye nemurume wake achiyananisa, asi shoko, sezvavanotaura, kwete shiri duku ... Uye amai vamwene vangu mazwi aya anonyadzisa pamusoro pemwanakomana mukuyeuka acharehwa nokukurumidza kupfuura murume wako. Amai vamwene vanofanira kuziva kuti munoda mwanakomana wavo akatendeka. Uye kana iwe ukamutsoropodza, iye achazvitora sechinyaradzo chake. Iva namai vamwene vako vakangwarira uye vasina basa, vamuitire noruremekedzo, vanyatsova nehanya naye. Usanyengedzera, ingova wakanaka. Kana unyengeri hwakagadzirira kubva pamiromo yako, edza kuzvivhiringidza. Amai vamwene ndivo vachaomerwa kukugamuchirai zvisina kunaka kana muine ushamwari kwaari. Ita naye pamwe nechiremera uye chivimbo. Kana amai vamwene vako vasingafadzi zvikuru kwamuri, edzai kuti muwane mamwe maitiro akafanirwa nekuremekedzwa kwenyu. Kana amai vamwene vako vachigara vachikupa mazano asina kufanira, vatevere ivo vakanyarara uye vane ushamwari, uye vakuitirei vakasununguka munzira yenyu pachavo. Zvinetso zvekugara pamwe chete zvinogonawo kusimuka kubva pakuti iwe naamai vamwene vako vanoparadzanisa nzvimbo yenyu pachavo , tishandise mumwe nomumwe. Somuenzaniso, mumwe wenyu anogona kutora mararamiro anopesana nehupenyu hweumwe. Kana pasina nzira yekunyengedza, kana pasina munhu anoda, zvino kugara pamwe pamwe zvichikanganisa, nokuti zvinowedzera-zvakanyanya. Kana iwe ukangotanga kugara pamwe chete, unofanirwa kurukura hupenyu hunoenderana nemabasa edzimba, kuitira kuti mushure mokunge pasave nekusawirirana nekuchema. Mune nyaya dzekurera vana, regai vazive kuti iwe unoremekedza uye unoonga maonero ake, asi chisarudzo chokupedzisira chichaitwa newe, vabereki. Maonero ako pamagazini iyi angangodaro akasiyana nekuda kwemakore akasiyana. Asi zvakadaro rega amai vamwene vako vatorewo chikamu, nokuti iye ambuya. Edza kudzidza kubva kuna amai vamwene vako chimwe chinhu chinonakidza, kuti udzidze kubva pane zvakaitika kwaari. Uye zvakakunakira iwe, uye zvakanaka kwaari. Kubva pakutanga, taura nzvimbo yako pachako, uko iwe nemurume wako musingazombotambudzi. Iwe unoita urongwa muimba yako. Ita zvakajeka kana iwe usingafariri iyo paunopinda mukamuri usina kugogodza. Kana kukurukurirana naamai vamwene vako vachipiwa kwauri zvakaoma, edza kuderedza kukurukurirana uku kusvika pahutano huchasangana nemunhu wese uye hakuzokonzeri mibvunzo isingakoshi. Zvakaoma apo amai vamwene vanogara vachizvidza muroora, vanosimbisa murume wavo kumudzimai wake, uye dzimwe nguva vana vanopesana naamai vake, zvinopindira muhupenyu hwevakaroorana uye mukurerwa kwevana, uye dzimwe nguva vanofunga kuti muroora wake haana kukodzera mwanakomana wake. Asi muroora-mukomana, zvakare, haasi shuga. Kana iwe uchinzwa kuti kukakavara hakugoni kuitika, zviri nani kubuda kunze uye kuchengetedza ukama, pamwe nemitsipa. Uye kukurukurirana kuchava nyore. Kana iwe usingakwanisi kuda amai vako vamwene, usatambudza iwe, kungova hukama hwakanaka uye hwekuremekedza, zvichida uri kure. Tinotarisira kuti nyaya yedu "Nzira yekuzvidzivirira iwe nemhuri yako kubva kurwisana naamai vamwene vako" ichakubatsira iwe kuti uite ukama nemukadzi wako wechipiri.